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Is Pain a Choice?

January 18, 2021 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady As I try to heal in the most graceful way (suppressing my revenge fantasies) this is what I am struggling with… Like many of you, I buy self-help books, read blogs, watch videos. One of the major shifts for me has been on a spiritual level (not religious — more like healing […]

Filed Under: Gain a life Tagged With: Resilience 119 Comments

Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump

September 7, 2020 by Chump Lady

Today, in honor of Labor Day weekend, I’m rerunning this column about Mother Jones. Raise a glass to hard-fought child labor laws and the 8-hour workday and I’ll see you back here tomorrow! — Tracy I’m struck by how often the catalyst for an extraordinary life is loss. A friend of mine posts various nuggets […]

Filed Under: Gain a life, Uplifting stories Tagged With: Mighty, Mother Jones, Resilience

Am I Going to Get Over This?

July 2, 2020 by Chump Lady

Hello Chump Lady, My name is Kimmy. I just came across your “Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life“ book and I am absolutely in love with it. I’m only 22 years old, I’m not married of course, but I am going through the worse heartbreak I’ve ever been in my whole entire life. I ignored […]

Filed Under: Dating, Trust that they suck Tagged With: Boundaries, Resilience

The Walls in Your House Will Sing

June 16, 2020 by Chump Lady

This is the true story story of my aunt, who, when I was chumped, drove all the way from New York to pack up his crap and be there for me. I never knew her chump story until I started this blog and she shared it with me. She wrote it out to help others and I’m […]

Filed Under: Gain a life Tagged With: Resilience

Dear Chump Lady, I built my whole life around her

September 11, 2019 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, I’m feeling so lost right now after getting chumped… She left me May 19th saying she didn’t know if she loved me anymore and it’s not my fault, she’s not angry, I did nothing wrong, she just doesn’t know if she wants to be in a relationship right now, she just needed […]

Filed Under: Untangling the skein of fuckupedness Tagged With: Resilience, Starting over, Untangling the Skein

Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump

September 2, 2019 by Chump Lady

Every year, in honor of Labor Day weekend, I rerun this column about Mother Jones. Happy Labor Day and see you back on Tuesday!  — Tracy I’m struck by how often the catalyst for an extraordinary life is loss. A friend of mine posts various nuggets of history on Facebook and the other day she […]

Filed Under: Gain a life Tagged With: Mother Jones, Resilience

What Do You Tell Yourself?

May 28, 2019 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, What do all the mighty people tell themselves when it’s too much? When you’re struggling for air? When not even your family understands? When you’re not allowed to complain? When you can’t show weakness? (After all, anything that can be used against you in court, WILL be.) When your kids fall for […]

Filed Under: Ask Chump Lady, Divorce, Gain a life Tagged With: Mighty, Resilience

Is Betrayal ‘The Best Thing That Ever Happened to You’?

April 18, 2019 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, Thank you for supporting so many betrayed people. I’m 1 month from D-day. A reader submitted a comment on a recent article, “I’m going to make this the best thing that ever happened to me.” That angle is so interesting because infidelity is often the worst thing that has ever happened to […]

Filed Under: Gain a life Tagged With: Resilience

Mightiness Update

March 22, 2019 by Chump Lady

I’m a glutton for Chump Nation’s “Tell Me How You’re Mighty” stories. People often ask if running this site depresses me (people who haven’t been chumps). Exhaust me sometimes? Yes. Depress me? Never. Because the stories here are amazing — chumps are resilient. MIGHTY. Just from a sheer story-telling perspective — there’s no dramatic arc without […]

Filed Under: Gain a life Tagged With: Mighty, Resilience

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