Wow. What a year. Yesterday was my D-Day anniversary. Watching her come home drunk, high, with another man all night and then watching her puke in the toilet for the next four hours is a sight and memory that no spouse should ever have to see or try to forget.
I remember that she never looked the same again. She never looked like the woman of our wedding day. This was a person that I didn’t know. Yet over the past year this is the person that she is.
I didn’t trust your advice at the start. I think newbie chumps think it’s their fault, that if they tried harder or listened better none of this would have happened. But that is just fucking tricking yourself. Cheating isn’t a mistake, it’s a choice and a reflection of character. I was in the same relationship and didn’t cheat. She choose to lie, cheat and steal and has continued on this path every day of her life over the past year.
I’m fortunate in that Karma came quick for her. She lost her daughter, her job, got used by Shrek and fucked her best friend’s abusive ex-husband. You were so right. She is a person that is chasing something she can never get and destroys everyone in her path. She isn’t capable of love. People are objects to be used and discarded. This was true evil — a borderline/sociopath with no conscious, boundaries or remorse. And she hasn’t hit rock bottom yet. I pray for the safety of her kids when this happens.
Tomorrow ironically is my court date for the No Contact order to go away. Not sure if she will be there but if she is, I will hold my head up high and know that I left a cheater and gained a life.
Thank you Tracy and Chump Nation. Not sure what I would have done without you!
Eddie (the WTF Dude)
Hey, I’m posting your letter to help chumps who aren’t quite as far along on the journey. You’re a living example of Trust That They Suck.
Glad things are on the upswing for you — and good luck tomorrow in court. Chump Nation is rooting for you.