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‘How Come All My Boyfriends Suck?’

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Dear Chump Lady, I was married to my husband for six years. When our youngest was six months old I caught him cheating with his assistant. After a few weeks of back and forth, I kicked him out for good. I’ve had some bad boyfriends since. The worst being my most recent breakup — Ben. I […]

Fix Your Picker Tips

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Hey, it’s Friday and maybe you have a date this weekend. Or a bad rash just thinking about dating. Or maybe there’s still a cheater snoring on your sofa. What you need are BOUNDARIES! Today’s Friday challenge is How to Fix Your Picker. If you’re a recovering chump like me, you need this skillset. And […]

Am I Going to Get Over This?

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Hello Chump Lady, My name is Kimmy. I just came across your “Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life“ book and I am absolutely in love with it. I’m only 22 years old, I’m not married of course, but I am going through the worse heartbreak I’ve ever been in my whole entire life. I ignored […]

Chumped by Dating, Still Heartbroken

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Hello Chump Lady, I have a pretty straight forward situation. I was dating a man for about 8 months. I thought it was hands down THE BEST relationship I’d ever been in. I find out he’s cheating. Turns out he locks his phone with his birthday…idiot. I unceremoniously dumped him. It was fairly clear to […]

Feeling Too Available

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Dear Chump Lady, I wish there were a few more posts about how to go about dating again. My recent experience was with a man I met online, who in spite of the distance between us, was very keen to attempt a relationship. He is legally divorced (3 years now) and was not a cheater (I […]

Sex After Divorce?

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Hi Chump Lady, I’m pushing almost three years out now from the bomb my ex dropped on our marriage and by all accounts I am the “King of Meh.” I’ve worked on all my baggage and done most everything about getting my life back on track before anything else. That said, getting back into the […]

Dear Chump Lady, I have a young bitter heart

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Hi Chump Lady, I am new here, however, I am not new to chumpdom. I am a young chump (just turned 30) and am going through the second breakup with a man who lied and had an “emotional affair” throughout our time together, then proceeded to proclaim fucking the other woman officially the moment our […]

Bitter Bunny Dating?

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Okay, as promised, the Fun Friday dating profile challenge. Part of gaining a life is considering the sort of life you want. Which chumps don’t do a lot. We get tangled up in other people’s visions, their needs, their values, and tend to neglect our own. So write it down. I’m a Nordic left-handed lug-nut […]

Dear Chump Lady, Where are all the single, available men?

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Dear Chump Lady, Please throw some light on the very stormy waters of the dating world out there. The last page of your book encourages to love again strong and true, and I get this implicitly but WHERE do we meet these new guys? (Especially for those of us who were dealt the wonderful shit […]