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Your Long, Strange Hopium Trips

Chumpy hearts die hard. Armed with the smallest evidence that a freak still cares, a chump will assign great significance to scraps. HE CALLED (to ask that I pick up his dry-cleaning.) HE RETURNED (to get his kayak). SHE WANTS ME (can I babysit tonight?) Sigh. It’s what makes us chumps — idiotically ascribing decent […]

What Happens to Couple Friends After Divorce?

Dear Chump Lady, I am 6 months post divorce after discovering my ex-wife’s infidelity in September 2013. This holiday season my children (12, 8) are with my ex-wife abroad with her affair partner on holiday with my ex in-laws. It sucks that my kids spend time with the man that helped break up my family […]

A Gain a Life Update… and Some Schmoopie Karma

You might recall a UBT from last May, when the OW sent our chump a Mother’s Day card, admonishing her to be best. Civility is for the children! That was a chuckle. Well, the other day on Facebook, our intrepid chump, Debbie, posted an update to her story, and tagged me. With Debbie’s permission, I’m […]

UBT: How Do I Get My Gay Cheating Husband to Reconcile?

Dear Chump Lady, Thank you for saving my life. I was suicidal when I read your posts and they knocked me back into reality. I will be eternally grateful. I am severely codependent and I’m trying to work on myself, but still struggling. I would appreciate it if you put his reasons through the Universal […]

‘Why Do Reconciliation Bloggers Annoy Me?’

Dearest Chump Lady, Why does the Reconciliation Industrial Complex annoy me so much? I don’t want to name any names, but while looking for support groups, I come across a Twitter of an infidelity survivor who has done podcasts, books, you name it. After some research I find out it’s only been two years. The […]

Old Crazy? New Tradition!

Post-Thanksgiving, I thought it might be fun to compare Old Holiday Dysfunction with New Holiday Tradition. Don’t have any new traditions? Make some up! For example: Old Holiday Dysfunction (OHD) — Your drunk father-in-law rails on about One World Order conspiracies while his wife passive aggressively refuses to acknowledge your casserole. “Oh, I must’ve forgotten those roasted […]

Chump Lady Gratitude Turkey Day Recipe Swap

Happy Thanksgiving, CN! I imagine most of us today in the U.S. are having small holidays gatherings or no gatherings at all because of the lockdown. If this is your first holiday post-fuckwit, sending you socially distance-y (((hugs))) of support. Hope you’re doing something nice for yourself today. Like enjoy all the pumpkin pie for […]

‘I Feel Trapped’

Dear Chump Lady, I need to vent. I have no one to talk to and I feel trapped. I can’t talk to friends or family because he’s a decent father but not so much as a husband. So…about 7 years ago I found out my husband went to those “happy ending” massage places for about […]