Manipulation and boundary-crossing only succeeds if there’s a caring person there, capable of shame or empathy or feelings of responsibility.
You’re so selfish, I can’t believe you won’t change the custody schedule!
(Am I selfish? Am I being unreasonable?)
It’s good to ask yourself these questions, to be introspective, to strive for fairness. But you’re also allowed to say no. To not please. Or accommodate. Or give in. Or keep the peace. Or engage.
So today’s Friday Challenge is to share with CN how you enforced a boundary. Okay, so you turned down hosting book club this month. That’s a baby boundary. But maybe you’re out there dishing justice like Judge Maya Guerra Gamble to Alex Jones. “Don’t talk.”
Today’s challenge is courtesy of a comment “Josh” left at How Do They Flip So Fast?
Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries.
One of my favorite things is setting up boundaries and making it known that the only involvement we have is the kids, it’s so nice to say you’re not a part of life like you think you are. Nothing gets her going when she starts with a rude text and I get to say the conversation is over and you’re not a part of my life like that.
Well done, Josh!
More boundaries, CN?