Today’s award for righteous sass goes out to KatiePig. When confronted with the faux sophistication of cheating apologists, here’s her response: This is me at this point in my life. I’m the person who replies “Oh cool, I’ll let everyone know your husband is available for fucking, since you think this is great. Oh hi, […]
Everyone Thinks He’s ‘Nice’
Dear Chump Lady, I am new to your site and am currently reading your book. Every-time I waver I re-read a section of your book to give me the strength and power to move forward. My husband of 30 years, together 35, met him at 18, three grown children (20, 24, 26) had a long-term […]
Why Does Everyone Want Me to Be Friends with My Ex?
Dear Chump Lady, What is up with the world asking me to be friends or friendly to Cheater Ex-Husband (XH)?! I am two years out from D-Day and 18 months out from divorce after a 23 year relationship (12 married), and it seems like there are all sorts of periphery people who seem to think […]
What Happens to Couple Friends After Divorce?
Dear Chump Lady, I am 6 months post divorce after discovering my ex-wife’s infidelity in September 2013. This holiday season my children (12, 8) are with my ex-wife abroad with her affair partner on holiday with my ex in-laws. It sucks that my kids spend time with the man that helped break up my family […]
When the Other Woman Was a Frienemy
Dear Chump Lady, I struggle so much with my situation. My husband of 15 years had an affair with someone I considered a close friend. For over a year. Their lies and manipulation are astounding. We went on trips together with our families (she’s a stay at home mom and was married with kids too), […]
Where’s My Justice?
Dear Chump Lady, Six months on from D-Day and I’m pissed. Where is my meh? Where is my happiness after the pain and trauma from his affair? He is now in a relationship with the OW and they are free to post pictures of each other on social media. Why is everyone okay with what […]
He Cheated… Everyone Feels Sorry for Him
Dear Chump Lady, It has been 9 months since D-Day #2 and today would have been our 9th anniversary. A few days ago my STBXH made a public social media post about his mental health — admitting contemplating suicide, being in counseling and on meds — even (and this made me sick) making a vague […]
Escape After D-Day — ‘Should I Move?’
Dear Chump Lady, Shortly after New Year’s I accidentally found an email in our computer I couldn’t believe at first sight. The 31-year-old woman whom I had lived together with for 8 years, the woman I married 1 year and a half before that D-day, was cheating on me with another married man. He’s 10 […]
How Come No One But Chumps Seems to Get It?
Hi Chump Lady, Could you please give some advice as to how I can stop obsessing about cheater apologists? Absolutely nobody except those who have been cheated on seem to get it. My own mother told me that she can’t judge all cheaters because she doesn’t know the circumstances — there could be gray areas. […]
“I Need to Forgive the OW” WTF?
Dear Chump Lady, My divorce was final just 3 months ago. I went back to using my maiden name. I have been living with family and I expect to be living here awhile. Meanwhile, cheater ex and the OW live together. Life is going on. I am moving on as much as I can from […]
