Today is part two of How Not to Get Chumped Again. Yesterday we discussed reciprocity, today we’re going to examine compatibility. I have to give my husband credit for this nugget o’ insight. He noticed the expression coming up again and again “Well, he looked good on paper…” People fall into this trap all the […]
Un-Chumping Post-Infidelity, A Primer
Since starting this blog, I’ve been asked several times in various different ways how I transformed into a happily married person after infidelity. Hey, you were such an epic chump — how did you ever trust anyone again? Did you fix your picker? Are you just stupid lucky? Where did you meet your husband? How […]
Dear Chump Lady, I don’t feel mighty. I got left.
Dear Chump Lady, Being the sleuthy sleuth I am, I discovered my husband of 15 years’ “emotional” affair (um yeah…her husband hired a private investigator that put that silly belief to rest) within days, since he suddenly went from sending about 300 texts a month to 7000 texts a month. All to my kids’ preschool […]
Who Was Your Infidelity Angel?
I was reading on Facebook and a friend of mine (a fellow former chump) had recently lost her mother. She requested that instead of flowers, to pay it forward for someone in need instead. If you’d like to give in honor of my Mom, she was a pay it forward type of person and she […]
I Want What She’s Having
There’s that famous scene in “When Harry Met Sally” at the delicatessen where Sally’s faking an orgasm to prove a point to Harry… and the older woman in a nearby booth deadpans, “I want what she’s having.” I was trying to think of a title for this morning’s Fun Friday challenge and that line popped […]
Chump Lady Slouches Toward Another Year
Well folks, today is my birthday and ever year I rerun the first birthday column I wrote here. It’ a meditation on craptacular chumpy birthdays, and what a difference a new life makes. Enjoy! And excuse me while I lounge in bed a bit longer in my PJs. — Tracy Well, I try not to […]
Rituals for New Lives?
Today’s Friday challenge comes from ChumpAsItIs. She writes: My story is the same as many others, more than 20 years of marriage, ex-husband stepped away, did not know whether he wanted to stay with me, said he loved me but needed some time to think, you know, the usual tale. He was able to make me unknowingly […]
Who You Thought You Were, Who You Really Are
So riffing on last Friday’s post “What You Thought It Was, What It Really Was,” I thought we might turn things on their head a bit and consider our self-perceptions — then and now. Who did you think you were then, living with a cheater — and who are you really? How deeply did you […]
Be a Hell Raiser, Not a Chump
Today, in honor of Labor Day weekend, I’m rerunning this column about Mother Jones. Happy Labor Day and see you back on Tuesday! — Tracy I’m struck by how often the catalyst for an extraordinary life is loss. A friend of mine posts various nuggets of history on Facebook and the other day she featured […]
New Life Tattoos Anyone?
New life, new ink? Tell me about your tattoos, real or imagined! Today’s Fun Friday challenge comes from my husband, pictured here in all his stubbly splendor, sporting his post-infidelity divorce tattoo, a 13. (Hey, that sounds like a Sesame Street lead in. “Today’s new life has been brought to you by the Number 13!“) […]
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