Category: How to leave a cheater

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How to Leave a Cheater — Your Care Team

Last week I got a letter from a physician, Kimberly, who told me part of her medical practice is dealing with the newly chumped. We …

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Dear Chump Lady, Is divorcing him the right choice?

Dear Chump Lady, I need so help. I have looked through archives and posts and I just need some clarity on my particular situation. I’m …

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Dear Chump Lady, He told me not to tell

Dear Chump Lady, I’m a 36-year-old military wife who found out my husband was cheating early last month (February). It began as an emotional affair …

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Dear Chump Lady, I want closure

Dear Chump Lady, Leaving my cheater has been a real struggle for me. I started going to a trauma therapist to get some help with …

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Serial cheater

Get the F*ck Out Now

Hi Chump Lady! As a diagnosed “Perfectionist”, I have been traumatized over and over by the Reconciliation Industrial Complex gospel so awfully prevalent in society. …

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Bye-Bye, Cheater

Dear Chump Lady, Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Why? Because reading your words and reading the words of others have finally given me the …

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Dear Chump Lady, Please kill my hope

Dear Chump Lady, Three years ago, I found out that my husband had had a three-year affair. When I found out, he told me I …

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How Did You Get Rid of Their Crap?

Leaving a cheater is a massive clean-up effort. (Like Superfund clean up sites, only without the federal financing.) There is the crap the cheater gave you. …

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Dear Chump Lady, I want out, but I can’t afford it

Dear Chump Lady, I have been working at this marriage for 34 years to someone with a supposed sexual addiction. This included exhibitionism, one-night stands, …

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Dear Chump Lady, Ethical non-monogamy was a bust

Dear Chump Lady, I was in a relationship for 15 years, married for the last five. I’m not wired to be jealous over sex — …

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How to Find a Lawyer and Other Chump Survival Tips

A lawyer chump recently wrote me and asked for a column on the pitfalls of choosing a good attorney. Now in the spirit of legal …

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How to Confront a Cheater

Dear Chump Lady, When you discover cheating, how do you break the news? I’m a strong person. I help domestic violence victims, I have an …

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But He’s a Really Nice Guy

I’d probably make a terrible lawyer. It’s not that I don’t like to argue (clearly, I do… at least on the page.) It’s that I …

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Snooping in the Modern Age

I recently had to research a story on the modern phenomena of losing your job because of something you posted on social media. Back in …

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Dear Chump Lady, Can I leave if he has cancer?

Dear Chump Lady, I have been reading your blog for the past year and, while it has helped me tremendously, I have a nagging sense …

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Dear Chump Lady, Cheater’s mom enables him in his affair

Dear Chump Lady, It has taken several D-days (yes, I’m a chumpy chump) to realize that my fiance is not going to change. Now I’m …

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How Did You Get Rid of Their Crap?

My cheating ex once gave me a tie-dyed license plate cover for Christmas after D-Day — because I’m a “hippy chick.” He proudly affixed it to …

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Tips for Starting a New Life?

Hi Chump Lady, I found your site recently, I love the support here. Can I make a request for a post for those of us …

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Dear Chump Lady, I don’t have any proof but…

Dear Chump Lady, Is it normal behavior for a man to be accused of cheating, and he denies it, yet continues to hide his phone?  I started …

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Do-It-Yourself Mediation Is For Suckers

Following up on Vickie’s excellent financial advice, I thought I would devote today’s column to mediation debacles. Vickie had a great comment on chump/cheater power …

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