So the other day we shared our mortifying, hallucinogenic hopium trips. Many of us (raising my hand) wrote humiliating letters entreating our exes to recommit to the marriage, or we hard sold them on our children or ourselves, or made cringe-worthy promises that we would change if only the cheater would quit cheating. We accepted […]

Following up on “rage plumbing” and other acts of mightiness from last week, let’s talk about that Gain A Life thing. Fact is, it takes money to leave a cheater. It’s hard to Gain A Life without gaining a job. Maybe you have a job, or a fat settlement and today’s post doesn’t apply to […]

So you were chumped. So you’re angry as hell about it. (See yesterday’s post.) What GOOD thing did that anger make you do? I’m not talking about creating a funeral pyre of all your cheater’s things and dancing around it. We’re not about revenge scenarios here. I’m talking about the kind of righteous anger that […]

Newly liberated chumps often struggle with freedom. It seems a crazy thing to write — Freedom? I LOVE FREEDOM! — what’s not to love? But a lot of gaining a life is realizing that “chump” is no longer in your job description. What now fills the place where an entitled, impossible-to-please fuckwit used to stand? […]

Inspired by Dianne Bentley, the badass who sent the governor of Alabama to his doom, today’s Friday challenge is tell Chump Nation about the champion chumps who inspire you. What unsung heroes should we know about? Do you have a great-grandmother who left a cheater and gained a life? A friend who walked this path […]

It’s time once again for another mightiness check! To any newbies, every few months or so, I check in with Chump Nation for tales of overcoming infidelity adversity. In those early days of post-discovery, showering and eating a tuna sandwich (solid food!) is an accomplishment. That counts. Don’t be shy. Meh may feel light years away, […]