Anthony Weiner Gets Catfished

anthony weiner catfish

Anthony Weiner, that irrepressible mongoose (or perhaps catfish), is at it again. In case you missed it, last Friday the disgraced former New York politico and underemployed stay-at-home dad got busted once again for sexting.

Only, unfortunately for him, the object of his fantasies was not a comely young political woman, but a Republican, male catfisher.

Hello Nikki.

According to the New York Post:

And on Friday, a male college student told The Post he “catfished” Weiner on Twitter into thinking he was a female student named “Nikki.”

Weiner imagined “Nikki” wearing “strappy black heels” and “tight clothes” and bragged he was “deceptively strong. Hehe. Like a mongoose,” in a July 27 exchange on Twitter while on a trip in Los Angeles.

Confronted Saturday morning outside his Union Square home, Weiner grew irate and offered up a bizarre conspiracy theory — that he had been framed by Rupert Murdoch, CEO of The Post’s parent company, News Corp.

“It was set up by you guys, obviously,” he told The Post as he clutched a Louis Vuitton bag in one hand and his son in the other. “It was totally busted, as well.”

“Another Murdoch setup!” he railed, as his wife walked stone-faced in sunglasses toward a parked Ford Escape SUV.

Well, yeah, except in the previous weeks, according to reports, he’d come on to a GOP staffer and his previous mistress, Sydney Leathers told the media she was approached by another woman Weiner had been sexting with in May. Boy, that Rupert Murdoch must be awfully busy stirring up shit for Anthony Weiner.

In another lame-ass bout of blameshifting, Weiner also claimed his sexts were just a “playful joust with an obvious catfish.”

Weiner, the only thing that’s obvious is what a total douchebag you are.

What’s not obvious is why your wife, Huma, stays with you.

To Huma, I address the rest of my column.

Dear Huma,

Please leave this guy. PLEASE.

You’re gorgeous, you’re accomplished, you have an actual job — why are you with this loser?

I know he once had potential, the popular, liberal crusader, New York congressman — but his dick cannot not be tamed. So after that disgrace, he runs for mayor of New York, vowing to the the New York Times, you, and the voting public that he’s changed, and he just wants a “second chance.”

How’s that second chance working for you, Huma?

“Carlos Danger” ruined that run, and now he’s been reincarnated as a mongoose. How many jobs has your husband lost thanks to his wandering dick? Do you really need a babysitter that bad?

Look, I understand the pain of breeding with a fuckwit. And many of us at Chump Nation know the personal mortification of being married to a ferret-faced narcissist. I know that on the very off chance you read this, you will flinch with defensiveness. How dare I call him names? We don’t know the REAL Anthony Weiner. The loving father, the sad, broken man who promises to change. Who is working on it, but these are deep, deep problems, and you must stay the course.

Huma, you can’t chump a chump.

We see your spackle. We get it here. We’ve lived it.

Fact is, you don’t know the REAL Anthony Weiner. Because if you did, you wouldn’t stay with him.

All this shit he does? Flirting, sexting, handing out his personal cell number to pretty girls on Twitter? That’s HIM. That’s the real him. A guy who doesn’t give two shits about your pain.

Sure, you could GPS his dick and play marriage police for the rest of your life, but why? For HIM?

I know you’re close to Hillary and she stood by her man. Personally, I don’t think that’s worked for her. Because Hillary ate such an endless buffet of shit sandwiches her whole life people think she’s inauthentic, untrustworthy, and phony. Of course that’s unfair, and cynically, that’s probably the only way a woman of her generation can get elected. But hey, she has my vote. I’ll take a competent, hyper-responsible chump over a narcissist trainwreck any day.

Still Huma, you can admire Hillary, but not be her. I admire Abraham Lincoln, but I wouldn’t want to be shot in the head.

Call a good divorce lawyer. Save yourself.

Your chumpy friend,

Tracy

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Anita
Anita
7 years ago

I’m glad I haven’t eaten breakfast, because if I had it would be coming back up after the “mongoose” comment by Weiner. Eeew, just eeewwww….

Computress
Computress
7 years ago
Reply to  Anita

Weiner is *SO* not a mongoose. Rikki-Tikki-Tavi would snap him like a twig.

Sisyphus
Sisyphus
7 years ago
Reply to  Anita

I’ve read quite a few of the responses here and have become rather confused. Is it OK (and even strong) to stay with a filthy, confirmed cheater if his politics is agreeable to your personal agenda? Is it OK for our high public officials to perform their little theater for the stupid masses even though it’s quite obviouos that their marriage is a sham? What does this teach the next generation?

Frankly, I’m a little disappointed that we’re told to leave politics out of this exactly after the original poster injected politics right into this. This is not a game; this is the highest level of human leadership and it’s despicable that so much of america is OK with this deception. Of couse there’s been a long line of these psycopaths that have occupied the White House. Just last night I watched a fawnng crocumentary on John Kennedy and how his lack of faithfulness was Ok becaue Jackie accepted it. Well I don’t accept it and I don’t appreciate the little game we’re supposed to play by ignoring it.

I was chumped many years ago and it destroyed so much of my life and the life of my step-daughter. It breaks my heart that she had to witness it but I can also stand tall because I divorced that cheating witch as quickly as possible. To this day my advice is to fight these pigs and actively shun them. Perhaps after many years they can demonstrate true remorse but that’s rare. Of course it does not help my cause when so many presidential candidates (and presidents) are confirmed cheaters surrounded by people that are either doormats or despicable manipulators – take your choice folks because you can’t be a strong leader if you cling to a piece of garbage with such poor respect for their own family!

I suppose I’ve vented enough and will now await my banning for not supporting the latest “presidential” creep to be foisted on the proletariet.

Datdamwuf
Datdamwuf
7 years ago
Reply to  Sisyphus

Sisyphus, I base my opinion on Hillary staying on the fact that admitting you have an open marriage is political suicide and neither Clinton would be willing to commit hair kari. I don’t really know that is true but given her strength and tenacity I believe it. At worse she is a chump, I’d take a her over the sexist, racist Trump any day.

ClaireS
ClaireS
7 years ago
Reply to  Datdamwuf

I think I posted this elsewhere but it bears repeating. Americans have elected exactly ONE divorced president: Ronald Reagan. Scholars in the area (see, e.g., Michael Nelson) conclude that, at least as far as executive office is concerned, candidates and/or sitting presidents face near-insurmountable political disapproval if they are divorced or get divorced.

Kendra
Kendra
7 years ago
Reply to  ClaireS

I think the only reason Ronald Reagan got away with it is they spackled over his first marriage really hard and really pushed the narrative that Ronnie and Nancy had been married for “years and years and years”. I’ve met way too many people that really didn’t know that Ronald Reagan was married to someone before Nancy.

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Sisyphus

It is extremely dispicable and nasty but politics is a dirty business. I ate a lot of shit sandwiches to get where i needed to be and if huma eats a few more to not destroy her career. Its not right but i get it.

MehFairLady
MehFairLady
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

I find your antagonism to Trump and by extension, his supporters (repeatedly expressed), very offputting, ChumpLady.

It’s classic liberal “bad manners” — to inject insults and misrepresentations of the conservative side into what should be a NON POLITICAL setting.

IMO, it limits the value of this site, which should feel safe to both conservatives, liberals and all in between.

And no, Chump Nation does not feel safe to conservatives, because of your gratuitous injections of politics and little snide comments about Trump, in other comments as well.

Let’s face it, so-called “feminists” excuse the addled and pathetic Bill Clinton — because he supports abortion — of repeated instances of rape, instead of making him a well-deserved pariah.

By comparison, Trump is a choir boy, and not a serial “philanderer.”

Trump is a classic American serial *monogamist,* whereas Bill Clinton is in a revolting “arrangement,” married to a lesbian who has “eaten more pussy than I have” (Bill to Gennifer Flowers) so that both can pig out at the public trough.

tl;dr Unless the title of this site is “Chump Lady for Libs Only: Leave a Cheater, Gain a Liberal Life,” than there should not be columns or little snide asides that are pro-Hillary and anti-Trump. Because these little digs and asides tell conservative chumps they are basically looked down at and not welcome.

stuntchump
stuntchump
7 years ago
Reply to  MehFairLady

Since when does “serial monogamy” very public affairs?

I lived in New York City when his affair with Marla Maples blew up his first marriage. He cheated. Everyone knows he cheated.

Ivana is famous for saying “don’t get mad, get everything.” She did that from the position of the chump.

So even if you want ignore all the stories about hisother misconduct while at the same time quoting some second hand account of what some crappy OW said about another cheater — do realize you are not depending a “serial monogamist. You are giving a pass to a well-known cheater.

I see nowhere here where CL is being an apologist for Bill Clinton OR Weiner, I can’t say the same thing about you.

uneffingbelievable
uneffingbelievable
7 years ago
Reply to  MehFairLady

MehFairLady – “Classic Liberal Bad Manners”? You just made a sweeping statement about all liberals on this site as you accuse Chump Lady of making political statements on a “NON-POLITICAL” site. Hello, Pot? This is the Kettle.

I am a feminist and think Bill Clinton is a dirtbag. He gets no pass from me nor, I would suspect, millions of other feminists. He is the candidate’s spouse. How he conducted himself has absolutely nothing to do with Mrs. Clinton’s politics. John Edwards? Pig. What does he have to do with Mrs. Clinton?

Trump is not a serial monogamist. He is a narcissistic pig who thinks of women as toys. As decoration. He speaks that way about his own DAUGHTER! Quote: “Yeah, she’s really something, that one. A real beauty. If I wasn’t happily married and, you know, her father . . .” You just can’t get any more perverted than that. Before he became a presidential candidate, he spent a ton of time on The Howard Stern Show. Being himself. Uncensored. The man is a pig.

We don’t know why Mrs. Clinton chose to stay married to Mr. Clinton. I would suspect being married to the POTUS makes it a bit difficult to bag up his shit in Hefty Bags and tossing it on the White House lawn.

Conservative bad manners are completely on display in your comment, MehFairLady. My only hope is that Mr. Trump does not get to prove that he is woefully unequipped to lead this country.

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago

+1. Add me to the list of Feminists who thinks Bill Clinton’s behavior is deplorable, and John Edwards cheating on his dying wife is beneath contempt.

ClaireS
ClaireS
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

+2.

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  MehFairLady

Get over yourself meh fair lady. The issues here are not anything but for the chumped. And you yourself insulted lesbians so i wouldnt point any fingers. This site is for us chumps. A little political talk is okay i didnt see anyone fighting about it or being nasty at all! Should we discuss the issues of being chumped based on liberal or conservative views. Please tone your tude and dont make me yell

Holy pineapples! There are no peas in my pod!

This is a place of comfort and healing. Please.

ClaireS
ClaireS
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

Kar Marie, I am so stealing this, it’s just perfect, and I wish I’d had it late last night when, for the sake of not blowing my cover, I had to fend off a gaslight attack from Cerberus (cheating H), without looking like I knew too much:

“Holy pineapples! There are no peas in my pod!”

That is wickedly funny in a gallows humor sort of way, all the more because I am a professional editor at times, and hence instinctively “learn” posters’ style …. those lines and their lead-in made for a visual that brought much-needed merriment. Hope you don’t mind, but next time, I’m using it. On him. And on too many others who are helping to make me feel outraged or crazy or both.

ClaireS
ClaireS
7 years ago
Reply to  ClaireS

Couldn’t remember the originator of pineapples, so, RumbleKitty, thanks! Kar Marie, thanks for the heads up.

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  ClaireS

You go right ahead but thank rumblekitty for the pineapples part. The pod part is my own. You go girl!

MehFairLady
MehFairLady
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

Please point out where I insulted lesbians.

That’s right, I didn’t.

Typical.

stuntchump
stuntchump
7 years ago
Reply to  MehFairLady

What you did do is post a crass comment made by an OW about a chump. Why?

What was the purpose of that? You want to criticize Hilary for not being an out lesbian because of something an OW said? What was you point? It is not clear to me.

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  MehFairLady

Perhaps i replied to the wrong post if i did my apologies. But please do not call it typical. But you did clump different groups the same. This post was calling out anthony weiner as a dirtbag which as a husband he is.

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago
Reply to  MehFairLady

I’m a card carrying Republican with leanings toward conservatism. I feel very safe here. In fact, here is where I can safely express my snark toward everyone regardless of their political views. I think CL and most people here apply their snark and opinions in equal measure regardless of the subject. I also think that offense is only taken when that snark hits too close to home.

I’m the person who went to my exFIL gun club, all overweight white males, and after listening to them express their narrow life’s view, I went to the guest book signed in as Hillary Clinton. Yes, i’m also a feminist, so no I will not be voting for Hillary.

I’m the person who has said for years, can’t we just have a presidential candidate who is honest about their opinions and how they see the world. Can’t someone just stand up and say, “Yes I smoke pot, what of it?” Be careful what you wish for because you might have someone who actually speaks their mind and it can be scary, so no, I will not be voting for Donald.

I will spend the next four years in Canada drinking beer when asked if I’m paying attention to American politics, I will look at them squarely in the eye and say, “Eh?”

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  MehFairLady

and correct me if I am wrong, but this column is disparaging about Anthony Weiner, who was a liberal hero (and a Democrat) until his fall after the dick pix fiasco years ago. CL is critical of cheaters and narcissists. Period. You have set up a straw horse.

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  MehFairLady

Where is CL’s defense of Bill Clinton, here? There is none. She has defended Hillary, who is NOT a cheater.

Trump is both a cheater AND a class-A, prototypical narcissist (yes I do have a degree that allows me to make that characterization). In fact, I have used Trump and Kanye West as prototypical narcissists for the better part of a decade in a lecture I give on narcissism. (Madonna’s in there, too, just for sexual equality).

no more free cake
no more free cake
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

I love Chump Lady and Chump Nation, but I do agree that it’s obvious that there are a lot of Liberals that post on here that seem to attack conservatives. I don’t really see conservatives on here attacking Liberals, which is pretty much the norm I’ve discovered in other areas as well. Please keep narrow minded political beliefs to yourselves, as Chump Nation doesn’t need to hear any of that crap on this site. Also, Tempest when you accuse Trump of being a narc, what about the lying and deceitful Hillary? More and more lies are discovered on her everyday, and she seems to think she is above the law when it comes to all of the dirty deeds we know she is responsible for. She sounds very disordered and narc like to me, but I’m not going to keep bringing up politics on here, because as I have mentioned before, this blog is not the place for that shit. Keep your stuff to yourselves please. Conservatives don’t need to come here to feel attacked by Liberal views.

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago

As I mentioned, I do have some expertise in this area, and would not categorize Hillary as a narcissist. Trump, on the other hand, is a poster boy for narcisissm (as I have said for a decade, long before he was running for president). And my comments are not political–Weiner & John Edwards are both liberals I have argued are narcissists. Don’t cherry-pick my comments to suit your agenda.

Shechump
Shechump
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Just speaking about narcissist and not politics, I just watched the documentary recently made called ‘Weiner’.

I have never, in my life, seen a more narcissist person in my life – and there he is in full color and full pixels.
He’s so disgusting that it’s not hard to miss one bit of his love for himself, and his body parts.

Uneffingbelievable
Uneffingbelievable
7 years ago

NMFC – When someone expresses their views on whether or not Hillary Clinton is a “criminal”, I do not feel someone is attacking me as a liberal. Being a liberal or conservative encompasses many beliefs and values each person has, and if you, as a conservative, wish to attack Hillary Clinton’s character I honestly don’t see that as an attack on me personally.

When CL or anyone in CN makes a statement about Donald Trump, they are making it about DONALD TRUMP, not you personally nor all conservatives as a group. If you take it that way, that is your choice.

As for conservatives not attacking liberals? Ha! I read my Facebook feed everyday that is full of complete viciousness by conservatives attacking Hillary Clinton and liberals in general. If I took what my friends post personally, I wouldn’t have any friends left. They are entitled to their opinions just as I am.

What I find far more disturbing than liberal/conservative bashing is that it is done in such a elementary school fashion. I think Rush Limbaugh and Ann Coulter have turned this into an art form and have created savage rabid followers.

I often wonder what Rooseveldt, Kennedy, Eisenhower, King and the like would think of how adults in America today behave . . .

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago

Well you just did bring up politics and a opinion. We are all here on account of being chumped. Our home and safe haven. I am not religious i am an athesist but i dont deny anyone their faith. In the comfort of my home i yell at the tv on politics. If a comment is made and a loud disagreement starts on politics. I will yell anthony weiner! Not a place for conservative or liberal issues. Weiner is a liberal democrat, so what, not the issue. Hes a damn cheater that was the point. We can all agree to disagree and that should end it.

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Well said tempest.

Sisyphus
Sisyphus
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

Yes, Trump also falls into the cheater category. Hillary does not fall into this classification. Her “crime” is perpetuating this fake marriage for whatever reason. There is more than enough dirt on Bill to require his complete immersion in Clorox. Frankly I wonder why she continues this humiliation. Is she being blackmailed? She can’t stand up to a pig for a husband but expects us to think she will stand up to dictators and religious fanatics?

Frankly we have very poor choices for candidates but apparently democrats had zero problem with cheaters during the Clinton years and when john Edwards had his meltdown. I hate cheaters but I also want someone who doesn’t lick the boots of their cheating, lying husband. Both are bad so I guess you have to decide if you’re electing a fighter or a shoe shiner.

ClaireS
ClaireS
7 years ago
Reply to  Sisyphus

“It should not matter if you belong to a certain party.” It doesn’t. So unless you are James Carville — and even then, given the epic fails of opinion polls — I’m not sure how you know what’s going on in the minds of millions of Democrats.

I have a feeling, for example, that a LOT of Republicans heartily disapproved of one particularly head-spinning tale from the other side: David Vitter, the powerful Senior Senator from Louisiana. His wife Wendy is a HELLA good prosecutor. Scary good. She is also a flip-flopper. She is on record criticizing Hillary Clinton for tolerating infidelity. I can’t find the exact quote at the moment, but I recall her saying that if he cheated on her, she’d leave with one thing, and that one thing would NOT be alimony (yep – Lorena B.) But when David confessed to having had sex with prostitutes in 2007, Wendy became his staunch supporter. Stayed married to him. Supported him in his 2015 failed run for governor of Louisiana. And here’s a head spinner — in 2006, one year before he confessed he had cheated on his wife with prostitutes, he announced in a letter to The Times-Picayune, “I’m a conservative who opposes radically redefining marriage, the most important social institution in human history.” http://www.nytimes.com/2007/07/11/us/11vitter.html?_r=0, accessed today

He’s a staunch Catholic. I guess having sex with prostitutes does not radically redefine the marriage vow to forsake all others. I’m not angry at her for staying with him. I don’t know her reasons. I’m not a fan of her hypocrisy, but I get that until you go through it, it’s easy to make pronouncements. Ian Dubito put it best: …”we generally don’t condemn a person’s choices. Yes, counsel them and love them, hit them with a 2X4, but ultimately it is their life.” I’m pretty confident that plenty of Republicans were disgusted with Vitter’s cheating on his wife period, and cheating on his wife with prostitutes. What I don’t know is whether or not they filleted HER for staying. If they did, I disagree with them. Cheating is indignity enough.

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Sisyphus

“democrats had zero problem with cheaters during the Clinton years and when john Edwards had his meltdown. ”

Really? Virtually every Democrat I know thought Clinton was a major ass for having sex with an intern, and good luck turning over rocks trying to find someone in the Democratic party willing to defend Edwards.

And if push comes to shove, I prefer someone who has been victimized over someone who preys on others. You may not admire that someone allows themselves to be victimized, and want them to stand up for themselves, but who on this site did not tolerate ANY bullshit from their partner?

Raise of hands? (crickets)

We all found our voice, and our feet, eventually.

ClaireS
ClaireS
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Computer is posting strangely today, so I hope this post lands near my shout-outs.

Tempest: Raised hand. Both hands. I’ll even sit down and raise hands and feet.

Ian: spot on.

Annie: dammit, that’s my LAST wired keyboard, and I am getting soundly trounced in my long-running war with wireless anythings, the brain of my Creep and keyboards included.

Kar Marie, agreed, it doesn’t matter which party. That said, wow did I just remember a telling story from . . . stand by.

ClaireS
ClaireS
7 years ago
Reply to  ClaireS

Tempest, OMG — MY ANSWER TO YOU WAS 180° WRONG. I thought you’d asked if we HAD tolerated abuse. Hence I raised my hands and feet. If I could “raise my brain” in answer to what I thought you were asking, I’d do that too.

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  ClaireS

ClaireS–I suspected you meant you had tolerated lots of emotional abuse from your cheater (which fits my hypothesis, but makes me sad that there aren’t exceptions. The knowledge that the vast majority of us had betrayal as the jar-of-cherries on top of the mountain of bad treatment just shows that cheaters are willing to heap insult on top of injury. We didn’t deserve either.).

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  ClaireS

ClaireS–just to clarify–you didn’t tolerate any disrespect, any emotional abuse, or mindfuckery from your cheater? And left the minute you discovered his cheating? [Not trying to put you on the spot–I have a scientific interest in this, and would be thrilled if one of us did not tolerate any bullshit from the cheater in any realm.]

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Edwards is a pariah. Not to mention Gore after the allegations of his cheating and beating surfaced. Again though, Tipper and Al are still married and dating others.

Sisy and Meh, I’m not sure if y’all have been around for the Unicorn letters Chump Lady answers, and although CL is not a wreckonciliation site, we generally don’t condemn a person’s choices. Yes, counsel them and love them, hit them with a 2X4, but ultimately it is their life. Same with polygamy or any other life choices.

I’ve seen people come back to the site after giving it another shot. Sometimes it takes more pain until it clicks.

Annie, how do you keep that smell from seeping up out of the basement when the reporters come over?

I’d hate to be in Weiner’s shoes today.

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

I simply say that I had a rat infestation, but I got it under control now.

violet
violet
7 years ago
Reply to  Sisyphus

But you have no idea whether or not her marriage is “fake”! It is “fake” to you, but Hillary may not agree with you. I do not believe she is a “poor choice” for president, but that is MY opinion. You are certainly free to disagree, that is your right. I do believe that there is a huge difference between how I intend to vote in November and how I feel about marital infidelity. Hillary had every right to make the decision to remain married, and I certainly am not going to base my vote on that particular decision. Trump is a sociopath and yet Hillary is the bad guy here? Sorry, I just cannot agree.

Sisyphus
Sisyphus
7 years ago
Reply to  violet

I probably let too much of my own resentment flow on this thread. This whole website is about supporting ourselves to stop being taken advantage of. Here we have a textbook case of two marriages in which the husband considers vows to be disposable yet the wife remains for years or even decades. Certainly I can’t blame a woman for remaining in a marriage after the husband has checked out. My issue is that woman is a victim; continuously humiliated by a dirt bag. She needs help but has demonstrated that she is in no position to be pretending to help anyone else. With every article here, we’re urged to kick the cheater to the curb and become a fierce self-proponent……unless you’re married to democratic party operative. In that case, you need to suck it up and take one for the team because we need to win elections at all costs because the other guy is Hitler or something.

So what is it supposed to be? Stay in the failed marriage or take back your damn life. It should not matter if you belong to a certain party. The advice is supposed to be consistent or it’s worthless.

Sisyphus
Sisyphus
7 years ago
Reply to  Sisyphus

All right “tempest”, here’s your answer as long as you’ve decided to attack me personally. I confronted my wife on Dec 24, confirmed Dec 27, moved out Jan 1, and was fully divorced and on my way by Feb 7. You suck.

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Sisyphus

A pineapple at large. No peas in the pod. Shoo mister shoo.

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Sisyphus

ChumpLady writes, “Dear Huma,

Please leave this guy. PLEASE.”

but…Sisyphus claims, ” With every article here, we’re urged to kick the cheater to the curb and become a fierce self-proponent……unless you’re married to democratic party operative.”

Hmmmmm…..as I said yesterday, straw man argument. Reading comprehension suffers when people have an (unwarranted) bone to pick.

Sisyphus
Sisyphus
7 years ago
Reply to  Sisyphus

Look, only the most hyper-partisan democrats can deny that Bill Clinton is a sex-crazed psychopath that preys on young women using his position of power. Hillary watched this behavior for decades and participated in the cover-up and slander of the victims and participants. To a lesser degree Huma is the same.

Either these women are too weak to break away from their abusers or these marriages are political theater. Either way, these are not good qualities for strong leadership. It shows that they tolerate incredibly immoral behavior for whatever reason.

The partisans on this site are unable to state a view contrary to political affiliation so I’ll do the job:

If you are married to someone like Weiner or Clinton, divorce them immediately and report any crimes to the police. These two men continue to have all the perks of taxpayer-funded luxury while never paying for their sickening behavior. Their wives continue to provide cover for their abuses. All of this is condoned by people because of blind political allegiance. Frankly this site has ceased to be of value. The author dispenses different advice for poor women and profits from the endless supply of misery. I’m done with it.

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Sisyphus

THIS CURRENT BLOG IS CRITICIZING A DEMOCRAT. How the fuck is that partisan in favor of Democrats?

And just curious, Sisyphus–did you divorce your cheater IMMEDIATELY? Got a lawyer the day after D-day? Filed within a week?

No? And yet you have no sympathy for Huma, who may have thought Weiner could be reformed after his first stint (as did most of the people on this site, including you, I suspect).

Now there is a second D-day for Huma. Do you have privileged knowledge into her mindset or her intentions right now? Do you know if she is forgiving Weiner or mentally lining up her ducks? No? I thought so.

Frankly, if you are going to have this little sympathy for chumps because they are public figures, and see partisanship where there is none, good riddance.

uneffingbelievable
uneffingbelievable
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Bravo, Tempest! I think the “political” statements that CL was originally criticized for are the only the reasons Sisyphus and MehFairLady are commenting at all. Why are the CHUMPS in the Weiner and Clinton situations being attacked???? Hillary and Huma are victims of their Narc husbands. Blame the victim, much? Then why isn’t it Monica Lewinsky’s fault for flashing her thong? My god, it’s like we’re in a 1950’s time warp.

As a feminist liberal democrat, I could be outraged that Melania Trump has posed naked over and over again. Her official First Lady portrait will probably be her, some pearls, and Louboutins all sprawled out on the presidential seal carpet in the Oval Office. But you know what? She’s got a banging bod, she has the right to put on film whatever she chooses, and has the right to do with her body as she sees fit. As a feminist, I will defend her decisions to anyone.

You know who is a faithful husband, has caused not one personal scandal in eight years, has never proven to be self-serving? Barack Obama. A respectable man.

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Sisyphus

No one condons cheating under any circumstances. In politics its rampant and apparently has become the same way in any situation. CL points out cheaters like anthony weiner ooopps he did it again. I am not a dem or a pub i am a non partisan voter and we dont delve into politics here. But she pointed out weiner who was a sitting congressman from new york and a democrat and a stupid cheater because she did no harm done. So yes be done and take your pineapples with you.

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Sisyphus

It doesnt matter which party. Cheaters come in all shapes and sizes in every walk of life. Ive seen nice people cheaters ergo not nice and nasty people who dont cheat but are still nasty. I dont blame or condone hillary or huna nor do i condone we each have to do whats best for us. I only know what i would do. Bill and anthony ate dirtbags husbands and i would not want to deal with them either.

cdb
cdb
7 years ago
Reply to  Sisyphus

I agree Sisyphus. Despicable.

Sisyphus
Sisyphus
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

I totally sympathize, especially for her children. Is political power worth more than her family?

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Sisyphus

Very few chumps left their cheaters immediately; we don’t know what she will do once she is not distracted by the election.

Awake
Awake
7 years ago

He has something on her. That’s why she doesnt leave

Kendra
Kendra
7 years ago
Reply to  Awake

Yeah, he totally has something on her. She has a job and he doesn’t. He is a stay-at-home-dad right now because he doesn’t have a job. If she were to divorce him now, not only would she likely have to pay this “mongoose” alimony, he would have a good case for getting full physical custody. For some, the “cost” of divorce is too high.

Maree
Maree
7 years ago
Reply to  Awake

Awake, not necessarily so. Huma whilst a very accomplished and attractive young woman may really love the jerk even with all the proof of betrayal and humiliation that she has been subjected to. She may have terribly low self esteem which may account for her staying with Anthony. We should cut her a bit of slack because the whole world knows of her betrayal and I could not imagine anything worse other than being married to such a creep. I hope that in time she will leave him but I wouldn’t hold my breath.

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

And y’all know how I’m itching to use medieval weapons (though I’d rather keep them sharp for cheaters).

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago

Poor huma. Hes run of of chances. Run huma run!

Datdamwuf
Datdamwuf
7 years ago

I believe Hillary and Bill came to an agreement long ago. She is a badass, not the kind of woman to put up with shit. I hope she gets elected.

MightyAgain
MightyAgain
7 years ago
Reply to  Datdamwuf

+1

ChutesandLadders
ChutesandLadders
7 years ago
Reply to  Datdamwuf

Still, we could send a copy of Tracy’s book to Hillary, too. I know I would find her more likable if she kicked his cheating ass to the curb.

QueenMother
QueenMother
7 years ago

+1

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago
Reply to  Datdamwuf

+1

Special snowflake ha!
Special snowflake ha!
7 years ago

Huma, please run for the nearest exit off his crazy train! For yourself, your kids and your sanity. He’s a low life scum that will destroy you and your kids will end up having no respect for you.

IHaveHate
IHaveHate
7 years ago

He already has no respect for her.

IHaveHate
IHaveHate
7 years ago
Reply to  IHaveHate

Sorry. Read that wrong. And yes he is a low life scum. End of story.

Anita
Anita
7 years ago

This story is a perfect example of what happens to so many of us, myself included.

We (and Huma) were single, and dating. Pursued by several men ( for her, lots more then me, I’m sure). Some are very attractive, physically. But we are looking for someone “serious” and someone “safe”. So who do we end up with? Not Mr. Sexy or Mr. Good looking, Mr. Good in Bed. Not even Mr. Fun. Nooo, we end up with Mr. Good Guy. And he turns out even worse than any of the others because he is a SNEAK! Like us, she can’t believe she passed up these other guys only to get fucked over by this loser.

MovingOn
MovingOn
7 years ago
Reply to  Anita

Same here, Anita– I picked a guy that I thought was super trustworthy, came from a decent and normal family, and though intelligent and funny, not very good-looking. Unfortunately, I was always suspicious of good-looking guys because I felt they were probably players. This whole experience of being cheated on has certainly taught me how wrong I was about that. Anyone can be a narcissistic jerk, including the “nerd” who isn’t being flocked around and flirted with. I thought he was a “safe” choice, and he was so scrupulous about his schoolwork and doing his taxes correctly, he didn’t seem like the type who would ever cheat.

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  MovingOn

Guess I diverged from everyone else here–I picked a certified asshole : (

ClaireS
ClaireS
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Did you know that — as in, really know that, and also that you were almost certainly going to be abused — when you committed to him? Uneasy inklings don’t count.

If you didn’t know, then he marshaled a different “good guy” persona — maybe intellectual companion, or supporter of female brainiacs, and IIRC, not detectably a raging infidel with a penchant for grad students (i.e. he presented himself, by omission, as a person who was NOT a cheater).

If you did know that he was a certified asshole who would cheat on and abuse you, then I am all the more impressed that you made it out alive, let alone with vibrance and aplomb and grace.

Either way, it seems to me that you and all of us will have to live and contend with having been abused by people we loved or cared about or were attached to deeply. Even Meh isn’t immune from occasional stabs of agony. Even Meh requires remembering that decency unarmed is decency disarmed. The latter is imperative to know, heartbreaking to endure, and haunting to recall.

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  ClaireS

Thanks, ClaireS. I don’t let myself off the hook entirely–I knew he was difficult, and arrogant, and impolite, but he was also brilliant and fun and seemingly vulnerable. His whole family thought I made him a better person; his friends thought I made him a better person. I just made him better at deception and impression management. The line from “Sociopath Next Door” about the disordered using pity to get other people to do what they want haunts me.

I did tolerate emotional abuse before we got married, but because it seemed to improve, and because I fought back, did not realize it would escalate after marriage. I did not think he would cheat on me because he knew what the consequences would be (but his arrogance at not getting caught, or at being able to talk himself out of it, trumped his fear of consequences).

Now, I’m headed to my bathroom to write in red lipstick on my mirror, “Do NOT try to save people from themselves!!!!” until it sinks in.

Nyra
Nyra
7 years ago
Reply to  MovingOn

Wow! Are they all alike? To think I thought he was one of a kind and that there was nobody anywhere who could understand the years of devaluation/gaslighting that i was going through.
I thought I was being strong and making the best of one bad situation after another. Pretending everything was fine for the sake of the children. Saying, excusing and doing things to manage Daddy’s image in the process. Now I realize that by living with a liar, I had unintentionally become a liar.

Current Chump
Current Chump
7 years ago
Reply to  Anita

WOW Anita-
Spot on about the good guy thing!!

Not my type looks wise-Check
Over the top “Nice”-Check
Super affectionate & romantic (until we married)-Check
Everyone thought he was a good guy-Check
He wanted a serious relationship-Check
I thought he was safe-Check

BIGGEST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE-DOUBLE CHECK!!!

In hindsight, I glossed over the high school marching band of red flags because he was supposedly the good guy who would never do anything wrong because he was so nice. The truth was he was a textbook narcissistic predator and master manipulator. I had never encountered anyone like that before and I fell for his whole act-hook, line, and sinker. It gives me chills to think about it but I will never be put in that situation again.

HeLovesMeHeLovesMeNot
HeLovesMeHeLovesMeNot
7 years ago
Reply to  Current Chump

+1

Katbug
Katbug
7 years ago
Reply to  Current Chump

” he was supposedly the good guy who would never do anything wrong because he was so nice. The truth was he was a textbook narcissistic predator and master manipulator. I had never encountered anyone like that before and I fell for his whole act-hook, line, and sinker”

So EXACTLY the same. Never encountered anyone like my STBX. Never. He was Mr. Wonderful, in everyone’s eyes so when he devalued me at home, I felt like there must be credence to it because he was so perfect. ? Vomit

Noelle
Noelle
7 years ago
Reply to  Anita

That was my ex too! He was ‘the good guy’. Not terribly good looking, not exceptionally smart, not great in bed, but for all appearances, he was the good guy. And, much to my embarrassment now, there were signs and red flags before we got married that I dismissed. Nothing really glaring but the signs were there. I get the same response from people, ‘oh, he’s such a good guy’. No the fuck he is not. The only thing that kept our marriage intact for so long was because he was in the Navy. He was home just long enough to keep up the pretenses. When he retired he couldn’t keep it up and the mask finally slipped.

Calmafterstorm
Calmafterstorm
7 years ago
Reply to  Anita

Oh god – that was Fucktard -Mr. Nice Guy. Such a good guy, such a wonderful person. So damn safe. In fact, that is what I loved most about him, he made me feel safe. Boy was I ever wrong on that!

Lldodd60
Lldodd60
7 years ago
Reply to  Anita

Anita! You said it. My ex was exactly what you said. I was propsed to by Mr. Good Looking and Mr. Good in bed, but didn’t trust either one of them and went for Mr. Good Guy. I should have run 6 months before we got engaged when I felt like he did not support me like I supported him. He was also pretty critical. But he begged me to stay because ‘I made him a better person’. Fact of the matter is he upgraded when I married him and his little fuck buddy is a definite downgrade. I am so much better off without him!

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  Lldodd60

I love it. Sex and violence are okay topics in 2016. Changing the narrative on cheating. Just stay away from religion and politics. Ooops.

Would the parallel of “nice guy” for a straight man be: a woman who is fat, flat chested, assless, frigid, and can’t give me a son? Does the “nice guy” metaphor work for gay men?

I don’t have any personal experience because I am gorgeous, intelligent, and fuck like a beast. I will fuck un-hot men and women, but I only do long-term relationships with hotties.

But let me put in a word for the straight “good guys,” who got chumped.

Just like we say that cheaters don’t discriminate when it comes to their fuck buddies, it holds to reason that you can’t judge a guy by his niceness. There are plenty of nice guys who aren’t cheaters (some of my best friends are nice guys.)

Cheaters come in all varieties. Y’all picked the wrong dudes. That sucks. Y’all have my deepest sympathies. I picked the wrong Match Girl.

But fuck ’em all. We made it, we dumped a cheater, and we’re free!

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

RE: Ian’s claims that sex and violence can now be discussed openly. Emily Litella would agree:

http://www.nbc.com/saturday-night-live/video/emilys-editorial-reply/n8635

Anita
Anita
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

Ian, I said specifically that I was talking about the men who use the “Good Guy Persona”, as in they are actually fake Good Guys.

The Good Guy categories are:

1. Actual Good Guys. They are what they present themselves as being, ie, decent human beings. Cheaters cannot be in this group.
2. Good Guys, but with an Agenda. Aka, White Knights. They do nice things, and act decent enough, but always expect a reward , like sex or adoration, etc. Their motivation does not match their actions.
3. Fake Good Guys. The ones who pretend to be nice because it gives then an unfair advantage, esp. where women and relationships are concerned. They lie and cheat while pretending to be repulsed by people who do. They are dishonest players.

Anita
Anita
7 years ago
Reply to  Anita

My ex, for example, never even once did anything inappropriate toward a woman in front of me. No flirting, no staring, no comments about women, nothing that ever gave me concern regarding our relationship. Yet, he started sneaking around dating a whore behind my back. And lying about it. And acting like Satan when confronted about it.

I’ve dated players in the past and wasn’t interested in another one. This guy knew that, and used it to his advantage. That’s what I’m talking about.

Buddy
Buddy
7 years ago
Reply to  Anita

How to know you are married to a “Nice Guy”
1. They get up at 3am to give the baby a bottle so you can sleep even though they need to be to work by 8am and you are on maternity leave
2. They earn 80% or more of the income
3. They do 70% of the cooking
4. They do 70% of the parenting
5. They do 100% of the repairs, yardwork, auto maintenance, and maybe 60% of the cleaning and laundry, even though they are the primary wage earner
6. They at first say “No we can’t afford for you to go to the spa” but eventually somehow, with your ways you end up at the spa
7. They spend <10% of the disposable income on themselves, and 90% on you and the kids
8. They do all the bill paying
9. They only exercise during "work" time when the kids are at school
10. On the weekends, all of their agenda items are postponed while yours are the main priority

Nice Guys can say "No" but not sustain a "No" in the face of sustained manipulative tactics.

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago
Reply to  Buddy

Buddy,

This is not what a “nice guy” does. This is what a guy does who has been beat down. There are so many forms of abuse besides physical. There is also emotional, psychological, financial, etc. I carried most of the weight too and things I didn’t know how to do just went undone. He’d get all pissed off and feel “put upon” if I got out the hammer. He’d yell, “I said I’d get to it!” What’s the magic number of months I’m supposed to wait to have the faucet repaired? Do you even use a hammer on a faucet? Well, I will find out as I have to take care of the bathtub faucet this weekend.

Anyway, a nice guy means you are kind and considerate of your partner’s feelings and needs. Yep, you might have to do 100% of the work on a really particularly bad day your partner is having, but it will be made up to you when you’ve had a really bad day. There is no 50-50 in life. One person usually does more than the other at one thing, but the slack is picked up elsewhere.

Don’t do this again. If someone doesn’t reciprocate for your thoughtfulness, talk to them about it. Give them time to see what it means. I swear that if I came home and dinner was being made and there were flowers on the table and soft music in the background, I’d just stand there like an idiot and not know what I was suppose to do next. I have had the occasional hot dog or hamburger made for me, but that’s about it. It has never happened to me with all three. I might just go out and start vacuuming because I would think company was coming over. I just would be stymied. There are too many women out there that want someone who pays attention for you to tolerate this type of treatment.

iWasaChump2
iWasaChump2
7 years ago

Just yesterday, we were arguing about whether to get a water filter pitcher for the house. I was hesitating and I said why: I was the one who was always cleaning it and changing the filters. She replied back with a snarky remark about how she cleaned the stove a couple weeks… yeah… um, good for you, you did that one-time thing on your own (never asking if I could help) and what about this other long list of things you never lift a finger to do around the house or elsewhere for our family? There’s such an imbalance of what each of us does that it’s not funny.

SheChump
SheChump
7 years ago
Reply to  iWasaChump2

We had our designated pink/blue chores.
I did mine.
He hired his done.

SheChump
SheChump
7 years ago
Reply to  iWasaChump2

Chump2 – wow, your chores were whacko unbalanced. But, I found it humorous that she cleaned the stove 2 wks ago. If you meant oven, most are self-cleaning and, in fact, stoves are easy to clean too if you wipe up everyday. Unless you have a stove from the 1920’s?

iWasaChump2
iWasaChump2
7 years ago
Reply to  Buddy

Yes, this. Not sure it meets the definition of “nice” vs “good” guy as discussed elsewhere on this site, but wow, Buddy, was this you? It sure sounds like me. I hope you don’t mind that copied and pasted that into my little divorce notes clipboard.

loridachump
loridachump
7 years ago
Reply to  Anita

That is my story, Never looked at another woman, no porn, no commenting on other women… criticized my way of dressing, my pants are too tight, my dress is too short.. Always accusing me of “looking for male attention” based on my style of dressing, if i stayed to long in the mirror before leaving the house to work. When i caught him with his….whatever, she had on pants so tight she had a serious camel toe…dafuk????

Datdamwuf
Datdamwuf
7 years ago
Reply to  Anita

Ther is a huge difference between “nice guys” and good guys (or gals). It’s important to know the difference

Buddy
Buddy
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

As a recovering Nice Guy whose nice guy tendencies led to being manipulated and cheated on, I did cringe a bit reading Anita’s good guy generalizations. At the same time, I respect her experiences, but I’m not sure I agree with those generalizations. I doubt there is a correlation between being Nice or Good and being ugly, bad in bed, and cheating.

In any case, they don’t apply to Huma, because she married a long-time congressman, a powerful politician, so Mr. Weiner is not a Good Guy in the traditional sense.

ClaireS
ClaireS
7 years ago
Reply to  Buddy

Buddy, there is one correlation for me: good guys and nice guys by my definition DON’T CHEAT.

I’m not sure what “Good Guys” and “Nice Guys” mean in all of these posts, but I do know that I am kicking myself because I didn’t trust the GENUINELY nice, good guy whom I adored but was afraid wasn’t real. The years have proven it: I was an idiot. He really was and is great: kind, compassionate, generous, dependable, funny, and emotional.

Sometimes I soothe myself by remembering his room-warming grin, or the way he’d toss me over his shoulder when I was being a pain in the ass and then he’d just march around the house, or one night when he showed me how to swing dance — Norwegian style — and was delighted that I caught on.

I married a man who I thought was a good, nice guy (trying to avoid the crazy of my father, and had learned from Norwegian man). Current H is scarily adept at appearing to be a good, nice guy. He’s not nice or good. He’s what G. Simon would call a “covert aggressive,” I think. Ick, eewww, Just No, especially b/c he’s got ’em all fooled. So, partly for your sake, I’m furious about his sick ability to impersonate someone who loves well. I hope you stay who you are!

Anita
Anita
7 years ago
Reply to  Buddy

Also, I don’t know that there is a relationship between appearance and presenting themselves as Good Guys. My ex was OK looking, above average intelligence, suitably employed. But…. He liked to talk about what a Good Person he was, and do Good Things, and talk about them. I’m not saying that is wrong in itself, but he used his front as a Good Guy to gain an advantage over guys who weren’t “so good” when in reality he was no better than they were, he was just sneaky about it.

And no, most guys I’ve known that are exceptionally good looking or good in bed don’t usually use the Good Guy persona that I’ve seen, probably because they get all the women they want with out it. But I’m not an expert or anything, lol.

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  Anita

The good guy question is perplexing. I’m so glad I’m not interested in a long term relationship with a guy because they are inscrutable.

Buddy
Buddy
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

dang, my inscrutable hopes are dashed!

Anita
Anita
7 years ago
Reply to  Buddy

Buddy, we aren’t talking about people who actually are “, good” here but those who falsely present themselves as such. It’s false advertising, at its worst.

Buddy
Buddy
7 years ago
Reply to  Anita

Thanks, I do understand.

I suppose I’m a bit sensitive with the whole Nice Guy thing, because 1) it manifested in the lengthy demise of my marriage 2) there is a ongoing association with Nice Guys and Passive Aggressiveness, so I’ve done a lot of soul searching into my possible passive aggression. Still not sure where I stand on that one, whether or not i have some dark, evil PA side or not, or if I was just too wimpy to stand up to her and face the wrath of personality disorderedness.

But yeah, if you are a girl dating a Nice Guy, that is a red flag regardless of whether he is an evil narcissistic manipulator or a truly a Good Guy.

Hopefully that good guy is actively working on his back bone.

iWasaChump2
iWasaChump2
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

Good point, @Ian-Dubito, we should be careful here not to typecast what a “Good guy” really is. A little like the mistakes people make in assuming who the rapists, pedophiles, and thugs are.

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  iWasaChump2

If I can engender a discussion I consider my comment successful.

Special snowflake ha!
Special snowflake ha!
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

Ian, I don’t think anyone is saying that all nice guys are cheaters, rather, that we picked our loser cheating bastards because of the “nice guy” mask they wore so well. I’m sure it’s the same for you guy chumps-you picked based on criteria where you believed they were decent human beings and would make wonderful life partners.

Unfortunately, for all of us here, that was so not the case. Because we projected our own values onto them, we did not see that they wore a mask. It wasn’t until the mask dropped from our partners and we saw the sheer ugly beneath, that we realized how much of a lie it all was.

I feel for you. I feel for all us chumps who were devastated. I feel for our kids that had their worlds blown apart because one of their parents lacked integrity, honor and truthfulness.

I do know one thing from being on this site, we are stronger and better than those fake “nice guy/gal” cheating scum. We will get past the anger and regain a much better life. Be strong!

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Lldodd60

Ohhhh… the criticism. We need to teach our daughters and sons–if someone is critical of you early on, they are not relationship material. Run. Do not pass Go. Do not collect $200.

Carmella1722
Carmella1722
7 years ago
Reply to  Lldodd60

My experience exactly. I’d been burned, was only meeting losers, and pushing 30. (If only I realized then how young 30 is!) Along comes this nice guy, great guy, and I think “oh he’s safe, he won’t hurt me, he’ll be a great dad.” To this day people who don’t know tell me what a great guy he is and how lucky I am. Ugh. How do you convince people he’s a lying, cheating scumbag? It must be all my fault right? That’s the worst part. At least the world can see that Anthony Weiner is, well, aptly named.

Anita
Anita
7 years ago
Reply to  Carmella1722

Right, it’s a very common story. and the Mr. Good Guy persona serves two purposes.

1. If he had to compete with better looking, more successful guys, it gives him an advantage because you would never pick him to begin with if he weren’t so “good” or “nice”. You would have picked one of them.

2. He gets away with his shit because you weren’t suspicious of him cause he ” wouldn’t do that “. Mine had a basic free pass, where as if he I’d known he was Mr. Playa. I would have had my guard up. These losers know what they are doing, for sure.

And yes I want to puke if I ever hear how wonderful he is/was.

Peakyblinders
Peakyblinders
7 years ago
Reply to  Anita

And yes, I had supposed “Mr. Good, safe guy”. I picked him because of his sweet, caring personality… Who knew he secretly despised me and “punished” me and I didn’t even know it! How do you try to fix your picker when it seemed to work so good??? He told me that most of his friends were cheating behind their wives/gf’s backs. Just blew me away that it’s so common amongst some people…I did the pick me dance for 6.5 years with that pile of excrement. You just never know sometimes..

Katbug
Katbug
7 years ago
Reply to  Anita

Anita.. Spot on. Perfect. I posted in July about my lying, cheating, “inexperienced”, Good Guy husband (See the ILYBINILWY blog). I was so convinced I married the safest, most family oriented man on the planet. It’s exactly why I ignored all the blazing red flags he was cheating. (An affair for a year and a half with a coworker while I was pregnant with our 2nd child). I mean the signs where HUGE and the lies so obvious (now) that I can’t believe I ever ignored it. He’d NEVER do that!!! He was even (pretend) disgusted when a friend of mine found out her husband cheated!!
I dated a great guy before I married H, we broke up because he didn’t seem like good long term, steady partner material. Unlike the “sweet innocent” man who was persuing me. Ugh!!

I would like everyone to know at CN, because of the strength I’ve drawn here and from my own friends & family, I kicked him out Saturday. Three months of MC and nothing dramatic happened but just couldn’t stand the thought of spending my life with someone who would be CAPABLE of that level of deceit. I kept thinking about what Tempest said in an earlier post about how many lies and decisions he made to cheat for so long and that I caught him, he didn’t confess. I have no doubt he’d still be at it. He seems shocked I would actually leave when he’s “trying so hard” to rebuild our marriage …but I’m filing for divorce this week. I’m finished.

Thank you my friends.

hopiumrecovery
hopiumrecovery
7 years ago
Reply to  Katbug

Good for you, Katbug! You deserve better.

Nyra
Nyra
7 years ago
Reply to  Katbug

Stay strong Katbug! I am so thankful that you know you have support and that you are not alone. CN is full of good advice from people who truly care and understand what you are going through.
You and your kids are in my thoughts and prayers!

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago
Reply to  Katbug

Big hugs to you. I know how hard it is to make this break. Some days will be harder than others, but each day will get a little bit better. You gave yourself the best gift you can ever have. The gift of knowing your worth.

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago

Katie

If only I had CL and CN through the misery years of Reconcilliation.

There is always another DDay.

Your smart enough to get out of the burning house.
Congrats to you!

Katbug
Katbug
7 years ago

I have to say Annie, that I read and reread your post about how you didn’t want to spend the next 27 years of your life like this. It really struck a cord.
I wanted to think he’d never do it again after he saw first hand the devastation. Then, I thought, do I really want to find out?? Nope. I mean, look at this Weiner guy…you’d think the public humiliation the 1st time would have had him AT LEAST waiting a little longer before he showed himself again. I don’t want to worry about how many months or years it will take for mine to do the same.

I just know I couldn’t survive a D day#2.

Peakyblinders
Peakyblinders
7 years ago

Annie…”You gave yourself the best gift you can ever have. The gift of knowing your worth”. THIS times a million

KB22
KB22
7 years ago
Reply to  Katbug

Good for you!

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Katbug

Well-done, Katie!!! You get a chump badge for Self-Respect, and another for Kicking Cheater to the Curb!

This is a hard, and heart-breaking process; we all know that. Doesn’t feel like it now, perhaps, but you will be stronger for empowering yourself. Hugs!

Peakyblinders
Peakyblinders
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Hooray for you Katbug!!! So glad to hear that you are done with the lack of effort and spackling. I know how hard it is to believe how much he sucks…. Divorce is such a tough road… I’ve been there with there. Hang in there.. It gets better! Here cheering you on… Peaky

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Ugh. The idea of being trapped for 4 days on a cruise ship with a nauseating cheater. No wonder it was the push you needed.

Katbug
Katbug
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Thanks Tempest. It is SO HARD.

Our current MC suggested last week that we plan a “romantic trip” so we could spend some alone time and reconnect. I felt nauseated. It was the push I needed.

Lldodd60
Lldodd60
7 years ago
Reply to  Carmella1722

Right! I cringe after poeole tell me how repulsive they think cheaters are and then in rhe next breath tell me how much they like the ex because he is such a nice guy.

Anita
Anita
7 years ago
Reply to  Lldodd60

And one more thing that gets me about Mr. Good Guy Cheater. He sold the same line of shit to the whore. He’s a great guy! Great husband! Great father! All around Mr. Wonderful!

Who just happens to be married, and dating, with a young child, on the down low. And she knew this about him. Smh. The ow are willing to accept shit like that. And the wives are the Jealous, Insecure ones??? Keep telling yourselves that, ow.

Awake
Awake
7 years ago

She’s probably waiting until after the election. She’s has a lot going on right now

Amiisfree
Amiisfree
7 years ago

So simple and elegant… The best way to bring a cheater down is to be a better liar, to draw out the behavior you want to see in a place you want to see it, and capture it. It’s how the police keep catching the child porn people and it’s how this catfisher caught Weiner’s wiener.

I think catfishing is abhorrent. Deliberate deception to harm another is on my “not ok under any circumstances” list. I don’t mean to glorify the catfisher. I only mean to say, it’s so sad because it’s so easy. Weiner has not changed, and proving it was as easy as rolling down a hill. Sext a sexter, then set the hook, then reel in slowly. It’s equivalent to catching a 100 pound fish without a fight.

I agree that there has to be some additional hidden reason Huma is still married to him. We can’t judge. We have been there. But we can say, with conviction and empathy, that he is awful and likely incapable of being a healthy adult partner, and, therefore, isn’t yet worthy of having a healthy adult partner. He needs more baking time before he will be complete. Maybe a lot more.

Yucky.

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Amiisfree

According to ex asswipe all he has to do is smile at a woman and they want him! Wish i could put a red flag on top of his head.

Peakyblinders
Peakyblinders
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

I wish someone put a red flag on my cheaters head…

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

Tattoo “Danger” on his forehead when he’s sleeping.

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Oh tempest if only i could! Along with damaged good unrepairable. Label to be trashed.

mavis
mavis
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

just sew it to his backpack ?

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  mavis

Haha good one. But im the one leaving hes buying the house. Maybe on top of his junky cars and on the flagpole!

Amiisfree
Amiisfree
7 years ago
Reply to  Amiisfree

As for him, all I have to say is, “You are mad because you feel duped, set up, betrayed? Welcome to the point. Also, if you weren’t available to BE set up, that would make all the difference. You can’t blame the devil when YOU take the bait, Son.”

I would never get caught sexting. Know why? I would report and block immediately, save until I knew I didn’t need evidence, then delete, because I DON’T DO THAT SHIT. Also, I have a partner, and that would be the FIRST person I would tell. Because, duh.

BetterDays
BetterDays
7 years ago
Reply to  Amiisfree

Yep. Well-said. And these freaks like Weiner convince themselves that “everyone does it” so poor him that he got suckered. Not.

Lldodd60
Lldodd60
7 years ago
Reply to  BetterDays

I guess he isn’t smart enough to set up a Google Voice account.

SeeTheLight
SeeTheLight
7 years ago

I think Hillary has never stopped doing the pick me dance. Her value to Bill has been whatever she could do for him, whether cultivating connections, publicly lashing out at his detractors, bringing in the funds to advance CGI and the Foundation. Even to her own detriment. When Bill called her the “change maker” he did not lie.

Awake
Awake
7 years ago
Reply to  SeeTheLight

Actually it’s what he can do for her. Hillary only cares about Hillary

SeeTheLight
SeeTheLight
7 years ago
Reply to  Awake

Not denying that. She for sure has the goods on him. She’s smart and conniving and it’s payback time for all your sins, Billy boy. But there is a part of me that thinks she is still doing a bit of a dance.

MehFairLady
MehFairLady
7 years ago

O.M.G.

This column is so very off-base.

Huma and Hillary are NOT chumps like we little people.

They are 1) romantic partners and 2) carrying on cynically with their sham marriages and 3) neither of them has had a real “job” in their lives.

rootsinfinite
rootsinfinite
7 years ago
Reply to  MehFairLady

“neither of them has had a real “job” in their lives.”

Being a lawyer isn’t a real job? Senator? Secretary or State?

Sisyphus
Sisyphus
7 years ago
Reply to  MehFairLady

In the case of Clinton, her husband stood up in front of America and proclaimed how awesome she is. I wondered why he continuously cheats on such an “awesome” person. Not all politicians are greasy liars but the ones carrying on this charade certainly are!

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Sisyphus

Most of us are awesome, and yet many of us had serial cheaters. Why? It’s about them, not us.

Mehphista
Mehphista
7 years ago
Reply to  MehFairLady

Um….Secretary of State is a pretty real job….but otherwise I agree. Huma and Hils both seem tomhave huffed a lot of,hopium.

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  MehFairLady

Let me illustrate how the claim Hillary and Huma have never had a job in their lives is sexist.

I think we would all find these sentences absurd:

“Henry Kissinger (Sec of State) never had a real job in his life”
“James Carville (Campaign Manager) never had a real job in his life.”

uneffingbelievable
uneffingbelievable
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Exactly, Tempest. I just don’t get it. Must be because they each don’t have the almighty penis. (We sure know Weiner has one – thanks Twitter!)

violet
violet
7 years ago
Reply to  MehFairLady

Clinton has had a “real” job all of her adult life. In fact, for many years, she was the bread winner of the family. I thought we were trying to avoid politics, but some folks just can’t help themselves…

Linden
Linden
7 years ago
Reply to  MehFairLady

Being a lawyer, then a senator, then Secretary of State, are not real jobs? Okay. SMH.

MehFairLady
MehFairLady
7 years ago
Reply to  Linden

Ha ha ha!! I hope you are not serious that senator/SOS are “real” jobs.

And lawyer, well at the Rose Law Firm, that was more of a license to be a criminal.

still a chump
still a chump
7 years ago
Reply to  Linden

+1, Linden. I agree with you. Both Hilary and Huma have had real jobs with real responsibilities, as is typical of chumps.

Free Vixen
Free Vixen
7 years ago
Reply to  MehFairLady

It is not fair to assume that privilege makes one complicit in their own betrayal or that it makes them immune to the pain of infidelity. We may be “little people,” but I thank the stars that I wasn’t forced to put my chumpdom on public display for all the world to see, and judge, and mock.

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Free Vixen

Agree. It still hurts like the dickens, and then you have to put on a stoic public face on top of the pain.

JC
JC
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Yep. I had enough now-former friends and family judging me for leaving my cheating wife, and there were certainly others judging/blaming me that I didn’t know about. That aspect would have been much worse had I been a public figure.

Awake
Awake
7 years ago
Reply to  MehFairLady

Amen! Someone was brave enough to say it

unicornomore
unicornomore
7 years ago

Huma lives in NY, but she is using some “Washington DC Professional Grade Spackle” up there.

In DC we have Military and Political Cheaters..we spackle for God and Corps and Country.

I think my picture is on the jumbo can …next to an image of rainbow and fairy dust…you can by a 5 gallon tub at Costco.

Kellia
Kellia
7 years ago
Reply to  unicornomore

Could it be that Huma’s status as a married woman will get her further in her political career than as a single woman? Look at Hillary, that’s what she did stayed married to a philanderer, and we all know her marriage is a sham. So maybe Huma wants to remain married to advance her career. I’m not saying that’s what I would do, but I know many people who think this way…

violet
violet
7 years ago
Reply to  Kellia

Unless you have been in a “high profile” marriage, you have no idea why a person stays or goes. Yes, some of the same considerations apply, but there is a whole other level to it also. It is one of those instances where walking a mile in that person’s shoes is eye opening. I do believe that Hillary loves Bill and that, to the extent he can, Bill loves Hillary. They have made peace with their relationship, that much is clear and I do not think that her decision to stay in any way negatively impacts her qualification as our potential president.

Jim
Jim
7 years ago
Reply to  unicornomore

I may be flamed for this but I gotta say it.

Huma is just like Hillary. Putting up with a cheater to further her own ambitions.

Sisyphus
Sisyphus
7 years ago
Reply to  Jim

Yup. They want to be power couples. Instead they’re doormats. I have to wonder what is the current price for dignity in DC these days – must be pretty cheap.

chumplady
chumplady
7 years ago
Reply to  Jim

Except that makes exactly zero sense. Weiner has ZERO political clout. NONE. Whereas she has the ear of Hillary Clinton. She’s the one with the power here.

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago
Reply to  chumplady

She does have the power and as we know as chumps, timing is everything. Yet she needs to protect her son. This would be my priority.

Kellia
Kellia
7 years ago

“It was set up by you guys, obviously,” he told The Post as he clutched a Louis Vuitton bag in one hand and his son in the other.”

Great, now Weiner’s son witnessed the interaction and I wonder what kind of messages this is teaching him. That poor child, to have a father, who is this deranged, and to be witnessing the mess that just won’t go away. I really feel for that innocent son. I wonder how he’ll see women as he grows up… But Weiner isn’t the least bit concerned about teaching his son morals and values. And why Huma stays in this situation is even more baffling to me.

Better Alone
Better Alone
7 years ago

You can’t fix that kind of stupid. Nor cheaters.

BetterDays
BetterDays
7 years ago

This: “All this shit he does? Flirting, sexting, handing out his personal cell number to pretty girls on Twitter? That’s HIM. That’s the real him. A guy who doesn’t give two shits about your pain.”

It was so hard to accept that the sex ads, the hooker, the porn addiction, the other women were the real him. That the sweet, loving guy was a mood he was in when I was lucky and the angry, passive-aggressive jerk was the underlying constant. When you’re deeply attached, it’s hard to make such harsh judgements about the person you love, but the only way to break free is accept what their ACTIONS tell you.

Carmella1722
Carmella1722
7 years ago
Reply to  BetterDays

Yup. That’s why reconciliation never works. It’s not just what they did, it’s what they are.

Kellia
Kellia
7 years ago
Reply to  Carmella1722

I agree Carmella. And once they cheat, it’s because the cheater no longer wants to be with you sexually and/or emotionally. So reconcile what? Their sexual attraction back to you? emotionally wanting to be with you?

The cheater is no longer interested in being with you, but rather is now looking to be with someone else. And reconciliation doesn’t work because it’s intent is to bring you back together with someone, who’s dynamic has no become to get away from you.

Peakyblinders
Peakyblinders
7 years ago
Reply to  Kellia

Carm, ” It’s not just what they did, it’s what they are” YES THIS**** That’s the saddest part of all…
Kellia, I don’t know if my cheater ever realllllly emotionally attached… If he would have, perhaps he would have thought twice about cheating on me or you in your case… Right? Sexually, sure he wanted to be with me, although he definitely withheld lots of sex from me… why? well duh… he was cheating! When you’re giving it away all the time, it’s hard to perform, so you gotta pretend that you just aren’t that interested in sex like you used to be! But let’s try Viagra and ecstasy and some aphrodisiac stuff you find in the Asian fish market because well, “I don’t perform like I used to and I haven’t masturbated in YEARS”… I wonder if anyone on CN got that from their cheaters. Hmmm…

I agree that there is nothing to reconcile. Cheaters are always looking for the next strange to make them feel special and wanted. If she thinks I look good and notices me, why not sneak a piece while nobody’s looking?! ESPECIALLY when I have my dumass friends and family to cheer me on! Me and my AWESOMENESS…

Kellia
Kellia
7 years ago
Reply to  Peakyblinders

“I don’t know if my cheater ever realllllly emotionally attached… If he would have, perhaps he would have thought twice about cheating on me or you in your case…”

I think you hit the nail on the head. These cheaters never really bond or attach to their partners. Otherwise, it would take a gun for a normal person to leave their loved one. Yet the cheater, just so easily and happily decides to pork someone else, move on and discard the partner without a second thought. I think the bond isn’t properly there in the first place.

WhichWayDidSheGo
WhichWayDidSheGo
7 years ago
Reply to  Kellia

I feel I’m in the minority in thinking that this is true even without cheating. Suddenly announcing that you’re leaving, with no warning or discussion, seems equally horrible to me. But I guess it would because that’s my situation. Like our life together meant nothing.

I get confused because my ex was nowhere near as bad as some of your exes. She threw me away without a second glance, but otherwise her life continued on as normal. Our culture values constant happiness over commitment and I got ran over because of it.

Special snowflake ha!
Special snowflake ha!
7 years ago

Dear Which Way Did She Go, that’s just it-real people make commitments. They understand that it’s not going to always be daisy filled meadows, sunshine and rainbows every.single.day. They realize that sometimes you don’t like each other. You get on each other’s nerves, but you respect each other. You love each other thru the bad, as well as the good. You make it work because that’s what a relationship actually is; the whole gamut of human emotions and experiences with one special person.

We were fully developed adults that understood what commitment actually meant, just married to emotionally stunned yahoos that wanted “perfection.” Their lose.

Chumpita
Chumpita
7 years ago

I am a foreigner and don´t know much about US politics…had to google who this Weiner guy is, but what is for sure, he must have some major major narc charm going on because with that scary smile, weird face and his last name, I wonder why a smart, attractive, professional woman would ever go out with him, or even worse, marry him and give him second, third and fourth chances. I understand Hillary´s agreement with Bill (don´t condone it) as her only way of breaking the glass ceiling, but does Huma really need this guy for that? At least Bill has been smart enough to never get caught again….

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Chumpita

Chumpita, he was a sitting congressman the first time. And he should have known better but a cheater is a cheater. What the hell makes these assholes think for one second we or most women want to look at their dick or underwear glamour shots? Ewwwww! Technology definately has its good points but palease! Makes it easier to do more cheating. Big tough alpha males! Ha! Cock in one hand phone in the other. What a bunch of losers.

Elizabeth
Elizabeth
7 years ago

And if you’re on twitter, she’s @HumaAbedin. At this point in her career Weiner is dragging her down. I hope Huma puts down the spackle trowel and decides to give Anthony the old heave ho. Maybe after the election and winter holidays are over?

Kellia
Kellia
7 years ago
Reply to  Elizabeth

I know! I thought the same thing

I also know that both of their families were vehemently opposed to their marriage, due to their religion. He is jewish and she is muslim (Indian and Pakistani).And the 2 of them fought really hard to be together. They both defied their families and married anyway. I guess after fighting so hard to be with Weiner, Huma probably doesn’t want to walk away from a marriage she fought so hard to get into…

This may not be the reason for staying, but it could be one of the factors she doesn’t want to leave the marriage.

Jinx
Jinx
7 years ago

I’m not loyal to any particular party, and this current crop of candidates locally as well as national remind me of the Saturday’s Looney Toons cartoons I watched as a kid. Here in the Midwest candidate hopefuls were toten guns and blowing up stuff….seriously.
Anthony Wiener is an embarrassment and I believe Huma is waiting till things cool down a bit. To be fair a divorce at this stage would be vitriolic and nasty. Better to wait until after the election.

As far as Hillary is concerned, I do agree her chances for political advancement would have been voided if she’d have divorced him earlier. His behaviour was humiliating and like many of us have done, she lashed out at the ow.
I don’t believe she is doing the pick me dance but instead playing by her rules chasing her dreams. Bill Clinton is an old man with old man issues. His old wrinkly penis ain’t what it used to be.

Their relationship is probably one of power and warped friendship, not one for me. For now it works for her. It took years for me to untangle myself and find were the money was. I also had young ones and they got more by me staying. I kinda wish she had dropped kicked his ass, but hell I’d stay married long enough until it benefited me as well. Bill’s penis just isn’t important enough to risk losing an election.

KB22
KB22
7 years ago
Reply to  Jinx

Jinx, I totally agree with your post and believe Huma is just staying with Weiner till after the election. The Clinton campaign does not want or need any (more) scandals, especially right now. Plus Weiner has made it quite obvious he has zero self control, is a self serving nutcase and would end up being a loose cannon, mouthing off God knows what to the press.

Kellia
Kellia
7 years ago
Reply to  KB22

+1

Carmella1722
Carmella1722
7 years ago
Reply to  Jinx

I agree with much of what you said, except that I don’t remember Hillary ever lashing out at Monica. In fact I think she did a pretty admirable job at not lashing out at Monica.

Sisyphus
Sisyphus
7 years ago
Reply to  Carmella1722

Of course Hillary lashed out at Monica and all the other bimbos. She tried to destroy them.

http://www.cbsnews.com/news/hillary-clinton-monica-lewinsky-a-narcissistic-loony-toon/

The problem is that people are so loyal to their political party that they can’t accept faults with their political heroes. I would not allow Bill Clinton to enter my house because he’s a predator and liar. But millions of people are eager to have him in the white house because of the myth of the political family. Frankly they’re more like a crime family.

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Sisyphus

I myself don’t view criticizing an OWhore who deliberately flashed her thong underwear to the president as a character flaw. And that view would be the same if a Republican chump had done it. You should hear the names I use for my X’s APs.

Cheaterssuck
Cheaterssuck
7 years ago

Yet one more reason in a litany of many that giving a cheater a second chance is like giving them another bullet because the missed you the first time. It’s no doubt a much bigger shit sandwich with no condiments when this hot mess takes place on the public stage.

Huma please, this narcissistic twit keeps showing you who he his. Please believe him.

Chris W.
Chris W.
7 years ago

I’ve said the same thing CL said about Hillary: “How much of Bill’s duplicity has tainted Hillary. The stench has wafted over to her, even if she had nothing to do with his latest “shenanigan”. Would the public view her differently today if she kicked him to the curb in 1998?”

But, the latest Weiner story just illustrates again, “These people don’t change. For anyone here at CN thinking you have a unicorn, know you’ll be doing marriage police and D-DAYs for the rest of your life.” My EH married his last AP (because he refuses to get a job so he must live off of somebody) and I saw a picture of her recently. She has aged TREMENDOUSLY in the last 2 years. She’s 51, but could pass for 71. These people DON’T change, EVER.

Get away from them!

Jinx
Jinx
7 years ago
Reply to  Chris W.

Would the public view her differently if she had dumped Bill in 1998. I believe so. I quite vividly remember her remarks about”baking cookies” etc. Back then I believe she would have been labeled a shrew.

Kellia
Kellia
7 years ago
Reply to  Chris W.

“She has aged TREMENDOUSLY in the last 2 years. She’s 51, but could pass for 71.”

Lol, yeah, being married to douchebag does that to you. It ages you exponentially.

Kellia
Kellia
7 years ago

Quote from Vanity Fair: “If Clinton is elected in November, chances appear likely that Abedin’s arrangement with her husband will allow her to claim a very senior position in the Clinton White House, and that will go far in restoring the credibility that her husband’s behavior robbed from her.”

Maybe that’s why Huma is staying. Her eyes are on that high powered position in the white house.

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Kellia

Although she’ll get that even if she leaves Weiner. Huma is indispensable to Hillary.

KB22
KB22
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Yes, but if she leaves him now, he’ll more than likely be vindictive and do a “tell all” piece about Hillary. Huma HAS to stay with him and make nice till after the election.

Kellia
Kellia
7 years ago
Reply to  KB22

Maybe, just maybe Hillary and Huma will both divorce their husbands after they get into the White House. Imagine how that would look, double divorce right after they make it into power! lol…

WhereisMia
WhereisMia
7 years ago
Reply to  Kellia

Now THAT badass move I believe we would ALL love to see!!!!

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago
Reply to  WhereisMia

Bill’s best suits strewn in the Rose Garden, Hillary with a screwdriver changing every damn lock on that big White House, and Bill suggesting he can pay rent to live in the basement. A cheater is a cheater that knows no economic, political, gender, race, sexual orientation, religion, or national origin boundaries. So we chumps better find our own and start enforcing them.

KB22
KB22
7 years ago
Reply to  Kellia

Maybe they would and God knows the divorces would be completely justified. However, I remember reading many years back that Bill (before he ran for President) was planning to leave Hillary. Hillary then talked him into running for president, knowing he couldn’t leave or divorce her while running for president. If this is true, that was one hell of a pick me dance.

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago

Her situation as a chump is unique. Why not go for a prestigious position? She is taking care of her needs. Lining up the ducks is different when your in her shoes. She is playing her cards with the hand she was given and doing it well in my opinion.

Carmella1722
Carmella1722
7 years ago

I think if Huma and/or Hillary stay for political reasons, so be it. I stayed with my husband for two years because he was a paycheck while I was getting my ducks in a row. Maybe for them the White House is that last giant duck.

mathewyellott
mathewyellott
7 years ago

That is great stuff. For those of you that believe in the karma bus here is a good one from the weekend. My ex was with the OM at a town event in Denver and who did they run into the OM’s STBEW with her new boyfriend. My EX was with her friends as well and was humiliated by this OMs ex wife. Even saying what a great resource that I had been in helping her through their “Adultery”. they were so humiliated that my EW had to leave in tears. Rare that the karma bus hits but it did this weekend.

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago
Reply to  mathewyellott

Matthew,

Isn’t Karma grand? I’m not sure if I mentioned this yet, but Fucktard got hit by the Karma bus hard. I’m still waiting for it to back up and hit him again, but I’m a very patient woman. He’s also so fucking stupid that it’s bound to be a Karma train that runs him over. You know, one of those freight trains that has the many cars and you don’t think it will ever end while you’re waiting at the tracks to cross. That’s what he will be hit by. Then when he’s trying to get up, an Amtrak will be going the other way. Oops, he didn’t see that speeding bullet coming. I will be wearing the engineer hat blowing the whistle. Toot Toot!

I digress. The karma bus hit prior to our divorce but after the separation agreement was signed. The OW was his subordinate. She left the company to work for another company, a competitor. She’s a low level employee so no one cares. Fucktard then followed suit. He lied about his reason for leaving, and said he was going to be taking up wood working or bird watching or some such crazy shit. They found out he lied and are now suing him. Apparently he signed a confidentiality agreement that he couldn’t work for a competing company for so many years after his employment terminated. Toot Toot!

happily ever after
happily ever after
7 years ago

Annie–that is a heartwarming story! It made my day!

Peakyblinders
Peakyblinders
7 years ago

I’m still waiting for it to back up and hit him again. again LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

mathewyellott
mathewyellott
7 years ago

Yeah it is pretty funny, my cheating ex moved back to not only the town we lived in but the town the OM and his soon to be EW live. She runs into my friend’s all the time as well as my family every time she has to run away. I can’t picture a life like that.

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago
Reply to  mathewyellott

That’s pretty funny. She must get quite the work out.

Kellia
Kellia
7 years ago

See, these cheaters often times have a good life, because their spouse is out there looking out for them, keeping them out of harms way. It’s because these cheaters have associated themselves with quality people that they have a good existence.

But they themselves are scum. And their pathetic mindset comes out when they are out on their own and hence, them being a moron shows up in their actions (and mainly because the spouse isn’t there to cover for them). The same with your situation Annie. Your Ex probably got to where he is because of you. Now that he’s left to his own devices, he’s screwing up left right and center! And LOL at the non-compete, and going straight to work for a competitor. and getting fired for it. Ha ha ha!

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago
Reply to  Kellia

Kellia

This is so true. Once I passed the torch she encouraged him to act on the poor decision making I kept in check for years.

The do whatever you want attitude fed his teenage brain into massive debt buying cars, taking vacations, and putting his customers off to whenever he felt like working. I kept him in check.

It’s disturbing to watch; seeing him lying under the bus. No, not really. Evidently he couldn’t get anywhere with me. After I cut the cord the lifeline ended. Don’t care.

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  mathewyellott

Whoo hoo! Love hearing when karma hits! Whore juice informed asswipe last week she has a boyfriend so see ya! Shes playing him but asswipe is so sadz! Awww. All that money, fatness and adoration gone did i mention the money! Yeeeee hah!!!!!!

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

Kar Marie…..Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahaha! Poor baby has the sadz! I hope he does the pick-me dance til his feet fall off! This made my day!!!

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

Made my day too. He was so sadz!!!!! He said whore juice broke ma heart twice!!!! Boohoo sniff sniff! Told him when she breaks it four tomes like you did mine fuck head i will get you a popsicle to drown your sorrows on. I laughed my ass off right in front of him laughed until i had tears running down my face. He was angry not funny, i said sure it is you and her thought it was funny when you did it to me! The wheels on the karma bus go round and round all through cheater town….. he didnt like my singing that to him with glee. Hahahahahahaha!!!!!

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

Kar Marie….I hope you don’t mind my stealing your Karma Bus song? I know the Karma Bus will be running skankboy over in the very near future. TOOT TOOT!

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

You go right ahead nomoreskankboy sing it loud and proud! Asswipe hated it he was getting mader by the second. I did a little told ya so dance for him too!

Peakyblinders
Peakyblinders
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

LMAO again!

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

A Told You So Two Step? Please teach me?

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

Google will and grace told ya so dance thats where i got it years ago. Asswipe loved when grace did it exploded when i did. Good times….

AllOutofKibble
AllOutofKibble
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

I hope I get to sing that song one day!
Until then I am so happy for you!!!!

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  AllOutofKibble

Thanks peaky and all out. I think im finally seeing meh! I want to sing it with all of you!

Kellia
Kellia
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

Kar marie, you are awesome! And lol @ he has the sadz. Like he gave a shit when he screwed you over. And why is he telling you she broke his heart, he can go confide in someone else. He lost that privilege when he discarded you like yesterday’s trash.

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Kellia

Thanks kellia! Nowadays i even feel awesome sometimes! Yes he can go bitch and moan to one of his many online whores. Hahahahaha! I no longer care! Yeah me!

Peakyblinders
Peakyblinders
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

Oh Kar Marie that was the funnies freakin post YET EVER! LMFAO!!

The Ex-orcist
The Ex-orcist
7 years ago
Reply to  Kar marie

Kar Marie-i love karma stories!!!!! He is a first class loser idiot. Take the money and run as fast as you can from that cluster fuck.

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  The Ex-orcist

I am! Got ducks lined up just wairing for a closing date and color me gone!! Foeva!!!! Form asswipe not from here.

The Ex-orcist
The Ex-orcist
7 years ago

Anthony Weiner is gross and I hate his name?, but his most redeeming quality appears to be his lack of intelligence. How in the fuck does this dumb fuck think he can get his cock jollies via texting without being found out??? That’s just the point I suppose if you have a cluster fuck B piss hard on for a partner. He has Huma so brainwashed and abused she stays just like the rest of us chumps do/did. I can’t judge her for that seeing as I’d be a big fat hypocrite if I did.