I can’t even with this latest bit of quackery from the Guardian on “how to survive an affair.”
What should the betrayed partner do?
Often, the discovery of an affair creates an unequal dynamic – one partner becomes crushed with guilt and accepts their pariah status,
Oh, who slipped in that righteous Angela Bassett gif? That was me trying to wrest the narrative back from this blameshifting RIC bullshit.
You’re too JUDGY, chumps!
Also… it’s your fault.
“The betrayed partner will usually have to accept that they had a part in co-creating a betrayal,” says relationship counsellor and author Neil Wilkie. “My experience is that a betrayal never comes out of a clear blue sky. It usually happens because there was something lacking in a relationship. But if the betrayed partner says, ‘It’s all your fault, I had nothing to do with it,’ then the relationship can never recover.”
(I added the link so you can check out his groovy sweater vest. And full array of life-coach quackery services.)
I thought this was supposed to be a Friday Challenge, Tracy?
Oh yes. I’d like to know what bit of RIC fuckery tangled your brain.
Was it the ASSUMPTION that every cheater is contrite?
Or qualified mental health professionals intoning that you’re responsible for another’s double life that you were unaware of?
Or that what you really need after a full STD panel screening is more FUN?
In your RIC experience, what was the Stupid Shit said, and when did you realize it was total nonsense?