You know you’re wading in deep bullshit when you see the title “The Unsparing Genius of Esther Perel.” Oh please do spare us such genius. Sorry. “Leading Mindful Living Expert” and “Certified Yoga Therapist” Ira Israel broadcasts to The Good Men Project and Huffington Post that Esther Perel is nothing short of GENIUS. (Like picnics are a few […]
Is Monogamy Abuse?
Dear Chump Lady The thing that I wanted to talk to you about has nothing to do with cheating, but everything to do with monogamy. Right now in mainstream media monogamy is being called outdated and regressive. If you want monogamous relationship you are deemed insecure, controlling, unloving and on… Is monogamy abuse? Do you […]
UBT: “How to break free from monogamy without destroying marriage”
The Universal Bullshit Translator is weary. So many stupid articles, so little time… The gears crank for the Washington Post’s “How to break free from monogamy without destroying marriage.” (Sigh) Isn’t this what every cake-eating cheater tells themselves? I’ll keep all the niceties of marriage — the combined 401K, the way you buy my mother-in-law […]
Rethinking the Psychologists Rethinking Monogamy
An alert chump sent me this tidbit in his Apple News feed: “Psychologists Agree: It May Be Time to Rethink Your Monogamous Relationship Research makes it clear that our best intentions are often worthless in the face of a compelling, and possibly unexpected, attraction to another person. The question arises then: Is it time to […]
Dear Chump Lady, Ethical non-monogamy was a bust
Dear Chump Lady, I was in a relationship for 15 years, married for the last five. I’m not wired to be jealous over sex — I like it when pretty people do things to each other. Sensing he wanted to wander, though, I’d negotiated three rules: he could do whatever as long as it was […]
