Category: Switzerland Friends

Danny Masterson and the Power of Impression Management

Dear Chump Lady, These freaks fool people so well. I’ve been seeing quite a few shows lately that depict a horrible man, as a wonderful …

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broken heart

I Don’t Want to Be a Switzerland Friend

Dear Chump Lady, Been reading your blog for many years, after my own shitty relationships, but today my question is about how to support our …

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bad friend

Why Do People Help Cheaters Cheat?

Dear Chump Lady, Why do people help cheaters cheat? Cheater pursued me for 6 months when we were in grad school and in that time …

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Why Isn’t She HAPPY Now?

Hi Chump Lady, So my wife had an affair and after being found out asked for a trial separation. She said she had been “struggling …

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What Do I Say to the People Who Knew?

Dear Chump Lady: How is one supposed to relate to people the cheater told about his affair? These are people he burdened with his secret, …

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How Many People Knew and Didn’t Tell You?

Well, here’s a depressing Friday Challenge. Conspiracy. How many people knew your partner was cheating on you and didn’t tell you? One to five? Five …

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Narcissist Goldfish

Toxic MIL Pushes Mediation ‘For The Children’

Dear Chump Lady, I’m 3 weeks a chump and my cheater is your usual no-remorse, gaslighting passive-aggressive joy who is now playing at being the …

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Everyone Tells Me He’s Not a Bad Person

Dear Chump Lady, I was chumped after 12 years of marriage, and a total of 16 years together. I was so blindsided, and devastated. I …

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My Friend Thinks I Should Be Nicer to the Other Woman

Dear Chump Lady, My story is like so many others on here but recently a good friend kinda gave me grief about the way I …

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Chumped with a Cheating Friend

Dear Chump Lady, I am four years out from D-day and three years out from divorce, and I am finally at the point where my …

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UBT: ‘He Hurt You, Not Me’

Dear Chump Lady, Your blog has saved my butt and brought me up from the way dark hole. And I thank you. However, today one …

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bad choices

Would You Tell a Dying Woman She’s a Chump?

Here’s a hard question: Would you tell a dying person they’re a chump? (Yes, Mondays are improved by a Hobson’s choice for breakfast.) This was …

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Mindfuck blender

He Denies He Cheated… And Our Friends Believe Him

Dear Chump Lady, I am 33 years old and two months post-discovery of my ex-fiance’s affair, which was two months long with a sleazy girl …

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Clapping Back at Switzerland Friends

Dear Chump Lady, My ex-husband cheated and ran off with the nanny. According to my ‘friends’ and family, it’s all my fault and they knew …

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Voodoo doll

‘Hero’ Cheater Is a Deadbeat

Dear Chump Lady, December marks three years since D-Day with the 21-year-old babysitter (among others). We had been together for 5 years, married for 2. …

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Friends Disapprove of Her Divorce

Dear Chump Lady, Plain and simple here is my question. After many, many years of suspecting my husband of adultery, he finally told me after …

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Mother-in-Law Says: ‘Let Girlfriend Take Over’

Dear Chump Lady, It’s 4 months now after D-Day (got a text message at the death bed of my mum in May with heartfelt birthday …

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Ex Tells People She’s ‘Liberated from a Loveless Marriage’

Dear Chump Lady, After being quarantined with Covid for the month of November 2020 my wife came home and announced that she wanted a divorce. …

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twu luv

Rubberneckers and the Remarriage of an Ex

Dear Chump Lady, So, I found out through the grapevine that my ex is on his way to the altar with Schmoopie. And when family …

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6 Thoughts on Character Assassination

A lot of my Chump Lady mail can be divided into two categories, “I got chumped… what are people going to think?” and “I got chumped… …

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