Dear Chump Lady, December marks three years since D-Day with the 21-year-old babysitter (among others). We had been together for 5 years, married for 2. I was 2 months pregnant at the time of discovery, and we also had a beautiful 2-year-old boy (hence the need for a babysitter a.k.a. shiny new kibbles). I have […]
UBT: ‘Accept My Truth’
Dear Chump Lady, My children, 4 and 7, and I had a talk the other day. I asked my son why he thought his parents got divorced last winter. He said it was because he was a bad kid. I was heartbroken and explained to them that their mom had a boyfriend (who they live […]
The Kid Calls the Felon OW ‘Mama’
Dear Chump Lady, I am divorced from a shitbag who decided to have an affair with a married coworker. Yes, I know, I should have seen it coming. Not to mention I am positive I held some of his red flags for him while watching them wave in the wind. He probably needed both hands […]
Nice versus Kind
There was an interesting side discussion the other day on Chump Lady about the difference between niceness and kindness. Many people noted that their cheaters appeared to much of the world as “nice people,” but in point of fact, lacked kindness. (Sure, it’s an understatement to say that cheating is unkind.) Now, I don’t want […]
