Ashley Madison’s Data Held Hostage

AshleyMadisonWell, this was a nice tidbit of news to wake up to — Ashley Madison had their database hacked. According to the Guardian newspaper:

Site’s hackers claim 37m personal records have been stolen from notorious dating site, with Cougar Life and Established Men also compromised.

Hackers have stolen and leaked personal information from online cheating site Ashley Madison, an international dating site with the tagline: “Life is short. Have an affair.”

The site, which encourages married users to cheat on their spouses and advertises 37 million members, had its data hacked by a group calling itself the Impact Team. At least two other dating sites, Cougar Life and Established Men, also owned by the same parent group, Avid Life Media, have had their data compromised.

The Impact Team claims to have complete access to the company’s database, including not only user records for every single member, but also the financial records of ALM and other proprietary information. For now, the group has released just 40MB of data, including credit card details and several ALM documents.

Apparently, it was an inside job.

Noel Biderman, you mean someone you trusted stole something of yours? Something you thought was precious and yours alone? No! Say it isn’t so!

The biggest revelation from the hackers so far is that those records Ashley Madison charges a fee to scrub? They don’t scrub them.

The hackers’ main point of contention is with the fact that Ashley Madison charges users a fee of £15 to carry out a “full delete” of their information if they decide to leave the site. Although users have the option of permanently hiding their profile free of charge, the company’s advertisements claim that the full delete service is the only way to completely remove their information from the servers.

But the hackers say that that claim is “a complete lie”.

Oh my goodness, imagine that. A business predicated on cheating, lies to its customers. Sweet irony thy name is SpankyHoneyCheeks57.

The hackers have already released 40MG of data and demand that the sites must be taken down, or they will release more data.

But the initial leak is just a taster, according to the Impact Team, which accompanied the data with a manifesto threatening release of further information if Ashley Madison and Established Men are not permanently closed.

SpankyHoneyCheeks57 is probably not worried, because SpankyHoneyCheeks57 isn’t his real name. Alas, SpankyHoneyCheeks57 your real name appears on your credit card. Exactly the sort of identifying information the hackers are exposing.

Now, cyber crime is nothing to laugh at. We all rely upon the honesty and transparency of our financial institutions. We should feel safe every time we give our credit card to a vendor that our privacy is protected. This trust is the bond that holds the free market together.

Along comes some anarchist who doesn’t respect the rules of commerce? Who wants to use data for his or her own selfish purposes? Hold it ransom to make a buck?

Life is short. Hack a cheater.

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had-it
had-it
8 years ago

OMG…… This must be the KARMA BUS, right?????!!!!!

IHaveHate
IHaveHate
8 years ago
Reply to  had-it

Hoping the Karma Bus includes my XPOS on the Ashley site and his new flavor of the week finds out! ‘Course though, he prefers doing his own hunting in the local strip holes, (pun intended) and trolling the streets. That way he knows what they look like right away……no wait time.

Dl
Dl
8 years ago
Reply to  had-it

I am a divorce attorney. Everyone cheats if they think they won’t get caught. If I had a nickle for every time I heard a spouse say the never thought their spouse was a cheater type but he was, I would be a billionaire.

The sad thing is that you never know who will cheat until they do.

7stelle
7stelle
8 years ago
Reply to  Dl

Is this more than observation? Are you trying to dump your own guilt?

Many have been cheated on, but have never reciprocated. We value marriage, our children, and ourselves to much to be swimming in that filth.

newchumpatl
newchumpatl
8 years ago
Reply to  Dl

I bet you’ve heard some doozie stories too. Divorce lawyers really have seen it all.

Wayfarer
Wayfarer
8 years ago
Reply to  Dl

Quote: [i]”Everyone cheats if they think they won’t get caught.”[/i]

Fortunately, there are a lot of people who don’t cheat for ethical reasons, not because they are fearful of getting caught.

Patsy
Patsy
8 years ago
Reply to  Wayfarer

yes, wayfarer, that is thinking about the opportunity cost. Of course people are going to be attracted and tempted. They wouldn’t have a pulse if they didn’t.
The ENTITLEMENT to do what feels good not caring if it hurts another?
Something my counsellor said yesterday was truly shocking. He said: [your chump contract was] looking after someone in the hope they will look after you. When you started demanding to be cared about and stating your needs, he reacted by having an affair’.
STOP this contract, and look after you.

Clare
Clare
8 years ago
Reply to  Patsy

No, Patsy. Some of us don’t live life like that. We aren’t tempted because we simply don’t engage in cheatin’ thinking.’ That’s what sex compulsives do.

Datdamwuf
Datdamwuf
8 years ago
Reply to  Wayfarer

Everyone cheats if they think they won’t get caught? Bullshit, asshole with no ethics cheat, don’t paint everyone with that brush. Chump Nation has plenty of proof that’s not true.

Miss Sunshine
Miss Sunshine
8 years ago

DELICIOUS!!

ChumpFromF
ChumpFromF
8 years ago

Hackers, with this kind of target, I would be happy to join your team. Since I don’t know how to apply, I will just say thank you !!!

ChumpFromF
ChumpFromF
8 years ago
Reply to  ChumpFromF

Would not be suprised if the “deleted” accounts are in fact moved to another server with mediocre security. I bet that the live servers are managed by skilled computer engineers, and the less important servers where archives are stored, are managed by trainees. A trainee may have made a copy of the server content. So it’s not really “hacking” – a trainee is always happy to use this word. Maybe the archive servers are not even accessible from outside, and all it took was a USB key. Technically, data is deleted, but companies are always reluctant to delete completely.

deepbreaths
deepbreaths
8 years ago
Reply to  ChumpFromF

Oh the blackmail opportunities at play here! I wonder how many members are willing to pay someone, anyone mucho $$$ to delete their accounts. You go hackers. More power to y’all.

NewlymintedChump
NewlymintedChump
8 years ago

I really hope something comes of this. It would be somewhat validating to see my X’s name of one of those lists. Will be following this story closely.

Beth
Beth
8 years ago

Same here NewlymitedChump. Does anyone know where to find this information that has been leaked out? I would love, I mean LOVE to see the list! But most likely he is not using his real name. I’m sure his “lucky” number could be in there. He used his lucky number in most everything.

Carmella1722
Carmella1722
8 years ago
Reply to  Beth

Mine’s lucky number is 57, so I was roaring at “SpankyHoneyCheeks57”

Chumpish
Chumpish
8 years ago
Reply to  Carmella1722

Too perfect with No. 57! Mine used RAW, as they are his initials. How happy was he with such descriptive initials? Until, that is, he realized it was a dead giveaway. . .

Newlymintedchump
Newlymintedchump
8 years ago
Reply to  Beth

Well, that’s the really interesting thing… they could potentially leak actual names, not just usernames because they have credit card info. Supposedly they leaked a small amount of the data to prove that they actually have it, but then removed it. Who knows. But I’ll be watching to find out.

onthehill
onthehill
8 years ago

So, where do you find such data, if one is suspicious?

startofsomethingood
startofsomethingood
8 years ago

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!

imadeitthrutherain
imadeitthrutherain
8 years ago

That’s my reply too……LOL!!!!

I don’t believe in Karma, but I do believe in Natural Consequences!

TheLadyisaChump
TheLadyisaChump
8 years ago

High-priced divorce lawyers everywhere are on their knees in gratitiude….

ChumpB
ChumpB
8 years ago

LadyisaChump, you slayed me once again!

Beth
Beth
8 years ago

Ha! I was thinking the same thing! Thanks for saying what I was thinking TheLadyisaChump!

Chump Advocate Vickie
Chump Advocate Vickie
8 years ago
Reply to  Beth

What a coincidence. It’s ‘make a will month’ too.

CalamityJane
CalamityJane
8 years ago

Spit out my coffee laugh out loud hysterical, thanks TheLadyisaChump!

Sephage
Sephage
8 years ago

Ha!!! Was just thinking the same thing. Cha-ching!

Divorce Minister
Divorce Minister
8 years ago

“Life is short. Hack a cheater.” Ha!

I am not advocating committing crimes. Does seem to be sort of fitting that the cheater site is struggling with someone taking something from them deceptively.

I wonder if the alleged fact that he did not scrub info is a legal breach on the part of the business?

Chump Advocate Vickie
Chump Advocate Vickie
8 years ago

Coincidentally I just saw Noel Biderman featured on HBO’s new show about ‘sex’ and ‘sexual fantasies/preferences’ Friday Every decade they reinvent that same show–Only the music changes

They even featured some cheaters and their rationale for joining Ashley Madison. They were edited to look like ‘average people who’s only flaw was to have some excitement while preserving their marriages. ‘ :-/. How altruistic they are.

Well, they wanted excitement? Now they’ve got it.

I’m sure Mr Biderman has more than a few enemies in a business model such as that

MsMachete
MsMachete
8 years ago

You nailed it. They only want *their pet idea of excitement”. I’m guessing pants-shitting anxiety at being found out isn’t what they had in mind. Lolz.

hissecrettreason
hissecrettreason
8 years ago
Reply to  MsMachete

Haaaaa! You know, MsMachete, pants-shitting anxiety perfectly defines what happened to me the night I discovered that my husband of 14 years was leaving me with our brand new 1 and 2 year old babies in tow to move thousands of miles away to live with a stripper he’d been seeing for 5 months while on the road ‘working to pay off the medical debts from having the babies’. Pants-shitting anxiety also perfectly describes my anguish when he left us with a single packed suitcase less than 24 hours after I learned of his betrayal, leaving me on my own to sort out the logistics of our entwined lives and provide care for our children with a decimated psyche. It’s also pretty dead-on in describing the trauma-filled, horrifying journey I had to endure driving from CO to CA, having to leave because the house we lived in wasn’t ours and I had no family nearby who could help me with the babies. Yep. So if, say, my ex-husband’s name were to appear on a list like that, how much would I pay to see it? All the money. All the money is my answer to that.

KibbleFree_MightyMe
KibbleFree_MightyMe
8 years ago

Ohmigosh, hissecrettreason – what a horrible douchebag that (hopefully) ex is!! Two tiny babies and a wife – for a whore?! It’s disgusting what they do, and all the ways they hurt us and our children for their short-term fix and their crotches. Don’t worry – Karma is truly a bitch, and often gives no notice when it arrives to pick-up the cheaters. They bought their ticket on that bus a loooong time ago, but since they’re so freaking “special,” they don’t believe they have to get on when it shows up.

I hope things are looking up for you a little bit each day, and I’m glad to hear you’re back around a support network of family. Make sure to lean on them and don’t try to be brave all the time; it’s how you’ll heal your wounds and be stronger than you thought possible for yourself, and those angel-babies. Your babies have an awesome Mom, and real family around them now who love all of you. (((Hugs, girl.)))

LiningUpDucks
LiningUpDucks
8 years ago

I think that’s it exactly. It’s the legal way to shut down the business (or make life really difficult), by demonstrating that it lied to its customers about the full delete. Works for me. In some sense, though, I feel like it’s Whack-A-Mole. Another Ashley Madison wannabe will pop up. Ugh.

Newlymintedchump
Newlymintedchump
8 years ago
Reply to  LiningUpDucks

Yes, there will be another soon enough. Cheaters’ gonna cheat. But this news did make me smirk on a Monday morning so I’m not complaining.

LiningUpDucks
LiningUpDucks
8 years ago

Me, too. Although it likely won’t affect my own Wasband, I am still enjoying this as a small little Karma bus for many cheaters out there. Even if just makes some of them nervous for a bit. I’m playing my happy music. Plus, I like the idea that maybe this Impact Team includes a chump and that was part of the motivation. Who knows. 🙂

Sara
Sara
8 years ago
Reply to  LiningUpDucks

“…maybe this Impact Team includes a chump and that was part of the motivation…” I thought the same thing LiningUp! Maybe a group of chumps!

not Juliet
not Juliet
8 years ago

I hope they do a federal investigation and that they lock up the Bierderman (spelling?) Creep and his Stepford wife. Pieces of shit.

Anonymous Coward
Anonymous Coward
8 years ago
Reply to  not Juliet

// , I think that would be rather difficult. Noel Biderman has already amassed quite the sum to pay his way out of the legal system.

KibbleFree_MightyMe
KibbleFree_MightyMe
8 years ago

But there’s not enough to pay his way out of hell.

GreyGhost
GreyGhost
8 years ago

Let me try to buy a portion of this data on the dark web and screw all these fucking cheaters. Some revenge.

Anonymous Coward
Anonymous Coward
8 years ago
Reply to  GreyGhost

// , You don’t have to buy it. It’s free.

Also, for anonymous internet use, check these:

https://www.torproject.org/projects/torbrowser.html.en

+

https://www.witopia.com/products/

Combining a personal VPN with the Tor Browser Bundle are a standard means of protection to access the internet anonymously.

not Juliet
not Juliet
8 years ago

I set up a fake profile a few years ago, but refused to pay to delete it, so they don’t have my credit card info. I just removed what little information I had entered, mostly fake anyway. I can’t remember what they asked for. All males have to pay when they register, lol, so they are all in there.

Free Vixen
Free Vixen
8 years ago
Reply to  not Juliet

I did the same. Couldn’t be bothered to pay to delete mostly fake data. After the “scandal” involving fake female profiles administered by AM staff and wives tracking down cheaters, I wonder how many *real* female accounts there actually are?

Almost Single Guy
Almost Single Guy
8 years ago
Reply to  Free Vixen

There are definitely some. My STBX wife for one, and the woman who told her about it (who was herself a marriage and family therapist, ack!)

I wouldn’t be surprised if many of her toxic girlfriends used it at one time or another.

TheMuse
TheMuse
8 years ago
Reply to  Free Vixen

It’s possible that AM is just a pimp site. I mean, if the female “profiles” are fake, and they lead subscribers to “professionals” who are posting on there, then this is pimping, plain and simple. I’m so fucking sick of people saying why are you policing “consenting adults,” … duh, the betrayed spouse never consented to this crap. And if someone set up a website to facilitate OTHER bad behavior, everyone would condemn it, right? I mean, imagine a website advertising, “Life is short, buy some drugs.” “Life is short, kill your wife.” “Life is short, embezzle from your employer.”

TheMuse
TheMuse
8 years ago
Reply to  TheMuse

In fact, the more i think about it, the more I think Noel Biderman really and truly is just a fucking pimp.

Sunny
Sunny
8 years ago
Reply to  TheMuse

Amen!

Anonymous Coward
Anonymous Coward
8 years ago
Reply to  Free Vixen

// , Given that cheaters will default to the lowest effort, I doubt that there are many female members.

Elizabeth Lee
Elizabeth Lee
8 years ago
Reply to  not Juliet

I set up a fake profile a year or so ago. When they told me I had to pay to delete it, I told them I was there looking for a cheater and if they didn’t delete me it I’d do whatever I could to help the spouses of the cheaters on there. I got deleted for free.

Datdamwuf
Datdamwuf
8 years ago
Reply to  Elizabeth Lee

Elizabeth, whatever data you put in AM is in the info the hackers have. Luckily you didn’t give a credit card cos you are female. Just sayin, that is the REASON they hacked it, the promise to delete data was not kept.

TheLadyisaChump
TheLadyisaChump
8 years ago
Reply to  Elizabeth Lee

I was extremely tempted to put fake personal ads on Craigslist in Handout Boy’s new locale to see if he would bite. I would know EXACTLY what to put in the ad to hook him. But what would I gain from it? I already know everything I need to know and we have no property no kids so a divorce will be boilerplate.

Kate50
Kate50
8 years ago

I put a keylogger on my STBX’s computer after I found some things, like selfie pics of him that he took in his truck with stupid looking grins and sunglasses on. The keylogger revealed that he went to a site called “Lonely housewives .com”. Ugh, he had a lonely house wife at home, ME!!!!! I felt physically sick when I saw that.

Anonymous Coward
Anonymous Coward
8 years ago

// , Sting operations on people like this would tempt even the best of chumps, I suspect.

Newlymintedchump
Newlymintedchump
8 years ago

This is where I’m at. I find myself looking through craigslist ads in his area to see if I can find him, even though I know that there is no reason to. I’m done with him. I guess it would just provide one more shred of validation for me that he really is a creep who never loved me, and nothing like the person he pretended to be.

not Juliet
not Juliet
8 years ago
Reply to  Elizabeth Lee

That’s great, Elizabeth!

KibbleFree_MightyMe
KibbleFree_MightyMe
8 years ago
Reply to  not Juliet

Elizabeth – you’re hard-core, girl! Love how these cowards give-up when even THEIR cover might get blown. Way to go, chickie!

CakeBGone
CakeBGone
8 years ago

“Life is short. Hack a cheater.”

Hacking a cheater helped me expose their affair and left them feeling “violated” knowing their personal emails were being shared with our family and friends. Guess it’s not the private relationship they thought it was…well, not anymore anyway.

Beth
Beth
8 years ago

“Life is short. Hack a cheater.”-Great saying CL! I rather say “Life is short. Slap a cheater with a 2 x 2.” I know a great place where I would love to slap the ex and the rest of the cheaters in this world!

DoneNow
DoneNow
8 years ago

Unfortunately, I doubt whether any of us are going to get to see the information and use it. I think some chumps should come up with their own company. Cheaters gonna cheat, so make a profit off of it, and give it to groups that provide services to women and children. “Assuage.com -Be good when you’re being bad.”

Lulu
Lulu
8 years ago

Gee, who would’ve thought that an infidelity related web site would ever lie to it’s users! It’s almost like when you ask a cheater to go no contact with an affair partner, they swear they have, but they totally lied about it!

Roberta
Roberta
8 years ago

Ahhhh! Sweet karma again! What goes around comes around!

Steve
Steve
8 years ago

I hope they expose each and every one of them! Publish their names in a searchable list. Maybe the cheaters will have to endure a little anxiety of their own for once.

kb
kb
8 years ago

I don’t condone cyber crime, either. After all, you know that some of that credit card information is linked to the innocent spouse, whose POS cheater used the joint card to pay for the site. After all, lots of married people have joint cards, but the money is largely handled by one person. It would not be hard to use the joint card, and have the innocent spouse have no idea. A charge to “Ashley Madison” might be a charge to a clothing store (remember that gift I got you? It came from Ashley Madison) or a computer store (oh yeah, Avid Life Media sold me that flash drive at a great price!). Chumps, being chumps, won’t think about cheating websites.

Anyway, the point is that leaking the credit information can harm both the guilty and the innocent.

That said, I do think that the failure to wipe data after charging for it could make the day of several lawyers. And yes, I can see the site closing, but I also agree that it’s a bit like whack-a-mole. Another will spring up.

Sigh.

CalamityJane
CalamityJane
8 years ago
Reply to  kb

It would not necessarily show Ashley Madison on the credit card. When I shop at the Salvation Army it says Sally Ann on the charge.

In fact, that would be interesting to know. I would be surprised if they haven’t already figured this out and have somehow camouflaged their name on the statments.

Kate50
Kate50
8 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

My STBX had all his bills sent up north to him, his Visa and cell bill, so I never saw them, then when I went on a mission to bust him due to my suspicions, I found the account numbers to these bills and set up online bill viewing, went through the archives of the bills and got the shock of my life, hotels, flights and 1000’s of calls, texts to her number on his cell bill. Online billing rocks!!!!!

Datdamwuf
Datdamwuf
8 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

I’ve always looked at statements closely to make sure we hadn’t been scammed or someone hadn’t stolen card inf, every moth. Everyone should do that. I did NOT do it during near year mourning my Mom, when I came up for air it was the first thing I did. That is how I found out Saddam was cheating.

moxie
moxie
8 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

The billing info on the statement isn’t necessarily a red flag.

Unfortunately, I learned this the hard way.

And i also had some fake profiles on sites that POS frequented…wouldn’t wish that humiliation on any human being.

That being said, i’m not even sure all the cool kids still use AM. There’s so many more out there now.

Rebecca
Rebecca
8 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

I didn’t know until the legal process started that the codes next to ATMs, Dunkin Donuts and drugstores on the credit card statement connect to specific addresses.
When I paid a drugstore bill in New York why would I, the chump, even question it?
Right in front of my nose?

Crimson Comet
Crimson Comet
8 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

Or, the cheaters have their own credit cards and private email account, and have stuff sent to work or hotel address. Until D-day #1, I used the joint email account, and had not cc that he didn’t have access to. His were all locked up tight.

ChumpFromF
ChumpFromF
8 years ago
Reply to  kb

Yes !! The first time I saw “Ashley Madison” I thought it was the clothing store “Laura Ashley” where I never buy anything because their flowery dresses and country sweaters make me look all frumpy. I like the style but it’s not for me. I used to see a shop in Paris but I’ve moved a long time ago, hence the confusion.

Chump4Bolero
Chump4Bolero
8 years ago
Reply to  ChumpFromF

I know, right? I definitely would have thought Laura Ashley clothing store had it not been for its mention in last week’s Serial Cheater’s letter. –First time I ever heard of it… Why does it sound like a clothing store?

I regard porn sites as an iteration of Dante’s inferno-avoid at all costs – except when nailing a criminal in a marriage! -Among the worst!

And tragic – think Craig’s list murder of DC Lawyer this year – omg his wife! My heart goes out to her…

Helpful reference of Dante’s inferno
http://www.parseerror.com/vis/inferno/

ChumpFromF
ChumpFromF
8 years ago
Reply to  Chump4Bolero

I agree with you regarding porn. When I was very weak due to a burnout, I had to be careful because the slightest argument between other people would feel like fire in my stomach and would make me hide in a corner to breathe heavily. I was extra sensitive, and porn felt totally unbearable. It convinced me that porn is evil. Porn images carve into your brain and keep coming back forever.

ChumpFromF
ChumpFromF
8 years ago
Reply to  Chump4Bolero

The site is combining links to software practices with the vizualization of Dante’s inferno, I don’t quite understand the purpose of the author (whose biography seems unavailable). I think I can use the other links for my everyday work…

LiningUpDucks
LiningUpDucks
8 years ago
Reply to  kb

I agree, kb, I hope they don’t release the CC numbers, for that reason, because it might hurt the innocent spouses of these cheaters. But full names, city and state? That would be fine. The truth might help some chumps break free.

ItsAJourney
ItsAJourney
8 years ago
Reply to  LiningUpDucks

The truth will indeed help some chumps break free. A few days ago I discovered my husband rekindled his relationship with one of his former sluts. I gave him 3 days to get his stuff out of the house; he’ll be out today!!!! Yay! I had already asked him to leave prior to this, but he was dragging his feet, and I, chump that I am, was being patient so things wouldn’t escalate. I just realized that I needed that last bit of abuse to move forward. I’m not sad, mad or jealous. I’m just DONE.

Just after Dday, I tried to hold things together until I could figure out what was going on. I told my husband then, “I will stay with you and try to work things out, but if any of your e-media gets aired, I’m out of here.” I knew I couldn’t deal with the public humiliation on top of the shock of discovery, and depression. Idiot stbxh had FaceTime sexcapades, and sent a host of damning emails to a sex parlor whore, among others. Idiot (oops. I already said that.).

I realize we all have different thresholds for abuse. For me, and possibly for many others, the “public shame” factor was at the top. It was nearly impossible to deal with the shit sandwiches he was serving me, and even CONSIDER dealing with friends and family… their opinions and input. Too much.

CalamityJane
CalamityJane
8 years ago
Reply to  ItsAJourney

ItsAJourney,

I know you are just “done”. Big hugs to you. No matter what, it’s still a hellish road ahead, but you will survive. That I can assure you.

CalamityJane
CalamityJane
8 years ago

This is hysterical. The irony of it all.

More than few people crapped their pants this AM.

I found out about my SA’s massage prostitutes from a AOL breach (called Bleeding Heart). Captured all his addresses in his e-mail account and sent out a bogus “camping” e-mail to them. My e-mail address was mixed in with a bunch of “happy ending” care givers.

BUSTED.

I wonder if these are the same gals/guys. Don’t fuck with a computer chump. HA HA HA HA

Lynne
Lynne
8 years ago

I really wanna join the Impact Team!

CalamityJane
CalamityJane
8 years ago
Reply to  Lynne

Me, too!

Beth
Beth
8 years ago
Reply to  CalamityJane

Same here!

Carrie
Carrie
8 years ago
Reply to  Beth

Add me to the list! Hell, we should make fan t shirts

TodoVa
TodoVa
8 years ago

I might have a good day today after all! HA!!!

If something comes out of this, to actually expose the mf cheaters, Im celebrating! Who’s with me?!?!?!

LiningUpDucks
LiningUpDucks
8 years ago
Reply to  TodoVa

Definitely!

Boudica Reborn
Boudica Reborn
8 years ago

Wait! Do I hear……(gasp) yes! It’s Timid Forest Creatures……trembling in their proverbial boots!

Beth
Beth
8 years ago
Reply to  Boudica Reborn

LOL Boudica Reborn!

TimeHeals
TimeHeals
8 years ago

Hopefully, Interpol and Europol can convince Inspector Clouseau to come out of retirement and investigate this all thoroughly.

TimeHeals
TimeHeals
8 years ago
Reply to  TimeHeals

I demand the best fictional investigation ever!

KenderJ
KenderJ
8 years ago
Reply to  TimeHeals

As long as it is not:

Inspector Lewis
Castle or
Avery Ryan

They actually solve the cases.

TimeHeals
TimeHeals
8 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

Sure, him too. And Austin Powers and Mr. Bean. All of our top comedic fictional super investigators should be on this immediately.

Carry On My Wayward Nerd Girl
Carry On My Wayward Nerd Girl
8 years ago
Reply to  TimeHeals

Sherlock and John wh
ere are you???

Crimson Comet
Crimson Comet
8 years ago

This is awesome. Of course, I already know my ex was using the Ashley Madison site. When his affair was exposed at D-day #2, he told me he met her on that site, and then paid to delete his account. Then the stupid thing printed out the confirmation and left the print out! I tucked that away with all the other evidence I was gathering.

I’ve since begun to doubt that that OW was from that. Cheaters site. She doesn’t behave like a player, and has enmeshed with my kids without a struggle, and didn’t run for the hills when my ex presented himself as available. I suspect he found her at a conference, and didn’t want me to try to prevent his going to conferences.

He did have a Ashley Madison account, and he was quick to delete it. I believe that he had a lot of activity that he wanted hidden. It’s good that this hacking occurred. He’s probably very uncomfortable with this violation of his affair privacy. I’m personally cheering on the karma bus.

Boudica Reborn
Boudica Reborn
8 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

Good question CL! Adult Friend Finder was among my EH’s favorite sites.

nomar
nomar
8 years ago

Thank you, Impact Team, for debunking an old saying and proving that, yes indeed, you CAN cheat a cheater (or even millions of cheaters).

Ashley Madison complaining that it has been hacked and thus cheated out of its info security: reminds me of the guy who calls the cops and reports a theft because he figures out the pot he bought is oregano. In the law game, we call that “coming to court with unclean hands.”

Also, for you anagram fans out there, “ashleymadison.com” rearranges to “Oh my! I am a coldness.”

LiningUpDucks
LiningUpDucks
8 years ago
Reply to  nomar

I love your anagrams, Nomar. ‘Moldy remnants’ was a great one, too!

ChumpB
ChumpB
8 years ago
Reply to  LiningUpDucks

Norma, you rule once again!

ChumpB
ChumpB
8 years ago
Reply to  ChumpB

Typo, Nomar

CalamityJane
CalamityJane
8 years ago

I imagine we will have an influx of members in the coming days, chumps. This is my only sadness.

ChumpB
ChumpB
8 years ago
Reply to  CalamityJane

I had that thought too Calamity Jane. I just pictured all the DDays and the pain for all the poor chumps. Sad. They will find refuge here that’s for sure.

Crimson Comet
Crimson Comet
8 years ago

For a long time I took as truth that he said he found OW on AM. After all, why would someone lie about that? That’s horribly incriminating. Maybe he did, maybe not. Nothing he said/says is to be accepted without proof. But he was on that site, and as fast as he deleted the account, he wanted something kept hidden. He didn’t seem to care that I may get the proof that the account was closed, therefore existed. But getting it closed was worth spending 20 dollars. I’m sure that, even though we’re divorced, he still is uncomfortable with the hack.

not Juliet
not Juliet
8 years ago

From what I understand, it’s very expensive to hook up on that site, unless you are good looking or rich which means you could probably get easy ass in real life fairly easy at bars, etc.

I know my ex didn’t use it cause he’s too cheap. The tightwad’s ashley madison is doing a quick memory scan of chicks from the past known to be an easy lay.. Ie, true love.. Buy them a meal, fling some compliments their way,

TheLadyisaChump
TheLadyisaChump
8 years ago
Reply to  not Juliet

Handout Boy is already using the Poor Man’s Ashley Madison…..Classmates.com. I got into his email account and found the receipt for his membership and the emails he is already sending to former female friends. No males–big surprise. He had only been gone 3 weeks when he did this. I guess we know what that elusive “problem” of mine was that caused him to leave. I wouldn’t let him date.

Datdamwuf
Datdamwuf
8 years ago

Not alone Lady, Saddam used classmates.com to find a fuck friend also, someone who didn’t even actually know him in high school. Her emails waxed poetic about how much she wanted to know him back then but was too shy. His were bullshit too, saying how he had noticed her but he was too shy even if he seemed tough, and, gag me! He told her he was taken advantage of by an older woman, Jesus!

KRKing911
KRKing911
8 years ago
Reply to  Datdamwuf

OMG what a classic idiot. Mine was on Adult Friend Finder, Classmates, Facebook, Craigslist, Yahoo – you name it.

Not Juliet
Not Juliet
8 years ago

Yep, that’s about tight wads style, lol.

ChumpFromF
ChumpFromF
8 years ago

[Sorry, out of the subject]
Ladies, when you have to meet your cheater ex-, when no hard feelings are involved, do you feel anxiety afterwards ?
I saw him saturday because I helped him carry a piece of furniture to his appt, it fit in my car and not in his. He suggested we have lunch on the port afterwards, we did and then I returned home. My whole weekend was ruined, anxiety through the roof. I can’t explain it, because the conversation was nothing special. Every time he comes around, my morale sinks. Is this the unconscious mind screaming danger ? Prefontal cortex wants to know.

ChumpFromF
ChumpFromF
8 years ago
Reply to  ChumpFromF

Thanks everybody for your insight… Beth, I am listenig to the podcast while drawing, right now. Thanks a lot.

Beth
Beth
8 years ago
Reply to  ChumpFromF

You are most welcome ChumpFromF also look up Gray Rock method that Boudica Reborn stated. I forgot about that one (thanks for reminding me Boudica Reborn). We are here for you ChumpFromF and remember you are mighty!

Einstein
Einstein
8 years ago
Reply to  ChumpFromF

In the early days, yes it bothered me. The sight of him was a trigger that brought up all those negative, nasty emotions. I would just feel icky inside – didn’t matter what the conversation was.

I cut all contact, and began to heal without those constant triggers. He still texts once in a while, “how you doing….love you forever”. Whatever. I just feel annoyed and a little amazed that he still thinks there is a chance I might change my mind.

It does fade…but you have to cut out all contact. You can’t get over what you keep in front of your face.

GetAClue
GetAClue
8 years ago
Reply to  ChumpFromF

Why are you helping your ex move furniture? That’s nice of you but it gives him an excuse to bother you and try to see if he can still get ego kibbles so from you.

Miss Sunshine
Miss Sunshine
8 years ago
Reply to  GetAClue

Like!
Jesus, not to mention free moving service!

Lyn
Lyn
8 years ago
Reply to  ChumpFromF

ChumpFromF, yes, seeing or having anything to do with my ex for the first couple of years after D-day would send me into a tailspin. It’s because you haven’t worked through the grief yet. You’re not far enough along in your new life and your brain is still trying to conjure up the old one. It’s a really tough place to be. I would suggest you stay as much “no contact” as possible, even if you’re fairly amicable with your ex. It’s just better for your own healing.

TimeHeals
TimeHeals
8 years ago
Reply to  ChumpFromF

This is probably why people who have been mugged don’t go to lunch with their muggers. Only a guess.

Beth
Beth
8 years ago
Reply to  TimeHeals

Agree, TimeHeals. Going full no contact is your best bet. Also if you do have to see him never ever go any place with him. Have someone with you if you do and always treat it as a “Bank Transaction” show no emotion. Maybe even a better idea gets someone else you know to help him so you don’t have to deal with that trash again. He is not your problem. He is not your friend. Trust that he sucks!

Beth
Beth
8 years ago
Reply to  Beth

correction….get someone to help you and not “gets”

Beth
Beth
8 years ago
Reply to  Beth

ChumpFromF, also remember if your ex is a typical Cluster B Personality Disorder this is a typical Relationship Cycle they all seem to follow. Just names and type of sex (meaning being a male and/or female) changes not the pattern of behaviour they all follow. Basically they will keep on coming back until you step up and say no more and go 100% No Contact. He will act all nice to you to keep you in his pocket for a source of cake. He is just using you for a rainy day (please don’t take this me being rude or not understanding in your situation). He has no interest in being anything to you. To be honest with you he is just using you for his own purpose. He knows how to get to you; hence, your history with him. That is how these people work they know your weak spots and use it against you. Remember you have to stay strong and make healthy boundaries and say “NO”. Keeping 100% No contact is a healthy move for you and for your healing process. No Contact is not for him it is for you! I was with the ex for over 15 years and they all work the same way. Also make sure you are getting some therapy for this also.

I am going to give you a great podcast link that explains in great detail how ALL Cluster B Personality Disorders (same for male and female) people work. Don’t be mislead with the title of it. I would urge you to listen to it. It helped me with many unanswered questions about the ex and also helped me see not only he but also his family and friends and many of my family members have Personality Disorders. These people seem to “hang” together. This is the link (please, please listen to it):

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/relational-harm-reduction/2014/10/24/after-a-pathological-love-relationship-hes-moved-on-and-is-with-someone-new

I wish you the best of luck. Remember we are here for you and we all have been in your shoes. Sending you hugs!

Kate50
Kate50
8 years ago
Reply to  Beth

That Cluster B info really helped me understand, I could relate to it all. Thanks for sharing it with us all. 🙂

Boudica Reborn
Boudica Reborn
8 years ago
Reply to  Beth

ChumpFromF, I can endorse the link that Beth sent above – it’s a great source of information. Him asking you out for a meal afterwards sounds a bit like Hoovering to me (to suck you in for more Cake). If you absolutely can’t go No Contact, have you tried a technique called Gray Rock? You can search for it. I’m so sorry about your anxiety. As Beth says, we’ve either all been there, or are there now. ((Hugs)).

ChumpB
ChumpB
8 years ago
Reply to  Boudica Reborn

Totally get it ChumpfromF. I also endorse the podcast. One of the things they emphasize is that we did bond with these monsters. We loved them. The truth, however, when you are ready, and this was very difficult for me to comprehend (especially when they appear so happy with OW) is that they are. not. capable. of. love!!!! For 25 years, I consciously and unconsciously convinced myself that he was a good person; that deep down he was okay. It’s taken me a very long and painful process, one fraught with obtaining info through research, podcasts, understanding cluster B personality disorders and support via CL, CN, family, friends, and therapy to begin to believe that cheater ex is only going to repeat the cycle with OW and that her punishment (for having an affair with a married father and hurting my children) is that she can now go through the hell that I did. If I didn’t resent and abhor OW so much, I might actually feel sorry for her inevitable and upcoming pain. But I’m not really at that point, just seeing it bobbing on the horizon. She and ex can eat shit for all I am concerned and I believe that Meh is not condoning but a neutral reaction when thinking of them.

Working on Meh, hope I get there.

ChumpFromF
ChumpFromF
8 years ago
Reply to  TimeHeals

Haha yes but they haven’t spent a decade of their existence with the mugger…

Beth
Beth
8 years ago

Impact Team is now a GOD to me! This is a great day for all us chumps! Still would like to know if the ex is on there. If Impact Team does release this information someone needs to let us know. I would love to see it!

Gone
Gone
8 years ago
Reply to  Beth

Now they just need to hack The Erotic Review

zyx321
zyx321
8 years ago

Ah, Schadenfreude.
It’s a nice feeling.

Boudica Reborn
Boudica Reborn
8 years ago
Reply to  zyx321

Ah yes, isn’t it though? Lol – thanks zyx321!

not Juliet
not Juliet
8 years ago

I also think there needs to be a class action suit to pay restitution to anyone with the names Ashley or Madison, due to the negativity associated with that site.

YA
YA
8 years ago

This is really good news. Bravo to the hackers because this is an evil institution. If people want to cheat the dissolution of this website won’t stop them but if its one less piece of BS in the world, I’ll take it. One less corner of misery in the world.

nomore chump
nomore chump
8 years ago

I LOVE THIS!!!!! LOL

Jayne
Jayne
8 years ago

I wonder, if he hears of this, ‘The Great I Am’ will use one of his favourite sayings – ‘It couldn’t happen to a nicer fellow!’. Somehow, I think not!

Chortle! 😀

LadyStrange
LadyStrange
8 years ago

How do I thank Impact Team?

Phi Slama Jama Mama
Phi Slama Jama Mama
8 years ago

Oh, please, post the abhorrent Australian ad again. The nasty, wormy, fish-mouthed guy is all I can think about w this…

Mehsmerized
Mehsmerized
8 years ago

Juicy news for breakfast, isn’t it?

I would imagine my husband’s girlfriend may be nervous this morning because, as a many-time poster on Ashley Madison, husband could now find out if she’s still active.

Husband may be a tad uncomfortable as well, for the exact same reasons.

Lay down with dogs and you get fleas, as they say. (Sorry to the dogs it’s just an expression!)

Lots of anxious people maybe watching their inboxes and news feeds this morning, or perhaps Google this issue every, say, five minutes?

HA!

TiredChump
TiredChump
8 years ago

Wow. I knew this site existed but I never imagined the # of people that participated. I am unable to comprehend how anyone could use this site or how founder can live with himself. Even after 50-plus years, I believe that most people are good…..I am so optimistic but also so naive – possibly why i failed to recognize my husbands affair….I knew his young assistant had a crush on him, but never in a million years though he would reciprocate …………

PhysicsGal
PhysicsGal
8 years ago

I love the tweet – hacker was likely a divorce lawyer

Let go
Let go
8 years ago

The problem is that the hacker sites get removed. I recommend some good IT people hack the hackers and then spread this ASAP on the net. Once it is out there it will take on a life of its own. The couple who were cheating in NZ with the lights on in the office cannot undo the pictures of them. Too many people have seen them. That’s what I would like to see with this. Also, cheaters can change ccs. They just can’t get out of being who they are. Who wants them anyway?!!?

Datdamwuf
Datdamwuf
8 years ago
Reply to  Let go

Let Go, what they did is illegal, as funny as I find it, I also condemn it. It’s unethical as hell no matter how well deserved. and if I got their data I’d be looking at multiple felonies, ethical hackers won’t touch this stuff!, not just out of fear of jail, it’s because we are honest and work within the law

kbchump
kbchump
8 years ago

37 million records…I tell you after I found out about my cheating wife after 24 years together (16 months ago) I am enjoying being single. I don’t even crave a relationship anymore, maybe because I’m 50 and already did the kids thing and had all of that for a good 20 years, the last few being crap. But now my heart just isn’t in it. Maybe that’ll change I don’t know but quite frankly I’m enjoying the non stress in my life. To think about her and her actions with her iPhone welded to her hand the past years…I was certainly blind to what was happening but would’ve never imagined the road she was on. To think almost 10% of the U.S. population is signed up and paying for this “service” is sickening.

ChumpFromF
ChumpFromF
8 years ago
Reply to  kbchump

Same here, early fities, looking younger, sometimes attracted by a man but then I think about what the relationship would entail: shopping for groceries, cooking a different meal every day, going places for his entertainment, having to bear his friends and relatives who may not be as interesting, being worried when he goes silent or does not show up when he is supposed to, having to dress nice to please him, etc. etc. and then I think, damn, is it worth the trouble ? Can’t I use my remaining years to do the things I love to do, without any constraints ?

ChumpB
ChumpB
8 years ago
Reply to  ChumpFromF

Hello all you chumps above. I too am early 50s. The thought of connecting to a man again literally fills me with horror. I still have a lot of healing to do and enjoy every second I can make decisions on my own without giving cheater pants a second thought. I love my independence, my sweats, my popcorn and watermelon for dinner, exercising at my own pace, going out with girlfriends, decorating my place, doing whatever the fuck I want. Love it. I have such little trust in men right now, I just don’t think having one would heal my trust issues so I am loving this alone thing.

Lynne
Lynne
8 years ago
Reply to  ChumpB

ChumpB – so pleased you are enjoying your life now – many people can’t stand being alone and start a new relationship because they can’t be alone – it’s scary. I honestly find joy in my freedom on a daily basis.
But I admit that I spend too much time alone and really have to work at having more of a balance.
Very happy the last couple of days – I finally changed back to my maiden name, it’s a gigantic process, but about time!. It’s a beautiful last name.
Freeman. Yep, that’s right – very fitting. I didn’t ever think how much it would define my later years.

Kate50
Kate50
8 years ago
Reply to  Lynne

Lynne I was just talking to my Mother about going back to my maiden name after the divorce is final, to me it will feel like ridding myself of him completely. I’m happy for you.

KibbleFree_MightyMe
KibbleFree_MightyMe
8 years ago
Reply to  Kate50

Kate50 — do it. I took my maiden name on the day divorce was finalized. Got my new license same-day. Six months post-divorce, I actually enjoy correcting people when they call me by that douchbag x’s last name. It’s a multi-step process to rid ourselves of these asswipes, but the short-term hassle of changing EVERYTHING back to our given names is worth it. Taking your name back reminds you of who YOU are, and of how easily we gave ourselves away to those assholes, and to our marriage. You won’t be so quick to do all that again. It’s a psychological hurdle that I’m so glad I scaled. I’m proud to re-order all my college diplomas and self-separate in every way that I can. I’m rebuilding EVERY part of my life, now douchebag free, and that includes getting rid of a last name that now means NOTHING to me, and causes a slight gag reflex.

Do it.

Almost Single Guy
Almost Single Guy
8 years ago

I so hope my STBX wife will change her name. I hate that she walks around with my name after defiling it on Ashley Madison.

Lyn
Lyn
8 years ago
Reply to  kbchump

I feel the same kbchump. I’m 55, married for 31 years and with him for 36. Just don’t have the heart to go through marriage again, I’m enjoying peace and tranquility of being on my own. I feel fortunate to have a male friend and companion who I enjoy doing things with, though.

onthehill
onthehill
8 years ago
Reply to  Lyn

And I’ll chime in too at 55. Same marriage length as Lyn too. Can’t say I’ll do marriage again. If by some chance it works its way to that, well OK. But I’m certainly not looking for a commitment. You know sometimes they say when you’re NOT looking, it happens, lol!

Lynne
Lynne
8 years ago
Reply to  onthehill

I feel the same. I am hitting 58 soon and I think I have come to some sort of an acceptance that I won’t marry again, or probably even have another relationship for that matter. I live in a city where there are a great number of single women of all ages but particularly those 50 and over. The official stats reflect 52% women to 48% men. It doesn’t feel like that. The limited amount of “events” I attend, it’s more like 15 women to 1 male. Seriously. I attend the odd Meetup event for coffee or a movie and that’s the norm. All the males appear to be married or in committed relationships.
I did date a couple of men over the last few years, neither lasted more than 3 months. My picker must be vastly improved, because when there were red flags, I listened, watched and they soon showed me who they were.
At first I fought against this thought that it was over for me…… questioned why Mr. Cheaterpants could be on live-in GF # 4? and how wonderful and fulfilled his life appears with each current new love, but as time goes by, I realize that I just don’t have the energy or the interest. I like my little home, love my city, enjoy my work and I prefer spending my life this way. It’s simpler, stress-free and I find joy in that daily.
However, I do spend far too much time in solitude. I am finding it difficult to make friends in this city – I moved from a smaller town where we lived as a family almost 5 years ago to this beautiful city to make a fresh start – it was too hard living in the same town as my ex, surrounded by the memories. I do get lonely and tired of doing everything on my own.
Many people I have spoken to have made the same observation – it’s hard to make friends and find a sense of community here which is an unhealthy way of living because I do have a sense of isolation. I wouldn’t move back to that town though – moving here helped my healing after the devastation of a 27 year “happy” marriage, 31 years together crashed when I found out he was a serial cheater.
I know that when I do have a friend/social support system in place I will feel way more contented with the fact that another relationship is most probably not on the horizon for me. And the joy of my beautiful surroundings and cheater-free existence stills sustains me…….

Free Vixen
Free Vixen
8 years ago

“Cheating is like the secret glue that keeps millions of marriages together.” – Ashley Madison founder Noel Biederman

“Hactivism is like the secret glue that keeps millions of organizations from being even bigger dicks than they already are.” – Free Vixen

ChChChChump
ChChChChump
8 years ago
Reply to  Free Vixen

^^^ THIS

Kate50
Kate50
8 years ago

Oh oh, I joined that site when I was trying to see if my STBX was on it lol, tried to delete it after while and you have to pay, so I didn’t bother and left it there. Oh well.

Chumpion
Chumpion
8 years ago

All aboard the Schadenfreude Express m*therF*ckers! Toot toot!

Chumpish
Chumpish
8 years ago
Reply to  Chumpion

Chumpion, I LMFAO! Toot toot …. And, CL’s “Sweet irony thy name is SpankyHoneyCheeks57,” made me laugh so hard it changed my day. Things already look brighter. Anonymous text to the STBX in re Spanky’s been exposed? Who knows what the day holds?

Magical momma
Magical momma
8 years ago

Perhaps a suspecting spouse could contact their bank to see if any of their cards have been compromised. As long as they have a joint credit card they should be able to at least enquire with the bank. The bank will have to send notification of the hack. Reaping what their sin has sown!

not Juliet
not Juliet
8 years ago

Off the subject, but woo hoo, another whorDulterous relationship has bit the dust. Miranda “I knew he was married” Lambert and Blake “I’m a whore ” Shelton. Those two made me want to puke. Too bad they don’t have to stay together, lol. Now if LeAnn Rimes gets her just rewards. As if looking like a human cadaver isn’t reward enough.

AllaLie
AllaLie
8 years ago
Reply to  not Juliet

I sent that same info in a message to CL today, too. I did a little happy dance (i know, that’s so bad) when I read the announcement that flashed on my phone for People Magazine! Now if we can just get the Karma bus to work on LeeAnn/Eddie like you said and include Tori/Dean, Jason Aldean/what’s her name… and I think there is someone else? 🙂

AllaLie
AllaLie
8 years ago
Reply to  AllaLie

Oh I think the other couple waiting on the Karma bus was Johnny Depp/Amber Heard (even though he wasn’t married to Vanessa, they were still in a long term relationship).

not Juliet
not Juliet
8 years ago
Reply to  AllaLie

Maybe you are thinking of Garth Brooks and Trisha Yearwood AllaLie. They supposedly gushed about each other but didn’t act on it til they were both “single. “

not Juliet
not Juliet
8 years ago
Reply to  AllaLie

It’s not bad, Alla Lie. I have had to listen to my co workers babbling about it all day. Poor Miranda. Just when she lost all that weight. Blah. Blah. Blah. I hope they both explode, plus the ones you mentioned.

Gone
Gone
8 years ago

Eh, CCs are easily changed. For some odd reason, the ex was always getting his card hacked and seemed to have to get a new one every few months- I imagine it’s from going to porn sites and other crap like Ashley Maddison. I’m all for some transparency.

M
M
8 years ago

If the Director of the CIA who has every possible intelligence and protection resource available to him got busted cheating; I really don’t think anyone, and I mean anyone can be 100% sure they will never be caught.

No matter what route the cheater decides to use; regular website, hyper protected ashley madison, pick up at a bar, co-worker, friend…. no matter who they choose, the second they cheat, there is a chance they will get caught, or that it will come bouncing back at any point in their lives. even if the bust isn’t immediate, they have done this, and the universe knows, and the universe will find a way to kick them in the ass.

I don’t know how cheaters sleep at night, even if they aren’t cheating anymore, or between cheats. I don’t know how they sleep knowing at any point, something, anything could come back to get them.

cheaterssuck
cheaterssuck
8 years ago
Reply to  M

Like they say: “Two can keep a secret if one of them is dead”. As long as someone else knows you run the risk of getting caught. Hi Tech; lo tech, doesn’t matter.