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How the Hell Can I Live with Him Until I Can Get Him Out?

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Hey there, Chump Lady. D-day 1 was almost a year ago and D-day 2 was almost 2 months ago, now. I won’t unpack the Baggage of Fuckery right now, as that would take too long and I have a tendency to write novels so I’ll spare you and CN. I’ve decided to leave and I […]

Am I the Jerk for Wanting to Leave?

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Dear Chump Lady, My husband cheated almost three years ago. Since that time he has been remorseful and been the husband that he was before cheating and more. Three years in… I’m at a loss. I feel like I have wasted his time because I’m seriously thinking of leaving. Last time I had a bad […]

Years Later and No ‘Meh’

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Dear Chump Lady, I was married 20 years. It was around year 18 that my ex started the implosion, blaming me for his unhappiness for my views on “life”, that I was “asexual” (not true), and had to be taken care of, which he no longer wanted to do (some truth there – childhood baggage […]

The ‘Only One Who Really Cares’?

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Dear Chump Lady, I was married for 29 1/2 years to an amazing, dedicated, sweet husband. In 2009 we lost our teenage daughter after only a one month diagnosis of leukemia. I did not realize my husband was in depression until our oldest daughter got married. He started to have moments of disconnect. By 2016 […]

Seconding Guessing Yourself About Leaving

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Dear Chump Lady, My husband has cheated on me with two different women over the course of the last year and a half. I found out about one, moved to my mom’s and then came back to the family home to find out he was cheating with another one about 3 months later. I have […]

He Says He ‘Never Went Looking for It’

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Dear Chump Lady, I can’t believe I am writing this but I really need some help. 5 weeks ago I discovered my husband was having an emotional affair with a colleague. No sex. But intimate kissing and real emotional connection. They have both said they love each other. She tried to break it off and […]

‘Why Do Reconciliation Bloggers Annoy Me?’

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Dearest Chump Lady, Why does the Reconciliation Industrial Complex annoy me so much? I don’t want to name any names, but while looking for support groups, I come across a Twitter of an infidelity survivor who has done podcasts, books, you name it. After some research I find out it’s only been two years. The […]

What Is the First Step?

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Dear Chump Lady, What would you do? My husband is very friendly with this woman at work. He talks about her which is why I looked in his phone and saw a series of texts of her needing “to vent” he’s all supportive and understanding… which triggers me. Then a little later he’s telling me […]

He sees prostitutes. She’s ‘stuck in a fog’.

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Dear Chump Lady I’ve been in an over 40-year marriage in which I’ve invested a lot of emotional equity. My husband was unfaithful from the very start of when I meet him. I knew and should have run then but…..in my fairy tale mind, I thought I could change him. I thought my pure and […]