The Horror of Being Eric Swalwell’s Wife Brittany Watts
Can you imagine being Brittany Watts right now? One minute you think you might be the next First Lady of California and the next you’re discovering how one, two…now SIX women have come forward to say your husband Eric Swalwell is (how shall we put this delicately to the AI censor bots?) an aggressive deflowerer wandering dick deviant freak abusosexual?
To anyone who doesn’t follow the fetid quagmire of U.S. politics: The Democratic front runner for the California governor’s race was Rep. Eric Swalwell. His political career quickly imploded this month after multiple women accused him of 🍆 misconduct. Including one former staffer who alleged he drugged and 🍆🍆🍆🍆-ed her, prompting a House Ethics investigation, the suspension of his California gubernatorial campaign, and his eventual resignation from Congress.
Swalwell, in typical FW fashion, has categorically denied the allegations. But, he did acknowledge unspecified “mistakes in judgment” in his personal life and apologized to his wife and supporters. Now, he doesn’t have many supporters thanks to pressure from both parties. And key Democratic allies have dropped him.
Yeah, yeah, enough about Eric Swalwell, Tracy. How’s our chumped wife doing?
Brittany Watts just suffered a cataclysmic D-Day in public.
Her husband’s double life (which is bad enough!) didn’t include quaint betrayals like blowjobs from interns, but Bill Cosby-, Harvey Weinstein-level criminality. So, she’s doing about as well as you’d imagine. Brittany’s probably curled up in a fetal position somewhere sobbing. Or has her feet in stirrups getting STI tested after years of presumed monogamy. Hoping whatever’s in the Petri dish isn’t HPV16.
But no one I can find is talking about her. The pressures she’s under to Stand By Your Man or publicly forgive and defend him. And for those righteously furious on her behalf, the equal pressure to immediately divorce the father of her three children. The man, who up until a few weeks ago, she probably thought hung the moon and was going to be the next governor.
Brittany, we know what it is to be whipsawed like this. Protect yourself, girlfriend. Go get those STI tests stat, and do a Pap smear for the HPV. Get the vaccine too. God only knows where that 🍆 has been. You might also consider calling Eric’s first wife and compare notes. We’re here for you.
Meanwhile…
Eric Swalwell would like to apologize for that thing he did not do.
The Universal Bullshit Translator is here to assist.
“These allegations of 🍆🍆🍆🍆 assault are flat false… they did not happen.”
I must publicly — and with the best scrunchy face of contrition I can muster — apologize for things that did not happen. They don’t exist. I also apologize for aerial wombats. And baloney flavored breakfast cereal. And the entire Kingdom of Mordor.
“I have certainly made mistakes in judgment in my past.”
Has my 🍆 gone off the reservation? Does it wander and show up uninvited? Did it not wear a dinner jacket? Yes, okay. But am I unique among governors?
“Those mistakes are between me and my wife… I apologize deeply.”
Surely this isn’t disqualifying! My 🍆 is just between me and my wife and perhaps 6 staffers and assorted others you haven’t discovered yet.
“deeply sorry for mistakes in judgment”
>>> 🍆 <<<<
HE DID IT. Not me!
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This is the good news- thanks to metoo, these women will be believed. Not sure if there will be the consequences he deserves- I think prison would be that- but they will be believed. 20 years ago, they’d be called all sorts of names and blamed. My favorite part of the long piece I read – CNN?- one of his victims called her situation “Stockholm syndrome “ . I screenshot that. I call it cult of one. Power imbalance, alcohol abuse, black or brown out- then- “you wanted it”. I know this man, he is everywhere, and I hope this particular version of this man gets punished and his wife, poor thing- may she be free.
Yes, thank God we’ve progressed to the side of believing women. But I think we’re still at the conventional “Surely She Must’ve Known About His Double Life” for the wife. And a certain segment will fault her for not standing by him. And it’s not just political and rightwing Christianity. Hillary still stands by Bill. I think Brittany Watts is every much of a victim as the women Swalwell assaulted. Brittany *bred* with this guy, which I doubt she would’ve if she’d known who he really was. Now that she knows, I hope she gets out soonest.
100 percent she is a victim and in many ways- hopefully?- will see that she married a person who is actually a total stranger, that everything she thought he was, he wasn’t. More life changing and traumatic in some ways than just being drugged and assaulted. But all related! Abuse abounds, and all of it is coercive control, and he is all image management- his entire career is just that- a mirage, an image, of a “good man”.
Amen.
He could lose his law license if convicted.
How will he support his kids if that happens? If he has to have a different career who will hire him? I guess CNN, (see Toobin). Is the chumped wife supposed to shoulder the entire burden? From potential First Lady to drudge in one fell swoop.
That’s why you lawyer up ASAP and get out while there’s still income and assets.
The chumps always ending up paying a high price. Most of us have paid heavy prices before DDay, at DDay and even when we wise up and leave. I’m still paying off that loan I had to take out for my 2023 divorce settlement. I lost friends, retirement, cash, my health (!!!), but I did gain a life. I hope she learns soon instead of digging in with him.
I was under the huge lie that I was loved. I lost all you did but I’m telling you..i just have to go back in time..know I was not loved but of use..and I get back on the horse no matter my losses. At 69 I left my creepy now X and except for all the losses, I have my precious self back. It is a beautiful gift to myself to say..but 2XCHUMP..I DO LOVE YOU!!
This whole story is so disturbing. I guess the lesson is that our work is never done. Abusive cheaters and r*pists will always walk amongst us and we have to be ready to see them and hold them accountable. I hope this chump finds you, CL!
In other news…
The CNN expose about the online *ape academy….
What’s being reported about Eric Swalwell is only the tip of the iceberg.
These days we’re finding out that what’s under the tip of the iceberg is commonly far, far darker and much more sinister than anyone could ever have imagined.
Looks like GIsele Pelicot’s case is far from an isolated incident.
If your partner is lying to you, the best and safest thing to do is get the heck out.
A detective once told me that you can only know another person as much as they will
let you.
You don’t know what you don’t know, and finding out your partner has a secret sexual double life is not an accidental minor flesh wound to be minimized and “gotten past.”
If you find out someone you’ve chosen as an intimate partner has a secret sexual double life, they are intentionally plunging the biggest knife in the drawer into your back while you’re not even looking, and I consider it emotionally akin to *aping you while you’re asleep.
Get the assistance you need to leave.
♥️
THIS
What I realized from the Pelicot story and the CNN investigation of how widespread that type of assault really is is that “r*pe by deception” is on a spectrum. Though cheating falls somewhere on the “lighter” end and sedation r*pe on the darker end, the former creeps closer to the latter the more it comes with emotional abuse, coercion and gaslighting. Furthermore, the entire spectrum of betrayal trauma represents a unique type of compounded pain that most people are initially completely defenseless against.
Some of the things victims in that story said to interviewers were heart-rending but also instructive and relevant for survivors of anything that falls on that spectrum, like “You have to find something bigger than the pain or you drown in the pain.”
I hope she has friends and/or family giving her safe harbor and full privacy.Her young children are likely her priority right now and she may likely still be in a state of shock. I hope we hear from her only if and when she is ready to do so. We have no right to expect her to update the public on her trauma.
I hope she gets far away from him with her children and he gets what he deserves – a jail cell!
She must be going through hell, which is where he belongs. There are way too many of these guys, and yeah, I know NAMALT, but enough of them are so that I don’t think I could ever trust again. They don’t come equipped with warning labels. How are you supposed to know who is safe? When I found out how depraved my FW was sexually I was beyond horrified and felt like he’d been assaulting me our entire marriage. If I’d known what he was into I would never have consented, would have left him on the spot, which is why he never told me about his vile fantasy life. It doesn’t compare to this situation, where the guy actually acted out his sick fantasies, but it was awful enough. I was sleeping with the enemy for decades.
I hope Brittany finds a way to heal from this horrific trauma and divorces him ASAP.
Yeah, not all men are like that but are there an equivalent number of women who like to drug people unconscious and then sexually assault them? Are there the same amount of women who use their job status to force young people to sexually service them? No. There is a significant number of men who do that, or would like to, and there are far, far, far fewer women who engage in those behaviors, or would engage in them, given the opportunity.
It is horrible to deal with D-day in front of your whole world. Yes my world was smaller than hers, thousands instead of millions; but still it was my whole world. I suspect many chumps deal with it. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.
I hope Brittany gets the support she needs, whether it is here, or in her own circle.
It’s my state and I’ve been following the disgusting accusations. Whether his wife knew or not, the best part of all of it is that victims are finding their voices and speaking out. (But why now and not when he first ran for public office? I dunno.) But I also know what my cheater former narc of 30 years would say about it, something snarky like, “See, everyone does it, so why do you expect ME to be any different? Everyone cheats, why make such a big deal out what I did? Who do you think you are, standing on your moral high ground?” Yup, that’s what the cheater would say to me to make me second guess my decision to divorce him and go completely no contact.
They don’t come forward because of shame and fear. Shame has not changed sides even though it is the dream. And the fear is for a good reason- no one cares about them, and they will be ruined, like so many of the victims of Weinstein. I’m sure it took a lot of people to support them and thank God it did happen, that they felt strong enough and supported enough to tell the truth.
My #2 Ex was creepy at home too, with emphasis on the word –at home. You just believe what my then -husband told me scrambling my brain into am omelet. Until.the giant DDay.
My heart goes out to public chumps who hoped for a better life.
Hmm let’s see
1. All women love me so they can’t help throwing themselves at me
2. All men do what I do
3. My FOO mother was screwed up and married 8x but I’m the golden child
4 I’m in the workforce with crazy woman and I have to control myself
5 yes I do porn but everyone is doing it as a man must
6 My dad is bipolar and I take care of him..
7 I’m hypersexual but God made me this way
8 I am not a liar
9 I am in church with you aren’t I?
10 I attend all school activities
11 I’m in the public eye and woman want me and lie about me
12 its not my fault its…..name 100 other things, people places things to blame
13 its your fault you don’t understand men
See Chump lady for the full list
My heart goes out to all new chumps who’s brains were scrambled like mine.
Scrambled or not PROTECT YOURSELF!!