Dear Chump Lady, Plain and simple here is my question. After many, many years of suspecting my husband of adultery, he finally told me after 50 years of marriage that he did cheat. At first he said it was a one-time thing, which after many hours of “discussion“ turned out to be 15 years of […]
Mother-in-Law Says: ‘Let Girlfriend Take Over’
Dear Chump Lady, It’s 4 months now after D-Day (got a text message at the death bed of my mum in May with heartfelt birthday wishes to the love of his life, whilst my birthday is in December) and 1.5 months since my husband of 30 years walked out on his family and is now […]
Ex Tells People She’s ‘Liberated from a Loveless Marriage’
Dear Chump Lady, After being quarantined with Covid for the month of November 2020 my wife came home and announced that she wanted a divorce. The month had been stressful as we have two young children, 5 and 3, and I worked from home as a teacher during that time. My wife had returned to […]
Rubberneckers and the Remarriage of an Ex
Dear Chump Lady, So, I found out through the grapevine that my ex is on his way to the altar with Schmoopie. And when family and friends look at my calm, unaffected response, they’re stunned. “I’m so sorry.” (Still no reaction) “Are you okay?” (Nope. Not gonna to blink) “Are you sure?” (Really?) “Because you […]
6 Thoughts on Character Assassination
A lot of my Chump Lady mail can be divided into two categories, “I got chumped… what are people going to think?” and “I got chumped… and my cheater is telling people terrible things about me.” Both followed with “And what can I do about that?” Nothing. Sorry, chumps. You can’t do anything about what people […]
Why Can’t I Get Them Out of My Head?
Dear Chump Lady, I need your take on what is still happening to me nearly eight years after D-day. I went no contact almost immediately. My cheater had asked for a sort of break (we called it a vacation, I think– she said out of the blue ‘I just want to see what my life […]
It Took Balls to Cheat on Him?
Dear Chump Lady, Been married 15+ years, to the sweetest person ever. One reason I was attracted to her was because I knew there would never be a chance at infidelity. In 15 years nothing more than a few disagreements. I am rather passive and care free. In 2016 she changed jobs and over the […]
How Are You Changing the Narrative?
Today’s award for righteous sass goes out to KatiePig. When confronted with the faux sophistication of cheating apologists, here’s her response: This is me at this point in my life. I’m the person who replies “Oh cool, I’ll let everyone know your husband is available for fucking, since you think this is great. Oh hi, […]
Everyone Thinks He’s ‘Nice’
Dear Chump Lady, I am new to your site and am currently reading your book. Every-time I waver I re-read a section of your book to give me the strength and power to move forward. My husband of 30 years, together 35, met him at 18, three grown children (20, 24, 26) had a long-term […]
Why Does Everyone Want Me to Be Friends with My Ex?
Dear Chump Lady, What is up with the world asking me to be friends or friendly to Cheater Ex-Husband (XH)?! I am two years out from D-Day and 18 months out from divorce after a 23 year relationship (12 married), and it seems like there are all sorts of periphery people who seem to think […]
