Dear Chump Lady, So, I found out through the grapevine that my ex is on his way to the altar with Schmoopie. And when family and friends look at my calm, unaffected response, they’re stunned. “I’m so sorry.” (Still no reaction) “Are you okay?” (Nope. Not gonna to blink) “Are you sure?” (Really?) “Because you […]
6 Thoughts on Character Assassination
A lot of my Chump Lady mail can be divided into two categories, “I got chumped… what are people going to think?” and “I got chumped… and my cheater is telling people terrible things about me.” Both followed with “And what can I do about that?” Nothing. Sorry, chumps. You can’t do anything about what people […]
Why Can’t I Get Them Out of My Head?
Dear Chump Lady, I need your take on what is still happening to me nearly eight years after D-day. I went no contact almost immediately. My cheater had asked for a sort of break (we called it a vacation, I think– she said out of the blue ‘I just want to see what my life […]
It Took Balls to Cheat on Him?
Dear Chump Lady, Been married 15+ years, to the sweetest person ever. One reason I was attracted to her was because I knew there would never be a chance at infidelity. In 15 years nothing more than a few disagreements. I am rather passive and care free. In 2016 she changed jobs and over the […]
How Are You Changing the Narrative?
Today’s award for righteous sass goes out to KatiePig. When confronted with the faux sophistication of cheating apologists, here’s her response: This is me at this point in my life. I’m the person who replies “Oh cool, I’ll let everyone know your husband is available for fucking, since you think this is great. Oh hi, […]
Everyone Thinks He’s ‘Nice’
Dear Chump Lady, I am new to your site and am currently reading your book. Every-time I waver I re-read a section of your book to give me the strength and power to move forward. My husband of 30 years, together 35, met him at 18, three grown children (20, 24, 26) had a long-term […]
Why Does Everyone Want Me to Be Friends with My Ex?
Dear Chump Lady, What is up with the world asking me to be friends or friendly to Cheater Ex-Husband (XH)?! I am two years out from D-Day and 18 months out from divorce after a 23 year relationship (12 married), and it seems like there are all sorts of periphery people who seem to think […]
What Happens to Couple Friends After Divorce?
Dear Chump Lady, I am 6 months post divorce after discovering my ex-wife’s infidelity in September 2013. This holiday season my children (12, 8) are with my ex-wife abroad with her affair partner on holiday with my ex in-laws. It sucks that my kids spend time with the man that helped break up my family […]
When the Other Woman Was a Frienemy
Dear Chump Lady, I struggle so much with my situation. My husband of 15 years had an affair with someone I considered a close friend. For over a year. Their lies and manipulation are astounding. We went on trips together with our families (she’s a stay at home mom and was married with kids too), […]
Where’s My Justice?
Dear Chump Lady, Six months on from D-Day and I’m pissed. Where is my meh? Where is my happiness after the pain and trauma from his affair? He is now in a relationship with the OW and they are free to post pictures of each other on social media. Why is everyone okay with what […]
