Category: Gain a life

How to Survive Solo Holidays

Today’s post goes out to anyone who’s feeling a bit morose about being single at the holidays. Why should I feel morose, Tracy? HUH? Are …

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Your Chump Friendships

Some of the best emails I get are from folks who meet fellow chumps and become friends. Like this one: The Dallas area chumps had …

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How Did You Mentally Survive Infidelity?

Dear Chump Lady, I have been thinking for a while about sending this email to you. So here goes, thank you, thank you, for your …

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Mother Jones

Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump

Today, in honor of Labor Day weekend, I’m rerunning this column about Mother Jones. Raise a glass to hard-fought child labor laws and the 8-hour …

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Leave a Cheater, Gain a Bradley Cooper

CN, I don’t know how I missed this news nugget in July. (I was probably in Michigan, weeding my mother’s garden.) But remember back when …

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Waiting for karma

Why Is the Cheater Living His Best Life And I Am Not?

Hi, Chump Lady, How do I get past the idea that somehow he and the affair partner are out there living a happy carefree life? …

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mindfuck

Chumped with a Cheating Friend

Dear Chump Lady, I am four years out from D-day and three years out from divorce, and I am finally at the point where my …

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Only Fools Break Tiffany Glass Windows

This is a column I wrote awhile aback about knowing your worth, and how many beautiful things get destroyed  — not because they aren’t beautiful — …

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freedom

A Chump Declaration of Independence

Overthrowing tyrants? Boldly striking out to chart a new life? Chumps have Independence Day down. Today I’m rerunning this proclamation by CN member KibblesNBits. Please add your …

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Where Do You Get Your Mighty?

Authentic Chump, whose leave-a-cheater, gain a career and new home, story was featured in Tuesday’s column, had a suggestion for a Friday Challenge. I was …

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Gain a Life Tuesday: Karma and Trading Up

On Tuesdays we occasionally feature great Tuesday (The Day The Pain Stops) stories. “Nancy” posted this on a private page and it was too good not …

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Tell Me How You’re Mighty

Hi CN. It’s time for another mightiness check in. I thought about heavier topics, but isn’t the world enough right now? Or my TV review …

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away

How to Tolerate Ex in Close Proximity

Dear Chump Lady, I’m writing in hopes of finding some fresh advice. Quick backstory: My story is the same old, same old. Multiple D-days, lots …

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My Ex Wants to Live in My Basement

Dear Chump Lady, My husband of 28 years gave me the speech 5 years ago.  He loved me, but was not in love with me, …

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meh

Getting Through ‘The Slog’

We have a new series. On Tuesdays (“the day the pain stops”) members of Chump Nation share their gain-a-life stories. Today’s Tuesday tale is from …

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Candi Staton

CL Recommends: Candi Staton

A rare Sunday post from me. I think every now and then about featuring best chump songs, and we’ve done playlist posts, but I had …

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zombie

Closure and Other Myths

It must be part of the part of the human condition to want closure. Either that or we’ve all watched too much Law & Order. …

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mindfuck

When the OW’s Kid Insults You

Dear Chump Lady, I am 4 years past D-Day and after the shock, getting past all the manipulation (really I’m a gold digger!? then where …

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The Moment You Knew You Were Mighty?

Today’s Friday Challenge is inspired by this week’s Humans of New York feature. Venus’s story could be lifted out of CN. Please check it out …

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Left a Cheater, Gained a Few Nightmares

Hi there Chump Lady, I have been following chump lady for two years now and more than anything else your book helped me recover from …

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