CN, if you ever wonder if you’re changing the narrative, take heart. Melinda French Gates just spiked one over the net for Team Chump last Thursday.
Several folks asked me to weigh in on CBS’s Mornings conversation with Melinda about her divorce from billionaire Microsoft mogul Bill Gates. Detracting points for Gayle King’s goopy use of “healing journey,” it was an otherwise stellar interview.
I’m not really sure why Melinda Gates would subject herself to such a thing. Perhaps it was to shove that “bitter-wife-drove-her-husband-to-stray” narrative down the toilet, hold its head underwater, and flush. Another swirly, Bill?
Melinda was classy, scripted, and did not let anyone pin this divorce shit on her. She brought her A game, meant her vows, and let everyone know it.
How is that radical? It’s pathetic that this is radical, but it’s RADICAL. Melinda Gates didn’t go old school Stand By Your Man (after all… he’s just a Man…). And she didn’t go New School Esther Perel (Stand By Your Man 2.0.) — affairs are exuberant acts of defiance and I’m a silly unsophisticated goose for expecting monogamy.
Nope. Here’s how Melinda Gates flipped the script.
1.) She doesn’t accept fault. “I did nothing wrong. I hold my head high.” She went into marriage expecting to be married for life and says she gave every part of herself to her relationship.
2.) She’s real about the trauma. She talks about being planted face down in the carpet sobbing, “a lot of tears for many days.” How she wondered if she could go on. “How can this be? How can I get up? How am I going to move forward?” This is not the expected narrative of ‘Tis But a Trifle.
3.) She doesn’t let Bill Gates off the hook. You got a question about Jeffery Epstein? You’re going to have to ask Bill. You got a question about how many affairs Bill had? You’re going to have to ask Bill. Melinda has closed the spackle shop. She told you her side: She was a good wife, she hated Epstein and told Bill to stay the fuck away, she tried to reconcile with Bill, but she couldn’t continue to trust him. What Melinda Gates has left unsaid tells the story.
4.) She refuses the “friend” narrative. No conscious uncoupling for this billionaire philanthropist. Yes, she still works with Bill Gates. (I wonder how that works? “My people will call your people” as they send emissaries down the hall?) Why should she have to give up her life’s work?
It’s cordial. I’m sure Melinda extends the same courtesy to Bill that she does the Xerox vendor.
Melinda says, “There’s still healing that needs to happen. I certainly wish him well. I don’t wish him harm. I think we have a productive working relationship, and I think that will continue.”
Melinda will take two more cases of toner. Thanks, Bill.
I got the honest to God sense she’s happier to be rid of him. But the good sense not to say that. She let her classy exit say it for her.