Hi Chump Lady, My favorite thing about your writing about cheating is how swiftly and ruthlessly you cut through the waffling to reach the unpretty but true things, and I need that right now. In January, my husband and I were talking seriously about splitting up so that he could join a religious community. We’d […]
Fix Your Picker Tips
Hey, it’s Friday and maybe you have a date this weekend. Or a bad rash just thinking about dating. Or maybe there’s still a cheater snoring on your sofa. What you need are BOUNDARIES! Today’s Friday challenge is How to Fix Your Picker. If you’re a recovering chump like me, you need this skillset. And […]
Am I Going to Get Over This?
Hello Chump Lady, My name is Kimmy. I just came across your “Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life“ book and I am absolutely in love with it. I’m only 22 years old, I’m not married of course, but I am going through the worse heartbreak I’ve ever been in my whole entire life. I ignored […]
When You Don’t Want to Spend Thanksgiving with Your Ex
Dear Chump Lady, The holidays are coming and I was just wondering how to deal with the soon-to-be-ex (STBX) and holiday get-togethers. I actually thought we could stay on friendly terms since we have kids together and we will be seeing each other time to time. I really wanted it to be less painful for […]
No Contact Wins
Freaks can fling some tasty bait at chumps. Why, just last Monday we read about the cheater who told everyone his chump ex was ISIS. Your Fun Friday Challenge is to share your no contact wins with CN. What provocation, insult, ridiculous rumor, bad tagged Facebook photo, withering slight did you NOT react to? What’s […]
You Might Be a Recovered Chump If…
Boundaries, boundaries…
Okay, so you were chumped. But how did you get mighty? When did you start enforcing boundaries that were previously trampled?
Dear Chump Lady, I don’t want to make nice with my OW SIL
Dear Chump Lady, I am 10 years out from leaving my cheating ex-husband. I found out about his affair on July 4, 2009, and have referred to that day as my “Independence Day.” I had dated him through high school and college and we were married for 16 years when he decided his sales representative […]
Way to Take Down a Cheater
A standing ovation for Talia Jane, a young writer who posted screen grabs of a conversation between her and married journalist perving on her. Need a primer in how to shut shit down? Here’s a master class. Background — she’s a young, underemployed writer, he’s an older dude offering career advice. Then, as it often is […]
How Do I Fix My Picker?
Dear Chump Lady, Do you have any advice on how to fix a broken picker? I’m nowhere near ready to date yet. Not even close. But in all that I read, the message is very clear: chumps should go out, find a life, enjoy and grow ourselves. And this clearly will take some time. I’m okay […]
