He says he doesn’t want to lose his family, that he’ll do whatever it takes. This is the second time he’s been caught with escorts. He says I’m the only person he loves, it was just sex, and if I won’t do it for him, then do it for the kids. He knows I love our kids and would rather cut off my arm than hurt them. It feels manipulative because it is, but at the end of the day, do I stay for the kids? If so, how long? They are 12 and they adore him.
Oh I see, this all rests on YOU. Don’t hurt the children, Amy! Don’t break up their happy home! Don’t do anything to destroy their adoration! What a monster you are, Amy.
I suppose you made him fuck those escorts. Gave him your credit card, did you? Cleared his schedule for him?
He’s been caught TWICE. (And God only knows how many more escort occasions you didn’t discover.) When first offered the saving grace of doing “whatever it takes”, he responded by fucking more escorts. His whatevers have been exhausted. If you take him back, expect more cheating.
He says I’m the only person he loves,
He is the only person he loves.
People who love you don’t risk your health or disrespect you with lies. People who love you don’t hold your children hostage so you’ll enable their hooker habit.
it was just sex,
So this trifling sex thing was so insignificant that he was willing to risk his marriage and children’s intact home? Wow. Imagine the destruction he could wreak if he cared.
UBTed this translates to “Accept my entitlement.”
and if I won’t do it for him, then do it for the kids.
And the kids need to accept it too. Shit sandwiches for everyone!
NO AMY. Just NO.
You matter. Your health matters. Your sanity matters.
You are not required to be a martyr to this marriage. You do not have to keep handing out chances like people throw candy from parade floats.
You do not have to guard the children’s good opinion of him. Not. Your. Job. They can figure out their father for themselves with the fullness of who he really is. That is their relationship to work out, not yours.
Your job is to love yourself enough not to accept abuse or model it to your children.
No one grows up healthy on a diet of shit sandwiches. Lawyer up, Amy. Your husband can go fuck himself. Or an escort. #itsjustsex