Category: Pick me dance
Don’t Tell Me to Leave Him
Hello Chump Lady, I just started reading your blog. I found it on Reddit after looking up “can a cheater change”. I’m not really sure …
Divorce Is ‘More Than I Can Deal With’
Dear Chump Lady, Do you think you can achieve meh while still married to the cheater? I have been with my husband for 41 years. …
Should I Sleep With My Ex?
Dear Chump Lady, What do you think of sex with the STBX? I’ve lost weight and am looking pretty good. I want him to see …
He Runs Me Down to Our Daughter
Dear Chump Lady, I’m 5 years into this shitshow now and mostly am fairly chilled about everything, albeit with the occasional trigger that sets me …
The Phone Records Are Shady, Is He Cheating?
Dear Chump Lady, So I have been with my husband for 14 years, married for one. In late 2020 he started fighting with me often …
Pick Me Dance Fail
I have a dear friend — we’ll call her Lisa — whose father is…. well… a piece of work. He was a very successful executive, …
She Keeps Acting Like We’re a ‘We’
Hello Chump Lady, Thank you for an amazing site that has helped me through the worst time of my life. The background: two months ago, …
Did the Affair Partner Tell You?
One of the lousier ways to find out you’re a chump is having the news sprung on you via the affair partner. There are worse …
Joe Millionaire: The Pick-Me Dance for Fun and Profit
Dear Chump Lady, Just this week while scrolling through various TV channels, I unfortunately landed on the show JOE MILLIONAIRE. Yep…a bunch of beautiful women …
And Just Like That: Pick-Me-Dance Triumph
As a chump watching the new HBO Sex in the City reboot, And Just Like That, must feel akin to a black person watching Gone …
Is She Really Just a Close Friend?
Dear Chump Lady, My fiancee has a (married) BFF who is an ex-lover. They used to hook up whenever they were single. Early in our …
He’s Cheating and Now ‘Needs My Help’
Hello Chump Lady, How I wish I had found you months ago. Before I had invested my time and money into “get your marriage back!” …
Being Compared with an Affair Partner
One of the classic “Stupid Shit Cheaters Say” utterances is, “You know, if you met (the Schmoopie), you’d really like (him/her)! They’re a lot like …
Sex with the Ex WTF?
Hello Chump Lady, I feel like I am reporting to my mom after doing something horribly wrong and looking for her to tell me it …
She Wants Me to ‘Fight For Her’
Dear Chump Lady, I found out last week that my wife has started an affair right under my nose: she comes home one evening saying …
He Doesn’t Know If He’ll Come Home
Dear Chump Lady. He left December 5th out of nowhere. He went to work and showed up with a u-haul. He told me for weeks …
Why Do Affair Partners Stalk Chumps?
Hi Chump Lady, Life is good at five years post-divorce. I haven’t talked to or seen ex since the settlement signing/final appearance in front of …
He Says He ‘Never Went Looking for It’
Dear Chump Lady, I can’t believe I am writing this but I really need some help. 5 weeks ago I discovered my husband was having …
Jealousy and ‘Just Friends’
Dear Chump Lady, My wife and I were having issues. It got incredibly bad. I found evidence of something going on. I got suspicious when …
Did He Cheat Because He’s Depressed?
Dear Chump Lady, Please help me sort through this mess. Help me get angry! My husband and I were together for 6 years and married …
