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He’s Cheating and Now ‘Needs My Help’

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Hello Chump Lady, How I wish I had found you months ago. Before I had invested my time and money into “get your marriage back!” Crap. It’s been 8 months of an emotional and physical affair. We have been married 15 years, three children, youngest is 8 with special needs. I was the breadwinner for the majority […]

How Did You Line Up Your Ducks?

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We talk a lot at CN about “lining up your ducks” — stealthily doing your reconnaissance work before you leave a cheater. Getting financial records, saving money, seeing lawyers on the sly… To be chumped is to be underestimated. Why of course you trust them! You’d never dream of asserting yourself. Bleat on with your […]

‘I’ve Never Broken Up with Anyone’

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Dear Chump Lady, I’m closing in on a year from D-Day. I feel like my mental and emotional well-being have largely recovered and I’m ready to move forward with conviction. But I’m not doing it. In fact, I realized that in my entire 43 years of life, I have never broken up with anyone. My […]

How the Hell Can I Live with Him Until I Can Get Him Out?

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Hey there, Chump Lady. D-day 1 was almost a year ago and D-day 2 was almost 2 months ago, now. I won’t unpack the Baggage of Fuckery right now, as that would take too long and I have a tendency to write novels so I’ll spare you and CN. I’ve decided to leave and I […]

Am I the Jerk for Wanting to Leave?

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Dear Chump Lady, My husband cheated almost three years ago. Since that time he has been remorseful and been the husband that he was before cheating and more. Three years in… I’m at a loss. I feel like I have wasted his time because I’m seriously thinking of leaving. Last time I had a bad […]

Years Later and No ‘Meh’

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Dear Chump Lady, I was married 20 years. It was around year 18 that my ex started the implosion, blaming me for his unhappiness for my views on “life”, that I was “asexual” (not true), and had to be taken care of, which he no longer wanted to do (some truth there – childhood baggage […]

The ‘Only One Who Really Cares’?

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Dear Chump Lady, I was married for 29 1/2 years to an amazing, dedicated, sweet husband. In 2009 we lost our teenage daughter after only a one month diagnosis of leukemia. I did not realize my husband was in depression until our oldest daughter got married. He started to have moments of disconnect. By 2016 […]