Tag: manipulation

gaslighting

The Mindfuckery of Reverse Victim Offender

There must be a bazillion “How To Tell If He/She’s Cheating” articles on the interwebs. You know, the usual — new cologne, sudden penchant for …

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Mindfuck blender

UBT: “Don’t Define Me”

Dear Chump Lady, I ran off a list to my cheating fiancé about why I didn’t think he respected women and I included him cheating …

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‘I Fail to Understand Your Hostility’

There is no mindfuck like the I Fail to Understand Your Hostility mindfuck. As mindfucks go, it’s Jedi-level mindfuckery. Oh sure your lesser manipulator can …

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The Pretzel Logic of the 180

If you’ve spent any time reading the reconciliation literature, you’ll notice a lot of reference to the “180.” She won’t stop seeing her affair partner? …

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Serial cheater

He Cheated on Her Daughter. She Spackled.

Dear Chump Lady, I thought I was going crazy until I read your site about how cheaters think and how much they will lie and …

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Do Cheaters All Work from the Same Script?

  Dear Chump Lady, After faithfully reading this blog and thinking about all that we have been through I still have questions. 1.) How did …

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mindfuck

‘He Returned and Acts Like Nothing Happened’

He’s a serial cheater and he won’t leave the home. Now he’s trying to pretend like nothing happened.

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mindfuck

UBT: “You Were So Perfect, I Had to Cheat”

Usually cheaters run chumps down and blameshift their affairs. You Weren’t Meeting Their Needs. You suck. They love you, but just not in that clandestine-hooker-profile-rent-a-room kind of way. …

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jennifers

Dear Chump Lady, Am I just a chump stereotype?

Dear Chump Lady, When I found your book I had been one of the suckers that was searching the RIC sites for answers. I had …

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A Master Mindfucker

Charles Saatchi is in the news again. He’s the millionaire art collector who was seen publicly fighting with his wife, celebrity chef Nigella Lawson — …

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cake

The Unified Theory of Cake

Cake eating is the preferred Nirvanic state of the unrepentant cheater. It’s the situation in which the cheater has the affair partner (AP) and the …

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