Keith Urban Reportedly ‘Regrets’ Divorce
In sad sausage news, Keith Urban reportedly regrets his divorce from Nicole Kidman. But apparently not cheating on her?
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It’s always sad when cake dies.
Schmoopie(s) on the side, spousal appliance and front of normalcy at home — a cheater’s dream. Then someone has to get uppity and file for divorce.
If you missed the scandal from a few months ago, Urban was reportedly stepping out on Kidman with a member of his band. She filed for divorce and was awarded custody.
Yahoo reports:
Earlier this month, the former couple reached a divorce settlement, with the 58-year-old Babygirl actress being granted primary custody of daughters Sunday Rose, 17, and Faith Margaret, 15. Urban, also 58, was granted 59 days out of the year, with the girls allowed to spend every other weekend with him.
As per People, the settlement requires the former couple to “behave with each other and each child so as to provide a loving, stable, consistent and nurturing relationship with the child even though they are divorced.”
“He’s hurting and there are some serious regrets starting to kick in,” an insider reportedly told Star magazine. “He misses the kids terribly and he’s finding it tough to deal with the harsh reality that his family is blown up,” they went on.
I’m sure Nicole Kidman found it tough to deal with the harsh reality that her husband had a double life. I’m sorry consequences are unpleasant, Keith.
Also, weird passive sentence structure “his family is blown up.” Randomly? By whom?
I wonder about the misogyny of a person who would rather be a married man with a sidepiece than a single middle-aged man with a girlfriend. What’s sad is that you didn’t appreciate what you had.
Nicole moves on without him
According to the gossip rags, Nicole has had a hard sculpted shoulder to cry with friend Russell Crowe. Who looks like he could sprinkle flakes of Keith Urban on his breakfast protein smoothie.
According to OK magazine:
The separation came as she juggled a resurgent career, with last year’s erotic thriller Babygirl winning acclaim and her legal drama Discretion setting off a streaming bidding war. The estranged couple’s daughters – Sunday Rose, 17, and Faith Margaret, 14 – have remained largely out of public view as the family adjusts to the split.
Urban, meanwhile, has acknowledged feeling “lonely” and “miserable” while on tour.
Against this backdrop, Crowe, 61, a fellow Australian and long-time friend, appears to have stepped into a quiet support role at a moment Kidman is said to be reeling.
That must be a refreshing change. I don’t think you could support anything on Keith Urban. He could collapse under the weight of a wet towel.
One industry figure familiar with both stars said: “He understands exactly how devastating it is when a long marriage ends. He’s lived through that heartbreak himself, so when Nicole leaned on him, he didn’t hesitate. People think he’s all hard edges, but with her he’s showing a much softer side.”
A second source, who has worked with Crowe, said: “He’s been touching base with Nicole nearly every day, making sure she isn’t retreating into herself. They caught up over coffee not long ago, and you could see he was trying to lift her spirits. He’s hardly the warm and fuzzy type, but he’s fiercely loyal to the people he considers his own.”
Fiercely loyal. What a trade up.
Too bad, so sad, Keith.
Ahhhh the consequences train is just pulling into the station.
So apparently Mr Urban misses his kids and is finding dealing with the fact that his family is “blown up” rather difficult. If only he could work out who was responsible for all of that …. perhaps just looking in a mirror might remind him who he should blame?
Next instalment is likely to be him ranting about how quickly Nicole moved on as and when she decides to move on.
LFTT
If she was like me with both 1&2 cheaters, she is exhausted and happily relieved. Addicts drain you. This i know.
They can be a bit slow on the uptake, that’s for sure. Being a self-centered arsehole isn’t all it’s cracked up to be, eh? How tragic. I really do hope he gets to the bottom of who could have possibly blown up his family. *eyeroll*
Addicts go to their drug of choice and never figure it out. Only a few make the connection because they take zero blame
That passive language of “the family has been blown up” is right up there with the FW’s citing that they made “A mistake”- singular. It will never not get an eye roll from me, I can live 20 years of meh and still will roll my eyes at that.
And I bet Urban was “blindsided” by the divorce. Ugh.
OMG that was FW narcopath exactly! Crying how he just “made a mistake” to whitewash the decades of secret double life with hookers. Barf
It’s been over eight years since DDay for me.
I do not regret having my daughter. If I had not married Traitor Ex, she would not be here and I would never ever wish that she had not been born.
I do regret ever dating him, marrying him, spending so much time with him. I regret what he did to us.
If a genie could grant me wishes, I would wish that I had my daughter, that Traitor Ex was alien-mind-wiped as if he never existed, and that I could have the time I spent with him refunded.
That’s how I feel.
And I could not care less how he feels. whether he regrets it or not, which is a great place to be.
I was SO INVESTED in his remorse and regret and now I could not give a rat’s *** how he feels.
I could not be more grateful we are divorced. I have no desire to.associate with a liar, cheater, thief, criminal traitor who has proven with his behavior that has no clue what love is. Affairs are not love, as defined by Corinthians.
I am very happy to have left those lowlife losers free to associate with each other, and to have gotten on the boat to the island where people who actually love me were waiting for me.
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The way I see it, I could have had my daughter with a different father. She would still be born, be mine, exist anyway.
My huge regret in life is that I chose very poorly who her father was.
re Regret. In the early days post D-Day and well beyond, he amped up the emotional abuse. He truly tortured me. I know that sounds so dramatic, but he really just sunk to the cruelest levels possible.
I am divorced now, and no longer live with him. He occasionally pops into my life because we have kids, but I am extremely low contact and have a lot of boundaries in place, so while he can maybe ruin an afternoon of mine with his baloney, it’s so much less than it once was. And I am in therapy to make it less and less possible for him to affect me at all. Time and space help immensely with that.
All this to say, he was monstrous to me. So far beyond “just” the cheating, which would have been enough.
I don’t know much about his current life, that is by design, I don’t want to know. But some information occasionally makes it to me. It’s not going great. I think most chumps have wished for their moments of schadenfreude. But I don’t enjoy it. To say I have sympathy is not exactly on point. He has a terrible relationship with one of his kids, he has no friends, a lot of his family has turned their backs on him. He has a trophy gf, who is half his age. And a good paying job that he hates. That’s pretty much it. He traded in the very real life he had for a fantasy AP that dumped him the second he became officially available. He absolutely ended up where he is all on his own. All due to the choices he made. So I don’t exactly feel bad because he MADE this bed. But I do find it sad and pathetic. It was all for what? An AP that left? That’s his mess to sit in, not mine. But I find it all so very pathetic that I can’t even enjoy it. I know at times he has expressed remorse. I don’t think it is really “oh I am so sorry for what I did to you”, more so “I am so sorry that I am now left here in this terrible place”. But I don’t really care if he is sorry or not. What could it possibly matter now? What I do know is that D-Day to Divorce stretched over 5 years for a variety of reasons, that was a long time and a lot happened. He frequently bounced between kind/sorry and blaming me/cruelty. So I got to experience both. And the times he was sorry didn’t make any of it any easier for me.
Every time my ex says, “I’m sorry, I know it’s him playing nice – as if he were not the one that blew my life apart at 50. He’s got his little “half-his-age-wife”. She’s happy she “won” (if winning him is winning, that is). But I can walk away and ignore him – maybe find a better partner – he’s got to explain the things that happened in his life before she even showed up. I’ll never understand women who leave for older men thinking they’ve “won”. They’ve “won” an old fart that will need caring in their older years. They will need to listen to the “when I was in college stories…” I don’t think his new wife even remembers 911. I think she was like 8 years old then. But he can prattle on talking about the good ole days that she knows nothing about until she finds a man her own age that is more enticing. Good luck to her. And good luck to him for finding a partner to take care of him in old age.
Thank you for that last sentence. My ex* often says sorry… and I’m grateful he’s not nasty or a narcissist like many of you have. So I do understand I’m better off. But even though he says sorry, it still hurts like hell. I appreciate reading that just now, very timely. Thanks.
*ex – so so weird writing that. Almost makes me feel nauseous. Officially “ex” as of Christmas Eve…🙄 (but that’s better than a D Day on Christmas Eve).
I am far enough out and as stated, he was so cruel that I am happy that he is an EX. But even so, it still feels weird to call him an ex. We were together decades. It is so strange to not have him in my life.
It’s probably hard in different ways for you because he isn’t being nasty. At least when I am feeling a way, I can remember how absolutely awfiul he has been and feel I am lucky to be rid of him. You are also lucky to be rid of a cheater, but it might take awhile for your heart and brain to sync up there.
I agree, I never enjoyed the schadenfreude. I had to watch him crash and burn and hurt my son in the process. Oh for a couple hours when I saw in the paper he had been demoted there was a lift in my walk. Didn’t last long, once he lost his promotion, his comfy office, and the lie of being a decent man; he just kept digging. I am sure in his mind it was everyone else’s fault.
“I am sure in his mind it was everyone else’s fault.”
Mine sure feels that way. He wants to blame pretty much everything on me. He has a poor or no relationship one of his kids (the younger one may still get there as he doesn’t go out of his way to have a good relationship with them either), much of his extended family, me (!) and yet he has yet to recognize that HE is the common denominator. Hell, the woman before me, and the woman after me both got protective orders. I should have, but for complicated reasons opted to try just setting a boundary first and that worked, otherwise I would have gotten courts involved too. But he can’t see that he is the problem.
I understand the reaction, or lack thereof. I had something that felt like an I-knew-this-was-going-to-happen and shit-what-about-my-daughter reaction that completely numbed me to any other feelings regarding his second divorce. And then maybe at most a snicker or eye roll at the idea that he was engaged (now married?) a third time, but the overwhelming bleakness of the whole thing just sort of extinguishes any schadenfreude. Maybe because of the glaring possibility that nothing was ever worth anything to them, to include ourselves.
Yes… “the overwhelming bleakness of the whole thing”…. so very much is lost.
Yes, it’s almost a numbness. And for me it sometimes feels like “this is so pathetic that my laughing even quietly to myself would be a jerk move” I actually worry about MY karma being harmfully affected because his situation is just that pathetic.
At the same time, his life can’t be THAT bad. Hot young gf, luxury car, all the free time in the world because I am doing the lion’s share of raising our kids, frequent fancy vacays and nights out. It’s not entirely bad. But he is so miserable that none of that makes him happy as he is still HIM.
I will say, when he was rubbing it in to me about how the gf before this one loved him so much and it got so serious so fast? In a weak moment I took the bait and lashed out with “She loves you because it hasn’t been long enough to see what an asshole you are”. And it took almost a year, but she did figure out he was an asshole, she dumped him and for whatever reason she got a protection order. In the moment that I heard about it, I felt bad for her. She wasn’t an AP. And I just hoped she saw enough to not second guess herself and that she hopefully recognized the bullet she dodged vs being despondent that it ended. (they were heading towards marriage, not engaged yet but planning it) But later? I remembered my predictions, and yeah, I did kind of chuckle to myself in a “told you she loved your mask not your reality” way.
Free time, lots of money, GF and escorts, and NPD parents siding with FW. Yeah he has it pretty good for someone who blew up our lives and thought about offing me. However that does not stop his pity party
Same here. How do you know he thought about offing you? Did he make any attempts?
In a way, yeah, it feels like bad karma to laugh at something so sad. It also feels in a sense like I’m cruelly laughing at myself for the reasons given above.
I too felt bad for the second wife. I had reached out to the girlfriend (not AP) he was living with when he monkey-branched to the second wife (no idea if second wife knew the nature of their relationship enough to be an AP because he’s a lying liar who lies to suit himself) to thank her for the time she spent with my daughter and to say I was sorry for what I was pretty sure I knew happened. These human tornadoes do not seem to have one moment of self-reflection when they blow through people’s lives. I’m sure the “hot” young/luxury veneer your ex has applied to himself with crumble and fall too. People get old, money runs out (for those who live beyond their means), the good times fade. In some ways, this choice of lifestyle reminds me of these con artists who fly high and live large off of other people’s money, only to come tumbling down when the scam is revealed and the hammer of the law finally hits them square on the head. Would that really be worth it? Some people seem to prefer to live fast and die young, so to speak. No thanks.
You summed up having kids with them so well. It’s this weird limbo of wishing you hadn’t spent all that time with them, but also being beyond grateful for your kids. I like your idea, wipe their brain, and refund me the time, but leave me my kids.
Exactly, the good thing I got out of a 30 year marriage is my daughter.
Roger that. The obvious contradiction is a bit of a mindf*ck, but it would be awesome if I got to have my daughter but also my time with a man who lied to me from the jump refunded. These fools who stumble around “blowing up” the lives that they touch – their remorse is nothing but the crocodile tears of their consequences coming home to roost. It’s a bunch of boohoo me with zero self-reflection or accountability.
Great point. Newbie chumps would kill for this kind of “remorse.” But you realize with distance it doesn’t matter. The regret is about as deep as the investment. And regret over consequences isn’t the same as regret over the choices that lead to the consequences.
Thank you, my darling. And for any newbies, coming here to read daily was/is a non-negotiable, essential part of healing from betrayal and deception, in tandem with my kick-ass therapist. I can honestly say that without Tracy and this blog, I would not have been able to climb the mountain and gotten where I am. My pit crew is my sobriety, my 12 step meetings, trusted friends, a great therapist, AND THIS BLOG. I thank all of you. ♥️
Yes, sounds familiar.
My ex blew up the marriage over many years and then took off twice, making the second one long-distance. I was supposed to overlook that and blindly reconcile, which involved cutting off everything here and relocating. His family was calling that the “only” path forward. In desperation, he let it slip over the phone that he would need to be in charge of my cell phone and computer if we reconciled. Hello, coercive control! I was already very much no longer wanting to be with him, but that, along with some other things that came to light around then, tipped it for me. I emailed him, “No reconcilation ever.”
I refused to reconcile, and he eventually kicked off the messy divorce after “crying and crying.” Last I knew, years later now, he’s still crushed in some ways about the end of our marriage, and 100% blames me. He also blames me for not forcing our adult kids to remain in contact with him. As if I could control young adults who live elsewhere with their own phones and emails?
But emotionally healthy human beings don’t tolerate all he put me through. I had enough insights to know that and then had enough in me to hire a superstar attorney when my STBX promised “quick and easy.” Completely the right call. And then we configured the settlement so I’d not have to be in contact with my ex any longer than necessary. I was all business in closeout, truly “boring as heck” as my attorney recommended. And eventually, my ex gave up on stirring the pot. It’s been a while now since we heard from him.
The marriage had to end, period. No regrets that way.
You made the right call. FW during wreckonciliation suggested we uproot ourselves to start over fresh but what it would have done is cut me off from support systems, my job, kids from their school friends. It would have only benefited FW sociopath and made me easier to control, made it easier to play charming sparkle dick with new people who don’t know what he’s done, and perhaps ultimately easier to have me “disappear” as FW fantasized
Yes, relocation wouldn’t have changed a thing and likely would have been dangerous for me. One of his siblings was the source of the false belief that “all” we needed to do was start over in a new place. How very naive!
My ex was even campaigning for the kids to quit college so we could “be a family again.” When I objected to that, he pointed out that there were colleges near the beach where he lived that they could attend to finish their degrees. But they were both in specialized programs at a nationally ranked school that aligned with their goals. One had obligations here that would be very expensive and difficult to relocate with. Post-college job opprotunies there would be very limited. There were actually signs that he was seeing them as young children who desperately “needed” him, so it’s no wonder.
Nah. I leaned into the buzzsaw. It had to end.
Let’s keep in mind…the cheater DOES NOT MISS YOU, they miss what YOU DID for them. I’m sure my #2 cheater misses my cooking, the healthy smoothies I made, the pay check I provided until I retired and no longer made the big bucks. I’m sure he misses our shared family that he traded in for a new cultural wife from the Phillipines . Sure he “misses” but he doesn’t miss me. If I ever lost my mind and took cheater #2 back, he would improve his lying and cheating skills and still not respect my womanhood or who I am as a PERSON. I’d never be 20 years younger like his new side piece wife and I’d always have to look over my shoulder for him to dump me again. Keith does not miss Nicole, he misses her sparkling beside him. Now he’s an ordinary man. Hold tight Nicole, neither he nor Tom truly knew how to love. Save yourself for a better find who knows what love is…or BETTER YET, shine in your own light and date up a storm. Have fun now!! Keith was a drain from day 1.
I wonder if he misses Nicole’s paychecks too? Maybe his music career isn’t going all that well. I have no idea; I’m not a country music fan.
DOAC- He might miss the light she shone on him and the warmth of her caring. But did he learn anything?
The more common outcome is the mail order bride drains him of resources while obtaining a greencard and dumps the aging FW. Seen it multiple times IRL.
It’s a transactional marriage
As far as I know, my ex has not remarried. However, a relative of his called me some time back, concerned that his latest lady friend was draining him financially and that he was even modifying his estate documents accordingly.
Well, not my committee. Sorry.
Before my father died, I suspected some of the women he was seeing were hitting him up for money. And after he died, we were unable to find some candlesticks that my grandmother gave my parents. My mom left them with him when she left. They were silver plated, but maybe one of the women thought they were solid silver. Idk, and it’s ancient history now. But some of them (women, not candlesticks) struck me as sketchy.
Archer, that’s fine by me because my cheater #2 hide ALOT OF MONEY that I never knew about. He embezzled from his dad. So let Ms Phillipines help herself!!!
Ah what delicious hunky comfort Russell Crowe must be 😁 hooray for Nicole!
Not so much.
Racist a$$hole;
https://www.smh.com.au/entertainment/movies/crowes-racist-insult-lead-to-punch-up-20021117-gdftuc.html
No remorse and lies about his violence towards hotel employee;
https://www.scrippsnews.com/entertainment/russell-crowe-addresses-phone-throwing-incident
Yikes did not know that about Russell
Wonder what Crowe’s long term gf makes of his doing emotional triage for Kidman.
After seeing an online comment the other day about how Nicole Kidman should play Renee Good in a biopic, I can’t help hijacking the thread a bit (after I’m done dry heaving).
A frequent subject discussed in this forum is fixing pickers, right? Maybe one day Kidman will stop acting as arty/humanizing window dressing for heinous people in general so she can start meeting more authentic types. I figure the stench from her expedient social ties to people like Rupert Murdoch — arguably one of the most destructive figures in global media and politics for the past fifty years– threw off her ability to sniff out lesser monsters.
I’m not saying she or anyone else deserves to be abused– the same reason I don’t think s@dists should be hired as de@th row guards where their potential victims might only be convicted murderers. But the company Kidman keeps makes her betrayal a little more along the lines of biblical irony than biblical tragedy.
The least serious irony is for a chump like Kidman to cuddle up with the ultimate adultery club, for instance playing godmother to Murdoch’s kids with OWife Wendi Deng while hanging out on Murdoch’s yacht with the FWitty Hugh Jackman. But the truly disgusting capitulation is for artists famed for roles in “egalitarian” films being cozy with one of the tactical and ideological engineers of the most dangerous antidemocratic, authoritarian, r*cist movements in the current century.
Of course, by that argument Murdoch would admittedly be quite a scary figure to cross since, as many witnesses and victims of January 6th riots attest, Murdoch and his spawn virtually hold violent mobs in their hands and can steer them in any direction and at any target. Nevertheless, some public figures flouted the risks and lived to tell. Anthony Hopkins has done pretty well for himself despite doing a vicious send-up of Murdoch as a malignant f*scist with his performance as the Murdoch-like villain in David Hare’s/Howard Brenton’s terrifying dark comedy Pravda.
Spoiler alert: as far back as the 1980s, Pravda presents Murdoch as the author of the modernized propaganda script casting nonviolent activists like Renee Good and other victims of state repression as “domestic terrorists.”
Cut and paste of scene from Pravda between “Larry,” a young stringer and “Phantom,” editor/henchman to Murdoch-like media boss:
Phantom: It’s a very nice story, Larry, well done.
Larry: Thank you.
Phantom: Have you been to Loch Fergus?
Larry: Oh yes Mr. Phantom. I was there right after it happened. Doesn’t that show?
Phantom: Let’s see. Let’s read this out.
Larry: Um [reading his own copy]… “Women who have recently formed a peace camp on Loch Fergus where the building of the Fork Lightening missile is soon to begin yesterday are recovering from a surprise attack by 200 policemen. The police mounted their attack at night in full riot gear and destroyed the camp in 25 minutes. 27 women were charged with various alleged minor offenses and subsequently spent the night in cells at Loch Fergus police station. Commenting on the surprise attack, Mrs. Mary Kingham, a thirty-four year old mother of two said, ‘I was dragged by the hair from my sleeping bag. I was thrown violently in the back of a van while being abused by a masked policeman.’ Last night two women were still being detained with serious injuries in Loch Fergus General Hospital…”
Phantom: Well, that’s good. That makes things very clear.
Larry: Thank you.
Phantom: The first rule of reporting is to distinguish between what was told to you and what you actually saw. Did you actually see them being pulled by the hair?
Larry: Um, no. But I did meet the women. There was blood. The hair had been torn away from the scalp!
Phantom: Yes. To be supercilious, Larry, a woman of that type, it is possible she tore her own hair out.
Larry: Yes, and kicked herself in the groin.
Phantom: Right, this is just a professional exercise to maintain standards. That’s all. “Women…” What sort of women? [scribbling] “Middle aged women.”
[Reading] “Peace Camp.” You’ll find on this paper that “peace camp” is always in inverted commas. You’ll find that in the style book [scribbling].
“Camp.” Camp implies facilities, showers, toilets. Camps are things you take the family to in Brittany. Call it a “Peace” inverted commas, “squat.” Better.
“Middle aged women who squatted illegally.” Better.
Do police really mount an attack? Surely they’re defending us, society. Themselves? So it’s “police defending themselves.”
“Destroyed”? No. “Cleared the site in 25 minutes.” That’s “quickly and efficiently.
This Mary Kingham. Do we know she’s still with her husband? Left her children I suppose to squat all over the road…
Larry: Well there’s no proof of that…
Phantom: No, abused by a what? A “masked policeman? What is this, South America, Larry? This piece is too long. Okay, Larry, you’re coming along.
Larry [under his breath] Pravda.
Phantom: What?
Make no mistake, the above scene is barely fictionalized and the updated brand of “manufacturing consent” reporting originated directly from Murdoch who has nearly single handedly reset the entire media bar in h*ll. The more Murdoch (and now his sons) emerges as the latter day Joseph Goebbels/Julias Streicher, the more any public figure or celeb sucking up to him looks like the N* zi collaborator character Hendrik Hofgen from another prophetic 80s masterpiece, Mephisto (interview with Mephisto director Istvan Szabo on the film’s present relevance: https://www.theguardian.com/film/2025/dec/18/istvan-szabo-nazi-actor-mephisto)
Some might have thought Kidman’s participation in the film Bombshell was a “brave stand” against Murdoch but, like The Loudest Voice (starring Crowe as Roger Ailes), the film merely played a table cloth trick to exonerate Murdoch and his sons from responsibility for the environment of sexual @buse at Fox News, shifting almost all the blame to active predators like Roger Ailes and pretending Murdoch’s championing of r@pe culture and patented victim-blaming spin had no bearing.
Anyway, end of rant. If ever there was a time for public figures to disavow certain political associations before the stain becomes permanent, it’s definitely now. They might even land in better company in the bargain.
I’m with you on this. Anyone who has a friendly relationship with the Dark One is an enemy of human decency. Chumping her was wrong, but I would argue that being friends with somebody as evil and destructive as Murdoch is an even greater wrong.
I’m for Shailene Woodley as Renee Good.
The Dark One is right. Murdoch has so much control of the narrative that even after Succession most people don’t understand that his fingerprints are all over the current debacle.
Ooh, my favorite– imaginary film casting.
Shailene Woodley is a lovely choice. Julia Garner might work too since she’s so good at disappearing into characters based on actual people and always seems to nail little regional peculiarities.
He regrets it so much that he recently moved in with his 26 year old side piece.
Yeeeaaah I’m not sure somebody with a record for multiple acts of violence and for making racial slurs against aboriginal people is an improvement over a FW, guys. Crowe is a massive a$$hole.
Yeah, I’ve been scrolling through the comments and shocked that everyone thinks Crowe’s a good guy. He has a long, documented career of being an a-hole.
Ugh! I didn’t know. God, people are disappointing.
I do see some irony in this though as Nicole Kidman’s most recent push into the spotlight was her glorification of infidelity and abuse in the movie babygirl.
He regrets it, but not as much as he will 1n 15 years when he is 73 and homewrecker is 41, boinking the poor guy, and waiting for him to die so she spend what remains of his money and find someone her own age.
Supposed to be “pool guy”