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What Is the First Step?

November 4, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, What would you do? My husband is very friendly with this woman at work. He talks about her which is why I looked in his phone and saw a series of texts of her needing “to vent” he’s all supportive and understanding… which triggers me. Then a little later he’s telling me […]

Filed Under: Limbo, Pick me dance Tagged With: Limbo, Pick Me Dance, Trapped

How Do I Find the Courage to Leave?

May 18, 2020 by Chump Lady

limbo

Dear Chump Lady, I married my husband in June of 2015 after being together for 6 years. He is the only man I have ever been in a serious relationship with. In December of 2015, my mother died unexpectedly. I was a complete wreck for at least a year. He was my ROCK. In June […]

Filed Under: Limbo Tagged With: Limbo, reconciliation

‘He Returned and Acts Like Nothing Happened’

December 2, 2019 by Chump Lady

mindfuck

He’s a serial cheater and he won’t leave the home. Now he’s trying to pretend like nothing happened.

Filed Under: Gaslighting, Limbo Tagged With: Abusers, charm, Limbo, manipulation, rage, Self-pity, three channels

‘Should I Divorce Him?’

November 11, 2019 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, My husband of 15 years had been having an affair for over three years. Should I divorce him? I feel like our marriage is over, but I haven’t left him yet. I threw my wedding ring into a canyon in Utah, but I’m still living with him and clinging to the idea that […]

Filed Under: Limbo, Trust that they suck Tagged With: Limbo, Marriage Police, reconciliation, Should I Stay or Go

Dear Chump Lady, He says I’m ‘selfish’ for leaving him

June 19, 2019 by Chump Lady

bitch cookie

Hello, My story is pretty much the same as everyone else’s with a small twist. Married for 12 years. He said he wanted another child in October 2017. I wasn’t so sure, because I had been doing 99% of the child rearing alone. Eventually, I thought to myself that I was being selfish since I […]

Filed Under: Blameshifting, Children and infidelity, Pick me dance Tagged With: Limbo, Mindfuckery

Dear Chump Lady, I’m a Marine chump

May 27, 2019 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, Here’s my story and I’ll try to keep it short. I married my high school sweetheart and we’ve been married for almost 20 years. We have three kids 20, 18 and 6. Shortly after we were married and had our first kid, I joined the Marine Corps. Life was pretty good; we went […]

Filed Under: Cake Eating, Trust that they suck Tagged With: Limbo, Trust That They Suck

Dear Chump Lady, Is all this pain worth it?

December 6, 2018 by Chump Lady

limbo

Dear Chump Lady D-Day for me was Aug 12, 3 weeks after our 20th anniversary. He admitted, after I basically squeezed it out of him, that he had had 2 affairs, one with a work colleague — whom he says turned psycho and he no longer talks to — and one with a woman out […]

Filed Under: Ask Chump Lady, Limbo Tagged With: Gaslighting, Limbo

Living with Uncertainty After Infidelity

May 31, 2018 by Chump Lady

limbo

I remember once upon a time when my life was going to Hell, a friend wrote me a cheer up email and ended it with a quote from Bob Dylan — “I embrace the chaos.” I laughed. When you’re in a free fall, you’re going to go splat on the pavement whether you “embrace” it […]

Filed Under: Gain a life, Limbo, Reconciliation Tagged With: infidelity, Limbo

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