Category: Quacks
Therapist Says Not to Tell People He Cheated
Dear Chump Lady, Do you think chumps should tell their family and friends that the reason they are separated from their spouse is because he/she …
The Infidelity Fallacy of ‘Unmet Needs’
If I could wave my magic Chump Lady wand and rid the world of one founding principle of the Reconciliation Industrial Complex, it’s that affairs happen …
Every Bit of Lousy Reconciliation Advice
Hey Amazon chumps! You know who you are — sort of person who responds to a crisis with research. How many reconciliation books did you …
Debunking Why Happy People Cheat
I’m sure you’re all curious “Why Happy People Cheat.” There are about a bazillion Why Happy People Cheat articles on the interwebs, from the Atlantic Monthly …
UBT: Renegade Sex Therapists
Raise your hand if you think good sex is an important part of a good relationship. Oh, hey, is that all of you? I think …
Reconcile at a $12K Marriage Retreat
Did your partner cheat? Nothing says accountability like a $12K spa retreat. Enjoy hopium snorting at your own private Shangri-La. Make sand castles while discussing your trust …
UBT: Destroying Marriages to Improve Them
Apologies for the late post. Was driving to Michigan (just arrived) when I realized the scheduling plugin didn’t work… so here it is. Back to …
Franklin Graham Encourages Woman to Take Abuser Back
Go back to your abuser? Patch things up? Stop “embarrassing him” with your story? The Reconciliation Industrial Complex is in the news this week. North …
Stupid Sh*t the Reconciliation Industrial Complex Says
I can’t even with this latest bit of quackery from the Guardian on “how to survive an affair.” What should the betrayed partner do? Often, …
UBT: Narcissist Cheater Life Coach
Here’s a curious business plan: be a serial cheater, embrace your narcissism, and monetize that shit as a life coach. Ooh, where do I sign …
UBT: Investigative Questions for Couples Experiencing Infidelity
Every crime needs an investigation. Not to worry, Inspector Esther Perel is on the case! And now you can be an amateur sleuth too thanks …
UBT: How to Get Proof They’re Cheating
People send a lot of dumb articles to the Universal Bullshit Translator, so it takes a whole lot of stupid for the UBT to be …
Infidelity Is Abuse: Discuss
Imagine you’re on a podcast with Esther Perel. Or it can be any smug Reconciliation Industrial Complex quack of your choosing. Or perhaps it’s an …
UBT: Brene Brown with Esther Perel
https://www.instagram.com/p/CUIRVTblZ05/ The UBT can’t even. Esther Perel is now a VERB? Many alert members of Chump Nation sent me this Instagram nugget of crazy in …
The ‘Dual Accountability’ Therapy Fallacy
Hi Chump Lady, I thought you would line to see the “official point of view” of the majority of therapists that treat infidelity: “Infidelity occurs …
Debunking “Affairs Are About Opportunity”
One tenet of the Reconciliation Industrial Complex is that “Affairs are about opportunity.” (Also known as the Chris Rock line, “You’re only as faithful as …
Cheating on a Marine? Don’t Ask Ms. Vicki
An alert chump in the U.S. military sent me this link to the columnist “Ms. Vicki” whose advice runs in military publications and on military.com. …
Therapist Says Not to Tell Anyone Her Husband Cheated
Dear Chump Lady, Do you think chumps should tell their family and friends that the reason they are separated from their spouse is because he/she …
Her Menopause Made Him Cheat?
I’ve read some blameshifting quackery in my day, but Guardian advice columnist Mariella Frostup takes the blood-soaked tampon. A woman writes in to say her partner …
UBT: Monogamy Is a Gift
You know you’re wading in deep bullshit when you see the title “The Unsparing Genius of Esther Perel.” Oh please do spare us such genius. …
