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Did He Cheat Because He’s Depressed?

February 24, 2021 by Chump Lady

wayward

Dear Chump Lady, Please help me sort through this mess. Help me get angry! My husband and I were together for 6 years and married for 6 months when he fell into a deep depression and left me to stay with a friend in November. During this time (over an 11-week time span) he pushed […]

Filed Under: Abandonment, Anger, Deception, Pick me dance, Trust that they suck, Untangling the skein of fuckupedness Tagged With: Depression, double betrayal, Mindfuck channels, Pick Me Dance 138 Comments

Is He Going to Regret Choosing Her?

February 23, 2021 by Chump Lady

Ooh, pick me!

Dear Chump Lady, Once I found out my boyfriend cheated on me, I desperately searched for answers and came across your book. I tried to hang in there, but here I am 4 months later moving my stuff out. He has treated me terribly our entire relationship, between talking to other women, the lies, cheating, […]

Filed Under: Ego kibbles, Pick me dance Tagged With: Pick Me Dance 86 Comments

When You Discover Your Boyfriend Has a Married Girlfriend

December 21, 2020 by Chump Lady

cheater overlap

Dear Chump Lady, Last week, I left my boyfriend of 11 months. I recently discovered that before meeting with me, he had been in a relationship with a woman who had two kids and a husband for a year and a half. He lied about her for 11 months (the entire length of our relationship, […]

Filed Under: Hopium, No contact, Pick me dance, Trust that they suck Tagged With: Hoovering, No Contact, Pick Me Dance

She ‘Can’t Decide’ Between Us

December 9, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, We’ve been married since 2012. Bought new home in 2014. In 2015 she acted so so happy. Turns out she was screwing a guy in Motel 6. She told me they just needed a private place to talk. Until this guy. Five years older than my son (I’m 49. My son’s 26). […]

Filed Under: Pick me dance Tagged With: How to leave a cheater, Pick Me Dance

What Is the First Step?

November 4, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, What would you do? My husband is very friendly with this woman at work. He talks about her which is why I looked in his phone and saw a series of texts of her needing “to vent” he’s all supportive and understanding… which triggers me. Then a little later he’s telling me […]

Filed Under: Limbo, Pick me dance Tagged With: Limbo, Pick Me Dance, Trapped

Is This Jealousy?

August 31, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, CN support helped me avoid a mindfuck my husband was trying to impose on me. Thanks to CN, I got up from my knees, hired a detective and in September I am starting the divorce process with judgement of guilt (I live in the EU). Anyway, right now my husband already lives with […]

Filed Under: No contact, Pick me dance, Untangling the skein of fuckupedness Tagged With: Pick Me Dance, Untangling the Skein

A Chump Off the Old Block

August 10, 2020 by Chump Lady

Hopium

Dear Chump Lady, My beautiful, intelligent daughter has now joined the ranks of lovable trusting Chumpdom. She’s a Chump Off the Old Block. I left her father 10 years ago after he cheated for the umpteenth time. I did the “let’s wait and see” for years, which is exactly what she’s doing now. I’m not […]

Filed Under: Hopium, Pick me dance Tagged With: Alcoholic, Pick Me Dance

Is Reporting Him Revenge?

August 3, 2020 by Chump Lady

cheater manifesto

Dear Chump Lady, My ex cheated on me with a very good friend for almost 2 years. We were actually couple friends as well. She filed for divorce last summer after a year of their affair and her divorce was final the end of Feb 2020. I found out about the affair 1 week after […]

Filed Under: Revenge, Telling people Tagged With: Pick Me Dance, Revenge

When Affair Partners Marry

July 28, 2020 by Chump Lady

Back by popular demand, with sincerest apologies to the good people of Oklahoma. (In my defense, I was living in Texas when I wrote this.) **** The other day I was watching TV and this ad came on for glitzy, casino holidays in Oklahoma. God help the ad executives who were trying their darndest to make Oklahoma look […]

Filed Under: Trust that they suck Tagged With: Pick Me Dance, Trust That They Suck

Why Cheaters Think You Could Be Friends with Their Affair Partner

June 9, 2020 by Chump Lady

Stay friends

One submission that I get over and over again for “Stupid Shit Cheaters Say” is the cheater insists — you know, you’d really like the affair partner! You’re a lot alike! You could be friends! The chump is absolutely gobsmacked by this (clearly, or they wouldn’t submit such nonsense to this blog). Which got me […]

Filed Under: Cheaters Decoded, Narcissism, Other Man, Other Women, Pick me dance Tagged With: cake eating, Ego Kibbles, Pick Me Dance

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