Category: Monogamy
Debunking Dan Savage
(Sigh) I used to be a Dan Savage fan. Back in the 90s and early aughts. Read his column religiously in the DC City Paper. …
Her Husband Wants an Open Marriage
Dear Chump Lady, You’ve written cogently about the way cheaters employ a double standard rather than asking for open marriage. So I’d like your take …
Her Husband Wishes She Were More Porn-like
Dear Chump Lady, My husband of 20 years has been replaced by a terrible person. He has gaslighted me in the strictest sense — insisting …
UBT: ‘Monogamy Is a Gift’
You know you’re wading in deep bullshit when you see the title “The Unsparing Genius of Esther Perel.” (Editor’s note: They changed the title since …
Ethical Non-Monogamy Was a Bust
Dear Chump Lady, I was in a relationship for 15 years, married for the last five. I’m not wired to be jealous over sex — …
Is Monogamy Abuse?
Dear Chump Lady The thing that I wanted to talk to you about has nothing to do with cheating, but everything to do with monogamy. …
UBT: “How to break free from monogamy without destroying marriage”
The Universal Bullshit Translator is weary. So many stupid articles, so little time… The gears crank for the Washington Post’s “How to break free from …
Rethinking the Psychologists Rethinking Monogamy
An alert chump sent me this tidbit in his Apple News feed: “Psychologists Agree: It May Be Time to Rethink Your Monogamous Relationship Research makes …
The Pick Me Dance and Polyamory
Hi Chump Lady, I think I’m almost out of the woods with getting over my cheater, but right as I get to “meh,” I realize …
Dear Chump Lady, Ethical non-monogamy was a bust
Dear Chump Lady, I was in a relationship for 15 years, married for the last five. I’m not wired to be jealous over sex — …
Monogamy Is Not the Problem
I‘d like to give a shout out for monogamy. It’s really been maligned of late, called “unnatural,” — or worse, hegemonic and bossy. It gets …
Dear Chump Lady, My husband wants an open marriage
Dear Chump Lady, You’ve written cogently about the way cheaters employ a double standard rather than asking for open marriage. So I’d like your take …
UBT: “Monogamy Is a Gift”
You know you’re wading in deep bullshit when you see the title “The Unsparing Genius of Esther Perel.” Oh please do spare us. Sorry. “Leading Mindful …
Men Cheat Because They Love Us? WTF?
Another day, another study telling us how unnatural monogamy is. You chumps are FREAKS, I tell you. FREAKS! The latest academic to say so is …
UBT: “Infidelity is a lousy reason to end a marriage”
Dr. Keith Ablow, Fox New psychiatrist, where have you been all my life? You’re Universal Bullshit Translator GOLD. Today’s UBT fodder is this wacky defense …
Debunking Monogamish
As Dan Savage came up in comments the other day, I thought it was time to rerun this column, lest anyone is confused about his pronouncements …
UBT: Renegade Sex Therapists
Raise your hand if you think good sex is an important part of a good relationship. Oh, hey, is that all of you? I think …
UBT: “How to break free from monogamy without destroying marriage”
The Universal Bullshit Translator is weary. So many stupid articles, so little time… The gears crank for the Washington Post’s “How to break free from …
UBT: “Monogamy Is a Gift”
You know you’re wading in deep bullshit when you see the title “The Unsparing Genius of Esther Perel.” Oh please do spare us such genius. …
Debunking “Monogamish”
I’ve taken on Dan Savage before and it always pains me. I’m a fan of his anti-bullying campaign, his DTMFA (dump the motherfucker already) acronym, …
