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Dear Chump Lady, He wants a character reference

Hi CL, I was married for 25+ years to a serial cheater, liar, sex addict, abuser, manipulator (yeah, he was all that and a bag of chips). I finally threw him out last summer and we were divorced last fall — best thing I ever did. We haven’t communicated much (a good thing), but we […]

Dear Chump Lady, I just want to watch it burn

Dear Chump Lady, My friend directed me to you Chump Lady, I have been humming and hawing about wanting to message you but I decided as we are about to make the 1 year threshold it was time to talk and ask a significant question. My partner for 5 years, and wife for over 4 […]

You Might Be a Chump If..

Time for another rousing round of You Might Be a Chump If… ! In the vein of comedian Jeff Foxworthy’s “You Might Be a Redneck If “… tell me how you might be a chump. What are the signs? Ever wonder what quirks are particular to chumps? You might be a chump (YMBAC) if … instead […]

Dear Chump Lady, Is all this pain worth it?

Dear Chump Lady D-Day for me was Aug 12, 3 weeks after our 20th anniversary. He admitted, after I basically squeezed it out of him, that he had had 2 affairs, one with a work colleague — whom he says turned psycho and he no longer talks to — and one with a woman out […]

Dear Chump Lady, I have no Seasons Greetings

Dear Chump Lady, WTF do we chumps do about X-mas greetings from fuckwit ex when they drop kids/collect kids and wish us a “Merry Christmas”? The thought of saying “you too” sticks in my craw and I want to say “Fuck you very much.” What if it’s a “Season’s Greetings” text or email? Does not responding […]

‘I Cheated And Now She Won’t Be My Friend’

Dear Chump Lady, I am sorry to say that I cheated on my wife. For two and a half years, I was involved with the Other Woman. When my ex found out, I’ll admit I threw every play you’ve described out on the table, and didn’t even realize how much of a cliche I was. […]

The Cheater Who Stole Christmas

Dear Chump Lady, So I’m 11 months out, but living the hell of in-house separation. (I can’t afford to go until I have a financial settlement, he won’t go… entitlement, enough said). Awaiting court date in February. Anyway, I always put the Christmas decorations up on or around the first of December. It’s his weekend […]

Schadenfreude Snark

Yesterday’s breakout moment, about the perils of breaking no contact, was Tbone’s assertion that if she hadn’t looked at her ex’s social media, she never would’ve known “that my ex proposed to his new wife over takeout from Chik-fil-A. Hahahahaha.” Not to be outdone, Sunny replied with an epic hashtag riff: #HowCanYouSayNoToJeebusChicken #WaffleFriesFTW #KeepingItClassy #LadyKillerWithNinjaTakeoutMoves […]