Category: Pick me dance


Did He Cheat Because He’s Depressed?

Dear Chump Lady, Please help me sort through this mess. Help me get angry! My husband and I were together for 6 years and married …

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Ooh, pick me!

Is He Going to Regret Choosing Her?

Dear Chump Lady, Once I found out my boyfriend cheated on me, I desperately searched for answers and came across your book. I tried to …

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Jealous of the Other Woman

Dear Chump Lady, I am sure that my story is the same one that you have heard a hundred times, I have read versions of …

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bad friend

Help Her Be Friendly to Me

Dear Chump Lady, My ex-wife and I were married over twenty years and have been divorced over ten. I was a serial cheater throughout our …

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He Walked Out for OW But Doesn’t Want a Divorce

Dear Chump Lady, My story begins four years ago. My narcissist had an emotional affair with a much younger (30 years..) girl at the local …

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cheater overlap

When You Discover Your Boyfriend Has a Married Girlfriend

Dear Chump Lady, Last week, I left my boyfriend of 11 months. I recently discovered that before meeting with me, he had been in a …

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She ‘Can’t Decide’ Between Us

Dear Chump Lady, We’ve been married since 2012. Bought new home in 2014. In 2015 she acted so so happy. Turns out she was screwing …

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ego kibbles

Ex-Wife Wants Old VHS Tapes for Christmas

Dear Chump Lady, I have been divorced for 4 years now after going through an ugly divorce complete with 2 years of doing the pick …

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He Wants to ‘Explore His Feelings’ with Her Friend

Dear Chump Lady, My story as chump began last December when I received a letter from my husband informing me that he had developed feelings …

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What Made Her Special?

Dear Chump Lady, Eleven months ago, I found out that my husband of 20 years and two children had been having an affair with a …

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Unicorn cage

What Is the First Step?

Dear Chump Lady, What would you do? My husband is very friendly with this woman at work. He talks about her which is why I …

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The ‘If You Aren’t Nicer’ Threat

People still submit one-liners of Stupid Shit Cheaters Say to me. Got this one yesterday: “If you aren’t nicer to me, I’m going to cheat …

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planet narcissist

Wife Wants to ‘Renegotiate’ the Relationship

Dear Chump Lady, Without going into too much detail with our past, my wife and I are at a bit of a crossroads with our …

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UBT: ‘He Played Me Too’

You guys won’t believe the letters I get from Other Women wanting my advice. I know, it’s like gnats wanting wisdom from a bug zapper. …

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Is This Jealousy?

Dear Chump Lady, CN support helped me avoid a mindfuck my husband was trying to impose on me. Thanks to CN, I got up from my …

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Discovered CN by Googling ‘I Hate Esther Perel’

Dear Chump Lady, I’ve only very recently stumbled on your blog (actually, last night at 2 AM, and I’ve read about a hundred posts so …

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A Chump Off the Old Block

Dear Chump Lady, My beautiful, intelligent daughter has now joined the ranks of lovable trusting Chumpdom. She’s a Chump Off the Old Block. I left …

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“Our Marriage Was Already Over”

Here’s some one-size-fits-all cheater bullshit for you — “Our marriage was already over.” Cheaters say it to affair partners, “We’re all but divorced!” “We’re separated!” …

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‘I Trolled the Other Woman’

Hello Chump Lady, I screwed up. I fed the beast. I know you say “If it feels good, don’t do it,” but I confronted my …

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Stay friends

Why Cheaters Think You Could Be Friends with Their Affair Partner

One submission that I get over and over again for “Stupid Shit Cheaters Say” is the cheater insists — you know, you’d really like the …

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