Glossary of terms
| Amazon chump | the state of chumpdom where you read everything on Amazon about infidelity |
| bitch cookie | the reward you demand for doing something you should do anyway, i.e., “You didn’t clean out the ENTIRE 401K? Great. Want a bitch cookie?” |
| boundaries | what you will and will not put up with |
| cake | having the spouse and the affair |
| Cluster B | a series of personality disorders on the Borderline/Narcissist/Sociopath spectrum |
| D-Day | discovery day (the day you discovered the affair) |
| hopium | the hallucinogenic drug of hope that make you see potential and good outcomes where none exist |
| Meh | The state of acceptance when you don’t care about your cheater |
| narc or nark | a narcissist |
| narkles | narcissist sparkles |
| no contact | refusing to engage with the cheater |
| pick me dance | Vying for the attention of the cheater, triangulation between the chump, the cheater, and the affair partner |
| Reconciliation Industrial Complex | the vague conspiracy sense that religious and for-profit institutions want you to try to reconcile indefinitely |
| shit sandwich | The crappy situation you must choke down |
| skein | the skein of fuckupedness, their issues |
| spackle | covering up, the lies we tell ourselves when someone is behaving badly |
| sparkle | The charisma of a narcissist or Cluster B type |
| sparkly turd | A narcissist, someone who appears to sparkle, but has turd at the core |
| Tuesday | When the pain stops |
| Unicorn | an unlikely thing, usually referring to reconciliation |
| untangling the skein of fuckupedness | wasting time trying to figure them out |
Acronym list
| AP | affair partner |
| BP | Borderline Personality or bipolar |
| BS | betrayed spouse or bullshit |
| BTW | by the way |
| CL | Chump Lady |
| D-Day | discovery day (the day you discovered the affair) |
| DD | darling daughter |
| DS | darling son |
| FOO | family of origin |
| FWIW | for what it’s worth |
| ILYBINILWY | I love you but I’m not in love with you |
| IMHO | in my humble opinion |
| IMO | in my opinion |
| LTA | long-term affair |
| NPD | Narcissistic Personality Disorder |
| OM | other man |
| OTOH | on the other hand |
| OW | other woman |
| RIC | Reconciliation Industrial Complex |
| STBX | soon-to-be ex |
| WS | wayward spouse |
| YMBAC | you might be a chump… |
