Tag: reconciliation

chasing unicorn

Why Does He Keep Changing His Mind About Reconciliation?

Dear Chump Lady, Why did it take two months after D-Day for my husband of 19 years to come to me crying, apologizing and saying …

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chasing unicorn

It Was a ‘One-Off’ — Let It Go?

Dear Chump Lady, Been married 21 years, and late last year my wife was on a vacation with my adult daughter, where she had a …

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The Unicorn of Reconciliation

We Reconciled… He Cheated Again

Hi Chump Lady, I just finished your book… For the second time. Two years ago I found out he had an affair with a 20-something …

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Hopium

UBT: The Apology That Never Came

Hello Chump Lady! I’ve got a fine bit of BS here and I’d like to see what you think. Brief background: My ex-wife had an …

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‘Why Do Reconciliation Bloggers Annoy Me?’

Dearest Chump Lady, Why does the Reconciliation Industrial Complex annoy me so much? I don’t want to name any names, but while looking for support …

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The Pretzel Logic of the 180

If you’ve spent any time reading the reconciliation literature, you’ll notice a lot of reference to the “180.” She won’t stop seeing her affair partner? …

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No One Is Entitled to Reconciliation

I know my message — “leave a cheater, gain a life” is not popular with cheaters and the Reconciliation Industrial Complex. I mean, duh. At …

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UBT: Gottman’s ‘Reviving Trust After an Affair’

Yesterday, when we discussed Gottman’s The Four Horseman as an instrument of cheater mindfuckery, an alert chump sent me further reading on the Gottman’s. Apparently they …

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UBT: “Your Cheating Spouse Is the Victim, NOT You!”

Oh hey, were we talking about DARVO this week? (Deny, attack, reverse victim offender.) Do I ever have a heaping pile o’ mindfuckery for you …

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How Do I Find the Courage to Leave?

Dear Chump Lady, I married my husband in June of 2015 after being together for 6 years. He is the only man I have ever …

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The Unicorn of Reconciliation

Is It Okay to Give a Cheater a Second Chance?

Dear Chump Lady, I find your advice spot-on, and I share you skepticism of the Reconciliation Industrial Complex. I’m wondering if you ever could be …

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Unicorn cage

What Kept You Stuck with a Cheater?

Very few people react to betrayal with calm and clarity. We’re broadsided. Flattened. Confused. Most of us ran with the unicorn herd for awhile and …

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chasing unicorn

My Sister Is the Marriage Police

Dear Chump Lady, My sister is a chump, she actually sent me to your site years ago when she still seemed to have some sense. …

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meh

Is This Meh or Did I Just Give Up?

Dear Chump Lady, Here’s my problem (and I’m sure this is due to hopium): Three years ago I caught my cheating husband in an emotional affair with …

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Grieving the Affair Partner and Other BS

Here’s a Reconciliation Industrial Complex trope that can die in ignominy — chumps being patient as their cheater “grieves” the affair partner. Ain’t that special? …

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How Do I Support My Friend’s Reconciliation?

Dear Chump Lady How do I support my friend through “reconciliation” with her abusive cheating husband? Last year one of my best friends, “Dianne” found …

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Where’s the Data on Reconciliation?

Dear Chump Lady, Here is what would have helped move me forward, something that seems more rare than unicorns themselves: unicorn research. I’d expected that …

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Unicorn cage

‘Should I Divorce Him?’

Dear Chump Lady, My husband of 15 years had been having an affair for over three years. Should I divorce him? I feel like our marriage …

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How to Save Your Marriage After Infidelity

(No, not really. I’m just trying to mess with Google Analytics today.) Many people tell me they wish they’d found Chump Lady sooner, before their ex …

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The Unicorn of Reconciliation

RIC Tag Lines?

I got a Twitter response to yesterday’s column taking me to task for encouraging “irresponsible” behavior (lawyering up and leaving a cheating husband) within two …

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