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Apologize to Your Cheater, Says RIC Quack

In my inbox this morning was a note from the publicist of Andrew G. Marshall, British “therapist”. Hello Tracy, I saw your article about infidelity “7 Idiotic Things Cheaters Say, and How to Respond” and wanted to share with you the exclusive interview with the UK’s most famous relationships therapist Andrew G. Marshall who reveals […]

Is Being Alone Worse Than Being with a Cheater?

Dear Chump Lady, Is being alone worse than being with a cheater, if by alone you mean something like “alone for at least the next 20 years”? Part of me thinks that despite my (wayward) partner’s flaws, the alternative is not to be with anyone at all. Not all of us are blessed enough to […]

‘Don’t Call It Snooping’

Dear Chump Lady, I need to get on the soapbox and say this. Back when Horace the “Porn Addict” and I were clients of the couples therapy arm of the RIC (well, I was a client and he was a tourist), I used to catch hell from everyone concerned over “snooping.” It went like this: […]

And the Infidelity Valentine’s Poetry Winners Are…

You guys are a twisted bunch. It was hard to choose the snarkiest fractured Valentine, but I winnowed it down best I could. Thanks to everyone for playing! And Happy Valentine’s Day to you all. xoxoxo Limerick Runner Ups… Dave Pope My wife, good hearted thespian, said she was suddenly a lesbian. So she started […]

Soul Mates vs. Life Partner?

Hi Chump Lady, I was hoping you might do a post on the whole love-of-my-life soulmate thing. I feel that a lot of us get caught up in that when our cheating spouse feels or says that. I have read a lot on the whole soulmate thing and the general misinformation about the term. Soulmate […]

‘I’m Trying to Show Her the Guy She Fell in Love With’

Hi Chump Lady, Great website!  I just discovered last Sunday that my wife of 13 years has been cheating on me with “some one she has very strong feelings for” for the past two months.  We have 3 young beautiful children and this guy is married with two kids.  My wife wouldn’t tell me his […]

The ‘I Fail to Understand Your Hostility’ Mindfuck

There is no mindfuck like the I Fail to Understand Your Hostility mindfuck. As mindfucks go, it’s Jedi-level mindfuckery. Oh sure your lesser manipulator can sputter some pathetic lies, or shrug and play dumb. The IFTUYH mindfucker, however, is one cool customer. Zero adaptive anxiety. Your inchoate rage just bounces off their wall of smug. This crazy […]

The OW Recommends a Self-Help Book

Hi Chump Lady! I wrote to you over the holiday’s, detailing how my cheating EX got cheated on by his mistress and how karma, completely un-looked for at this stage, caught up with him. WELL….Today I received a package (at my office!) from the EX mistress with an “inspirational book” and a letter from the […]