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Jeffrey Toobin’s Non-Apology Apology

I don’t understand why CNN took legal analyst Jeffrey Toobin back. I guess there is a serious articulate lawyer shortage in Washington, D.C. and New York. Not a single professional who can both comb their hair and break down complex legal issues in 90-second sound bytes. Given this unique quality — a lawyer who can […]

Were You Love Bombed?

Dear Chump Lady, A good friend shared with me the moment that catapulted her into chumpdom. I thought our shared experience, and my subsequent email to her, could possibly make a good Friday Challenge topic — chumps sharing the love-bombing technique used on them. Here are our sagas….. Hers began by her sharing how a […]

Chump Lady Defends Her Potty Mouth

Dear Chump Lady, Why do you use foul language? My wife cringes when I use bad language (she is a linguist). It detracts from your heartfelt advice. I bought your book on Amazon and it is right on. Do yourself a favor and cut out the potty mouth. Your truly, Jim Dear Jim, Thank you […]

Ethical Non-Monogamy Was a Bust

Dear Chump Lady, I was in a relationship for 15 years, married for the last five. I’m not wired to be jealous over sex — I like it when pretty people do things to each other. Sensing he wanted to wander, though, I’d negotiated three rules: he could do whatever as long as it was […]

What Makes the New Guy Better?

Dear Chump Lady, I wasn’t married, but had been seriously dating someone for a year. I know this is nothing compared to a long marriage with kids and a house etc…but… It’s been 7 months since D-day and 6 months of no contact, yet I still have days where I feel like I’m slogging up […]

Years Later and No ‘Meh’

Dear Chump Lady, I was married 20 years. It was around year 18 that my ex started the implosion, blaming me for his unhappiness for my views on “life”, that I was “asexual” (not true), and had to be taken care of, which he no longer wanted to do (some truth there – childhood baggage […]

Acts of Chump Rebellion

Every liberation campaign begins with an act of rebellion. Today’s Friday challenge is to tell Chump Nation about that first moment you un-chumped. Maybe you’re one of the quick learners and you filed immediately. Most of us, however, did not detonate the nuclear consequence right away. Instead, there were uprisings and skirmishes. Periods of lucidity where you […]

How Do I Get Over My Envy?

Dear Chump Lady, D-Day was over a year go and I have since filed for divorce. I am the mother of two young kids and am no contact with the ex except for communications regarding the kids and finances. I trust that he sucks and don’t want him back (although he has tried to reel me back in […]