In a perfect world, you could have total no contact, but for people still slogging through divorce, enduring in-house separation, or co-parenting with fuckwits, gray rock is the coping strategy of choice.
It requires discipline — not taking the bait, offering “no” as a complete answer, or not answering at all. Keeping matters laser focused. Resisting all relationship autopsies, or kibble flings.
Difficult People guru Bill Eddy has a great mnemonic for gray rock situations — BIFF.
“Hi. I will be there on Tuesday, at 4 p.m. to pick up Brittany up for her bassoon lessons.”
No extraneous details! Pure logistics! The “motherfucker’ is silent.
Share your dark arts of gray rock today. How are you doing it? Let’s hear your mighty!