Category: Divorce


‘She Refuses to Understand We Are Over’

Dear Chump Lady Happy late pride. I have been reading your website for a while. It really helped me get through a lot of grief …

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Confronting a Divorce-Phobic Cheater

Hi Chump Lady! I work in retail, and today I ran into my soon-to-be-ex and his affair partner (ex’s best friend’s girlfriend) while on my break. We’d …

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Do I Unfriend My Ex’s Family on Social Media?

Dear Chump Lady, My “husband” of almost 20 years was having an affair. I put a GPS on his car, revealing all kinds of deception, …

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I’m a Civil Co-Parent. Isn’t That Enough?

Dear Chump Lady, I was married for 7 years and turns out had a sham marriage and was chumped throughout and left for younger OW. …

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She Keeps Acting Like We’re a ‘We’

Hello Chump Lady, Thank you for an amazing site that has helped me through the worst time of my life. The background: two months ago, …

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How to Tolerate Ex in Close Proximity

Dear Chump Lady, I’m writing in hopes of finding some fresh advice. Quick backstory: My story is the same old, same old. Multiple D-days, lots …

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My Ex Wants to Live in My Basement

Dear Chump Lady, My husband of 28 years gave me the speech 5 years ago.  He loved me, but was not in love with me, …

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Bill Gates Has a Sadz About His Divorce

Isn’t it regrettable when nebulous clouds of divorce just descend upon innocents? Microsoft founder Bill Gates is one such sad case. In an interview with …

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The OW Left Him and I Don’t Know How I Feel

Dear Chump Lady, Will you please help me identify a new feeling of mine? Meh-be it’s meh but I don’t know!!! Yesterday (a Tuesday) I …

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How Do I Face OW at Daughter’s Graduation?

Hi Chump Lady, My daughter will be graduating from college in a month and I’m kinda dreading the day because I’m feeling pressure to interact …

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How Do I Explain My Divorce?

Hi Chump Lady, Could you please offer some advice as to what to say on your dates regarding why you’re divorced? Like you, I’m twice …

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Universal Bullshit Translator

UBT: ‘You Should’ve Been a Better Husband’

Dear Chump Lady: Since my previous UBT experience was very informative and helpful, I thought I’d serve up another platter of sanctimonious cake speak from …

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Melinda Gates

4 Ways Melinda Gates Keeps Her Divorce Classy

 CN, if you ever wonder if you’re changing the narrative, take heart. Melinda French Gates just spiked one over the net for Team Chump …

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Did You File First?

I’ve read a gazillion chumps stories, and one thing that never ceases to astound me is how cheaters don’t file for divorce. Oh sure, they …

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How to Divorce a Financially Abusive Cheater

Dear Chump Lady, I am in the process of divorcing my cheating husband. He has not only cheated, but is also financially, verbally, emotionally and …

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How to Line Up Ducks When You Can’t Afford a Duck

Hello Chump Lady, I have a question as to your to line up one’s ducks. A little about me: currently 6 months pregnant, working part-time …

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When You Don’t Want to Spend Thanksgiving with Your Ex

Dear Chump Lady, The holidays are coming and I was just wondering how to deal with the soon-to-be-ex (STBX) and holiday get-togethers. I actually thought …

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leave a cheater

Is Breaking Up 4 Years After D-Day ‘Overreacting’?

Dear Chump Lady, I recently discovered your book and am about half way through it… D-Day was 4 years ago and I went through everything …

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inert chump

Kick Me Out of My Funk

Hello Chump Lady, Can you give me some pearls of wisdom (or a swift kick in the pants) to get out of my funk? It’s …

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I Don’t Miss Him — Is There Something Wrong with Me?

Dear Chump Lady, I just walked away from a 17-year marriage. He admitted to his second one-night stand in our marriage. I’m not chumpy enough …

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