Tag: manipulation
The Mindfuckery of Reverse Victim Offender
There must be a bazillion “How To Tell If He/She’s Cheating” articles on the interwebs. You know, the usual — new cologne, sudden penchant for …
UBT: “Don’t Define Me”
Dear Chump Lady, I ran off a list to my cheating fiancé about why I didn’t think he respected women and I included him cheating …
‘I Fail to Understand Your Hostility’
There is no mindfuck like the I Fail to Understand Your Hostility mindfuck. As mindfucks go, it’s Jedi-level mindfuckery. Oh sure your lesser manipulator can …
The Pretzel Logic of the 180
If you’ve spent any time reading the reconciliation literature, you’ll notice a lot of reference to the “180.” She won’t stop seeing her affair partner? …
He Cheated on Her Daughter. She Spackled.
Dear Chump Lady, I thought I was going crazy until I read your site about how cheaters think and how much they will lie and …
Do Cheaters All Work from the Same Script?
Dear Chump Lady, After faithfully reading this blog and thinking about all that we have been through I still have questions. 1.) How did …
‘He Returned and Acts Like Nothing Happened’
He’s a serial cheater and he won’t leave the home. Now he’s trying to pretend like nothing happened.
UBT: “You Were So Perfect, I Had to Cheat”
Usually cheaters run chumps down and blameshift their affairs. You Weren’t Meeting Their Needs. You suck. They love you, but just not in that clandestine-hooker-profile-rent-a-room kind of way. …
Dear Chump Lady, Am I just a chump stereotype?
Dear Chump Lady, When I found your book I had been one of the suckers that was searching the RIC sites for answers. I had …
A Master Mindfucker
Charles Saatchi is in the news again. He’s the millionaire art collector who was seen publicly fighting with his wife, celebrity chef Nigella Lawson — …
The Unified Theory of Cake
Cake eating is the preferred Nirvanic state of the unrepentant cheater. It’s the situation in which the cheater has the affair partner (AP) and the …
