Category: Limbo

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She Keeps Acting Like We’re a ‘We’

Hello Chump Lady, Thank you for an amazing site that has helped me through the worst time of my life. The background: two months ago, …

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What If I Leave and He Really Loves Me?

Dear Chump Lady, I am unofficially in purgatory. I have been 22 months in wreckonciliation with my cheating husband who cheated with an ex coworker …

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‘Broken’ Cheater Cheats Again

Dear Chump Lady, I need help, I know I do. My beloved wife of 26 years has cheated on me. Again. The first time was …

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How Do You Get Out of Limbo?

Hi Chump Lady, I need your advise desperately. I married at 30, had a fulling marriage for what would have been 30 years this past …

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He’s Cheating and Now ‘Needs My Help’

Hello Chump Lady, How I wish I had found you months ago. Before I had invested my time and money into “get your marriage back!” …

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How Do I Stop Feeling Guilty?

Dear Chump Lady, I kicked my husband out of the house 2 years ago, finally, after a (at least) 10-year history of him cheating on …

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Living Together Until Cheating Wife’s Affair Partner Is Free

Dear Chump Lady, I need some real advice as I am not doing well. I met my wife in 2000 and we married in 2003 …

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How Did You Line Up Your Ducks?

We talk a lot at CN about “lining up your ducks” — stealthily doing your reconnaissance work before you leave a cheater. Getting financial records, …

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‘I’ve Never Broken Up with Anyone’

Dear Chump Lady, I’m closing in on a year from D-Day. I feel like my mental and emotional well-being have largely recovered and I’m ready …

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How the Hell Can I Live with Him Until I Can Get Him Out?

Hey there, Chump Lady. D-day 1 was almost a year ago and D-day 2 was almost 2 months ago, now. I won’t unpack the Baggage …

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Am I the Jerk for Wanting to Leave?

Dear Chump Lady, My husband cheated almost three years ago. Since that time he has been remorseful and been the husband that he was before …

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Years Later and No ‘Meh’

Dear Chump Lady, I was married 20 years. It was around year 18 that my ex started the implosion, blaming me for his unhappiness for …

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The ‘Only One Who Really Cares’?

Dear Chump Lady, I was married for 29 1/2 years to an amazing, dedicated, sweet husband. In 2009 we lost our teenage daughter after only …

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Is He a Unicorn or a Narcissist?

He left her for the OW. Now he’s back on weekends. Planting a garden. Buying her gifts. Having sex. Is this… reconciliation? Chump Lady wields the clue bat.

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Seconding Guessing Yourself About Leaving

Dear Chump Lady, My husband has cheated on me with two different women over the course of the last year and a half. I found …

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He Says He ‘Never Went Looking for It’

Dear Chump Lady, I can’t believe I am writing this but I really need some help. 5 weeks ago I discovered my husband was having …

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‘Why Do Reconciliation Bloggers Annoy Me?’

Dearest Chump Lady, Why does the Reconciliation Industrial Complex annoy me so much? I don’t want to name any names, but while looking for support …

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What Is the First Step?

Dear Chump Lady, What would you do? My husband is very friendly with this woman at work. He talks about her which is why I …

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He sees prostitutes. She’s ‘stuck in a fog’.

Dear Chump Lady I’ve been in an over 40-year marriage in which I’ve invested a lot of emotional equity. My husband was unfaithful from the …

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In-House Separation, She Won’t Move Out

Dear Chump Lady, Last September my wife of 17 years and 3 kids, informed me she had had an affair with the headmaster of our …

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