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Go back to your abuser? Patch things up? Stop “embarrassing him” with your story? The Reconciliation Industrial Complex is in the news this week. North …
I can’t even with this latest bit of quackery from the Guardian on “how to survive an affair.” What should the betrayed partner do? Often, …
Here’s a curious business plan: be a serial cheater, embrace your narcissism, and monetize that shit as a life coach. Ooh, where do I sign …
Every crime needs an investigation. Not to worry, Inspector Esther Perel is on the case! And now you can be an amateur sleuth too thanks …
People send a lot of dumb articles to the Universal Bullshit Translator, so it takes a whole lot of stupid for the UBT to be …
Imagine you’re on a podcast with Esther Perel. Or it can be any smug Reconciliation Industrial Complex quack of your choosing. Or perhaps it’s an …
https://www.instagram.com/p/CUIRVTblZ05/ The UBT can’t even. Esther Perel is now a VERB? Many alert members of Chump Nation sent me this Instagram nugget of crazy in …
Hi Chump Lady, I thought you would line to see the “official point of view” of the majority of therapists that treat infidelity: “Infidelity occurs …
One tenet of the Reconciliation Industrial Complex is that “Affairs are about opportunity.” (Also known as the Chris Rock line, “You’re only as faithful as …
An alert chump in the U.S. military sent me this link to the columnist “Ms. Vicki” whose advice runs in military publications and on military.com. …
Dear Chump Lady, Do you think chumps should tell their family and friends that the reason they are separated from their spouse is because he/she …
I’ve read some blameshifting quackery in my day, but Guardian advice columnist Mariella Frostup takes the blood-soaked tampon. A woman writes in to say her partner …
You know you’re wading in deep bullshit when you see the title “The Unsparing Genius of Esther Perel.” Oh please do spare us such genius. …
One piece of advice the Reconciliation Industrial Complex likes to give after D-Day is telling chumps it is their responsibility to make the marriage “a …
Dear Chump Lady, My ex-wife (20-year marriage) went to my therapist. (Chump that I am, I recommended that the cheating ex-wife use my therapist to save …
So, Esther Perel follows me on Twitter. Which is big of her considering I told her to bite me. On the other hand, there might be something …
Dear Chump Lady, My ex-wife (20-year marriage) went to my therapist. (Chump that I am, I recommended that the cheating ex-wife use my therapist to save …
If you’ve spent any time reading the reconciliation literature, you’ll notice a lot of reference to the “180.” She won’t stop seeing her affair partner? …
Yesterday, when we discussed Gottman’s The Four Horseman as an instrument of cheater mindfuckery, an alert chump sent me further reading on the Gottman’s. Apparently they …
Oh hey, were we talking about DARVO this week? (Deny, attack, reverse victim offender.) Do I ever have a heaping pile o’ mindfuckery for you …
