This post was suggested a few days ago and I thought it a good topic, as you see this dynamic all the time — the way the cheater devalues you and it shows with their craptacular gifts, or their incredible cheapness when it comes to real life grownup expenses. They tip badly, they make you drive crappy used cars (with flashing engine lights), they recycle engagement rings (or give you fakes), they give you their half-eaten box of Cream of Wheat. You guys have some awesome material out there, I know it!
The flip side of this of course, is the magnificent generosity they indulge in themselves and with their affair partners. And how they try to convince chumps that this flamboyant lopsidedness is Right and Normal. It’s good to be King/Queen.
My husband once told me that in 22 years of marriage to a cheater the best gift he ever received (and he was serious, he really enjoyed this gift — it was the BEST!) was a set of screwdrivers.
Contrast that with my tie-dyed license plate cover. Yes, we’re epic chumps.
Of course his ex, like my ex, spent a prolific amount on all sorts of gadgetry and gewgaws for herself. Boy, nothing says entitlement like the finances, huh?
Now I know some of you are going to write and say, no your cheater was terrifically generous, always sent flowers, pulled their own weight, and one day was abducted by aliens and ran off with the affair partner. Okay, you didn’t have a cheap cheater (but I’d wonder — did you look at all the credit card statements?) Today’s How Cheap Is Your Cheater? isn’t for you.
So tell me, what Stupid Cheap Shit did your cheater do? And what was the contrast to how they treated themselves?