Cheater Freak of the Week?

xmas6In the past, I’ve done a Cheater Freak Christmas Contest, but in honor of my week off, I declare some pre-holiday freak sharing is in order.

This is how the game is played. You determine what parts of your infidelity story make you Freak of the Week. I want the weird, WTF details.

For example, my husband and I know a fellow whose (now ex) wife had special wedding rings crafted for when she and her OM had trysts. That’s a contender!

The object here is to be as SUCCINCT as possible. No essays! You can comment on other people’s submissions, but each submission needs to be three brief sentences, tops.

For example, my submission would go like this.

1) He had the same mistress for over 20 years and three marriages.

2) OW and ex apparently had a kid together and she passed the paternity off on her brother-in-law.

3) After boinking his OW in Vermont, he drove home and presented me with a one-pound bag of coffee.

Every day this blog is gathering new chumps and new stories. You veterans are more than welcome to submit your previous stories, (we never grow tired of BarristerBelle’s story of her ex who jumped around furiously in a sleeping bag). However, I must disqualify GladIt’sOver. She destroys the competition every time with her dancing Yeti ex and his gifts of half-eaten boxes of Wheatena. We’re amateurs here, Glad.

There’s no shame here at CN. Just the sweet relief that comes from leaving a freak. So BRING IT ON, chumps!

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Martha
Martha
6 years ago

Ahhh, some good reading ahead to reward myself after school and studying. 🙂 I will have to think of something myself……thanks for sharing the photo yesterday, CL!! Hopefully you will be able to share some more with us!

sharri
sharri
6 years ago
Reply to  Martha

My Ex talked me into moving from Texas to North Carolina, 8 months pregnant, to work it out. I came back on a Sunday. He had her moved into our house, sleeping in our bed by Tuesday. She’s such a nice and sweet girl you know… can’t upset HER!

Hopefloats80
Hopefloats80
6 years ago

My cheater brought the OW to my home to talk to me to give me closure.

Luziana
Luziana
6 years ago
Reply to  Hopefloats80

Sluterus wanted to help Cold Slab O’Meat move his things out. I told her she would enter my property at the risk of leaving with an icepick in her eyesocket. Slabbo moved his things all by his lonesome, including a leather sectional and a giant glass topped desk.

ThisFucker had the nerve to ask my 20 year old son to lend a hand. My son blinked, said No. Went back to choosing a paint swatch for the room he was clearing.

Boy, Bye!

Decaf.
Decaf.
6 years ago
Reply to  Hopefloats80

My cheater was at my apartment, in the middle of trying to do taxes and convince me to take him back. I walked into the living room to get our cat, and saw my roommates looking terrified on the second couch, and my soon-to-be ex-husband’s mistress on the first couch. She had discovered where I lived by going through the ex-husband’s old mail, and it showed up here because I guess, he had told her he wanted to leave her and work things out with me, and she wasn’t having it. They screamed for 10 minutes in my house and then I sent them outside to the porch and they screamed for 10 minutes out there.

The next time I spoke to him it was to finalize the divorce. You can keep that crazy train, you asshat.

StaryEye
StaryEye
6 years ago
Reply to  Decaf.

Wow! Crazy story!

Chumped2
Chumped2
6 years ago
Reply to  Hopefloats80

OW who was sleeping in my bed in my house with my husband decided to text me that I should “stay away from her home”. Say what?!?! I’m still confused by this as I’m pretty sure that I own half the place.

JK
JK
6 years ago
Reply to  Chumped2

Ordinary, one would expect to be flabbergasted by this, but I have read and lived so much of this over the last three years that . . . Nope, I’m still flabbergasted by that one . . .

FedUpChump
FedUpChump
6 years ago
Reply to  Chumped2

Annnnd, that takes the Cake right there. Holy shit, my head just exploded.

Sohn
Sohn
6 years ago
Reply to  Chumped2

Oh my fucking god— just unbelievable!

Whatringofhellisthis
Whatringofhellisthis
6 years ago
Reply to  Sohn

My brain just exploded

Magneto
Magneto
6 years ago

What. the. ever. loving. F***?

Peacekeeper
Peacekeeper
6 years ago
Reply to  Hopefloats80

I hope you “closure” the door in her face!

Hopefloats80
Hopefloats80
6 years ago
Reply to  Peacekeeper

No. I entertained myself for 30
Mins. Little did I know at the time they spent the night before together. I gave her my blessing to take her knight in tinfoil and ride into the sunset. During wreckonciliation cheaterpants listened to it and I kid you not said “it sounds like you weren’t fighting for us”. Wtf. Sicko

ClearWaters
ClearWaters
6 years ago
Reply to  Hopefloats80

Unbelievable, just unbelievable. Now THAT’S what I call a narcissist.

Nobody2U
Nobody2U
6 years ago
Reply to  ClearWaters

My stbx was screwing my best friend of 20 years..she wanted to come by and talk to me about it…I politely told her I would shoot her in the face backwards off my front porch…she never showed up.

Langele
Langele
6 years ago
Reply to  Nobody2U

Right on

ClearWaters
ClearWaters
6 years ago
Reply to  Nobody2U

Like your solution for declining the request to talk.

JK
JK
6 years ago
Reply to  Nobody2U

Nobody2U – I’m sorry about what happened, but the way you responded made me laugh out loud reading it. Love that.

Rickb89
Rickb89
6 years ago
Reply to  Nobody2U

Awesome response

DunChumpin
DunChumpin
6 years ago
Reply to  Nobody2U

Mine brought it home and had me give him money since his wife left him and took all his possessions. Of course, I didn’t know she was fucking grandpa, but still kinda bad I think.

ChumpDiva
ChumpDiva
6 years ago
Reply to  DunChumpin

Good lord, DunChumpin…talk about mindfuckery! The nerve!

Magneto
Magneto
6 years ago
Reply to  ChumpDiva

What. the. ever. loving. F***?

DunChumpin
DunChumpin
6 years ago
Reply to  Magneto

???????? After I made him lunch. I’m assuming they found entertainment in this. I assure you, he would’ve left in a body bag if I knew he was the one fucking her.

left him at the airport
left him at the airport
6 years ago
Reply to  Hopefloats80

Holy sh*t! HopeFloats80, please tell me you’re joking that he brought OW to your house to talk to you!? Ok, you win already, haha. That is crazy messed up. Gee, tell us what you did!

Hopefloats80
Hopefloats80
6 years ago

I recorded the whole thing of course. To kick her ass is what he wanted to watch a fight over him. No thanks I don’t like to get Whore on my hands. The recording is 30 mins of knee slapping hilariousness. I wish I could share it here ????

FedUpChump
FedUpChump
6 years ago

I’d be in prison, serving hard time if my cheater did that.

JB
JB
6 years ago
Reply to  Hopefloats80

I got to talk to one too!

JB
JB
6 years ago
Reply to  JB

When the mistress came to my house, her HUSBAND called while she was there. So, I had the (now) ex, her, and her husband via phone. It was a ridiculous soap opera. I made her leave.

Magneto
Magneto
6 years ago
Reply to  JB

What. the. ever. loving. F***?

Shadowfire
Shadowfire
6 years ago
Reply to  Hopefloats80

omg, mine also tried to do that. 😮 I told him that if he ever brought that whore anywhere near me or my son, I wouldn’t be responsible for what happens. He took me seriously and didn’t go through with it.

Supreme Chump
Supreme Chump
6 years ago

This will be interesting today. I’ll be reading. As for my cheater, he wasn’t a freak; he was just a colossal asshole.

ChumpOnIt
ChumpOnIt
6 years ago
Reply to  Supreme Chump

Yep, uninventive colossal asshole cheater X here too. Big thank you to the chumps with more “interesting” colossal asshole cheater Xs who are sharing their stories today.

Chumpinrecovery
Chumpinrecovery
6 years ago
Reply to  Supreme Chump

Yeah mine goes through great pains to appear “normal”. He wouldn’t be caught dead doing anything out in the open that could qualify as “freak”. In fact, I think that is part of what caused him to stray. He didn’t consider me and the kids “normal”. I prefer to think of us as unique and see that a positive thing.

ChumpOnIt
ChumpOnIt
6 years ago

I think that all goes to the tired tune of whatever you are is not what he wants (or rather, you are what he wants until he doesn’t want you anymore). These assholes are anything but normal — to not see his family for the unique “normal” that it is, and appreciate that life. His loss, really.

JesssMom
JesssMom
6 years ago
Reply to  ChumpOnIt

Agreed. And, I think that their denunciation changes with the wind as well — whatever suits their immediate interest.

Mine repeatedly fluctuated between calling me a whore and a puritan. He managed both as equal justification for his marriage-long deceptions.

(For the record, I’m not a whore. Married to the same guy (and faithful) for 23 years. But, even if I were (by whatever standard), fuck him … he shouldn’t have married me, then.)

unicornomore
unicornomore
6 years ago
Reply to  JesssMom

When I got the laundry-list of my faults, he started off with I was “too holy” and finished with I was “too sinful” all in the same long, miserable conversation

This can't be real
This can't be real
6 years ago
Reply to  unicornomore

Yup. Mine said that I was a “prude” because I didn’t find it necessary to drink constantly. This was after he had a severe brain injury from drinking too much. And of course, I stood by him during this time 3 years ago. Now that he doesn’t want to be “tied down” to me any longer, he feels he is free to drink and be with the howorker too. What a fuckface!

Longtimechump
Longtimechump
6 years ago
Reply to  unicornomore

Sounds like mine. Only yours is dead now!

Longtimechump
Longtimechump
6 years ago
Reply to  unicornomore

Sounds like mine. Only yours is dead now!

Lady B
Lady B
6 years ago
Reply to  Supreme Chump

These freaks have no shame, seriously No shame. Mind boggling

Sausalito
Sausalito
6 years ago
Reply to  Supreme Chump

Same here. Totally unoriginal by-the-book cheater and total asshole.

Twitching
Twitching
6 years ago

1) We just found out 2 days ago that my ex-husband married his mistress LAST MARCH but didn’t bother to tell our children. In fact he went to great lengths to hide it. (They live several states away.)
2) He has step-children that live with them part time who have been really excited to meet my children!!
3) We found out from a random Facebook post.
4) Bonus round, just for kicks: He is still a Presbyterian pastor, and their whole church is so happy they found each other!

Ivy_Tech
Ivy_Tech
6 years ago
Reply to  Twitching

Sounds like they don’t believe in the 7th Commandment.

JK
JK
6 years ago
Reply to  Twitching

I used to take the opposite position, but experience has finally convinced me that a person’s church attendance, position, bible reading/knowledge, and seemingly serious devotion to their faith are not reliable indicators of a person’s honesty and fidelity. I placed way too much faith in that during my marriage, practically blind faith, and it was a big reason I discounted things I was seeing and feeling.

Thankful
Thankful
6 years ago
Reply to  JK

So true! My X was a deacon and worked for a religious organization. His girlfriend was his much younger employee. Now his social media tag line is “Flawed disciple of God.” You would think his ongoing lies and unethical behavior would lower that pedestal he sees himself on, but it just keeps getting higher and higher.

X actually told me during our brief period of recovery (when he was still lying about seeing schmoonpie), that they had talked often about how God had brought them together. Yep. This was after almost 25 years of marriage. smh

Geode
Geode
6 years ago
Reply to  JK

So true. Dr. Crazy converted and was confirmed the month before we got married though we’d never seriously discussed religion and I didn’t even care. Oh he was also dating and seeing prostitutes, in the month before we got married.

Her Blondeness
Her Blondeness
6 years ago
Reply to  Geode

Religiousness has nothing to do with fidelity. It is just jaw-dropping as it is to hear about 20+ year marriages to pastors imploding over infidelity. But, really, based on my own experience, I shouldn’t be surprised. Cheater #2’s Skinny Slut maintained in a confessional letter that she was a “good Christian mother” and that “Jesus forgives”. Pardon me, but “good” Christians don’t pick and choose which commandments to adhere to and which to ignore. Especially those mentioning adultery, lying and coveting, in spite of any forgiveness from divine beings for human failings. There is a difference between human failings and willful misconduct. And I’m so happy that Jesus forgives adulterers, according to Skinny Slut. Unfortunately for Cheater #2 and Skinny Slut, I do not.

DOCTOR's1stWife&Kids
DOCTOR's1stWife&Kids
6 years ago
Reply to  Twitching

Twitching

I can’t even…

I believe my husband the DOCTOR (that is a very important title, so it must be capitalized) would do the same.

Since he’s not in contact with our children – and his arms work, so yes, he could pick up a phone – I suspect he’ll get a do over with Schmoopie’s kid(s).

Yay, he can keep on the performance for a new audience!

bepositive
bepositive
6 years ago
Reply to  Twitching

Twitching – I don’t get how congregations are ok with this stuff. My ex and his AP are both pastors. Members of her church are thrilled about their relationship (they did finally marry). Even people further up in the denomination didn’t have a problem with the relationship. As for me, after 25 years as a pastor’s wife I no longer go to church due to the hypocrisy.

Twitching
Twitching
6 years ago
Reply to  bepositive

Bepositive, 24 years pastor’s wife here. It has taken a couple of years to go back to church, and I mainly did it for the kids. Here’s the thing, though, that I know for sure. God’s love is unfailing. That’s why I finally went back. Plus, I was so lonely. I needed those people.

Chumpedbythelake
Chumpedbythelake
6 years ago
Reply to  bepositive

As I wrote yesterday, Christians aren’t the only hypocrites. 15 years ago, my then-husband stopped attending church with me and our sons to follow an alternative spiritual path. He’d been interested in this particular spirituality for awhile, but the OW (or, as I call her, the “Spiritual Slut”), who was a co-worker, invited him to a ceremony, and he was embraced by the community. All the members thought he was a real stand-up guy because of his active, devoted involvement, which included a helluva lot of out-of-state travel and use of his vacation time. I’ve never been sure how many of them knew about the nature of then-husband’s relationship with the SS and openly supported it.

Spiritual Slut also has an older sister (Crone Slut) who was a member of their community until she moved out west to be with the woman with whom she cheated on her own husband a few years ago. Spiritual Slut, Crone Slut, then-husband, and a few of their closest friends, within or on the fringes of their community, made a formidable crew, basically banning me from their circle when I started indicating that I was uncomfortable with the growing relationship between husband and Spiritual Slut.

Fun fact: several years ago, then-husband went online and got a license to perform wedding ceremonies. Over Labor Day weekend, he officiated at Crone Slut and lover’s wedding on the coast. I’m a progressive and support same-sex marriage – just not the ones of people who helped break up my own marriage.

DOCTOR's1stWife&Kids
DOCTOR's1stWife&Kids
6 years ago
Reply to  bepositive

bepositive

you wrote —

“My ex and his AP are both pastors. Members of her church are thrilled about their relationship (they did finally marry). Even people further up in the denomination didn’t have a problem with the relationship. ****As for me, after 25 years as a pastor’s wife I no longer go to church due to the hypocrisy.”***

WTF?

I’ve met about 5 men my age who seem interested or outright ask me out.

When I know they were married a long time with kids and then it ended, I give him the “possible chump man” benefit of the doubt. (After all, we know men can be chumps).

But if I learn that they “just grew apart/wife didn’t understand me/spent too much”

I shudder, confront and leave.

ICanSeeTheMehComing!
ICanSeeTheMehComing!
6 years ago

Agree with Geode… Mr. Sparkles told Girl with Dogs that the OW (who wasn’t an OW in his book) cheated on him… when in fact she caught him on Adult Friend Finder looking for women/couples/groups. But, he was sadz and she was/is desparate. Just found out… he actually STOOD HER UP on their first date and she still agreed to go out with him again. 11 months later… he just MOVED IN to her house.

Geode
Geode
6 years ago

Oh yes. I found Dr. Crazy on AFF, Ashley Madison, chatting with old gfs and hiring back page whores when I started digging. But first it was his match.com profile that caught his ex-fiancées eye and she clued me in.

ICanSeeTheMehComing!
ICanSeeTheMehComing!
6 years ago
Reply to  Geode

That’s the thing about PATHOLOGY… they don’t change for the next person. They are hard wired to be lying, cheating, fuckwits.

Geode
Geode
6 years ago

Exactly! And that’s the very thing the RIC and Sex Addict therapists will never explain to you or encourage you to explore since it’s not in their financial interest to do so.

Geode
Geode
6 years ago

I’d be careful Doctors first wife. Turns out from day 1 my doctor husband lied about being chumped. He was actually the cheater in his last three relationships. His words of “I was cheated on and it broke my heart; I’d never do that to you” seemed so genuine. He also lied about the number of times he was married because he knew there was no way I would bring my kids into a relationship with a man who has 6 failed marriages and engagements to his credit. They lie. Many of them lie.

Waffles
Waffles
6 years ago
Reply to  Geode

Yeah, they do lie. That’s the worst part: appealing to the chump with their bullshit story of being chumped and heartbroken. A normal person responds with kindness and concern. Never occurred that anybody would be so evil as to make that shit up to garner sympathy and trust, and get you to lower your defenses.

I wouldn’t even want to tell a potential partner of XHs betrayal for fear of being thought a liar. Yet another gift from that jackal, as much as I want to be empathetic, instead, I’m overly cynical. The loss of innocence is painful. Like virginity, once it’s gone, it’s gone.

Nyra
Nyra
6 years ago
Reply to  bepositive

The Bible is clear about the eternal consequences that await adulterers & false teachers!
My heart breaks over all the people being lead astray because of them!
Betrayed Christian spouses are leaving churches and adulterers are now leading several churches. :/
Beyond sad

Longtimechump
Longtimechump
6 years ago
Reply to  Nyra

Unfortunately, the church turned into a corrupt organization run by corrupt leaders most of the time. And most of them are very charismatic personalities with the good twist of the tongue and saying all the right things. But look at the actions, as CL says. I am a Christian by not only belief but also by belonging to the people that adopted christianity first as the official religion. It’s ingrained in the culture and in our brains as well. But the church for me? Just 4 walls really. And run by corrupt priests. I was not always so cynical and I do know honest priests exist. Still need to find them.

ChumpOnIt
ChumpOnIt
6 years ago
Reply to  Twitching

Hm, pick up, move to another state, and reinvent yourself. Sounds very basic asshole to me. That bonus though…that he is the leader of any spiritual community makes my stomach turn. I am thinking his congregation doesn’t know the real story…

Rebecca
Rebecca
6 years ago
Reply to  ChumpOnIt

Don’t assume the organization will care.
My current religious leader is on 5+ wives. One wife got pregnant while still married to another.
Has enough support that he is welcome to remain the spiritual leader.
Makes me sick.
(cannot change as there are no alternative institutions near me)

ArtistFormerlyKnownAsChump
ArtistFormerlyKnownAsChump
6 years ago
Reply to  Rebecca

Rebecca – PLEASE leave that church!! Your post gave me chills! UGH.

Longtimechump
Longtimechump
6 years ago
Reply to  Rebecca

Makes me sick as well but then again we place so much trust in our clergy and think of them as people of integrity while they are just people and some of them are shitty narcissistic personalities that like to think of themselves as the chosen by god. It’s us, chumps, that also perpetuate this cycle by either keeping silent or placing so much trust in these people.

ChumpOnIt
ChumpOnIt
6 years ago
Reply to  Rebecca

This is very true. A magnetic personality can be part of the make up of cheaters for sure (why else are some poor chumps attracted in the first place?), and quadruple that for spiritual/political/etc. leaders…you tend to need to have that characteristic in order to attract a following.

ChumpOnIt
ChumpOnIt
6 years ago
Reply to  ChumpOnIt

Not to diminish your freak of the week story. Hiding a marriage from you and your kids is prime stuff. Just saying that he’s no special snowflake in general. But I’m sure you know that. 😉

Special snowflake ha!
Special snowflake ha!
6 years ago
Reply to  Twitching

Please tell me you have informed the governing board for the church. That man should not be masquerading as a man of God.

Lady B
Lady B
6 years ago
Reply to  Twitching

Got to love the cheaters ability to manage their public image!

Feelingit
Feelingit
6 years ago
Reply to  Twitching

Twitching,
The bonus round: pathetic, what can anyone even say!?

Kimhopes
Kimhopes
6 years ago

1. Sent emails to other women calling them My Queen and they called him My King.

2. Yelled at me for wanting to spend money for Christmas because the scam artists were pressuring him for more.

3. Sent dick pics, with his face clearly visible, to overseas scam artists.

Tempest
Tempest
6 years ago
Reply to  Kimhopes

“3. Sent dick pics, with his face clearly visible, to overseas scam artists.”

And they just wanted his bank account number.

Chumpinrecovery
Chumpinrecovery
6 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Sounds like they got more than they bargained for. “hey we just need your bank account info to ‘send you money’, we didn’t need the dick picks”

Chumpinrecovery
Chumpinrecovery
6 years ago

pics. Freudian slip?

Gonegirl
Gonegirl
6 years ago

Lets see….

My ex brought OW in to our home to babysit the kids. Testing the SM role?
My ex brought OW into out home for the weekend when said kids and I went to visit my sister.
My ex went to stay with her the night I had to get a court order to get him out of the house.

But she’s “just a friend!”

99problemsbutacheateraint1ofthem
99problemsbutacheateraint1ofthem
6 years ago
Reply to  Gonegirl

Mine had “just a friend too.” A “co-worker.”

These disordered freaks think they are so unique.

They are like IKEA furniture. Flat-packed, cheap and mass produced.

OhHellNo
OhHellNo
6 years ago
Reply to  Gonegirl

Same here, GoneGirl. But she was “just a coworker.” And when I expressed concern over all the time they were spending together, his response was, “You know she’s not my type; her tits are too small.” wtf?!

It was fun to share that little tidbit with the OW when the $hit hit the fan. As in, Wow, he must really like a lot of other things about you, since he thinks your tits are too small. Just a small bit of pleasure in telling her that.

JesssMom
JesssMom
6 years ago
Reply to  OhHellNo

Oh, the bashing of the OW when it works in their favor. Got that too. My STBX referred to one of his OW (the only one I knew about at the time) as a deformed dwarf. When I informed her husband, I asked him to tell his wife about the kind of guy STBX is (and what he had said about her).

Chumpy me, I didn’t do it to bash her. Rather, together, her and her husband have 3 kids. I hoped it might help her pull her head out of her ass so that her kids wouldn’t have to go through the hell mine were going through. Besides, her husband seems like a fairly typical, kind Chump.

Gonegirl
Gonegirl
6 years ago
Reply to  JesssMom

Mine told me “she does what I tell her.” Ummm hello? You were her boss, she is supposed to do what you tell her to do.

StaryEye
StaryEye
6 years ago
Reply to  Gonegirl

My ex got really offended when I told him his “co worker” was probably just being nice because they work together. What? Am I doubting his ability to charm women or do I think he isn’t good looking enough? Seriously I found myself reassuring him that he was good enough. OW probably is attached to him. So many cirles of confusing manipulation. I was trying to comfort him after I found his flirty text messaging and him deciding to not care about me or our marriage. Crazy!

Natalia.B
Natalia.B
6 years ago

My cheater (never faithful since day 1) burst in room as I slept, assaulted me supposedly over supportive text I’d sent to my friend over her break up?? He threw off his wedding ring in disgust (we’d been married 1 year) and stormed out for over 2 hours. Much later I discovered he’d engineered whole thing for an excuse to leave the house in the early hours and visit a massage parlour.

QueenMother
QueenMother
6 years ago
Reply to  Natalia.B

Yah, there ya go Natalia.B, that’s how these assholes role.

WhoDaThunk
WhoDaThunk
6 years ago

He brought home a large popcorn after movie night with the OW because … “What? The girls love popcorn”
We have 3 daughters

Darkstar
Darkstar
6 years ago
Reply to  WhoDaThunk

When I found a used red lipstick in my husband’s pants pocket his excuse…I found it on the ground and thought the girls would like it. You know how they love to play makeup. Wow…he really thought of the girls for once? Fuck no. Liar.

99problemsbutacheateraint1ofthem
99problemsbutacheateraint1ofthem
6 years ago
Reply to  Darkstar

What other germ-ridden rubbish did he plan on picking up randomly off the ground for his young children to play with?

They really do think we’re idiots, don’t they.

Feelingit
Feelingit
6 years ago
Reply to  Darkstar

Yeah, thought of your girls with used lipstick he found on the ground- disgusting, who knows where that’s been?

Sorry excuse, just gross.

mavis
mavis
6 years ago
Reply to  WhoDaThunk

He brought home a box of a dozen vegan donuts for the kids with 6 missing. The stains of the missing six plainly evident in the box and we are not vegan.

ChumpOnIt
ChumpOnIt
6 years ago
Reply to  WhoDaThunk

LOL, who just pops into a movie theater to buy popcorn?

Natalia.B
Natalia.B
6 years ago

…..sent dic pics to 8 women whilst at work, I (his wife of 6 months) was 4th on list. Lucky me!

marissachump
marissachump
6 years ago
Reply to  Natalia.B

What is it with the dick pics sent out to so many people??

Reminds me. When I saw OW’s breast pics on cheater’s cell phone, I was told, “oh but she just loves the attention. I’m sure I was just one of like ten other people she sent that out to. It’s no big deal!”

Natalia.B
Natalia.B
6 years ago
Reply to  Natalia.B

So weird looking back on timelines for it all isn’t it? You just don’t expect you’ll have to be Sherlock Holmes with your own husband. Such large scale deceit for so long makes you feel violated when you realise you shared your bed and body with true sociopath.

brit
brit
6 years ago
Reply to  Natalia.B

Absolutely frightening.

NotMyFault
NotMyFault
6 years ago
Reply to  Natalia.B

Yes, yes, yes. The problem also lies in the fact that no one believes us “chumps” because he was so charismatic, such a good boss, etc., etc. To me, this is the tough part, because WE know what really happened!

CurlyChump
CurlyChump
6 years ago
Reply to  NotMyFault

THIS. LadyLiar scammed everyone. When I tried to get support from many people I thought were friends, they looked at me like I was making this shit up. I once had a narcissistic boss who was the same way. The things they say and do are so outrageous that other people think we MUST be making it up, or at least exaggerating, and they question OUR credibility and sanity. It was one of the worst parts of the mindfuck.

DOCTOR'sWife&3Kids
DOCTOR'sWife&3Kids
6 years ago
Reply to  NotMyFault

While assigned to Alaska,

He asked me if I wanted an ATV for “OUR wedding anniversary” (-an All Terrain Vehicle, mostly used for hunting).

I said “No. But WE could use a hot tub for my back injury AND so we can enjoy the outdoors in the winter”

On our anniversary he presented me the ATV keys & said “Happy Anniversary” with a goofy nervous smile.

99problemsbutacheateraint1ofthem
99problemsbutacheateraint1ofthem
6 years ago

My ex narcopath took me to the most expensive restaurant in our city for my 30th… I

He was so excited. He coudln’t stop talking about it. However, he wasn’t that interested in what I thought about the whole thing (given it was my 30th). I’m more of a low-key girl.

I remember thinking “it’s all about him,”then felt bad for being ungrateful.

I was right. It was all about him. Any gift he ever got me, was only to please him. And make him look and feel good to others; no genuine desire to truely connect to anything I would actually want.

All of us here have the same story, just different variables.

StaryEye
StaryEye
6 years ago

My ex gave me a really nice complicated camera that I basically told him I didn’t want and we couldn’t afford. He said I need to have more hobbies and I need to spend all this money for this equipment. I love taking pictures but I know how he gets with expensive equipment. We had to always leave it home so that it wouldn’t get hurt.

Jo
Jo
6 years ago

Yup. Every gift is actually all about them, always and forevermore.

ClarityNow
ClarityNow
6 years ago
Reply to  Natalia.B

Yes. I remember that strong feeling of violation. It’s still there a little but no here near as bad as it was.

DOCTOR'sWife&3Kids
DOCTOR'sWife&3Kids
6 years ago
Reply to  ClarityNow

ClarityNow

the more I read here, the more I realize was possible, and the more I feel duped.

Deeply disappointing for me. For my children’s sake, I feel great sadness. 35 years and I really thought we had a lot of laughs and love.

I’m freaking hilarious, very smart and yes, damn it, I’m attractive. I’ve come a long way towards believing that this is not about me.

But it sure feels personal. I hate feeling used and working on not feeling ashamed.

^^That is my challenge.

ClarityNow
ClarityNow
6 years ago

Yes it is amazing how frequently things like this happen and makes trusting even more difficult. I will always have a backup plan going forward.

I also feel disappointed for my children. My youngest was only ten months old when everything happened. She will never remember having an intact family.

The hardest part for me has been the extreme level of betrayal from a man I thought loved me and from a close friend of mine. Yes it is very personal.

I haven’t struggled with shame, personally. I’ve known this is on them. While of course I wasn’t the perfect wife, I did not deserve what happened to me.

DunChumpin
DunChumpin
6 years ago
Reply to  ClarityNow

There are no perfect spouses. There are really fucking evil ones though.

Rebecca
Rebecca
6 years ago

Had to go to OW (thought we were ‘frends’) to find out the truth.

“Why?”
“Aren’t you glad it was me and not some 19 year old floozie*?”
“You’ve known my kids* for their whole lives. How could you do this to them?”
“If you told your kids, that’s your problem”

* seriously – 50 year old woman used the word floozie!

* kids were 23 and 18. Did she think they shouldn’t know their father was having a 12 year affair under our nose?

He lost his kids and a faboulous, loving wife. We are great and he is miserable!
She supports him so he can support me ????

no way back
no way back
6 years ago
Reply to  Rebecca

My situation too. She supports him so he can support his kids! Ass wipe!!

TKO
TKO
6 years ago
Reply to  Rebecca

That whole kids remark…you’ve asked her how she could DO this to them and her response was about your TELLING them. Not even a moment’s hesitation reflecting on what she has done to their lives. In her twisted mind, nothing was done to them so long as they don’t know about it. It’s really weird how their brains work isn’t it? They are all like this. Truth isn’t reality, the image is reality. Deep deception at the heart of a relationship is equivalent to deep commitment. Two equally valid alternatives. That’s all. And what ruins lives is not the vile deeds, it’s your reaction to them.

sweetChumpgirl
sweetChumpgirl
6 years ago

He said he needed to be alone and bought himself new bathing suit trunks and beach chair so he could have all day alone on the beach with his thoughts. Afterwards,he decided to go out for dinner and showed up home drunk and in jeans without boxers on singing “Gotta Have Faith” by George Michael. Only time I finally realized something was wrong in our 20 yr marriage (spackle much?) sweet xoxo

StaryEye
StaryEye
6 years ago
Reply to  sweetChumpgirl

If only spackling translates into a real spackling skill for walls.

NoMoreEvil
NoMoreEvil
6 years ago
Reply to  sweetChumpgirl

This is hilarious, sweetchumpgirl!!!????

sweetChumpgirl
sweetChumpgirl
6 years ago
Reply to  NoMoreEvil

It is so funny now. Thank you for the good laugh tonight really needed it xoxox

Hopium4years
Hopium4years
6 years ago
Reply to  sweetChumpgirl

I not only laughed out loud, sweetChumpgirl, I started to cough/laugh because I was laughing so hard I aspirated!

“Ya gotta have faith…”

ChumpOnIt
ChumpOnIt
6 years ago
Reply to  sweetChumpgirl

“Well I guess it would be nice if I could touch your body / I know not everybody has got a body like you”
Just picturing a really bad rendition of that song by your drunk, free-ballin’, George Michael wannabe X…LOL

JesssMom
JesssMom
6 years ago
Reply to  sweetChumpgirl

Definitely a contender. Holy cow!

OhHellNo
OhHellNo
6 years ago
Reply to  sweetChumpgirl

sweetChumpGirl that’s insane. You must have been spackling like crazy. Glad you have put down the trowel!

Natalia.B
Natalia.B
6 years ago
Reply to  sweetChumpgirl

That is soooo…..funny!!

Newlady15
Newlady15
6 years ago

Mine gave his daughter a jar of olives for the first Christmas after the split ( and she hates olives). It will be a long time before she finds that a funny story.

Whodoesthat
Whodoesthat
6 years ago
Reply to  Newlady15

Olives ! Good one! My cheater bought our daughter a bed for her 16th birthday left the next day then made the 4 of us homeless when the house payments dried up. Thanks dad !! Well at least she had a bed even if we didnt have anywhere to live (i was made redundant at this time too) dad of the year didnt lift a finger to help. Of course i was accused of turning everyone against him. Facts sort of speak for themselves. …

DOCTOR'sWife&3Kids
DOCTOR'sWife&3Kids
6 years ago
Reply to  Newlady15

NEWLADY15

olives?? A whole jar?

sorry but I did laugh out loud. Unfortunately that sounds like a gift my shithead would give me. What I needed was a bigger trowel.

Tundra Woman
Tundra Woman
6 years ago
Reply to  Newlady15

Perhaps gently suggest your daughter gift him a jar of whole dill pickles with the message
“When I saw these I immediately thought of you-You’re still a dick.”

DOCTOR'sWife&3Kids
DOCTOR'sWife&3Kids
6 years ago
Reply to  Tundra Woman

Tundra Woman

the jar of pickles for the dad

make sure they’re the small Gerkins type

ChumpDiva
ChumpDiva
6 years ago

Bwahahahaha! Small gerkins! Totally my overcompensating cheater!

jumper
jumper
6 years ago
Reply to  Tundra Woman

LOL thanks for the gut laugh TW!

ChumpOnIt
ChumpOnIt
6 years ago
Reply to  Newlady15

A truly special Christmas gift…revealing who he truly is. I feel like my X will continue to image manage his way through my daughter’s childhood. While I’m not sure if it’s any better for her than what your X did, I am sorry that she has to receive a message like that on Christmas. He’s a total ass.

Newlady15
Newlady15
6 years ago

Mine gave his daughter a jar of olives for the first Christmas after the split ( and she hates olives).

ClearWaters
ClearWaters
6 years ago
Reply to  Newlady15

I always remember that one Newlady!

Newlady15
Newlady15
6 years ago
Reply to  ClearWaters

Funny to us! Oliveman.What a freak!

Hopium4years
Hopium4years
6 years ago
Reply to  Newlady15

Oliveman!

How touching. A heartwarming Christmas gifting story. NOT.

What a jerk!

JB
JB
6 years ago

He berated me for refusing to reconcile during our separation–while telling a woman he’d met on ChristianMingle and promised marriage to to start taking prenatal vitamins so she could have his baby.

He claimed his (first) affair lasted 9 months. I later found out he’d pursued her for three years by leaving love letters on her car at work, and a security guard finally banned him. His family knew and never told me.

He tried to convince me that God wrote “Do Not Mock Me” in blue letters on his bedroom wall in an effort to show how close he was to God and how he’d NOW be faithful to me.

He convinced his mother to hand over his deceased stepfather’s cell phone so he could use it to conduct his affair. She paid for it, and we had our own plan–she didn’t question it. Classic enabler.

I’ll stop now!

NoMoreEvil
NoMoreEvil
6 years ago
Reply to  JB

Whoa, JB. I am totally speechless…smh

JB
JB
6 years ago
Reply to  JB

The memories are flooding back!

During one of our ‘reconciliation’ phases, he tooo me to see a movie I’d wanted to see. The next week, he gave the OW the book version.

He told her she’d “look sexy in a trucker’s hat” and wrote her a rap song. He was in his early 40’s at the time, and a pro-fessional.

I have ALL of this in writing. It’s why he hates me.

Tempest
Tempest
6 years ago
Reply to  JB

At least we now know God speaks English.

Battle-Tempered Lionheart
Battle-Tempered Lionheart
6 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Tempest- if I did not love you enough already for all your comments, I do even more now, for this one. Hilarious and spot-on.
A typical self-absorbed narc would say “uh yeah, the Bible was written in English, duh!”

Tundra Woman
Tundra Woman
6 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

JFC, looks like a delusional crawl up that cross. Dude, please.
For his next act he’s gonna smear his feces all over the bathroom wall with the message, “Holy Shit! Guess who was here!”

OhHellNo
OhHellNo
6 years ago
Reply to  JB

omg the writing on the wall my coffee just came out through my nose

ChumpOnIt
ChumpOnIt
6 years ago
Reply to  OhHellNo

Yup. Strong contender right there!

ClearWaters
ClearWaters
6 years ago
Reply to  JB

All these Jesus-Cheaters trying to feel good.

ClearWaters
ClearWaters
6 years ago

1- Huffed and puffed self righteously as he stomped our of our home for the last time “But I’m NOT promiscuous”. (This pearl of Ethics could overheat the UBT.)

2- Had a little shrine at his week day apartment built with a rosary, a scapular, four bibles, my picture and schmoopie’s cards.

3- Made me spend a weekend on the phone with airline over his “assistant’s” lost luggage (trip was business for EX and shopping in the USA for schmoopie with lots of extra luggage)

Whodoesthat
Whodoesthat
6 years ago
Reply to  ClearWaters

1. Out of the blue he called me at work to wonder if we needed marriage counselling….we picked his parents up from airport a few hours later….
2. I Spent the next 2 weeks spazing out WTF was going on…no conversations just tension.
3. Fuckface parents leave after i have looked after them hand and foot….all 5 of our pet rabbits die suddenly (fine for 7 years so far ) 12 hours later husband of 25 yrs demands a divorce and moves into an apartment within days
Postscript….the over financed house was forced sale and me and 3 kids had no choice financially but to move into an apartment (no room for 5 rabbits then…) fuckface left us with $200 and swore on kids lives he was not leaving for someone else…… guessed it …. yep barely older than his own son… some secretary. Cliche s everywhere…. tragic

Her Blondeness
Her Blondeness
6 years ago
Reply to  Whodoesthat

He killed the family pets? What a monster! I hope your kids hate his guts.

ChumpDiva
ChumpDiva
6 years ago
Reply to  ClearWaters

Holy shit! YOUR picture? Creepy!As if it wouldn’t be sacted screwing without a reminder of the truly screwed BS.
OMG they SUCK!!!
Yours, especially!

ChumpDiva
ChumpDiva
6 years ago
Reply to  ChumpDiva

Sacred screwing…

Jojobee
Jojobee
6 years ago
Reply to  ClearWaters

He included his adultery trophies in a prayer niche? I’m sure the saints and the eternally virgin MOTHER OF GOD were right on board with that! Is he trying to secure first class, up front seating for hell? What a delusional,disrespectful jerk. And to think that you would want your picture in that sacrilegious melange is beyond the pale. He imagines that he can somehow sanctify his disgusting trysts with schmoopie by proclaiming it so, as if he is God. I don’t know if this is the most “freakish” entry–but it has to be the absolute most arrogant. I know it’s wrong to wish damnation on any soul(so I won’t), but, I hope he ends up on such a low rung of purgatory dangling over a lake of fire so close his pubic hair catches ablaze!

NoMoreEvil
NoMoreEvil
6 years ago
Reply to  Jojobee

I would love to see a cartoon of this “shrine!” Lmao

ClearWaters
ClearWaters
6 years ago
Reply to  Jojobee

Jojobee, the things cheaters will do for impression management on themselves!

You are right, incredibly arrogant. He has complained that I make him look bad when I point out his cheating. As CL says, if it wasn’t so terrible to do, then it’s not so terrible to talk about.

They really are sociopaths. Makes me shiver.

Newlady15
Newlady15
6 years ago
Reply to  ClearWaters

Yes I was told to stop dissing him
around our small town. I told him
nasty behaviour leads to nasty talk. Besides I always told the truth it’s something he hated avoit me–I’m “too truthful”.

ClearWaters
ClearWaters
6 years ago
Reply to  Newlady15

change your blog name to TooTruthful, heheheh…

Jgirl
Jgirl
6 years ago
Reply to  ClearWaters

The shrine is some psycho sh*t!! OMG so scary…

Tundra Woman
Tundra Woman
6 years ago
Reply to  Jgirl

Um, well he shoulda added some sage-and an Exorcist.

Hopium4years
Hopium4years
6 years ago
Reply to  Tundra Woman

Why only 4 Bibles? 😉

What a nutjob!

Newlady15
Newlady15
6 years ago
Reply to  ClearWaters

Omg the shrine!!

ChumpOnIt
ChumpOnIt
6 years ago
Reply to  Newlady15

Me thinks he needs to keep praying!

insistonhonesty
insistonhonesty
6 years ago

1) Got another woman pregnant after we started seriously dating, didn’t tell me about it until she was 8 months pregnant… when I’d already moved in with him, gotten engaged, and only one day after I found out that *I* was pregnant (despite being on the patch for two years.)

2) He also took that opportunity to tell me that he’d had a child with a woman the previous year but NOT TO WORRY; she didn’t know where he was and hates him more than she’d want child support anyway.

3) He told me that he was “let go” from his job for asking for a raise, two days before our 2nd child was born. Nope. I later found out (8 effing YEARS later) it was because the owner had a hidden camera on the inventory and he found Cheater not only taking almost up-to-$20 cash sales (I have no idea where that went- I had the same, $250/week budget to work with), he’d seen the OW (a gf of an employee) spread eagle on the back-storeroom table, with Cheater going down on her.

Tempest
Tempest
6 years ago

InsistonHonesty–lots of gut punches. I remember when you first arrived at CL a couple of years ago and your story (as you knew it) was only about inappropriate friendship with his commuting partner. The ugly just continues to roll out of these guys and gals.

insistonhonesty
insistonhonesty
6 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

I found out about the table and them 8 years later, but he said he “just couldn’t; she was so gross.” Only last year did I see the owner while out and about and he told me that he ABSOLUTELY DID and it was on VIDEO. That he HAD the video, still, just in case.

I used that opportunity to put them both on a homewrecking site, saying I had video proof and quoted their messages directly so that I couldn’t be successfully sued for libel… because she can only win if it’s not true. (He wouldn’t dare.) And it IS. It’s so true that it’s on video. Even so, it’s now also past the statute of limitations, if she had been so inclined. She has lost two jobs already, from clients googling her and finding that site, and she has angrily messaged me a few times about it.

She’ll have to go into cutt-throat sales or something, like Cheater, where people generally expect that kind of behavior and it doesn’t really put them off.

Tundra Woman
Tundra Woman
6 years ago

Bravo! I think you should change your screen name to “Insta-Honesty.”
Motto to live by: “Every Picture Tells A Story, Don’t It?!

Peacekeeper
Peacekeeper
6 years ago

“Insistonhonesty”
I read your post name, then your post, and I have to agree with SweetChumpgirl, YOU win!

I am so sorry for all you went through.

DOCTOR'sWife&3Kids
DOCTOR'sWife&3Kids
6 years ago
Reply to  Peacekeeper

InsistOnHonesty

Wow…He must have had his charms.

If any of us win the lottery we really ought to give you some. CL? is there a chump prize for this???

insistonhonesty
insistonhonesty
6 years ago

He was “a new man” with me. And then, my sunk costs were too high. Well, that’s what I thought at the time, anyway. After the two previous children, he seemed reformed with me. His family said so. And I bought it. And thought, “after all I’ve put up with and resolved FOR him, he wouldn’t dare go back to his old ways!” Me, thinking like a kind person who projected kindness onto those I loved, thought he would be grateful that I dug him out of his hole and gave him the fresh start of a normal, calm life… not take advantage of it in order to be an even bigger asshole.

He dug down and buried his new secrets deeper.

sweetChumpgirl
sweetChumpgirl
6 years ago

You win! Holy shit!

Pret
Pret
6 years ago

He rubbed up against me, his daughter and his mother for Christmas photos wearing a masquerade ball jacket his mistress took off of him 2 nights before…in a sleazy motel after he “masqueraded” her ( pun intended) as his wife for his Holiday party.

Pret
Pret
6 years ago
Reply to  Pret

That jacket became symbolic to me. During reconciliation, he refused to give up that jacket, despite the fact that I told him what it represented to me ( but I guess that was the whole point)….now I would love nothing better than to set that jacket on fire ( preferably with him wearing it) but I guess I’ll have to settle for cutting him out of my life…

Hopium4years
Hopium4years
6 years ago
Reply to  Pret

Of course he refused to give it up. So hateful.

I love the setting fire to it revenge fantasy!

Lucky
Lucky
6 years ago

1. We had a large house and I was helping to support my x through 7(yeah I am a chump ) years of school.
He seriously told me he wanted to move Miss Piggy and her children into our home ( she was a fellow MDiv student ) because ” she was having problems in her marriage “. No Shit!!!

2. While x was away doing mission work ( cost us an arm and a leg for that trip ), MOW brought me a very nice heart shaped bowl of hand made chocolates at 10pm at night on Valentines Day. Thanks but no thanks!?!

3. After returning home from a long drive to attend a funeral x stated that he wanted to turn around and drive an additional 4 hours to go to Schmoopies surprise birthday party ( first I knew about it ).
He was standing in the parking lot of the church wearing his full clerical garb and collar, and a nice dress overcoat.
I said no – we’re tired, let’s not.
He proceeded to clench his fists and jump up and down screaming ” I was supposed to be a fire fighter” at the top of his lungs!

OtherRebecca
OtherRebecca
6 years ago
Reply to  Lucky

He needs a job with a better costume, I mean uniform 😉

ChumpDiva
ChumpDiva
6 years ago
Reply to  Lucky

That is an awesome story! Disordered is a real thing.

Magneto
Magneto
6 years ago
Reply to  ChumpDiva

What. the. ever. loving. F***?

ChumpOnIt
ChumpOnIt
6 years ago
Reply to  Lucky

Hahaha…the firefighter bit…what a total man-child.

DOCTOR'sWife&3Kids
DOCTOR'sWife&3Kids
6 years ago
Reply to  ChumpOnIt

The garbed as a cleric, but was “supposed to be a firefighter” while stomping and shaking his fist

why can I see this so clearly in my head? You are in contention, Lucky

and you ARE LUCKY. What an exhole

FMT
FMT
6 years ago
Reply to  Lucky

Between the chocolates and “He proceeded to clench his fists and jump up and down screaming ” I was supposed to be a fire fighter” at the top of his lungs!”, I think you are a serious contender. You chose your user name well if this freak is out of your life for good!

I gotta get ready for work here, but holy crap. These stories are just WOW.

Whodoesthat
Whodoesthat
6 years ago
Reply to  FMT

Yeah i remember the jumping up and down episodes. I was thinking in my head this has got to be a joke. No it was his true self. I knew when i called him on it. “Why are u having a fucking tantrum!? : no it was all about him all of the time. He just didnt reflect on what just happened. And of course none was his fault! No way.

mavis
mavis
6 years ago
Reply to  Lucky

I can picture that Lucky ????
You can’t make that shit up

JC
JC
6 years ago

I tried to “scare” my cheater wife into fidelity by moving out on her and into the home of a 45-year-old Craigslister subletter seamstress who worked out of her living room and always had her shady ex-boyfriend over, even during the daytime when he should have had a job, who seemed to have a jealous streak.

One night three weeks into my stay there, when I was drugged up on a sleeping pill and huddled on a mattress *in a walk-in closet to insulate myself from his chainsaw snoring*, that ex-boyfriend stormed buck naked—gut hanging out—into my bedroom and woke me up to scream at me for keeping him awake and to tell me to get out of the house as soon as it was morning.

Then he went back into my host’s bedroom, and I listened to them have sex while I fought the effects of the sleeping pill, leaning against the wall for 4 hours until it was light outside, packing my suitcases, and then catching the bus back to my marital home, where wife was without her OM for once.

Tempest
Tempest
6 years ago
Reply to  JC

You can’t make this up if you tried. I see a screenplay in your future, JC.

jumper
jumper
6 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

No kidding, unbelievable. Sheesh.

Peacekeeper
Peacekeeper
6 years ago
Reply to  JC

JC,
I think you are “runner up” in today’s posts, so far.
OMG, Chumps of CN, what do you all think?!

There should be a Chump Medal Day!?

JC
JC
6 years ago
Reply to  Peacekeeper

It’s the “best” story to come out of my XW’s affair. I like the fact that she isn’t even a part of it!

mil23
mil23
6 years ago
Reply to  JC

This seriously made me laugh out loud!!! My house if dead quiet at almost 1AM and I am cracking up!

ICanSeeTheMehComing!
ICanSeeTheMehComing!
6 years ago

Mr. Sparkles brought crabs home from our trip to Mexico and told me they must’ve come from the blankets. (No, I didn’t have them – same blankets).

His Internet browser history for Craigslist showed that he preferred to read T4M (transexual for men) personal ads over W4M personals by 2:1!

He still believes he never committed adultery throughout our marriage, all evidence submitted to the court was fabricated. He TRULY believes this. That is pathology my friends.

Hopium4years
Hopium4years
6 years ago

(I’ve tried twice to post a reply; maybe 3rd time’s a charm?)

T4M over W4M personal ads by 2:1.

????!!????

I’m so sorry, ICSTMC. I can’t even imagine what it must have been like for you to learn this.

ICanSeeTheMehComing!
ICanSeeTheMehComing!
6 years ago
Reply to  Hopium4years

Know that scene in Silkwood where Meryl Streep is being scrubbed down with wire brushes after contamination exposure… that would be me.

jumper
jumper
6 years ago

I believe a lot of us feel that way ICSMC.

UXworld
UXworld
6 years ago

KK explained a sudden sprint up to Daughter1’s room on New Years Eve as having had a panic attack after filling out a Peapod grocery order. (She was actually sending boob-shots to a jerking-off Marine stationed in Japan.)

Hopium4years
Hopium4years
6 years ago
Reply to  UXworld

UXWorld, you must be at meh, otherwise how can you not barf when you think of this? UGH!!

Lies AND porn performance in your daughter’s room. Beyond gross.

Tempest
Tempest
6 years ago
Reply to  UXworld

On-line grocery shopping gives me panic attacks too. smh

CheatersKilljoy
CheatersKilljoy
6 years ago

Limply held my hand as I gave birth to our second daughter. Didn’t kiss me in joy after she was born. Then used that as another reason I suck on dday. Took sadest pics with his new daughter b/c he knew in a couple months he was leaving all of us to be with OW in their new house 2 hours away.

HeatDeath
HeatDeath
6 years ago

Every photo I have of nowdeadserialcheaterwife in the hospital having just given birth to our daughter is tainted by me knowing that she was banging her boyfriend all through and after the pregnancy. I really try not to think of how close her “gay friend”‘s d*ck has been to my daughter’s head. If it weren’t for the fact that he’s black and me and ndscw aren’t, and that my daughter is the spitting image of me and my little brother when we were her age (5), I’d have serious concerns about her paternity.

NotToday
NotToday
6 years ago

This right here is why I know I can never reconcile with my cheater. The pain of having that first perfect moment with your child ruined by some disordered douchebag is just so raw, and I can’t see a time ahead where it won’t hurt like a bitch to think about my son’s birth. In my case, it was Mr. Justification’s disinterested “Hey, buddy,” as his greeting to his son. The moment we both fell asleep, he was texting with Schmoopie, planning when they could see each other and how long it was “appropriate” to wait after the birth for him to leave us.

Cheaterskilljoy, you and your daughter deserved better. And by leaving your selfish, immature fuckwit of a husband, you will show her that it’s never ok to be treated like that. All the hugs to you. You are mighty.

JesssMom
JesssMom
6 years ago

So sorry he was such a jackass. My STBX ruined all three of my kids’ births. I know how much that sucks. (((Hugs)))

Pret
Pret
6 years ago

I hear you….during mediation, cheater blamed me for the fact that he never bonded with his daughter( now ten years old) because I didn’t “encourage” him to take time off when she was born. He is also another one who “planned” to leave. The best revenge CheatersKilljoy? The kid he abandoned will one day have the courage to abandon him. I live in hope of that day….it will be icing on top of my Tuesday.

Lady b
Lady b
6 years ago
Reply to  Pret

True fucker, right there…

TwoBlackCats
TwoBlackCats
6 years ago

While my brothers and I were sitting in a skilled nursing home watching our mother pass away ( uncontrolled cerebral hemorrhage ) cheater was never present because he was working overtime so ” I wouldn’t have to worry” about the lost income while I was sitting at my mothers side. Yep, he was fucking Schmoopie. Not working at all.

StaryEye
StaryEye
6 years ago
Reply to  TwoBlackCats

Cheaters ruin can make a bad situation worse. After my dad died, cheater pants kept disappearing at the funeral. I almost missed part of the funeral because I was looking for him. A few months before his dad died and it was the same story. Left me to deal with all his family while he went somewhere else during the viewing. I have no idea where he went either time.

Lady b
Lady b
6 years ago
Reply to  TwoBlackCats

P O S right there

Beetle
Beetle
6 years ago

Told my father who was having memory problems that I ruined a perfectly good marriage and that I got a divorce just to get as much money as I could.

Texted kids about date with neighbor the day after we separated; also OW. Bragging about holding her hand. Kids were in shock of a divorce.

Hovering all over the nursing home my father was in. He died yesterday and today is the viewing. He will be there and I’m so embarrassed by him and ashamed I was married to him. He told everybody I had lots of affairs. Told kids I divorced him.

Waffles
Waffles
6 years ago
Reply to  Beetle

I’m sorry for your loss, Beetle. Enlist friends and family to keep him OUT. Today is about you and your family; he is no longer part of that equation. (((Beetle)))

Beetle
Beetle
6 years ago
Reply to  Waffles

My sister and nephews are going to help. As she said he’s no longer family.

Tessie
Tessie
6 years ago
Reply to  Beetle

Hugs Beetle. I’m glad you are going to take care of yourself and your kids. So sorry about your dad.

Hopium4years
Hopium4years
6 years ago
Reply to  Beetle

Beetle I am SO sorry for the loss of your father. I lost mine 10 years ago and I miss him so.

And I’m so sorry the POS has been so awful through these recent difficult days. What an a-hole.

Beetle
Beetle
6 years ago
Reply to  Hopium4years

I am going to take care of myself and I’m going to have him temoved. This is just part of his entitlement that he really is. I want my daughters with me and not him demanding attention as he does. He’s just a sick sad being that he can’t see others see through him.

Beth
Beth
6 years ago
Reply to  Beetle

I’m so sorry for your loss Beetle. It’s good you can feel your dad’s spirit. That’s a great comfort in times of need. I second Tempest’s suggestion about a security guard. There is absolutely no reason to have that disordered fuckwit at your dad’s services. I know other people who have done that to keep disordered family members from creating a scene. They are probably very used to it at the funeral home. Do whatever you need to do to make yourself feel more comfortable! {{hugs}}

Beetle
Beetle
6 years ago
Reply to  Beth

Thank you. I will seriously seek that he won’t be there. It’s all about him anyway. So he thinks. He’s just a jerk half my family don’t want to be around.

ClarityNow
ClarityNow
6 years ago
Reply to  Beetle

I’m so sorry. It’s so hard when you’ve just been totally screwed only to have the blame shifted onto you. Feels like you’re living in an alternate universe.

Beetle
Beetle
6 years ago
Reply to  ClarityNow

It’s hard to believe that he could walk up to anyone and just lie. He dates up a storm and I got depressed and gained weight. A lot of people would see who’s happy and who is still on the path of recovery. He even had a divorce party given to him by ours neighbors.

I feel my dads spirit and I hope he will help guide my path for new days ahead.

Peacekeeper
Peacekeeper
6 years ago
Reply to  Beetle

Beetle,
I am so sorry for the loss of your Dad.
Hold CN in your heart in the following difficult days.
Be gentle, yet strong.
Honour your Father’s life in the spirit you wish to.
I hope everything goes well.

Beetle
Beetle
6 years ago
Reply to  Peacekeeper

Thank you. I’m feeling good for my father just dying. I had a dream of my mother who I couldn’t see but I knew she was there and I saw my father sitting beside her. I told my father the dream and he was comforted by it.

Thanks to cl and fellow chumps I’m able to put it in perspective and just sweet memories of my father and knowing he’s with my mother. He missed her real bad.

mil23
mil23
6 years ago
Reply to  Beetle

I am so sorry for the loss of your father. May he Rest In Peace.

Tempest
Tempest
6 years ago
Reply to  Beetle

Beetle–can you get a security guard to keep him out of your father’s viewing & funeral? There’s no way you should have to tolerate him under such circumstances.

I’m very sorry about your father’s passing.

Beetle
Beetle
6 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

I could use my Uncle to get rid of him. I hope people gossip about him. Friends have been telling my side of story and what I had to put up with

JesssMom
JesssMom
6 years ago
Reply to  Beetle

What an asshole. I’m so sorry he is putting this on you when you’ve just had such a huge loss. I would definitely consider enlisting your uncle’s aid. The LAST thing you need right now is to have to deal with your X.

Beetle
Beetle
6 years ago
Reply to  JesssMom

He always takes up for me. He didn’t like him and said he acts entitled. I don’t think my uncle wants to be in the same room with him either!

Tundra Woman
Tundra Woman
6 years ago
Reply to  Beetle

I’m so sorry for your loss, {{Beetle.}} Please take care of you.
(And fuk him with a rusty barbed wired colonoscopy.)

Trying for Mighty
Trying for Mighty
6 years ago
Reply to  Beetle

I’m so sorry for your loss and that you have had to endure the lies and gaslighting by your cheater. Hold your head high today, even if mentally, and know that the truth will out! What an asshole your cheater is.

Beetle
Beetle
6 years ago

Thank you. I was hoping to never have to see him nor be in the same as him.

DOCTOR'sWife&3Kids
DOCTOR'sWife&3Kids
6 years ago
Reply to  Beetle

BEETLE

So very sorry for your loss.

Can you ask your POS not to attend YOUR FAMILY event?

The character assassination so many do, is just some of the lowest shit. (Which is saying a lot)

It still surprises me but as my son said, “stop being surprised. Just win in court.”

ChumpDiva
ChumpDiva
6 years ago

Dear Beetle, I’m so sorry for your father’s
..and to have it defiled by that f*wit must be so much harder! Tell him he’s not welcome…this is YOUR family & experience. He relinquished his right to belong when he cheated. Lying yo your kids is pure evil, and gaslighting your father was worse! Sympsthy and support, here, B

The End Game
The End Game
6 years ago

1) While I was in labor,he was downstairs online begging for nude photos from another MAN
2) On my 40th birthday he was at his best friend’s wedding having sex with another MAN
3) While at work he recorded another man undressing in the locker room without his permission

TorontoChump
TorontoChump
6 years ago
Reply to  The End Game

Ding – ding – ding… We have a winner!

Jgirl
Jgirl
6 years ago
Reply to  The End Game

Ok, your #1 is *definitely* the End Game!
I’m so, so sorry for the horror movie you had to live through.
I hope you and your bub(s) are better off, now.

ClarityNow
ClarityNow
6 years ago
Reply to  The End Game

Omg. I don’t even know what to say.

Tempest
Tempest
6 years ago
Reply to  The End Game

Wow. The cheaters trolling while their wife is in labor should simply be vaporized.

Tempest
Tempest
6 years ago

After affair with gradwhore (I am still clueless), he asks for a divorce, then agrees to change his mind if I will consider threesomes, foursomes, lesbian sex while he watches. Long story, but I say I’ll “consider” such things (NOPE), thinking he just wants a fantasy life & will come to his senses.

No! He is serious and posts a picture of me in lingerie (head cropped) on Adult Friend Finder without my permission, then wants to sit with me to answer people’s queries about meetups. I guess my refusal to follow through on any of those, ahem, tempting offers, was all he needed to justify more affairs over the next few years.

StaryEye
StaryEye
6 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Wow! That’s awful! He posted a picture of you while looking for group sex or whatever. So sorry, what a creep!

Peacekeeper
Peacekeeper
6 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Tempest,
You can’t