I am feeling particularly strong today and thought I’d like to share some encouragement for those just starting their journey. As a backstory, I’m almost four years post D-Day and a little over a year post divorce. When I think back to those first two years, when my world was chaos, it was always music and beauty that got me through.
I was thinking, it would be amazing to have everyone post the songs that got them through, to inspire the next crew. There were many songs I relied on to get me through, but today I was listening to Dua Lipa’s Salt. It is probably not a song for everyone, but together, we definitely have something to offer all tastes.
Also, for what it is worth, as an added encouragement, I was 40, professionally successful, by the accounts of others very attractive, a loving mother of three, and highly educated, when I discovered my ex was frequenting massage parlors for sexual favors. Cheaters cheat, not because of anything that us chumps are lacking. It is never about us. Never about something we were lacking. I know you say this regularly, but I’m saying it again, because it is so important to moving on.
Thank you for the encouragement for new chumps and for the Friday Challenge idea. I’d also like to know during these difficult times, what’s getting everyone through? What is the soundtrack of your mighty? Got a Spotify list?
To those of you on Spotify, I made my own little playlist below. Imagine you’re trapped in a car with your uncool aunt Chump Lady — this is what we’re listening to. (My tastes were anachronistic even when I was a young person. I spared you the high church Anglican choral music.) I could do lugubrious or righteous fuck off songs, but I put this together with positive YOU CAN DO IT vibes.
The final aria is Shemekia Copeland — a 7 minute triumph of “It Don’t Hurt No More.”
And that’s what I wish for everyone in this New Year. No more hurt. Better days ahead.
Happy New Year to you all!