Dear Chump Lady, I was married 20 years. It was around year 18 that my ex started the implosion, blaming me for his unhappiness for my views on “life”, that I was “asexual” (not true), and had to be taken care of, which he no longer wanted to do (some truth there – childhood baggage […]
Should I Send Her the Tape?
Dear Chump Lady, First of all thanks very much for your book and blog about which saved my life when I discovered my husband’s affair last year. We had been together for 21 years, married for 15 and for the last 12 years he’d been sleeping with his former howorker. The affair started two weeks […]
Is Reporting Him Revenge?
Dear Chump Lady, My ex cheated on me with a very good friend for almost 2 years. We were actually couple friends as well. She filed for divorce last summer after a year of their affair and her divorce was final the end of Feb 2020. I found out about the affair 1 week after […]
‘I Trolled the Other Woman’
Hello Chump Lady, I screwed up. I fed the beast. I know you say “If it feels good, don’t do it,” but I confronted my husband and the troll neighbor. Anyway, her kitchen window looks right into mine, so I taped a picture of a troll on to my window. I’m am just so creeped […]
Dear Chump Lady, How can I hurt him to the core?
Hi Chump Lady, Do you have any tips on how I can hurt him to the core? We were together 10 years. No kids. He cheated. I left straight away. We didn’t even talk about the details of the affair. I mostly felt anger and disgust. I moved to a different city. Cut off all […]
Imagine Justice
Chump Lady is feeling a little stabby lately. This is what comes from following the news cycle. I won’t get into it. I try to keep things nonpartisan here, which when you’re a stabby person, isn’t the easiest thing. Trust me, there’s a lot of imagined lapel-grabbing and shrieking. And then a beta blocker and […]
Dear Chump Lady, Where do I go with this anger?
Dear Chump Lady, After a year of being told lies about an affair I finally found the truth on the laptop. So he’s 50 and she’s a 24 year old work colleague who still lives at home. We have been together 11 years and have a little boy. He told me he is with this […]
