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Trickle Truth Is Neither Trickle Nor Truth

Add to the list of Reconciliation Industrial Complex euphemisms I despise — “trickle truth.” I’ve ranted about “wayward” before and the “fog,” but it only recently occurred to me that “trickle truth” is equally moronic… or Orwellian. (Moronically Orwellian? Deviously Orwellian? Anyway…) “Trickle truth” is like “truthiness,” the term comedian Stephen Colbert coined for the rebranding of […]

UBT: “There Are No Right Answers”

Dear God, the UBT has a buffet of crap to choose from. A alert chump sent me this HuffPo article by Samantha Rodman, PhD entitled “My husband had a one-night stand.” Rodman, who goes by “Dr. Psychmom,” pens an advice column. Reader Crushed writes: I just found out my husband had a one night stand. It […]

Chaos — The Fourth Channel?

I’ve often said the Mindfuck Only Has Three Channels — rage, charm, and self-pity. Recently, I was upbraided by a self-professed cheater. I’ll tell you: You’re spot on with the three channels, (but) you missed one: Big Chaos. Chaos is a premeditated distraction that’s designed to keep us together. Whenever I’d slip and fear she’d […]

Most Spectacularly Callous Christmas Dump?

Tinsel, snow, I-Love-You-But-I’m-Not-In-Love-With-You… Tis the season for getting dumped. CleoTheFormerChump suggested this Friday Challenge — all the many special ways to be discarded at the Holiday season. Not invited to the office Christmas party? Finding a gift receipt for Schmoopie? Left alone with a plate of milk and cookies for reindeer who never show? It makes […]

Dear Chump Lady, I’m still broken hearted

Dear Chump Lady, It has been over 5 years since D-Day, and about 3-1/2 years since I have spoken or seen my fuckwad cheater. I just found a journal entry that I made at the time, and I realized that I am STILL BROKEN-HEARTED. Although I have put my life back together to some extent, […]

UBT: “I Want to Dive Into You”

Dear Chump Lady, I am currently in the divorce process with my cheating wife. We have been married for 15 years, with 4 kids. This summer, she started an affair with a friend of ours, the husband of a close friend of hers, and the godfather to one of our kids. You know, the kind […]

Dear Chump Lady, He wants a character reference

Hi CL, I was married for 25+ years to a serial cheater, liar, sex addict, abuser, manipulator (yeah, he was all that and a bag of chips). I finally threw him out last summer and we were divorced last fall — best thing I ever did. We haven’t communicated much (a good thing), but we […]

Dear Chump Lady, I just want to watch it burn

Dear Chump Lady, My friend directed me to you Chump Lady, I have been humming and hawing about wanting to message you but I decided as we are about to make the 1 year threshold it was time to talk and ask a significant question. My partner for 5 years, and wife for over 4 […]