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Dear Chump Lady, I feel trapped

Dear Chump Lady, I need to vent. I have no one to talk to and I feel trapped. I can’t talk to friends or family because he’s a decent father but not so much as a husband. So…about 7 years ago I found out my husband went to those “happy ending” massage places for about […]

Dear Chump Lady, No contact is killing me!

Dear Chump Lady, I read your book and implemented NC as soon as he refused to give me his phone records to prove he wasn’t talking/texting to anyone. (I knew he was, my gut was screaming for months and this was the only way I could figure to “test” my hunch). I ran across Facebook […]

UBT: The OW apologizes…. 2.5 years later

Dear Chump Lady, After reading Amazon Chump’s UBT, I was “triggered” to recall a similarly bizarre and unsolicited email I received from Mr. Sparkles Other Woman #928 after she broke up with him when she found out he was still trolling Adult Friend Finder for sex with women, couples, groups in spite of their “twu […]

Happy Father’s Day!

Happy Dad’s day to all the chump men! Hope you’re out celebrating today and being celebrated. If you’re going through the infidelity and divorce crucible right now, and the Hallmark bonhomie of Intact Family Celebrations turns you off, please know it gets better. Like I tell all the moms on Mother’s Day, Father’s Day is […]


I usually bridle at the reductionist criticism “once a cheater, always a cheater.” We’re not the final word on anyone’s character. While I don’t believe in sudden character transplants, I do think character can change over time — slowly, painfully, with a lot of introspection, and a shit-ton of consequences. As I’ve argued elsewhere, however, […]

Shocker. Rudy Giuliani Still a Cheater.

Well, he may look like Nosferatu, but his dick still wanders. Yes, ladies, former New York City mayor Rudy Giuliani is back on the market (if he was ever off it). Wifetress #3 is divorcing his ass for cheating on her. Now some of you may say, “Once a cheater, always a cheater.” But that would […]

Dear Chump Lady, I’m suddenly a single mom

Dear Chump Lady, I’m a mom of two young kids. (My son will be 3 in August and my daughter turned 1 two weeks ago). Six months ago my husband of four years (together nine years total) told me he wanted “out.” He said he tried marriage, but it wasn’t working out for him. He […]

A “Trust That They Suck” Reminder

“Trust that they suck” is a mantra that bears repeating. It’s so easy to fall for the propaganda. You see your ex, tagged in some mutual friend’s Facebook page laughing uproariously at a party. The children come back with tales of Shiny New Things. People who were your family for decades now exclude you. It […]