Tag: No Contact

Hopium

Dear Chump Lady, Please be mean

Dear Chump Lady, I need help. Preferably the bitch slapping kind. I’m hoping just writing this will help. Your site was a breath of fresh …

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maintain your dignity

Dear Chump Lady, When does the pain stop?

Dear Chump Lady, Tonight is a hard night for some reason. It has been 11 months since D-Day. And since then stories of other affairs …

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Dear Chump Lady, He moved down the street

Dear Chump Lady, I divorced my (abusive) ex-husband a year ago after 17 years of marriage and 4 children. That wasn’t fun for him, so …

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Dear Chump Lady, My ex has cancer

Hi Chump Lady, I’ve been a former Chump for 8 years; I’ve got the fair settlement, a great house I bought and restored pretty much …

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Narcissist Goldfish

Don’t Send It

Here’s a chump rookie mistake — sending cheaters improving articles. Please don’t do it. Worse, please don’t send them my articles. Because invariably I’ll get …

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lysol ex

Best No Contact Strategies

Anyone wobbly on Trust That They Suck? Today’s fun Friday challenge is to tell CN your best no contact strategies. Oh, I know it’s simple …

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Dear Chump Lady, He shoveled my snow, so he cares?

Dear Chump Lady, Situation:  I had a feeling that my husband of 8 years messed around with my best friend on New Year’s.  I was …

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schmoopies

Dear Chump Lady, He wants a character reference

Hi CL, I was married for 25+ years to a serial cheater, liar, sex addict, abuser, manipulator (yeah, he was all that and a bag …

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‘I Cheated And Now She Won’t Be My Friend’

Dear Chump Lady, I am sorry to say that I cheated on my wife. For two and a half years, I was involved with the …

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Out of Sight, Out of Mind

A common point of chump bafflement is why we attach so hard when cheaters detach so easily. I get some very, very long letters trying …

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Holiday Hoovering

🎵 It’s the most vulnerable time of the year! 🎵 Time for a public service announcement about holiday hoovering. Has your ex gone all misty? Does she …

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Dear Chump Lady, “I still wish I could call him”

Hey CN, I’m up super early to VOTE today. I hope you are too! (You better be, or I’m going to come throttle you. VOTE!!!!!) …

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Hopium

Who’s Hoovering Who?

Dear Chump Lady I am no contact with my ex-boyfriend, and have been since August. He “wanted a break” in January, but I didn’t know …

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Dear Chump Lady, Can I go NC with my step-daughter?

Dear Chump Lady, My D-Day involved a stranger texting me about my cheater’s profile on a “sugar baby” site. He had spent $30K (much of …

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UBT: “I’m sorry you feel that way”

Dear Chump Lady, Married 24 years, together 27 years. Discovered he had affair with married coworker for over two years all the while “communicating” with …

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Why Is No Contact So Hard?

A lot of chumps falter when it comes to no contact (NC). It’s the most maddening thing — your brain will be very clear on …

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Dear Chump Lady, He wants me back

Hi Chump Lady, Thanks in large part to a daily diet of your advice, things have gotten pretty good for me recently. I’m almost at …

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Dear Chump Lady, No contact is killing me!

Dear Chump Lady, I read your book and implemented NC as soon as he refused to give me his phone records to prove he wasn’t …

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The Perils of Flunking No Contact

There’s nothing sadder than watching a chump pick up the hopium habit again. I can sit here on the sidelines and frantically wave my arms …

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Why Is No Contact So Hard?

A lot of chumps falter when it comes to no contact (NC). It’s the most maddening thing — your brain will be very clear on …

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