Category: How to leave a cheater
Parasitic Boyfriend Won’t Leave
Over the weekend I had an exchange with “Cyn” — a woman being threatened by her parasitic, live-in boyfriend. As we corresponded, more details about …
I Feel Stronger Breaking Up This Time
Dear Chump Lady, I recently got back together with my cheater, after a horrible breakup of discovering he had a prolific hooker problem, (I’m going …
Trying to Divorce When the Cheater Won’t Move Out
Dear Chump Lady, I recently discovered yet another affair, after suspecting it for a year, I even knew who I thought the affair was. I …
How Do I Know When I’m Done?
Hi Chump Lady, I feel like I’m asking a stupid question, but at the same time, it’s like I don’t understand my own mind. Some …
How Do I Help My Chumped Son?
Hi Chump Lady, You’ve helped me before, I’m wondering if you could help me help my older son. He’s 18 years old and getting ready …
Any Regrets Leaving a Cheater?
On Wednesday, I was on this HuffPo Twitter Space panel about toxic relationships. The question was posed to my co-panelist, therapist Virginia Gilbert about whether …
5 Things You Need When Leaving a Cheater
I’m rerunning this great guest post that I received from a physician, Kimberly, who told me part of her medical practice is dealing with the …
How to Divorce a Financially Abusive Cheater
Dear Chump Lady, I am in the process of divorcing my cheating husband. He has not only cheated, but is also financially, verbally, emotionally and …
How to Line Up Ducks When You Can’t Afford a Duck
Hello Chump Lady, I have a question as to your to line up one’s ducks. A little about me: currently 6 months pregnant, working part-time …
How Did You Line Up Your Ducks?
We talk a lot at CN about “lining up your ducks” — stealthily doing your reconnaissance work before you leave a cheater. Getting financial records, …
‘I’ve Never Broken Up with Anyone’
Dear Chump Lady, I’m closing in on a year from D-Day. I feel like my mental and emotional well-being have largely recovered and I’m ready …
How the Hell Can I Live with Him Until I Can Get Him Out?
Hey there, Chump Lady. D-day 1 was almost a year ago and D-day 2 was almost 2 months ago, now. I won’t unpack the Baggage …
Am I Selfish for Leaving Him?
Hello Chump Lady. This is hard to write to you — but I am not sure if it’s hard because of the situation, or because …
Does Mental Illness Make Him Less of a Cheater?
Hi Chump Lady, Your blog and book have sustained me since I learned last Monday (merry fucking Christmas) that my husband had an ‘emotional’ affair …
‘I Feel Trapped’
Dear Chump Lady, I need to vent. I have no one to talk to and I feel trapped. I can’t talk to friends or family …
When They Won’t Leave
There is no hell like the hell of in-house separation. You’ve been a good spouse appliance. Why should those perks end? What’s for dinner? I …
5 Things That Keep You Stuck with a Cheater
Are you on the fence about leaving a cheater? Is this not their first rodeo? Here are some common traps that keep you stuck with …
How Do You Leave a Cheater?
Dear Chump Lady, When you discover cheating, how do you break the news? I’m a strong person. I help domestic violence victims, I have an …
‘I Want to Blast Them on Facebook’
Dear Chump Lady, I just found out after 5 or 6 years of absolute insane digging (mental breakdowns, trips to rehabs, gaslighting to the extreme, …
He Says ‘I Better Behave’
Dear Chump Lady My husband cheated on me, I didn’t find out through his phone (he doesn’t have one, he doesn’t like them). Didn’t find …
