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‘Why Do Reconciliation Bloggers Annoy Me?’

November 30, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dearest Chump Lady, Why does the Reconciliation Industrial Complex annoy me so much? I don’t want to name any names, but while looking for support groups, I come across a Twitter of an infidelity survivor who has done podcasts, books, you name it. After some research I find out it’s only been two years. The […]

Filed Under: Hopium, Limbo, Reconciliation Tagged With: reconciliation, Reconciliation Industrial Complex

What Is the First Step?

November 4, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, What would you do? My husband is very friendly with this woman at work. He talks about her which is why I looked in his phone and saw a series of texts of her needing “to vent” he’s all supportive and understanding… which triggers me. Then a little later he’s telling me […]

Filed Under: Limbo, Pick me dance Tagged With: Limbo, Pick Me Dance, Trapped

He sees prostitutes. She’s ‘stuck in a fog’.

October 15, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady I’ve been in an over 40-year marriage in which I’ve invested a lot of emotional equity. My husband was unfaithful from the very start of when I meet him. I knew and should have run then but…..in my fairy tale mind, I thought I could change him. I thought my pure and […]

Filed Under: Limbo, Sex addiction, Trust that they suck Tagged With: Sex addiction, Sex workers, Trust That They Suck

In-House Separation, She Won’t Move Out

September 8, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, Last September my wife of 17 years and 3 kids, informed me she had had an affair with the headmaster of our youngest daughter’s school. I had recognised my wife had been unhappy for some time and was asking her why, I had suggested that if it was me making her unhappy […]

Filed Under: Divorce, Limbo, Trust that they suck Tagged With: Living together while separated

‘I Have a Hate in My Heart Where Love Used to Be’

June 10, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, My husband had an affair during our 19th year of marriage with a person in his graduate class. She sent me a text message that she was in love with him and he with her. Of course he lied lied lied, but I wore him down until he told the horrid details. […]

Filed Under: Limbo, Reconciliation Tagged With: Trust

Marine Chump: This Is Worse Than Being in Iraq

May 25, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, Here’s my story and I’ll try to keep it short. I married my high school sweetheart and we’ve been married for almost 20 years. We have three kids 20, 18 and 6. Shortly after we were married and had our first kid, I joined the Marine Corps. Life was pretty good; we went […]

Filed Under: Limbo, Trust that they suck Tagged With: Memorial Day

‘I Turned the Tables’

May 21, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, Married 31 years, chumped the last 2 (that I know of), 2 kids early 20s. I did it all, untangling the skein of fuckedupness, rode the unicorn for a while, smoked a lot of hopium, dined at the buffet of grief, anger, etc. and went back for seconds and thirds. Moved out […]

Filed Under: Limbo, Pick me dance Tagged With: cake eating, separation

How Do I Find the Courage to Leave?

May 18, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, I married my husband in June of 2015 after being together for 6 years. He is the only man I have ever been in a serious relationship with. In December of 2015, my mother died unexpectedly. I was a complete wreck for at least a year. He was my ROCK. In June […]

Filed Under: Limbo Tagged With: Limbo, reconciliation

Is Being Alone Worse Than Being with a Cheater?

February 18, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, Is being alone worse than being with a cheater, if by alone you mean something like “alone for at least the next 20 years”? Part of me thinks that despite my (wayward) partner’s flaws, the alternative is not to be with anyone at all. Not all of us are blessed enough to […]

Filed Under: Gain a life, Limbo Tagged With: Gain a Life

What Got You Unstuck?

January 31, 2020 by Chump Lady

For today’s Friday challenge, I’m wondering about the long-suffering chumps out there and your hopium habits — what got you unstuck? I have some sympathy for the emotionally paralyzed, especially the limbo when you have Naugahyde remorse and think you’re really in reconciliation. You ride that unicorn carousel for awhile. I get it. I realize that […]

Filed Under: Limbo Tagged With: Enough, Saving yourself

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