Category: Pick me dance
He Still Works with His Affair Partner
Dear Chump Lady, I find myself at a crossroads again. My boyfriend of 14 years cheated on me for three years with the same woman …
She’s Having an Affair with Her ‘Work Husband’
Dear Chump Lady, Last summer my wife gave me the whole “I love you, but I’m not in love with you” speech over text while …
UBT: ‘I Do Not See Him As a Cheater’
Dear Chump Lady, I’m getting my ducks in a row. Interested on your take on Schmoopie’s correspondence. I can scarcely wrap my head around it. …
Don’t Tell Me to Leave Him
Hello Chump Lady, I just started reading your blog. I found it on Reddit after looking up “can a cheater change”. I’m not really sure …
Divorce Is ‘More Than I Can Deal With’
Dear Chump Lady, Do you think you can achieve meh while still married to the cheater? I have been with my husband for 41 years. …
Should I Sleep With My Ex?
Dear Chump Lady, What do you think of sex with the STBX? I’ve lost weight and am looking pretty good. I want him to see …
He Runs Me Down to Our Daughter
Dear Chump Lady, I’m 5 years into this shitshow now and mostly am fairly chilled about everything, albeit with the occasional trigger that sets me …
The Phone Records Are Shady, Is He Cheating?
Dear Chump Lady, So I have been with my husband for 14 years, married for one. In late 2020 he started fighting with me often …
Pick Me Dance Fail
I have a dear friend — we’ll call her Lisa — whose father is…. well… a piece of work. He was a very successful executive, …
She Keeps Acting Like We’re a ‘We’
Hello Chump Lady, Thank you for an amazing site that has helped me through the worst time of my life. The background: two months ago, …
Did the Affair Partner Tell You?
One of the lousier ways to find out you’re a chump is having the news sprung on you via the affair partner. There are worse …
Joe Millionaire: The Pick-Me Dance for Fun and Profit
Dear Chump Lady, Just this week while scrolling through various TV channels, I unfortunately landed on the show JOE MILLIONAIRE. Yep…a bunch of beautiful women …
And Just Like That: Pick-Me-Dance Triumph
As a chump watching the new HBO Sex in the City reboot, And Just Like That, must feel akin to a black person watching Gone …
Is She Really Just a Close Friend?
Dear Chump Lady, My fiancee has a (married) BFF who is an ex-lover. They used to hook up whenever they were single. Early in our …
He’s Cheating and Now ‘Needs My Help’
Hello Chump Lady, How I wish I had found you months ago. Before I had invested my time and money into “get your marriage back!” …
Being Compared with an Affair Partner
One of the classic “Stupid Shit Cheaters Say” utterances is, “You know, if you met (the Schmoopie), you’d really like (him/her)! They’re a lot like …
Sex with the Ex WTF?
Hello Chump Lady, I feel like I am reporting to my mom after doing something horribly wrong and looking for her to tell me it …
She Wants Me to ‘Fight For Her’
Dear Chump Lady, I found out last week that my wife has started an affair right under my nose: she comes home one evening saying …
He Doesn’t Know If He’ll Come Home
Dear Chump Lady. He left December 5th out of nowhere. He went to work and showed up with a u-haul. He told me for weeks …
Why Do Affair Partners Stalk Chumps?
Hi Chump Lady, Life is good at five years post-divorce. I haven’t talked to or seen ex since the settlement signing/final appearance in front of …
