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The Silent Chumps

Silent chumps are those who don’t admit to being cheated on, which is probably the majority of people who have experienced infidelity. The first year I started this blog, I was asked to appear on a HuffPo video panel. The subject was on being friendly with your exes. (Mine was the “no thanks” vote.) Before…
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Just found out? You don’t have to pretzel yourself into a thousand pleasing contortions to win back a cheater. This is about saving your sanity and decoding manipulation.

Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life: The Chump Lady’s Survival Guide

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Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here’s advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity — but saving your sanity.

Chump Nation Community

Looking to connect with other members of Chump Nation? Need 24/7 support to get you through this mess? Check out the CN community on Reddit and Facebook. These are closed, private groups where you can get anonymous support from fellow chumps. You will need to ask a moderator to join and will need an existing Reddit and/or Facebook account.

Tell Me How You’re Mighty Podcast

It’s the infidelity survival story podcast! Your hosts are Tracy Schorn (Chump Lady) and Sarah Gorrell — a radio presenter with the BBC. We talk to mighty people and experts on overcoming betrayal. Come for the inspiration, stay for the snark.

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