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Is Monogamy Abuse?

October 12, 2020 by Chump Lady

monkey love

Dear Chump Lady The thing that I wanted to talk to you about has nothing to do with cheating, but everything to do with monogamy. Right now in mainstream media monogamy is being called outdated and regressive. If you want monogamous relationship you are deemed insecure, controlling, unloving and on… Is monogamy abuse? Do you […]

Filed Under: Monogamy, Polyamory Tagged With: monogamy, polyamory

UBT: “How to break free from monogamy without destroying marriage”

October 14, 2019 by Chump Lady

The Universal Bullshit Translator is weary. So many stupid articles, so little time… The gears crank for the Washington Post’s “How to break free from monogamy without destroying marriage.” (Sigh) Isn’t this what every cake-eating cheater tells themselves? I’ll keep all the niceties of marriage — the combined 401K, the way you buy my mother-in-law […]

Filed Under: Monogamy, Pick me dance Tagged With: monogamy, non-monogamy, polyamory

Rethinking the Psychologists Rethinking Monogamy

May 6, 2019 by Chump Lady

shrink

An alert chump sent me this tidbit in his Apple News feed: “Psychologists Agree: It May Be Time to Rethink Your Monogamous Relationship Research makes it clear that our best intentions are often worthless in the face of a compelling, and possibly unexpected, attraction to another person. The question arises then: Is it time to […]

Filed Under: Gaslighting, Monogamy, Quacks Tagged With: monogamy, Rethinking Monogamy, Sea shanties

The Pick Me Dance and Polyamory

November 14, 2018 by Chump Lady

Hi Chump Lady, I think I’m almost out of the woods with getting over my cheater, but right as I get to “meh,” I realize that I’m still quite angry at him and want to contact him. We began in an “open relationship” where he assured me that he wasn’t interested in the other woman […]

Filed Under: Ask Chump Lady, Monogamy, Polyamory Tagged With: polyamory

Dear Chump Lady, Ethical non-monogamy was a bust

July 18, 2018 by Chump Lady

broken heart

Dear Chump Lady, I was in a relationship for 15 years, married for the last five. I’m not wired to be jealous over sex — I like it when pretty people do things to each other. Sensing he wanted to wander, though, I’d negotiated three rules: he could do whatever as long as it was […]

Filed Under: How to leave a cheater, Monogamy Tagged With: cake eating, Ethical non monogamy, monogamy

Monogamy Is Not the Problem

November 8, 2017 by Chump Lady

monkey love

I‘d like to give a shout out for monogamy. It’s really been maligned of late, called “unnatural,” — or worse, hegemonic and bossy. It gets blamed for infidelity and divorce. Oh the Terrible Societal Pressure of Monogamy! the naysayers tut tut. It’s so very difficult, they sigh, as if monogamy was some high-maintence diva demanding […]

Filed Under: Monogamy

Dear Chump Lady, My husband wants an open marriage

January 12, 2017 by Chump Lady

 Dear Chump Lady, You’ve written cogently about the way cheaters employ a double standard rather than asking for open marriage.  So I’d like your take on my sitch. After three decades of tacit monogamy, my husband asked for open marriage, pretending to be all honest and transparent and progressive, and was angered by my conventionality […]

Filed Under: Ask Chump Lady, Monogamy, Pick me dance

UBT: “Monogamy Is a Gift”

November 29, 2016 by Chump Lady

gift

You know you’re wading in deep bullshit when you see the title “The Unsparing Genius of Esther Perel.” Oh please do spare us. Sorry. “Leading Mindful Living Expert” and “Certified Yoga Therapist” Ira Israel broadcasts to The Good Men Project and Huffington Post that Esther Perel is nothing short of GENIUS. (Like picnics are a few sandwiches short. Or […]

Filed Under: Esther Perel, Monogamy

Men Cheat Because They Love Us? WTF?

October 26, 2016 by Chump Lady

Another day, another study telling us how unnatural monogamy is. You chumps are FREAKS, I tell you. FREAKS! The latest academic to say so is Eric Anderson, author of The Monogamy Gap: Men, Love and the Reality of Cheating. His thesis? Men cheat because really, they love you women. (Sorry guy chumps and gay chumps, […]

Filed Under: Monogamy

UBT: “Infidelity is a lousy reason to end a marriage”

April 29, 2016 by Chump Lady

Dr. Keith Ablow, Fox New psychiatrist, where have you been all my life? You’re Universal Bullshit Translator GOLD. Today’s UBT fodder is this wacky defense of serial cheating, “Infidelity is a lousy reason to end a marriage.” But that’s not all his crazy! He called Michelle Obama fat! And then told the women newscasters who […]

Filed Under: Monogamy, universal bullshit translator

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