Oh hey, were we talking about DARVO this week? (Deny, attack, reverse victim offender.) Do I ever have a heaping pile o’ mindfuckery for you today.
Introducing Reconciliation Industrial Complex therapist quack, Dr. Robert Huizenga. A chump on his mailing list sent me his super special offer to Save My Marriage from my imaginary trauma.
Chumps! The problem is you! You’ve been getting angry and upset! For $27 and a series of up-sells, learn how to “charge neutral” and eat that humiliation. Got $1418.00? He’ll counsel Schmoopie too!
Someone wrote and asked if I coach the “other person?” Yes, I do. I coach all involved parties. My style is not to impose “rightness or wrongness”, but move toward understanding, self-care and self-respect, resolution of what is not working, and finally, create a wonderful life and healthy intimate relationships that are ultimately “affair proof.”
Therapists! Get in on the action! Dr. Huizenga does affiliate marketing! “Great Conversion Rate and Low Refund!” Yes, for a 50% cut, he will sell this mindfuckery to you for use on your gullible clients. And isn’t that why you got into a helping profession? To lock in a profitable conversion rate?
The Universal Bullshit Translator just loves a good multilevel marketing scheme before breakfast. So without further ado.
Guess Who’s the Victim… (You may not believe this)
By Dr. Robert Huizenga
Try me. You should see the bullshit I eat.
You feel victimized.
Chlamydia is just a feeling. So are those credit card charges you just discovered. As are the years you spent investing time, money, and reproductive energies on a grifter. Just feelings! No tangible harm done! Feelings pass like fluffy clouds that dissolve into beautiful sunsets and trust issues.
Once you get this victim thing turned around your world changes.
trauma victim thing is very important to me. Hang on to the same loser who is defrauding you, avoid divorce, sleep in the same stained bed sheets where the Schmoopies fucked — and your whole world changes!
Sure, you’re living at the same address with the same fuckwit, but what’s changed is your attitude.
Here’s what you need to unravel…
The skein of fuckupedness! Why spend time focusing on your own self-care and freezing your credit and hiring lawyers when you could be sending me $1418! I have THEORIES. Magical, magical theories. You have a rash on your groin, sobbing children, and a paternity testing kit where trust used to be. I have an ebook.
Your Cheating Spouse is the Victim, NOT You!
Waffle sniffer blunderbuss! Acorn epiphanies are real, Margaret. Wallpaper.
(I’m sorry, the UBT seems to have malfunctioned. Too much bullshit has clogged its transponders. Giving it a hard whack now…)
This seems strange.
Sign up for my tiered mindfuckery kit and I’ll explain it.
You feel like the victim don’t you?
I bet you feel like a right idiot. Upset with the person who cheated on you, instead of asking yourself what you did to make this person craft a dating profile.
You’re losing it all, in misery and your cheating spouse is out there having a great time…floating in the emotional space of being “in love.”
Can’t you see how they suffer?
I don’t want to minimize your pain and terror. It IS real.
I don’t want to minimize that “victim thing.”
And right now you experience yourself as the victim.
Silly goose. Send me $1418.00 and you’ll doubt your experiences.
Infidelity brings up a TON of primordial feelings that at first put you on overwhelm.
Suicidal ideation. Trauma. Shock. So primordial. Evolve like me beyond “rightness and wrongness.” Oh, did I mention I have a degree from a Bible college?
Abby spent sleepless haunting nights and resorted to Lexapro so after D-Day she could function.
Tracey could barely talk in our first session, her throat constricted by the fear and pain.
I see no victims here. Only customers.
But the truth remains, the cheating spouse holds the greatest danger of a downward spiral.
Infidelity is an act of temporary insanity.
Did the affair go on for a decade? Temporary insanity! The average lifespan is at least 70 years.
They know not what they do! Double lives require no executive functioning whatsoever. Crafting aliases, stealing marital funds, hooker habits… a little blip on the ol’ noggin.
The cheating spouse is the victim, is pouring their life down a dirty drain and missing out on an opportunity.
You may call Schmoopie “Dirty Drain.” I said it first.
Fact is, cheaters suffer more than you. And only YOU can save them!
Integrate these concepts into your thinking as did Abby and Tracey.
Your personal power will be magnified and you will be free to effectively address the infidelity.
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I find your vulnerability very profitable.