Category: Cheater Tactics
Bait and Switch Cheater Tactics
A common refrain among chumps is “I never saw it coming.” Followed by all the ways their unbeknownst cheaters demonstrated they were invested. They sent …
Things Cheaters Later Claim They Never Wanted
I never loved you! I never wanted children! What is this 30-year mortgage? I was trapped! Mated in captivity! Can’t you see I’m trying to …
‘What I Did to HIM?’ DARVO
Dear Chump Lady, I recently divorced FW after learning that he’d had numerous affairs, slept with hundreds of women, and taken thousands of dollars to …
Chump Epiphanies?
Hi Chump Lady, I have been reading your blog since my breakup five years ago. It has helped me so much to get out of …
20/20 Signs They Were Cheating
Today’s Thursday Challenge is to Monday morning quarterback your life. Did you see signs of cheating before D-Day? To be a chump is to be …
The ‘If You Aren’t Nicer’ Threat
People still submit one-liners of Stupid Shit Cheaters Say to me. Got this one yesterday: “If you aren’t nicer to me, I’m going to cheat …
‘I Fail to Understand Your Hostility’
There is no mindfuck like the I Fail to Understand Your Hostility mindfuck. As mindfucks go, it’s Jedi-level mindfuckery. Oh sure your lesser manipulator can …
Cheater Word Salad Attacks
Chump Lady used to be a think tank editor in her younger days. Think tank publishing is mostly vanity publishing and not every book was stellar. …
Dear Chump Lady, My Wife Is Near Perfect But I See Prostitutes
Hi Chump Lady, I happened upon your website and it seems to contain a lot of good advice for certain circumstances. But there are others, …
Lies Are Exhausting
A primer in mindfuckery today — exhaustion as manipulation tactic. If you’re a cheater and you want your chump to back off? Keep ’em running …
‘Don’t Call It Snooping’
Dear Chump Lady, I need to get on the soapbox and say this. Back when Horace the “Porn Addict” and I were clients of the …
‘I Feel Guilty for Leaving Him’
Dear Chump Lady, I discovered in September 2018 that my husband of 3 years (together a total of 13 years) had been having a 2-year …
More Stupid Shit Cheaters Say
I know I have a page for this, but why hasn’t Stupid Shit Cheaters Say been a Friday Challenge? The time has come. When I …
The Plan B Offer
If things don’t work out with her, perhaps you and I could work things out. This was submitted to my “Universal Bullshit Translator” inbox. It’s so …
Way to Take Down a Cheater
A standing ovation for Talia Jane, a young writer who posted screen grabs of a conversation between her and married journalist perving on her. Need a …
“I Didn’t Mean To” Debunked
Dear Chump Lady, I was married to a very lovely man for 15 years. He was “nice,” yet he needed parenting. That’s where I came …
Trickle Truth Is Neither Trickle Nor Truth
Add to the list of Reconciliation Industrial Complex euphemisms I despise — “trickle truth.” I’ve ranted about “wayward” before and the “fog,” but it only recently …
Chaos — The Fourth Channel?
I’ve often said the Mindfuck Only Has Three Channels — rage, charm, and self-pity. Recently, I was upbraided by a self-professed cheater. I’ll tell you: …
Dear Chump Lady, He left me to BLOG with the OW?
Dear Chump Lady, I have a question. I am a bit perplexed. My husband ran off with a married coworker. He’s a true runaway, abandoned …
Dear Chump Lady, Why must cheaters add insult to injury?
Dear Chump Lady, I am about 5 months out from D-Day. My husband and I were married for 6 years and together for a total …
