Several alert chumps sent me the story this weekend of serial-cheater Army Lieutinent Colonel Richard Kane Mansir and his double life.
Three chumped women — his wife and two unwitting OW — banded together to take Mansir down and now the army is investigating.
That part of the story is amazing — the pluck and tenacity of these women, one of them 9 months pregnant! — the existence of a sociopathic cheater, not so much. Crazy Secret Life! headlines the Daily Beast story by Emily Shugerman.
I’ve been reading my blog for too long. The crazy is far too common. Dirty John? Shrug. This guy? Another freak who thought he was impervious to consequences. Until he wasn’t. Which is the sweet part.
Chelsea Curnutt didn’t plan to spend the day before her baby was due driving 16 hours to bang on the door of her fiancé’s parents’ house, but there she was.
Nineteen months earlier, she’d started Instagram messaging with Richard Kane Mansir, a lieutenant colonel in the U.S. Army whom everyone called Kane. He was 10 years her senior, had two sons from a previous marriage, and lived 600 miles away, but she didn’t mind. He was smart and funny, and they talked easily. He liked shooting and skydiving; she loved the first and always wanted to try the latter. They met in person for the first time in December 2019, when she was driving home from vacation and offered to meet him at his post in Fort Bragg. They’d talked every day since. At the beginning of 2020, when he told her he was being relocated to Virginia, she volunteered to move with him. In October, she found out she was pregnant with their first child.
But now it was June 7, the day before their baby was due, and Curnutt hadn’t been able to reach Mansir in more than 48 hours. So she packed up her belongings, waddled out to the car, and set off to find him.
Of course, Chelsea’s not the only one.
Another woman, whom we’ll call Jessica because she did not want her name used, told The Daily Beast she was engaged to Mansir in 2017, while his wife was pregnant with their third child. The pair went on several trips together—including with one of his coworkers—and he’d even met her parents, but she says she had no idea about his wife and family at home.
How does Col. Douchebag juggle all this? He suddenly “deploys” when anything is required of him. He also invented stories of PTSD and a dead child. And fakes his divorce papers. A real charmer.
When confronted with anything suspicious, he mindfucks. Because, of course.
“He did his typical thing of belittling me, making me feel like I’m the crazy one, and then [saying,] ‘I love you, everything will be fine, don’t overthink it,’” [Chelsea] said.
Mansir had a way of doing that, she said: Making her feel like she was the crazy one. When she was pregnant, he’d often blame her suspicions on her hormones, saying they were making her paranoid. She’d been cheated on in past relationships, she said, and figured she was just hypersensitive.
So poor Chelsea, about to give birth, hasn’t heard from Mansir in days, calls the Army base.
A secretary there passed her to the sergeant major, who called her by the name she thought belonged to Mansir’s ex-wife. When she told the sergeant her baby was due any day and she needed to see him urgently, he responded: “Ma’am, Kane is on leave.”
So Chelsea calls his wife.
“I was like, ‘Listen, I know you probably don’t like me because I’m the new person in his life, but I’m calling you out of desperation because I haven’t been able to find Kane,’” she recalled. “And she goes, ‘Chelsea, we’re still married.’”
The wife tells her that they actually have a divorce hearing the NEXT DAY in Illinois — so Chelsea (about to give birth) drives 16 hours to Illinois to confront Mansir. Who is hiding at his parents’ home. Okay, she may have threatened to burn the motherfucker down if he didn’t come outside.
According to a police report from that night, Mansir’s father told a dispatcher that Curnutt parked outside of the house and threatened to burn it down if his son didn’t come outside. (Curnutt denies this.) She told an officer who arrived on the scene that she was 40 weeks pregnant with Mansir’s baby, and provided photos of them together and a lease agreement with their names on it. When the officer interviewed Mansir, he said he had no idea who Curnutt was and that she was probably stalking him—a scenario that seemed “impossible,” the officer wrote, given the information Curnutt had provided. The officer let her go.
But that’s not all. Chelsea also shows up in court and testifies for the wife in support of her getting full custody.
Then, the three women — Jessica, Chelsea, and the now-ex-wife, banded together comparing phone charges and credit card receipts and identifed four more women. The Army is now investigating because Mansir preyed on subordinates and recent military widows.
Hats off to Chelsea, Jessica, and the unnamed ex-wife for not eating the shit sandwich and allowing Mansir to walk. They didn’t internalize it, or blame themselves, or buy a $400 course on how to win back a fuckwit — they exposed him.
The Beast reports:
She also thinks, in some way, that what happened to her was fated. She isn’t like many of the other women, with their livelihoods dependent on keeping Mansir’s secret. She has family, a career, and a life of her own. She can expose his lies in public because she has nothing to lose.
“I think what I went through, I went through for a reason, because I was going to be the one to speak up,” she said.
“He’s been getting away with it for over a decade,” she added. “Your time is up.”