Kristin Cabot Files for Divorce
Kristin Cabot, of Cold Play concert busted cheater fame, just filed for divorce. People are wondering why her husband didn’t file first.
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You all recall the global schadenfreude when workplace affair partners Andy Byron and Kristin Cabot got caught canoodling on a Jumbotron. As a result of the exposure, they both lost their jobs, and now Kristin Cabot has filed for divorce from her husband Andrew Cabot.
Why did she file?
Why not her husband? Well, according to the tea spilled by Andrew Cabot’s second wife Julia, he couldn’t be bothered.
Legal documents obtained by the Daily Mail reveal that she filed the petition at a court in Portsmouth, New Hampshire, on August 13, less than a month after her embarrassing moment with Byron went viral.
“I texted Andrew right after it happened, and he said: ‘Her life has nothing to do with me,’ and said they were separating,” Andrew’s ex-wife, Julia, told the news outlet.
Apparently, their marriage had been on the rocks for some time before the incident, with Andrew playing it cool upon learning that his wife had become the subject of global ridicule while he was on a business trip to Japan.
“He’s saying it has nothing to do with him, even though they were married and shared a house. But then, the only thing he cares about is money,” Julia continued.
Ooh. If I were to use my Chump Lady powers of deduction, I’d guess that Julia was chumped by Andrew and she’s got a lot of ha-fucking-ha about now. But given the short marriage and how quickly it followed his first divorce, Julia could also be a disillusioned Schmoopie. First wife Maud Cabot, and mother of Andrew’s children, probably has a double helping of ha-fucking-ha.
Not a ‘nice person’
Elsewhere in her chat with the Daily Mail, Julia painted a bad picture of Kristin’s estranged husband, Andrew, stating that he is “not a nice person.”
“Now something not nice [has] happened to him,” she continued. “That’s why after it happened, I got loads of texts from people with that word: karma. It was like: what you give, you get.”
She added, “Personally, I don’t think he’s affected by what happened at all. I don’t think his feelings are hurt. He’s probably embarrassed, if anything.”
Yet, apparently not embarrassed enough to file for divorce himself. Then again, if you’re into impression management, you probably don’t want a third divorce, with each marriage getting progressively shorter.
Kristin Cabot not ‘wife material’?
According to the news outlet, Andrew and Kristin tried mediation to restore the spark in their marriage, but that seemed to have proved abortive.
“I wouldn’t say he’s husband material, but she doesn’t seem like wife material either,” Julia added.
Oh, I don’t know about that. If Andy Byron wanted another wife appliance, I’m sure Kristin Cabot would be the first to line up. After the OnlyFans girlfriends, of course. (Allegedly, Andy Byron has quite the online paid girlfriend habit.)
Byron’s marriage is apparently rocky, but I haven’t seen any credible reporting that his wife Megan Kerrigan is leaving him. Which makes Kristin Cabot’s divorce all the more interesting. FWs usually monkey branch. It’s pretty unlikely that Cabot would divorce to be alone and work on her issues. Being a mistress, it’s more likely that Byron made promises to her and now she’s waiting for him to do that thing he promised — leave his marriage for her.
After all, the world has seen their love.
We need a new narrative stat! What will end the mortification? What could convince everyone that their love is SPECIAL? Dumping their partners for each other!
Oh, you go first, says Andy.
I wonder how long Kristin will be waiting. For Andy, a new love or a new job? Seems like a bad gamble. But then publicly making out with your boss seemed pretty dumb too.
They Suck.
Oh shoot. I thought I read that Megan Kerrigan had filed for divorce. But I must be wrong because I’m sure Tracy checked her facts.
If you have a credible link, share it. Beyond taking back her name online, I couldn’t find any reporting that she’s actually filed for divorce. Maybe the RIC unicorns got her?
No, I can’t find a credible link. So your facts are correct. There’s a lot of speculation as to whether or not they’ll divorce and as to what Ms. Kerrigan’s settlement could be. But no solid facts from a credible source.
I do hope she’s not attempting reconciliation. Maybe she’s working with her lawyer on a settlement. I hope!
Every time you think that this dumpster fire couldn’t get any tackier, it goes and does just that …. it’s as if tackiness has developed a form of perpetual motion. Some people should remember that the best thing to do when you are in a hole is stop digging.
LFTT
Agree. Social media has destroyed whatever vestiges of decorum people had left. Attention is now a form of currency.
OHFFS,
Sadly, the ideas of “maintaining a dignified silence” and “keeping a low profile” are lost on a lot of these people.
LFTT
So true. So many people make a situation worse by responding and trying to “shut down” talk on the Internet and social media. Refusing to respond is also a way to shut it down.
I recall one of the notes I found on D-day. It was klootzak writing a note while on a flight in anticipation of sending it to an AP later. In it, he talks about how he thinks he is clinically depressed because she apparently didn’t think he was good long term relationship material. Gee, I can’t imagine why someone who knows you are cheating on your spouse wouldn’t consider you good long term relationship material.
The fact that his second wife made these statements makes me think he was a cheater and wife #3 may have been an AP before, also. Surprised, anyone?
It’s always been my theory about Kristin Cabot she was involved with Andrew’s company before
AP in my case did the same: left/divorced her husband first. I’m sure on the promise that FW would soon follow suit. She proceeded to wait over 4 years (including through our wreckonciliation which lasted 3 months). I’m sure FW blamed me for the drawn out process. However, HE was the one dragging his feet on the divorce HE asked for and HE filed for (he finally filed after 3.5 years, because he got wind from his attorney that my lawyer was preparing my petition; I was sick of waiting for him to do something, and even though I hadn’t wanted the divorce, I was so done). FW took ages to respond to letters or requests for materials (if he responded at all), and wasted time and money on a whole lot of nonsense. My lawyer posited that FW didn’t actually want to commit to schmoopie, and as long as we were legally married, he didn’t have to.
I found out well after the fact that it was actually schmoopie’s husband that filed, citing abandonment. I think he caught on to the affair before I did. Schmoopie paints her leaving as a heroic act of bravery, but I think her ex kicked her out.
Oh, I had a friend like that. He kept them both on the hook (despite have a baby with AP) for…years. My friend was complicit – because if they don’t divorce, he can’t remarry. Then he dragged his feet until the AP threatened to leave. They were all…exhausting.
I’m sure your FW did indeed blame you. “My wife won’t give me a divorce!” Ha. How can anybody believe that these days? I guess because they want to.
As my mom used to say while in the process of divorce, nowadays, in the US anyway, if you want a divorce, you can get one. You may take a (metaphorical) beating on the settlement, and you may not get the custody and child support arrangement you want. But you CAN get a divorce.
Since she painted it that way, I’d consider it proof positive she was indeed kicked out on her caboose.
She loves to play the victim. She and FW had that in common.
Nearly all narcissistic cheaters have that in common IME
i think there are narratives being spun on a variety of levels here. i mean, the guy was cucked in a wildly public way.
He really was and we don’t know that he deserved it.
May we all have the attitude of Julia when it comes to hearing about our exes. “Wow, that’s crazy. Oh well. He sucked anyways.” And moving on with our life.
I think FWs should be the ones to file for divorce. They’re unhappy enough to go out and betray their spouse so file already. I do pretty good day to day and I’m happy for the most part. But I still get angry when I think about how I had to do f*cking everything. He couldn’t even be arsed to talk to a lawyer, he expected me to do research for him. He wouldn’t even pack his sh*t to get out of our apartment. It also supported the “you’re the one who wanted the divorce, you filed!” bullsh*t because I had to file while he threatened my life and talked about how much he hated me and couldn’t wait to be free of me.
It was like he beat the hell out of me and then everybody peed on me to punish me for it. I’m p*ssed about that. I was going through hell and I had to be the one to do everything while he acted like a violent child. They are such useless cowards. I’m glad she filed. She obviously hated her husband enough to publicly humiliate him so she should put on her big girl panties and put HER energy and time into ending the divorce. Her money too, hopefully. She really should have done it before she decided to be disgusting and expose him to disease but better late than never.
Thinking back on it, I was also the one to take action…which was motivated completely by fight/flight on my part in trying to make sure that I, my baby, and my dog would be secure in the transition out of that lie (lucky for him that he happened to be part of that equation by default). I took his inaction to be the inertness/depression that resulted from his chickens coming home to roost, but it was more likely that since the jig was up there was squat to do – I made a terrible mess, let someone else clean it up. So representative of how much any of us actually meant. Also agree that it nicely gave the look of wife filed for divorce, wife ended/didn’t want to work in the marriage, etc. Lovely RVO look for any DARVOing in whatever story he opted to concoct subsequently.
Cabot wife#2 alludes to him being one of “the” Cabots (“Brahmin”). But, if he was high on the Cabot pecking order, she’d be restrained from trashing him by an NDA or some gaggle of lawyers on retainer so he’s probably what Sarah Manguso refers to as a “Swamp Yankee”– basically some far-flung relation and Brahmin in name only.
Then again, it’s not like the designation of “Brahmin” is real anyway. The nastiness and backstabbing in those circles never surprises me since the quasi Calvinist view that the rich are favored by God not to mention the divine right/eugenic view that humans can be ranked in castes are just nasty belief systems– basically delusional narcissism expressed as social order. Anyone who buys into this bs automatically becomes infected with the asshole virus.
Not an Eastern seaboard person so I don’t know what is what however Andrew not so nice Cabot and FW Kristin recently bought a two million dollar second home, so he’s definitely got some of that Cabot money!
It sounds like a lot but that’s a drop in the bucket compared to what the super-rich spend on property in the region for one of many global destination summer homes they spend two weeks in a year.
I enjoy your posts HOAC and I’m not jumping down your neck – but while there *are (sadly) prosperity-doctrine crazies who go for that stuff, I’m not sure I’d blame Calvin. Marilynne Robinson has a good line in unpicking things which Calvin gets blamed for which aren’t really Calvinism (and she would know) – she’s a great writer, I think you might enjoy her. Gilead is brilliant IMV, but that’s fiction and it’s more her essays I’m thinking of. cheers, Marcus
I never mind geeking out on specialized topics so thank you for the resources. Poor Adam Smith gets a bad rap as well.
I dunno, the who files first thing can get pretty scrambled. Some people wait until the terms are negotiated and then file for privacy reasons. We saw that in the Gates and Bezos divorces.
In mine, my STBX wanted to file for his own twisted reasons. I personally didn’t see any significance to that. He had burned down marriage and family, and it was over in my mind. I could have filed, but he had to pay his attorney more to do that. Negotiations were messy and ugly, with threats of a trial, but we ultimately secured a signed agreement. He filed with that. I signed a statement that the marriage was beyond repair with all of the proper legal language. The judge signed off, and we eventually got the closeout done. All had to be.
Certain people in my old church made a big deal about my ex-filing, saying it made me innocent. I didn’t see it that way. I went along with the end of the marriage and ultimately signed, agreeing. I was willing to file all along, but didn’t need to. Not agreeing would have required a trial with more expense and delays. Nah, just get me divorced.
My current church doesn’t care who files. The marriage had to end; there you are.
“Certain people in your old church” had too much time to run their mouths about other people’s business.
That’s a lot of why I left. As I told a friend this afternoon, I got weary of all the arrows shot at me and wanted to just feel good about church again.
I went to a co-ed book club at my new church tonight that is run by a retired English teacher and her husband. It was a HOOT. Solid discussion and debate, a very mixed group. They are such a great couple, and everyone there was so very friendly.
I think this was exactly why I didn’t think about it at the time. I just knew I had to get out. (He was “out” the whole time, unbeknownst to me, so what did it matter to him at that point?)
I think my ex wanted to file as a statement, but who knows. The marriage was dead.
His brother (very patriarchal) ranted at times about women who filed for divorce, so it was kinda ironic that my ex filed.
The result is what counted in my book.
This whole fiasco is reinforcing my belief that the ultra-rich simply are not good people.
A friend of mine was married to someone like that. He literally never held a job during their entire marriage, and bought another house with cash when they separated. The divorce took three years and was a mess, but eventually he agreed to a reasonable settlement. He paid all of the legal fees. And yes, he was a FW too.
Let’s talk impression management here for everyone. Looking out for #1 paramount. Deals for books, movies and interviews. Maybe start a blog or podcast. Let’s please recall CENTRALITY, entitlement and arrogance. Let’s please not forget our chump lessons,these people are not wired from birth, to care about YOUR feelings or the world’s notice. Shame, guilt are not found in any cell.. just ME ME ME. The only one who learns from any kind of Karma( which I do not subscribe to) Are chumps who still feel. I recall in Little House on the Prairie and Bonanza fame Michael Landon, had an affair on his first wife with his second wife, then had an affair on his 2nd wife, the old AP, with his 3rd 19 year old girlfriend turned wifetress. He was happy, she was happy, sorry about the wake of crying ladies.
Those involved do not care what anyone thinks…it’s only about survival of “ME”and me feeling worshipped and adored.. Let’s listen to Tracy, our CL and not ascribe human feelings to reptiles. 🐍They are not in the same wheelhouse and don’t learn from anything that happens to them. The sooner chumps understand( the interview this week with CL with Dr Peter Salerno was such an eye opener!!!) We need to learn this most of all. Cheaters DO NOT CARE.
It’s all about entitlement, isn’t it? That, and weakness.
Or a conscious choice…….in your face.
1000% this
I let my FW file. I left him, but once he was out of the house and agreed to pay temporary alimony there was no rush for me to divorce. It was financially advantageous to him, not me. But, our divorce went through in record time and I don’t really care how he spins the fact that he filed to his circle. I’m sure it’s a really good tall tale.
To all cheaters involved in this story (and it is sadly rife with fuckwittery): Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
AKA “F*ck around and find out.” Literally.
Why is she texting an ex she obviously loathes? Could be she’s an ex schmoopie who was hoping to get back together with him when she heard the news of the divorce, but he turned her down, hence the public outing of him as an asshole for revenge. At any rate, her behaviour is tacky, even if he is an asshole. She hasn’t exactly covered herself in glory either since she’s using this shit show of a story to garner attention for herself. It’s gross how normalized it’s become to air your dirty laundry for all the world to see.
Anything that advances the message of CN that infidelity is abuse and cheaters are FW, I’m in support of 100%!
If anyone think she’s tacky so be it. I’m sick of pervasive social pressure to stay quiet and cover up for FW spun as ‘taking the high road’ or staying classy or some other BS.
When chumps are sitting wondering “why “. This is a great example of who they are, how they think. Regardless of what they projected, or you believed they lack all empathy, character and basic humanity
Our couples therapist told me I should not call what my FW was doing, his affair, stupid or dumb. I just told her – sorry, to ME it’s stupid to give up everything you have (30 years of marriage, people that love and hold you in high esteem, a house, pets, income, kids, 401(k), etc.) for a temporary thrill and a little bit of attention. Completely fucking stupid. My FW was sitting right next to me at the time and all the therapist did was a little shrug. He didn’t say a word either. Apparently it was worth it to him, even though I asked him that right after that couples “therapy”…”was it worth it?” “No, nothing is worth it.”
Then why do it? He had no answer for that.
That’s a lie. Of course it was worth it to them, it was fun and exciting. They just didn’t think they would get caught. And of course, he doesn’t want to say it was worth it because impression management. It would make him look even worse to everyone if he admitted “enjoying it”, on top of everything he’d done. Right?
Wish my ExFW would have been caught in that manner, on the big Jumbo Tron, as his AP was heckin FUGLY with a capital F. Talk about embarrassing…
The whole bunch of them–horrible.