I had such an inspiring day yesterday, and it was a Tuesday, of course! If you’re wondering about the significance of Tuesday, it’s a buzzword here. People often ask me, “When does the pain stop?” and I tell them “Tuesday.”
I don’t know which Tuesday, I only know that your Tuesday is out there.
Tuesday is an article of faith at Chump Lady. Swear to God, there will come a day when you’ve got dry eyes and the fuckwit no longer has the power to hurt you. You’ll remember, like childbirth, that it was painful, and you might have a few scars in intimate places, but the actual agony is a thing of the past. And best of all — you birthed a new life.
The other great thing about Tuesdays is that they’re ordinary. Tuesdays are not freaky or celebratory or significant, they’re just Tuesdays. Maybe you have an orthodontist appointment. Tuesday is regular life. After all the high drama of infidelity, Tuesday can feel pretty revolutionary.
So speaking of Tuesdays and revolutions… here’s why I had an amazing Tuesday yesterday.
Firstly, I got to interview one of my great personal heroes — South African legal legend and anti-apartheid warrior Albie Sachs. Few people can rival the life trajectory of this man, so if you need some inspiration, Google now. Sachs passed the Bar at age 21 to become an anti-apartheid activist and human rights lawyer. (Which essentially meant a life of constant danger and harassment. The guy spent 168 days in solitary confinement once.) In 1966, he went into exile, and in 1988 the South African security forces tried to assassinate him with a car bomb.
They nearly succeeded.
He lost an eye and the blast blew off his right arm. Now that might discourage a person, but no, Albie Sachs went on to write the motherfucking Constitution for a new South Africa.
Now chumps, I want you to think about that for a moment. When he was writing the new Constitution (with ONE ARM) there was NO new South Africa. There was just the old hateful, on-the-brink-of-civil-war apartheid South Africa. He (and millions of others) fought to make a new South Africa a reality. He spent a lot of years in exile IMAGINING a better world.
Our story isn’t finished. Then, this one-eyed, one-armed scrappy superhero, comes BACK to South Africa as Nelson Mandela’s Constitutional Court nomination. (That’s like our Supreme Court here in the U.S.) Meditate on that — those people who tried to destroy him? He RULES over them. He is the literal instrument of JUSTICE. And the democracy that he imagined is now a real place.
So talking to Albie Sachs? Pretty fucking amazing. At the end of the Skype interview he waved at me with his stubby, blown-off arm and I nearly broke down in tears. But CN, that wasn’t the BEST part of my day. The BEST part of my Tuesday, January 16, 2018 was this letter and the photo that accompanied it:
Dear Chump Lady
I am one of the silent followers of Chump Lady. D-Day was 18 months ago whilst I was 5 months pregnant, the main bread winner, with a 2.5 year old at home too…you get the idea.
Something that you often discuss that has resonated with me since day one, is your reference to ‘Tuesday’.
So I wanted to share that after I picked myself up off the floor, gave birth to my son and eventually bought a house for myself and my children…I had the light below commissioned.
Now my Tuesday is definitely not here yet (and the light is not switched on), but it makes me feel calm to walk past it every day and think one day it will arrive, and I will turn it on!
A big thank you.
Tuesday is coming, folks. Turn your lights on.