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‘Replaced’ and Still Feels Empty

December 14, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, I was married for almost 30 years, have one now grown daughter, and I’m in my 60s. I managed to survive serial cheating and lots of other abuse. My daughter and I were immediately replaced with a new younger OW and a younger OD (other daughter) and other dog! I got back […]

Filed Under: Divorce, Gain a life Tagged With: Gain a Life, Life post-cheater

A Gain a Life Update… and Some Schmoopie Karma

December 2, 2020 by Chump Lady

You might recall a UBT from last May, when the OW sent our chump a Mother’s Day card, admonishing her to be best. Civility is for the children! That was a chuckle. Well, the other day on Facebook, our intrepid chump, Debbie, posted an update to her story, and tagged me. With Debbie’s permission, I’m […]

Filed Under: Gain a life Tagged With: Gain a Life, karma

Old Crazy? New Tradition!

November 27, 2020 by Chump Lady

Post-Thanksgiving, I thought it might be fun to compare Old Holiday Dysfunction with New Holiday Tradition. Don’t have any new traditions? Make some up! For example: Old Holiday Dysfunction (OHD) — Your drunk father-in-law rails on about One World Order conspiracies while his wife passive aggressively refuses to acknowledge your casserole. “Oh, I must’ve forgotten those roasted […]

Filed Under: Gain a life, Holidays Tagged With: Holidays, Holidays while divorced

Tell Me How You’re Mighty, COVID Edition 2.0

November 13, 2020 by Chump Lady

We haven’t done another round of Tell Me How You’re Mighty since this pandemic began. And as we’ve soldiered on (and on and on and on…) I want to know how the dragon-slaying is going. The divorces, the first steps, the new haircut, the kind teenager you raised. Whatever you’ve got in the Gain a […]

Filed Under: Gain a life Tagged With: COVID, Gain a Life, Mighty

My New Husband Is a ‘Sex Addict’

October 19, 2020 by Chump Lady

Hi Chump Lady, I’ve recently discovered my partner of 5 years and brand new husband is a sex addict. He has cheated on me in massage parlours and with escorts numerous times, and cheated on his ex-wife 20+ times (she didn’t know. I found the email trail. He’d been writing fucking REVIEWS of them!!) Once […]

Filed Under: Gain a life, Sex addiction Tagged With: Sex addiction

Returning to Caretake a Cheater Late in Life?

October 13, 2020 by Chump Lady

Dear Chump Lady, Yesterday I was speaking with a friend of mine who is now 82 and she mentioned she had moved to the nearby senior citizen home to take care of the person who had abandoned her for another woman. The abandonment took place over 30 years earlier. I wouldn’t be wondering about it, […]

Filed Under: Abandonment, Gain a life, No contact, What Not to Do Tagged With: Caretaking, Taking back a cheater

Chump Lady Slouches Toward Another Year

September 25, 2020 by Chump Lady

Today is my birthday and every year I rerun the first birthday column I wrote in 2012. It’s a meditation on craptacular chumpy birthdays, and what a difference a new life — and a new partner — makes. (Not that you can’t have the new life without a new partner. This always bears repeating.) Fair […]

Filed Under: Chump Lady, Gain a life Tagged With: 40th Birthday, Gain a Life, Life post-cheater

Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump

September 7, 2020 by Chump Lady

Today, in honor of Labor Day weekend, I’m rerunning this column about Mother Jones. Raise a glass to hard-fought child labor laws and the 8-hour workday and I’ll see you back here tomorrow! — Tracy I’m struck by how often the catalyst for an extraordinary life is loss. A friend of mine posts various nuggets […]

Filed Under: Gain a life, Uplifting stories Tagged With: Mighty, Mother Jones, Resilience

Tiffany Glass Windows

September 1, 2020 by Chump Lady

Hey, I’m rerunning a favorite today. Hi chumps! I’ve been on vacation with my family in Orlando, Florida for a few days. Yesterday my mother and I visited the Morse Museum in Winter Park, which if you find yourself in the Disney World orbit, I can highly recommend over rollercoasters, crowds, and uber-commercialized touristy crap […]

Filed Under: Gain a life Tagged With: Gain a Life

A Decade of Chump Love

August 13, 2020 by Chump Lady

Today is my 10-year wedding anniversary. I don’t generally blog about myself or the goings on at Chez Chump. But I thought I’d make an exception as I’ve got something to share in the Mighty column — I’ve been in a healthy marriage for a DECADE. I don’t suck at this. Mr. CL doesn’t suck […]

Filed Under: Chump Lady, Gain a life Tagged With: Gain a Life, Remarriage

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