So you were chumped. So you’re angry as hell about it. What GOOD thing did that anger make you do? I’m not talking about creating a funeral pyre of all your cheater’s things and dancing around it. We’re not about revenge scenarios here. I’m talking about the kind of righteous anger that creates showdowns with […]
Chump Emancipation Proclamation
Hey, every day is a good day to overthrow tyrants, but a happy American Independence Day to you all! On the Independence theme, KibblesNBits wrote this a couple years ago, and I thought it was worth a rerun. Tell me in the comments what you’re doing for emancipation from fuckwits. Happy July 4 everyone! *** Dear […]
Unspouse Your House?
HGTV has a new show out “Unspouse Your House” — remodeling post-breakup as therapy. I’m totally onboard with this concept. Producers, call us. Chump Nation could give a master class. Raise your hand if you bought new bed linens after D-Day? Extra credit if you burned the bed. “What you think about what you deserve […]
Dear Chump Lady, I discovered my new friend is an OW
Dearest Chump Lady, You pulled me through my darkest days when I found out my husband was cheating. Your blog was my sanity and North Star. It pointed me towards a new life, one that is now free from fear, chaos, gaslighting, lies, and all the other horrible things that go along with being married […]
What Do You Tell Yourself?
Dear Chump Lady, What do all the mighty people tell themselves when it’s too much? When you’re struggling for air? When not even your family understands? When you’re not allowed to complain? When you can’t show weakness? (After all, anything that can be used against you in court, WILL be.) When your kids fall for […]
Dear Chump Lady, Does it really get better?
Dear Chump Lady, Does it really get better, or is that just another lie that people tell chumps to cut down on the suicide stats? My STBX was a Boy-Scout-leading, Sunday-school-teaching, neighbor-helping pillar of our community, right up until the day I walked in on him and his skank in my guest room. He lied and […]
What’s the Right Thing to Say?
When you go through some shit in life, there are those who say the wrong things (“Your messy hair drove him to it”) and those who say the right things (“Your hair is awesome. He’s an idiot.”) More important, however, are the people who DO the right things. What they say might be awkward. They […]
Is Betrayal ‘The Best Thing That Ever Happened to You’?
Dear Chump Lady, Thank you for supporting so many betrayed people. I’m 1 month from D-day. A reader submitted a comment on a recent article, “I’m going to make this the best thing that ever happened to me.” That angle is so interesting because infidelity is often the worst thing that has ever happened to […]
What Are You Taking Back?
In the early days after being chumped, the world often feels like a field of landmines. You step about carefully, so as not to set off the trip wire of Affair Objects of Great Significance. Motorola cell phones, BMWs, the crappy hotel chains of Harrisburg, Pa. Totems by which the affair was conducted. Polluted things, […]
Dear Chump Lady, How do I stop comparing myself to the OW?
Dear Chump Lady, I am five months out from the last Dday. I did not do the pick me dance, I drew boundaries and protected myself by kicking his ass to the curb. The OW was older than me (11 years older than me and X) and had actually helped me with the relationship, until […]
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