Category: Quacks

Debunking Why Happy People Cheat

I’m sure you’re all curious “Why Happy People Cheat.” There are about a bazillion Why Happy People Cheat articles on the interwebs, from the Atlantic Monthly …

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UBT: Renegade Sex Therapists

Raise your hand if you think good sex is an important part of a good relationship. Oh, hey, is that all of you? I think …

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The Unicorn of Reconciliation

Reconcile at a $12K Marriage Retreat

Did your partner cheat? Nothing says accountability like a $12K spa retreat. Enjoy hopium snorting at your own private Shangri-La. Make sand castles while discussing your trust …

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UBT: Destroying Marriages to Improve Them

Apologies for the late post. Was driving to Michigan (just arrived) when I realized the scheduling plugin didn’t work… so here it is. Back to …

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Franklin Graham Encourages Woman to Take Abuser Back

Go back to your abuser? Patch things up? Stop “embarrassing him” with your story? The Reconciliation Industrial Complex is in the news this week. North …

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Stupid Sh*t the Reconciliation Industrial Complex Says

I can’t even with this latest bit of quackery from the Guardian on “how to survive an affair.” What should the betrayed partner do? Often, …

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Ben Taylor

UBT: Narcissist Cheater Life Coach

Here’s a curious business plan: be a serial cheater, embrace your narcissism, and monetize that shit as a life coach. Ooh, where do I sign …

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UBT: Investigative Questions for Couples Experiencing Infidelity

Every crime needs an investigation. Not to worry, Inspector Esther Perel is on the case! And now you can be an amateur sleuth too thanks …

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UBT: How to Get Proof They’re Cheating

People send a lot of dumb articles to the Universal Bullshit Translator, so it takes a whole lot of stupid for the UBT to be …

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Infidelity Is Abuse: Discuss

Imagine you’re on a podcast with Esther Perel. Or it can be any smug Reconciliation Industrial Complex quack of your choosing. Or perhaps it’s an …

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UBT: Brene Brown with Esther Perel

https://www.instagram.com/p/CUIRVTblZ05/ The UBT can’t even. Esther Perel is now a VERB? Many alert members of Chump Nation sent me this Instagram nugget of crazy in …

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The ‘Dual Accountability’ Therapy Fallacy

Hi Chump Lady, I thought you would line to see the “official point of view” of the majority of therapists that treat infidelity: “Infidelity occurs …

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Debunking “Affairs Are About Opportunity”

One tenet of the Reconciliation Industrial Complex is that  “Affairs are about opportunity.” (Also known as the Chris Rock line, “You’re only as faithful as …

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Cheating on a Marine? Don’t Ask Ms. Vicki

An alert chump in the U.S. military sent me this link to the columnist “Ms. Vicki” whose advice runs in military publications and on military.com. …

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Therapist Says Not to Tell Anyone Her Husband Cheated

Dear Chump Lady, Do you think chumps should tell their family and friends that the reason they are separated from their spouse is because he/she …

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Her Menopause Made Him Cheat?

I’ve read some blameshifting quackery in my day, but Guardian advice columnist Mariella Frostup takes the blood-soaked tampon. A woman writes in to say her partner …

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UBT: Monogamy Is a Gift

You know you’re wading in deep bullshit when you see the title “The Unsparing Genius of Esther Perel.” Oh please do spare us such genius. …

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Debunking Marriage Builders, Inc.

One piece of advice the Reconciliation Industrial Complex likes to give after D-Day is telling chumps it is their responsibility to make the marriage “a …

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Ex Wants Chump to Go to Therapy with Her

Dear Chump Lady, My ex-wife (20-year marriage) went to my therapist. (Chump that I am, I recommended that the cheating ex-wife use my therapist to save …

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Esther Perel’s Myth of the Good Cheater

So, Esther Perel follows me on Twitter. Which is big of her considering I told her to bite me. On the other hand, there might be something …

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