Category: Divorce

Dear Chump Lady, Is divorcing him the right choice?

Dear Chump Lady, I need so help. I have looked through archives and posts and I just need some clarity on my particular situation. I’m …

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meh

How Do I Gain a Life Before the Divorce Is Final?

Hi Chump Lady, I’d love yours and the input of CN on the transition between Leaving the Cheater and Gaining the Life. I feel I’m …

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maintain your dignity

If It Feels Good — Don’t Do It

Psssst! I have a little secret to lay on you…. People are not interested in your messy divorce. Okay, maybe your parents and closest friend. Certainly …

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Serial cheater

How Do You Divorce a Narcissist?

Dear Chump Lady, Although he fits the readings, although the therapists tell you he is a narcissist, you don’t quite believe it. It isn’t quite …

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Dear Chump Lady, Do I have to invite my ex to the party?

Hi Chump Lady, My ex-wife cheated many times and finally moved in with her affair partner 6 years ago. Our divorce was final 2 1/2 …

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stitched heart

What Do You Tell Yourself?

Dear Chump Lady, What do all the mighty people tell themselves when it’s too much? When you’re struggling for air? When not even your family …

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Rejection man

Dear Chump Lady, She was ‘going to make it up to me’

Hello Chump Lady, I’ve been reading your posts for the past three years understanding and yet ignoring all of your sage advice till just recently. …

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Dear Chump Lady, Do I tell the kids about the cheating?

Dear Chump Lady, I have been married for almost 17 years, together for 21 years. The first time I caught him cheating it was all …

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Dear Chump Lady, Does it really get better?

Dear Chump Lady, Does it really get better, or is that just another lie that people tell chumps to cut down on the suicide stats? …

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twu luv

Dear Chump Lady, He sees me as the Fixer

Dear Chump Lady, The other night as the Super Bowl was just getting started, my 18-year-old daughter called me into her bedroom. Her dad, (my …

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Dear Chump Lady, My ex has cancer

Hi Chump Lady, I’ve been a former Chump for 8 years; I’ve got the fair settlement, a great house I bought and restored pretty much …

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limbo

Dear Chump Lady, I’d divorce her, but she wants that

Dear Chump Lady: I’ve read your advice and I want to divorce her. But that’s what she wants and she is manipulating me into being …

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broken heart

Dear Chump Lady, I’m still broken hearted

Dear Chump Lady, It has been over 5 years since D-Day, and about 3-1/2 years since I have spoken or seen my fuckwad cheater. I …

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fire

Dear Chump Lady, I just want to watch it burn

Dear Chump Lady, My friend directed me to you Chump Lady, I have been humming and hawing about wanting to message you but I decided …

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stitched heart

Cool. Bummer. Wow.

Dear Chump Lady, Please help! I do not know how to navigate this entire divorce mess with my two teenage daughters. My youngest sees her …

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Managing Divorce Expectations

It’s always a good idea to manage your expectations around most things. What’s this? A scented candle? NO, I WANTED A PONY! Life has a way …

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broken heart

How to Deal with Adult Child After D-Day?

Dear Chump Lady, My husband told me 4 weeks before our 50th wedding anniversary that he had been having an affair with a woman who …

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sadz

UBT: “I Don’t Understand”

Dear Chump Lady, I have a gold mine for the UBT that deserves its moment in the sun. At the time, it was a mean …

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Dear Chump Lady, So why the hell isn’t she HAPPY now?

Hi Chump Lady, So my wife had an affair and after being found out asked for a trial separation. She said she had been “struggling …

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Dear Chump Lady, I’m a chump, my brother is a cheater

Dear Chump Lady, I have a problem that I am not sure how to deal with my brother is a cheater and I don’t hate …

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