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Dear Chump Lady, So why the hell isn’t she HAPPY now?

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Hi Chump Lady, So my wife had an affair and after being found out asked for a trial separation. She said she had been “struggling with her feelings for me”, that whilst I was a great dad and someone she admired, she had changed and we had “drifted apart”. Yadda Yadda Yadda. I told her […]

Dear Chump Lady, We’re divorcing… and still living in the same house

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Dear Chump Lady, My D-day was August 27th, 2017. He just came up to me out-of-nowhere once the kids were in bed and said that he wanted a divorce. Exactly one week prior we were at my family reunion making plans to visit family out West next year, and exactly 2 weeks prior we were […]

Dear Chump Lady, Am I normal?

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Dear Chump Lady, So, D-Day was June 12. I saw a text message from a “Melissa” when she was asleep holding her phone. After reading the message I realized that Melissa was an ex-boyfriend from 15 years ago and her reason for becoming sober. He is married and has a son as well. The texts […]

Dear Chump Lady, My husband got engaged

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Dear Chump Lady, My husband got engaged. (This statement does not contain a typo, although even a search engine tried to get me to add “ex” to the topic prior to displaying the full results as apparently even the internet knows that this isn’t appropriate behavior). We are still married. Last night, he posted on […]

Gwyneth Paltrow Can Bite Me

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I’m sorry. I hate “conscious uncoupling.” On the one hand, I’m thrilled this bit of word salad is getting the snark and derision it so rightly deserves, on the other hand the notion that divorce should be free of baser emotions like grief and anger is still a solid part of our culture. In fact, […]

Dear Chump Lady, What happens to couple friends after divorce?

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Dear Chump Lady, I am 6 months post divorce after discovering my ex-wife’s infidelity in September 2013. This holiday season my children (12, 8) are with my ex-wife abroad with her affair partner on holiday with my ex in-laws. It sucks that my kids spend time with the man that helped break up my family […]

How to Co-Parent with a Narcissist

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Once upon a time I got a call for a post on how to co-parent with a narcissist. So, here’s your article. If I were feeling flippant (as I often am), I could answer this in two sentences: You cannot co-anything with a narcissist. You are only permitted to orbit. Seriously, this whole notion of reciprocity […]

Dear Chump Lady, My ex-wife has some weird requests

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Dear Chump Lady, It has been 4 years since we divorced. I found out she was on a dating site. She confessed she was dating a number of men. I moved out and have been focused on my kids and life. I did not date, but decided recently to start dating as I have a […]