Tag: Reconciliation Industrial Complex

Hopium

UBT: ‘It Has Not Broken Me’

Most of us understand being high on hopium, lost in the Reconciliation Industrial Complex. But a unicorn who polygraphed a Jesus-cheater-sex-addict? That’s some Pablo Escobar-level hopium. …

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Should I Tell the Other Chump?

Dear Chump Lady, My husband had an affair 4 years ago, which I recently found out about. They are no longer having a sexual relationship, …

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Stupid Sh*t the Reconciliation Industrial Complex Says

I can’t even with this latest bit of quackery from the Guardian on “how to survive an affair.” What should the betrayed partner do? Often, …

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Help Me Not Be a Bitch

Dear Chump Lady, Hi. I’m hoping you’ll be able to provide some guidance because my therapist is at a loss. My husband cheated, we’ve been …

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Hopium

Maybe He’ll See What He’s Missing

Dear Chump Lady, I am a little over three months out from D-Day now and I feel I have given myself a major setback. I …

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The Unicorn of Reconciliation

UBT: The Mayo Clinic

The un-chumped people of the world sometimes think I exaggerate The Reconciliation Industrial Complex. When my book was first being pitched to publishers, this came …

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UBT: Monogamy Is a Gift

You know you’re wading in deep bullshit when you see the title “The Unsparing Genius of Esther Perel.” Oh please do spare us such genius. …

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Debunking Marriage Builders, Inc.

One piece of advice the Reconciliation Industrial Complex likes to give after D-Day is telling chumps it is their responsibility to make the marriage “a …

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Derrick Jaxn, The Latest Unicorn

The Reconciliation Industrial Complex has a new star — “self-love guru” now busted serial cheater, Derrick Jaxn. Seen here in a hostage video with his …

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Reconciliation with the Timid Forest Creature

After you’ve been cheated on, you’d think it’s a pretty simple decision tree — reconcile or divorce. Choose divorce, it doesn’t matter if your cheater …

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The Unicorn of Reconciliation

We Reconciled… He Cheated Again

Hi Chump Lady, I just finished your book… For the second time. Two years ago I found out he had an affair with a 20-something …

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Debunking ‘Affair Fog’

Dear Chump Lady, My husband had drunk sex with a woman who works for him when our little boy was 9 months old and we …

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‘Why Do Reconciliation Bloggers Annoy Me?’

Dearest Chump Lady, Why does the Reconciliation Industrial Complex annoy me so much? I don’t want to name any names, but while looking for support …

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UBT: Gottman’s ‘Reviving Trust After an Affair’

Yesterday, when we discussed Gottman’s The Four Horseman as an instrument of cheater mindfuckery, an alert chump sent me further reading on the Gottman’s. Apparently they …

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UBT: “Your Cheating Spouse Is the Victim, NOT You!”

Oh hey, were we talking about DARVO this week? (Deny, attack, reverse victim offender.) Do I ever have a heaping pile o’ mindfuckery for you …

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The Unicorn of Reconciliation

Is It Okay to Give a Cheater a Second Chance?

Dear Chump Lady, I find your advice spot-on, and I share you skepticism of the Reconciliation Industrial Complex. I’m wondering if you ever could be …

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Grieving the Affair Partner and Other BS

Here’s a Reconciliation Industrial Complex trope that can die in ignominy — chumps being patient as their cheater “grieves” the affair partner. Ain’t that special? …

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Apologize to Your Cheater, Says RIC Quack

In my inbox this morning was a note from the publicist of Andrew G. Marshall, British “therapist”. Hello Tracy, I saw your article about infidelity …

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Where’s the Data on Reconciliation?

Dear Chump Lady, Here is what would have helped move me forward, something that seems more rare than unicorns themselves: unicorn research. I’d expected that …

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The Unicorn of Reconciliation

RIC Tag Lines?

I got a Twitter response to yesterday’s column taking me to task for encouraging “irresponsible” behavior (lawyering up and leaving a cheating husband) within two …

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