Dear Chump Lady, Please help me sort through this mess. Help me get angry! My husband and I were together for 6 years and married for 6 months when he fell into a deep depression and left me to stay with a friend in November. During this time (over an 11-week time span) he pushed […]
Is He Going to Regret Choosing Her?
Dear Chump Lady, Once I found out my boyfriend cheated on me, I desperately searched for answers and came across your book. I tried to hang in there, but here I am 4 months later moving my stuff out. He has treated me terribly our entire relationship, between talking to other women, the lies, cheating, […]
When You Discover Your Boyfriend Has a Married Girlfriend
Dear Chump Lady, Last week, I left my boyfriend of 11 months. I recently discovered that before meeting with me, he had been in a relationship with a woman who had two kids and a husband for a year and a half. He lied about her for 11 months (the entire length of our relationship, […]
She ‘Can’t Decide’ Between Us
Dear Chump Lady, We’ve been married since 2012. Bought new home in 2014. In 2015 she acted so so happy. Turns out she was screwing a guy in Motel 6. She told me they just needed a private place to talk. Until this guy. Five years older than my son (I’m 49. My son’s 26). […]
What Is the First Step?
Dear Chump Lady, What would you do? My husband is very friendly with this woman at work. He talks about her which is why I looked in his phone and saw a series of texts of her needing “to vent” he’s all supportive and understanding… which triggers me. Then a little later he’s telling me […]
Is This Jealousy?
Dear Chump Lady, CN support helped me avoid a mindfuck my husband was trying to impose on me. Thanks to CN, I got up from my knees, hired a detective and in September I am starting the divorce process with judgement of guilt (I live in the EU). Anyway, right now my husband already lives with […]
A Chump Off the Old Block
Dear Chump Lady, My beautiful, intelligent daughter has now joined the ranks of lovable trusting Chumpdom. She’s a Chump Off the Old Block. I left her father 10 years ago after he cheated for the umpteenth time. I did the “let’s wait and see” for years, which is exactly what she’s doing now. I’m not […]
Is Reporting Him Revenge?
Dear Chump Lady, My ex cheated on me with a very good friend for almost 2 years. We were actually couple friends as well. She filed for divorce last summer after a year of their affair and her divorce was final the end of Feb 2020. I found out about the affair 1 week after […]
When Affair Partners Marry
Back by popular demand, with sincerest apologies to the good people of Oklahoma. (In my defense, I was living in Texas when I wrote this.) **** The other day I was watching TV and this ad came on for glitzy, casino holidays in Oklahoma. God help the ad executives who were trying their darndest to make Oklahoma look […]
Why Cheaters Think You Could Be Friends with Their Affair Partner
One submission that I get over and over again for “Stupid Shit Cheaters Say” is the cheater insists — you know, you’d really like the affair partner! You’re a lot alike! You could be friends! The chump is absolutely gobsmacked by this (clearly, or they wouldn’t submit such nonsense to this blog). Which got me […]
