Category: Abandonment

not a unicorn

Will He Commit After the Baby Is Born?

Hi Chump Lady, My soon-to-be-ex started acting distant mid-March (2022) and moved to a spare bedroom. Two weeks later I discovered his affair: He was …

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The Affair Partner Is Daughter’s Coach

Dear Chump Lady, My very handsome husband of 15 years (we have 3 kids ages 14, 13 and 11 and one on the way due …

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Left Her with 4-Month Child So He Could Be ‘Happier’

Hi Chump Lady, On my last first birthday without soon-to-be-ex husband, I am all filled with emotions. My husband and OW had an affair while …

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twu luv

‘My Husband Got Engaged’

Dear Chump Lady, My husband got engaged. (This statement does not contain a typo, although even a search engine tried to get me to add …

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trapeze

He Left to Join the Circus

Dear Chump Lady I think my friends are getting sick of my rants about my abusive ex and sometimes I just don’t know when my …

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Mother-in-Law Says: ‘Let Girlfriend Take Over’

Dear Chump Lady, It’s 4 months now after D-Day (got a text message at the death bed of my mum in May with heartfelt birthday …

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broken heart

Need CN’s Powerful Words of Support

CN, today I’m not my usual snarky, sassy self. I’m running “WishinforHappiness’s” letter and ask you that you send some comfort to one of our …

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mindfuck

He Doesn’t Know If He’ll Come Home

Dear Chump Lady. He left December 5th out of nowhere. He went to work and showed up with a u-haul. He told me for weeks …

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Therapist Says Not to Tell Anyone Her Husband Cheated

Dear Chump Lady, Do you think chumps should tell their family and friends that the reason they are separated from their spouse is because he/she …

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freedom

I Don’t Feel Mighty. I Got Left.

Dear Chump Lady, Being the sleuthy sleuth I am, I discovered my husband of 15 years’ “emotional” affair (um yeah…her husband hired a private investigator …

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wayward

Did He Cheat Because He’s Depressed?

Dear Chump Lady, Please help me sort through this mess. Help me get angry! My husband and I were together for 6 years and married …

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Controlling the Narrative

Dear Chump Lady, My now soon-to-be-ex husband of almost 30 years cheated on me twice — that I know of. The first one and the …

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no contact

Returning to Caretake a Cheater Late in Life?

Dear Chump Lady, Yesterday I was speaking with a friend of mine who is now 82 and she mentioned she had moved to the nearby …

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broken heart

‘I Can’t Talk to My Kids About Their Father’

Dear Chump Lady, I am having a problem. I was chumped 5 years ago this month. I am in a good place now, remarried, etc. …

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mask

‘How Could He Walk Away from His Wife and Kids?’

Dear Chump Lady, We married 6 years ago and had 2 kids. I found out about his STBX’s porn addiction shortly after we were married …

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broken heart

Cheater Throws Them Out, OW Moves In

Dear Chump Lady, It’s been a little over three months (March) since my husband of 7 years informed me that I needed to leave our …

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baby

UBT: A Letter from the “Baby”

Dear Chump Lady, I have one that I would LOVE to go through the Universal Bullshit Translator. As a chump I so want to believe he is truly …

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broken heart

What Do I Do with the Phantom Pain of Abandonment?

Dear Chump Lady, First, thank you. Your truth is like a laser ripping through the threads of the tangled skein I’ve struggled with for three …

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He Left 3 Kids. How Can He Be Happy?

Hello Chump Lady, 10 weeks ago I found out that my husband of 9 years (together 14, 3 kids aged 6,4 and 1) has been …

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Dear Chump Lady, When does the pain go away?

Dear Chump Lady, My question for you and perhaps more so, Chump Nation, is when, how long does it take before the pain goes away? …

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