Category: False reconciliation

Dear Chump Lady, My therapist says don’t tell anyone he cheated

Dear Chump Lady, Do you think chumps should tell their family and friends that the reason they are separated from their spouse is because he/she …

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UBT the Trust Bank

CN, why haven’t we deconstructed the bullshit trope of the Trust Bank yet? OMG, I’ve let you down! Recently, I got a letter that went …

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zombie

Dear Chump Lady, I want closure

Dear Chump Lady, Leaving my cheater has been a real struggle for me. I started going to a trauma therapist to get some help with …

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Mindfuck blender

Trickle Truth Is Neither Trickle Nor Truth

Add to the list of Reconciliation Industrial Complex euphemisms I despise — “trickle truth.” I’ve ranted about “wayward” before and the “fog,” but it only recently …

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bitch cookie

Dear Chump Lady, What if there was no sex?

Hi Chump Lady, What would you do if your husband did the following behaviors in an 11 year marriage (two early elementary kids)? He says …

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Hopium

Hopium Translations

Chumpy hearts die hard. Armed with the smallest evidence that a freak still cares, a chump will assign great significance to scraps. HE CALLED (to …

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What You Thought It Was, What It Really Was

How many times do we write “tip of the iceberg” around here? When faced with a D-Day, chumps never get the full picture. And, fact …

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Dear Chump Lady, Don’t confess an affair?

Dear Chump Lady, A lot of advice nowadays paints confessing an affair as worse than having one. Can you please rebut the following arguments? Confessing …

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not a unicorn

Dear Chump Lady, He “can’t cope with the guilt” of who he is

Dear Chump Lady, I was cheated on by my ex, for the first year I hadn’t any idea. There were 5 to 6 other women. There have been …

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The Compassion Trap

“What we want most is only to be held…and told…that everything (everything is a funny thing, is baby milk and Papa’s eyes, is roaring logs …

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The Trickle Truth Is Neither Trickle Nor Truth

Add to the list of Reconciliation Industrial Complex euphemisms I despise — “trickle truth.” I’ve ranted about “wayward” before and the “fog,” but it only recently …

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not a unicorn

Dear Chump Lady, How do I support my friend’s reconciliation?

Dear Chump Lady How do I support my friend through “reconciliation” with her abusive cheating husband? Last year one of my best friends, “Leanne” found …

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not a unicorn

Dear Chump Lady, Do I believe him or the proof?

Dear Chump Lady, Four years ago I found out my husband was interacting with women online from a sex website. He was active on the …

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