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Chumped, Friendless, and Stuck

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Dear Lady Chump, This is my first time being a Chump. It sucks. I am in so much pain right now. I am 25 years old and this was my first serious relationship. We had been dating for 1 year and 3 months. Four days after moving in with him into our new place, I […]

‘I Left Him on the Side of the Road’

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Dear Chump Lady, My 4.5 year journey to divorce my ex finished in a German court at 9:41 on October 11th. It felt like my marriage was brought in on a gurney and then they called time of death. It was surreal. What I learned is that my ex is a walking cliche and that […]

I Still Have Joy

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Of all the hundreds of awesome suggestions last Friday for future columns, the topic of joy stood out. Enough with the gloom and anger, Chump Lady, tell me how I get up again. When am I going to laugh? More connect-the-dots on this Gain a Life thing. More happy. Less stabby. I hear you. In […]

Chump Lady Slouches Toward Another Year

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Saturday was my birthday and every year I rerun the first birthday column I wrote in 2012. It’s a meditation on craptacular chumpy birthdays, and what a difference a new life — and a new partner — makes. (Not that you can’t have the new life without a new partner. This always bears repeating.) Fair […]

D-Day Anniversary Benchmarks?

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Dear CL and CN, As I approach the one-year anniversary of D-day (September 26) I am taking time to reflect on what I did right and where I am. I’m proud that while I didn’t find LACGAL and CN until later, I didn’t make too many mistakes. I did dump him as soon as I […]

Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump

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Today, in honor of Labor Day weekend, I’m rerunning this column about Mother Jones. Raise a glass to hard-fought child labor laws and the 8-hour workday and I’ll see you back here tomorrow! — Tracy I’m struck by how often the catalyst for an extraordinary life is loss. A friend of mine posts various nuggets […]

Tell Me How You’re Mighty Pandemic Edition 3.0

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Well, I don’t know about you, but I could use a Chump Nation mightiness report. Hurricane Ida, Texas taking leave of its senses, month whatever of this pandemic — tell me something good. I’ll tell you something good! Remember our post this week from WishingforHappiness who is pregnant and suddenly widowed? Well, the CN bat […]

Rituals for New Lives?

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Today’s Friday challenge comes from ChumpAsItIs. She writes: My story is the same as many others, more than 20 years of marriage, ex-husband stepped away, did not know whether he wanted to stay with me, said he loved me but needed some time to think, you know, the usual tale. He was able to make me unknowingly […]

Rewrite Your Story?

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Hi Chump Lady,  D-Day 1 for me was in 2013. He was sleeping with a colleague; she was a divorce attorney in the midst of a divorce with another divorce attorney. They were “in love” and she was “amazing” and I would “really like her” if I weren’t so “jealous.” I pick-me-danced and “won” three […]