Category: Dating

no contact

‘I Hate No Contact’

Hello Chump Lady! I dated a guy for a while and decided that we weren’t a good match for marriage, so I broke up with …

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sex addict brain

He Says He’s a Sex Addict. Should I Keep Dating Him?

Dear Chump Lady, I’ve read through all your archives and can’t quite find a situation like mine, and I don’t know what to do. I …

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UBT: When Your ‘Match’ Is a Married, Motivational Speaker

Happy Memorial Day, CN! Especially to all the veterans and military spouse chumps in our ranks. Thank you.  Forgive the day off, but I just …

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dating meme

Dating Profiles You Would Never Post

Today’s Friday Challenge comes from a CN request for snarky dating profiles. Hell of a Chump writes: I just thought of a Friday Challenge suggestion: …

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‘I Think My Boyfriend Is on Dating Sites’

Dear Chump Lady, I think my boyfriend is on dating sites, but I’m too tech illiterate to investigate it. Specifically, I think he’s on Hinge …

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freedom

How Do I Explain My Divorce?

Hi Chump Lady, Could you please offer some advice as to what to say on your dates regarding why you’re divorced? Like you, I’m twice …

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meh

Tuesday Tales from the Other Side

Recently, CN member Tall One reached out and asked me if I could run more “Gain a Life” stories. We’re heavy on the triage for …

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How Not to Be a Chump When Dating

Dear Chump Lady, I fear I will always be a chump. Text today to and from girlfriend about her co-worker: JAD: I’m sorry you have …

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Red flag

‘I Didn’t See Any Red Flags’

Hello Chump Lady, My D-day was almost 3 months ago. It wasn’t a marriage but a 10-year relationship, since teen years. I am 27, she …

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He Was Not As Advertised

Dear Chump Lady, I dated a guy this year, for almost a year, and about 1.5 months ago he broke up with me. I’m divorced …

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mindfuck

New Boyfriend Says She’s ‘Playing the Victim’

Hi Chump Lady, I was married for a decade, and for half of the time, my ex-husband was having an affair with a coworker. He …

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Narcissist Goldfish

I Just Want Her to Be Truthful

Dear Chump Lady, I recently broke up with my girlfriend of two years. I had suspicion that she was seeing someone else after she came …

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Where Are All the Single, Available Men?

Dear Chump Lady, Please throw some light on the very stormy waters of the dating world out there. The last page of your book encourages …

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My Ex Gave Me an STD

Dear Chump Lady, It is now 7 months since D-Day. In 7 years, ex-boyfriend cheated with four women and only now “shows” some remorse over …

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freedom

I Don’t Feel Mighty. I Got Left.

Dear Chump Lady, Being the sleuthy sleuth I am, I discovered my husband of 15 years’ “emotional” affair (um yeah…her husband hired a private investigator …

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planet narcissist

UBT: Inform Me About Your Girlfriend

Some cheaters find it really objectionable when their ex-chumps start dating. I’m not really sure what they were expecting. (Shrine maintenance, castle walls, vows of …

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Red flag

Are These Red Flags?

Dear Chump Lady, My question is to see if I’m about to get involved with a user and would be interested in what your experienced …

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cyclops lonely

A ‘Fix Your Picker’ Refresher

Is this not your first time at the chump rodeo? Are you afraid you’ll wind up shackled to another person of dubious character? While I’ve …

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mask

Chumped by Two Chumps

Dear Chump Lady, I guess you can say I’m a chump-variant in that I had a runaway cheater. Married over 24 years to someone I …

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mindfuck

Does Social Media Encourage Cheating?

Dear Chump Lady, First and foremost, thank you for writing Leave A Cheater, Gain a Life! It was immensely helpful, but I still can’t seem …

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