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‘How Come All My Boyfriends Suck?’

December 22, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, I was married to my husband for six years. When our youngest was six months old I caught him cheating with his assistant. After a few weeks of back and forth, I kicked him out for good. I’ve had some bad boyfriends since. The worst being my most recent breakup — Ben. I […]

Filed Under: Dating, Trust that they suck Tagged With: Boundaries, Fix your picker

He Wants to ‘Explore His Feelings’ with Her Friend

November 18, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, My story as chump began last December when I received a letter from my husband informing me that he had developed feelings for a close family friend and that they wanted to explore these feelings but only with my consent. He wouldn’t, of course, want to harm our family or me! Now […]

Filed Under: Cake Eating, Pick me dance Tagged With: Boundaries, Cake

‘He Had a Complete Change of Heart’

September 28, 2020 by Chump Lady

Hi Chump Lady, My favorite thing about your writing about cheating is how swiftly and ruthlessly you cut through the waffling to reach the unpretty but true things, and I need that right now. In January, my husband and I were talking seriously about splitting up so that he could join a religious community. We’d […]

Filed Under: Genuine Imitation Naugahyde Remorse, Trust that they suck Tagged With: Abusive marriage, Boundaries, Plan B, Trust That They Suck

Fix Your Picker Tips

August 14, 2020 by Chump Lady

Hey, it’s Friday and maybe you have a date this weekend. Or a bad rash just thinking about dating. Or maybe there’s still a cheater snoring on your sofa. What you need are BOUNDARIES! Today’s Friday challenge is How to Fix Your Picker. If you’re a recovering chump like me, you need this skillset. And […]

Filed Under: Dating, What Not to Do Tagged With: Boundaries, Dating, Fix your picker, love bombing

Am I Going to Get Over This?

July 2, 2020 by Chump Lady

Hello Chump Lady, My name is Kimmy. I just came across your “Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life“ book and I am absolutely in love with it. I’m only 22 years old, I’m not married of course, but I am going through the worse heartbreak I’ve ever been in my whole entire life. I ignored […]

Filed Under: Dating, Trust that they suck Tagged With: Boundaries, Resilience

When You Don’t Want to Spend Thanksgiving with Your Ex

November 27, 2019 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, The holidays are coming and I was just wondering how to deal with the soon-to-be-ex (STBX) and holiday get-togethers. I actually thought we could stay on friendly terms since we have kids together and we will be seeing each other time to time. I really wanted it to be less painful for […]

Filed Under: Cake Eating Tagged With: Boundaries, cake eating, divorce, Holidays with ex

No Contact Wins

September 27, 2019 by Chump Lady

Freaks can fling some tasty bait at chumps. Why, just last Monday we read about the cheater who told everyone his chump ex was ISIS. Your Fun Friday Challenge is to share your no contact wins with CN. What provocation, insult, ridiculous rumor, bad tagged Facebook photo, withering slight did you NOT react to? What’s […]

Filed Under: No contact Tagged With: Boundaries, No Contact

You Might Be a Recovered Chump If…

September 6, 2019 by Chump Lady

Boundaries, boundaries…
Okay, so you were chumped. But how did you get mighty? When did you start enforcing boundaries that  were previously trampled?

Filed Under: Gain a life Tagged With: Boundaries

Dear Chump Lady, I don’t want to make nice with my OW SIL

July 8, 2019 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, I am 10 years out from leaving my cheating ex-husband. I found out about his affair on July 4, 2009, and have referred to that day as my “Independence Day.” I had dated him through high school and college and we were married for 16 years when he decided his sales representative […]

Filed Under: Forgiveness, Other Women, Switzerland Friends, Trust that they suck Tagged With: Boundaries, Shit Sandwich

Way to Take Down a Cheater

May 8, 2019 by Chump Lady

A standing ovation for Talia Jane, a young writer who posted screen grabs of a conversation between her and married journalist perving on her. Need a primer in how to shut shit down? Here’s a master class. Background — she’s a young, underemployed writer, he’s an older dude offering career advice. Then, as it often is […]

Filed Under: Cheater Tactics Tagged With: Boundaries, Cheater

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