Category: Dating

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Fix Your Picker Tips

Hey, it’s Friday and maybe you have a date this weekend. Or a bad rash just thinking about dating. Or maybe there’s still a cheater …

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Mr./Ms. Sparkles Is Ready to Date You!

Today’s Fun Friday challenge is to write dating profiles for your exes. Heck, you might have a head start on this if you stumbled across …

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When They Look Good on Paper

Today is part two of How Not to Get Chumped Again. Yesterday we discussed reciprocity, today we’re going to examine compatibility. I have to give …

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Un-Chumping Post-Infidelity, A Primer

Since starting this blog, I’ve been asked several times in various different ways how I transformed into a happily married person after infidelity. Hey, you …

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Dear Chump Lady, I don’t feel mighty. I got left.

Dear Chump Lady, Being the sleuthy sleuth I am, I discovered my husband of 15 years’ “emotional” affair (um yeah…her husband hired a private investigator …

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Dear Chump Lady, She says it was “just kissing”

Aloha Chump Lady, I have read a few dozen of your posts and from what I can tell, in your opinion, the cheater has to …

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UBT: “I don’t handle rejection well”

Dear Chump Lady, In my first attempt to date, after many years, I find myself running into yet another cheater! HOW do they find me?? …

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The Bitch-Be-Crazy Red Flag

Here’s a situation I’ve encountered many times among dating friends. Friend will swoon with excitement over new man in her life. Man is divorced. Being …

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You Want to Date a Chump? Here’s Where to Find Them

About every other day, someone in Chump Nation entreats me to start a chump dating service. Wouldn’t it be awesome if all the broken-hearted over-achievers had …

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Dear Chump Lady, I don’t stand a chance dating

Dear Chump Lady, I fear I will always be a chump. Text today to and from girlfriend about her co-worker: JAD: I’m sorry you have …

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Dear Chump Lady, When dating, how do I know if someone is a cheater?

Dear Chump Lady, Is there a fool-proof way to test people for this cheating fuck-wittedness disorder, before we get hooked by them? (Like with vampires, …

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Dear Chump Lady, My ex doesn’t want me to date

Dear Chump Lady, I have been divorced for three years after having the great pleasure of finding out I’m married to a cheater on my birthday. …

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Dear Chump Lady, I don’t trust women

Dear Chump Lady, Today was the 30th day since my 2.5 year long divorce nightmare ended. And, tonight I’m feeling certain that I know a …

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Dear Chump Lady, How do I get over the devaluing?

Dear Chump Lady My question to you concerns extreme desexualization at the hands of a Narc and how to get over that. I really need …

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Dear Chump Lady, I feel like I’m too available

Dear Chump Lady, I wish there were a few more posts about how to go about dating again. My recent experience was with a man …

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Dear Chump Lady, Are these red flags?

Hi Chump Lady, I made some chumpy errors in my separation, but generally got it right; consistent with your philosophy. I found Chump Lady about 15 …

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Dear Chump Lady, Where are all the single available men?

Dear Chump Lady, Please throw some light on the very stormy waters of the dating world out there. The last page of your book encourages …

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Don’t Date This Person

Don’t you wish cheaters came with forehead stamps? Abandon Hope All Ye Who Date Me! Kibble Whore. Flaming Freak. But no. We’re left to our …

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Dear Chump Lady, How do I fix my picker?

Dear Chump Lady, I have a question for the New Year — as we’re all thinking about new beginnings. It’s a simple question but I’m …

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Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to date for dull to find decent?

Dear Chump Lady I am wondering if it’s normal to get totally depressed by the dating jungle? It’s been 18 months now since I kicked …

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