Category: Switzerland Friends


Chumped with a Cheating Friend

Dear Chump Lady, I am four years out from D-day and three years out from divorce, and I am finally at the point where my …

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UBT: ‘He Hurt You, Not Me’

Dear Chump Lady, Your blog has saved my butt and brought me up from the way dark hole. And I thank you. However, today one …

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bad choices

Would You Tell a Dying Woman She’s a Chump?

Here’s a hard question: Would you tell a dying person they’re a chump? (Yes, Mondays are improved by a Hobson’s choice for breakfast.) This was …

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Mindfuck blender

He Denies He Cheated… And Our Friends Believe Him

Dear Chump Lady, I am 33 years old and two months post-discovery of my ex-fiance’s affair, which was two months long with a sleazy girl …

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Clapping Back at Switzerland Friends

Dear Chump Lady, My ex-husband cheated and ran off with the nanny. According to my ‘friends’ and family, it’s all my fault and they knew …

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Voodoo doll

‘Hero’ Cheater Is a Deadbeat

Dear Chump Lady, December marks three years since D-Day with the 21-year-old babysitter (among others). We had been together for 5 years, married for 2. …

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Friends Disapprove of Her Divorce

Dear Chump Lady, Plain and simple here is my question. After many, many years of suspecting my husband of adultery, he finally told me after …

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Mother-in-Law Says: ‘Let Girlfriend Take Over’

Dear Chump Lady, It’s 4 months now after D-Day (got a text message at the death bed of my mum in May with heartfelt birthday …

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Ex Tells People She’s ‘Liberated from a Loveless Marriage’

Dear Chump Lady, After being quarantined with Covid for the month of November 2020 my wife came home and announced that she wanted a divorce. …

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twu luv

Rubberneckers and the Remarriage of an Ex

Dear Chump Lady, So, I found out through the grapevine that my ex is on his way to the altar with Schmoopie. And when family …

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6 Thoughts on Character Assassination

A lot of my Chump Lady mail can be divided into two categories, “I got chumped… what are people going to think?” and “I got chumped… …

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Why Can’t I Get Them Out of My Head?

Dear Chump Lady, I need your take on what is still happening to me nearly eight years after D-day. I went no contact almost immediately. …

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cheat on me

It Took Balls to Cheat on Him?

Dear Chump Lady, Been married 15+ years, to the sweetest person ever. One reason I was attracted to her was because I knew there would …

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bitter bunny

How Are You Changing the Narrative?

Today’s award for righteous sass goes out to KatiePig. When confronted with the faux sophistication of cheating apologists, here’s her response: This is me at …

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Everyone Thinks He’s ‘Nice’

Dear Chump Lady, I am new to your site and am currently reading your book. Every-time I waver I re-read a section of your book …

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Stay friends

Why Does Everyone Want Me to Be Friends with My Ex?

Dear Chump Lady, What is up with the world asking me to be friends or friendly to Cheater Ex-Husband (XH)?! I am two years out …

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What Happens to Couple Friends After Divorce?

Dear Chump Lady, I am 6 months post divorce after discovering my ex-wife’s infidelity in September 2013. This holiday season my children (12, 8) are …

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When the Other Woman Was a Frienemy

Dear Chump Lady, I struggle so much with my situation. My husband of 15 years had an affair with someone I considered a close friend. …

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Waiting for karma

Where’s My Justice?

Dear Chump Lady, Six months on from D-Day and I’m pissed. Where is my meh? Where is my happiness after the pain and trauma from …

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He Cheated… Everyone Feels Sorry for Him

Dear Chump Lady, It has been 9 months since D-Day #2 and today would have been our 9th anniversary. A few days ago my STBXH …

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