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Happy Father’s Day!

Happy Dad’s day to all the chump men! Hope you’re out celebrating today and being celebrated. If you’re going through the infidelity and divorce crucible right now, and the Hallmark bonhomie of Intact Family Celebrations turns you off, please know it gets better. Like I tell all the moms on Mother’s Day, Father’s Day is […]

Blameshifting Jujitso

Today’s Fun Friday Challenge is flip the blameshifting script. Slam it on the mat and bounce it a few times for good measure. In yesterday’s post, BeardBoy was told his wife had to cheat because he was a homebody and didn’t throw enough parties. He wrote: I never thought being a responsible father and husband […]

Dear Chump Lady, My wife cheated with a woman

Dear Chump Lady, My wife and I started dating when we were in college. It was an amazing romance, and a few years later we got married. We have been married nearly 15 years and have three wonderful children, ages 11, 9 and 6. We are both successful professionals, have a beautiful home and live […]

DNA Testing Surprises

Dear Chump Lady, I was wondering if you cold address a topic on your site. I know you use humour a lot, and while this topic isn’t funny, I was hoping you could discuss it. I was adopted, and in the process of looking for my biological parents, I joined a couple of online support […]

Dear Chump Lady, I’m pregnant and pick me dancing

Dear Chump Lady, My husband and I met at 19. We were super toxic in the way we communicated, he shut down and I always pushed for him to talk, he’d shift blame to me and I’d beg and cry on how I could make it better. We got married at 24 and things got […]

Dear Chump Lady, I discovered my new friend is an OW

Dearest Chump Lady, You pulled me through my darkest days when I found out my husband was cheating. Your blog was my sanity and North Star. It pointed me towards a new life, one that is now free from fear, chaos, gaslighting, lies, and all the other horrible things that go along with being married […]

Write Your Own Clickbait

You know what stands between you and a Cinematic Love Story For The Ages? A boyfriend, Tracy? A bad profile? Good sense? No. Schlock. The ability to describe your Schmoopie Love in florid cliches. Your chump reserve stands in the way of greatness. But I have an abhorrence to mawkishness, Tracy. I’m sorry. Then you’ll […]

Dear Chump Lady, He claims he still loves me

Dear Chump Lady, You may have addressed this in the past. I’m leaving a partner of 43 years whom I’ve learned has been visiting prostitutes for years while claiming to still have loved me the entire time. Just writing that gives me a clue, however I would still value your feedback. Bonnie Dear Bonnie, I […]