Dave Grohl Disappoints As Another Cheater
Foo Fighter-now-fuckwit Dave Grohl announced on Instagram yesterday he’s a cheater and the new father of a daughter “born outside” his marriage.
The interwebs expressed a collective cry of anguished WTF disappointment.
If you're upset about Dave Grohl, I want you to find comfort in the knowledge that we still have Keanu. For now. pic.twitter.com/53jnHB6QQW
— Triad of Felines (@SixCatsNow) September 10, 2024
Sure, it’s not as if rock stars are known for their monogamy and marital longevity, but gosh darn it, Grohl seemed like one of the good guys. He’s been married to his wife Jordyn Blum since 2003 and they have three daughters.
But now Grohl’s announced with all the gravitas of a reverse mortgage ad, that they’re just going to have to forgive him. New baby daughter is in his life and he intends to be a supportive dad! In that eat-the-shit-sandwich-men-have-wandering-dicks-live-with-it way. #Ally
Double standard much?
I wonder if he’d have this kind of nonchalance if his wife announced she was pregnant with another guy’s kid? Can you imagine a world where a woman pulled this stunt and her head wasn’t on a pike? Where it was just assumed that she’d have a marriage to fall back on and everyone would understand as they “move forward together”?
Tracy, women do pawn paternity off on chump men.
Yes, there are equal opportunity fuckwits. But the BRAZENNESS of Dave Grohl’s cheater chutzpah. The sheer entitlement of yeah, I love them and I’m working on their forgiving me.
Dude, the first rule of forgiveness is humility. Accept that YOU ARE NOT ENTITLED TO IT. It’s outside your control! You fucked around, now wait and find out your fate.
But… he’s a rock star with millions of dollars and a winsome fringe of hair. Why would Jordyn give that up?
Uh, self-respect? Rapacious lawyers and generous divorce settlements? Not modeling this shit to another generation of young women?
Would Dave Grohl want any of his now four daughters to marry a guy like him?
Tracy, Dave has thought very deeply about the children.
Think of the children!
We’re grateful for your consideration toward of the children involved, as we move forward together.
dave grohl, cheater
Yes, everyone PLEASE THINK OF THE CHILDREN. Just like Dave did when he neglected to wear a condom and forgot how children are made. Dave is all about consideration! The kind of consideration that has raw dog sex and risks Jordyn’s health. We would be grateful if you not bring the children into this. Violet, Harper, and Ophelia have a new sister and that’s their issue to work out in therapy years later.
Hey people making fun of Dave Grohl, go easy, he has a family… okay, two families.
— Jeff 🇵🇸 (@usedwigs) September 10, 2024
We are moving forward together. Nothing to see here. Shuffle along.
Together?
Was Jordyn consulted on this Instagram post? Like the way she was consulted on the inclusion of a new family member?
Dave: I plan to be a loving and supportive parent of my new daughter with my mistress.
Seems pretty unilateral to me. Like, more of a suck-up-and-deal diktat. Of course, it’s not this poor baby’s fault she exists, but it’s next-level saintly forbearance to expect your wife and daughters to welcome your mistress’s child in your life TOGETHER.
We’re all together, except when we’re not.
Dave Grohl, you’re a garden variety fuckwit. Thanks for lowering our expectations to new depths.
He’s so supportive and “together” moving forward, he’s retained a divorce attorney. https://people.com/dave-grohl-retained-divorce-lawyer-before-revealing-he-welcomed-baby-outside-marriage-source-exclusive-8710296
So he’s leaving her and had his EXIT baby…okkkkay….
He can counsel with Ester Perel to help him build his exuberant defiant new life.
Yet another reminder to be careful of parasocial relationships – because you don’t really KNOW the person. Hell, Neil Gaiman used to be one of my favorite authors and seemed to walk the walk, but the stuff that’s come out about him allegedly preying on his employees is scary AF.
This is a reminder that it’s too easy to conflate the art with the artist, and that if someone creates art that you love, all that means is that they’re good at creating that art. It doesn’t mean they’re good at doing other things, like being a good partner, a good parent, a good person. Still, it’s possible to appreciate art created by a flawed person, and other more articulate people have offered more cogent reasons on how to do so than than I can possibly think of and share here.
The news about Neil Gaiman was SO disappointing. And obviously we don’t KNOW these people. But when it comes to artists, we respond to their work in such deep ways sometimes that it is hard to think someone that made something so good is actually a predator.
I love this Margaret Atwood quote about parasocial admiration: “Wanting to meet an author because you like his work is like wanting to meet a duck because you like paté.”
Atwood should know. Canadian feminist writers had their disappointments with her a while back, before Handmaid’s Tale was a TV show. She’s been a literal apologist for her predatory cronies in the lit community.
I didn’t know about that. But it sort of illustrates another one of her famous quotes, which is that “Ideas aren’t responsible for the people who believe in them.” Her little casual acknowledgement that celebrity writers aren’t always great people doesn’t exonerate her from turning a blind eye to those abusive artists when it serves her interests.
I hear you-I just had to tear down a Neil Gaiman inspirational I had up in my office. Sad.
Yes my daughter was so disappointed that an artist she liked was a shit in his personal life. I told her its a good lesson to learn. Someone may be successful and great in business, music but a shit in their personal life.
Oh dear, oh dear Mr Grohl. What a disappointment indeed. I’m much less of a fan after this revelation. Another one added to the FW pile! Unprotected sex with a woman outside his marriage. Makes me sick. It also makes me realise how equally sick my FW was to do the same, with at least five other women. Sad times but I hope your excellent post reaches the masses and starts more conversations on the devastation cheating causes.
When a Cheater is caught bang to rights and makes a plea for “consideration for all of the children involved” like DG does here, I can only think that they are looking to hide from the consequences of their actions behind a human shield composed of their own offspring.
LFTT
The kids have deleted their social media accounts immediately after he posted. It’s mind-boggling how selfish he is and how little thought he gives to his family.
Damn, LFTT 🎯
I didn’t like his statement for a myriad of reasons, not the least being that it’s worded so passively as if he was MADE a father, and he has no idea HOW that happened.
I think his kids are definitely in need of protection. Those 3 girls are old enough to see this play out online and that sucks. I do hope that people leave his kids out of it. But it’s also quite rich that HE is asking us to think of the children, as he clearly was not thinking of them while he was out cheating on their mom.
SortofOverit
Sadly, Cheaters will play the “think of the children” line when it works in their favour, but conveniently forget this when they are up to no good.
LFTT
Absolutely. Much like my FW wanted me to stay post D-Day and told me to think of our kids. I did think of our kids. I didn’t want them growing up thinking cheating was ok. So I left. Maybe HE should have thought of them before having a long term affair.
Yes, it sounds very much like he’s trying to make a human shield of his own children by requesting “consideration” on their behalf.
“bang to rights”!!! Perfect pun. As perfect as your analysis.
Adelante,
I have to admit that the pun was inadvertent …. 🙂
LFTT
Disappointing, indeed. I hope the divorce lawyers bend him over. Financial consequences are the only thing the Shameless will register.
Image management campaign, wonder if things were going to come out and he is trying to get in front of it.
For sure- if was at all interested in doing right, we wouldn’t be discussing this.
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Thank you, CL for tackling this one. Thank you for giving this mess context.
I have a lingering curiosity of what sorts of expectations that people have when they marry straight-up rock star (who have a Cheater-Buffet dangled in front of them 24/7/365).
We have had participants here who maintained anonymity about who their Cheater was but it sounded as if we would know their cheater as a rock star if they shared too much. (I was and am respectful of their privacy and worked to never pry into that might compromise her privacy). Her reactions caused me to perceive that she expected fidelity as much as a trad wife would and her pain was 100% of what we all experience.
My Cheater didnt have 1/100th of the opportunity as a rock star and still found willing OWs. Im not excusing anyones behavior but Im guessing that it would require diligent personal standards/practices for a fawned-after public person to keep their shit together. Im sorry for Mrs Grohl to learn that he didnt have them.
I mean, Rock Stars have so many opportunities to cheat that there is a name for the willing participants, Groupies. So sure, the temptation for him is a lot more prevalent than for the average FW.
Dave Grohl, however, has been married for 21 years and has 3 kids. He is 55 and has been a rock star in huge bands for most of his life. At some point doesn’t the risk of losing his family outweigh the temptation? I would think that an attitude of “been there/done that” would kick in at SOME point.
Given the rep of rockstars, I’m not sure why I felt so disappointed when I saw this story. My cheater ex loved the Foo Fighters and I wasn’t much of a fan until I saw them at Wrigley Field and Dave rocked out on a throne given his broken leg during that tour. I also remember an extremely uncomfortable car ride with my cheater ex just shortly after learning of his affair and the FF’s Best of You song was on the radio. Such a shame Dave.
I was never impressed with the Foo Fighters but they had 1 or 2 catchy radio hits, and Dave Grohl seemed like such a likable, standup guy in interviews. Shows what I know.
I think it’s safe to say at this point in my life: Don’t put any stock in fame and don’t have heroes.
Right?!
That’s a great verbal test for the absurdity of this. Him framing this like those fellas who find out, after married-with-kids, that they have a kid from before married-with-kids, and so everybody opts for maturity and integration (e.g., the movie “Elf”)? My gut says that’s the result of him doing some major league gaslighting to the family-he-cheated-on. I feel a lot of sorrow and empathy for his poor wife. Or should I say, his “sudden, involuntary de facto sister wife.” (That’s a dig at Dave, not her. I feel nothing but empathy and sorrow for her, being in the blender as she currently is.)
oh ha ha Helen Reddy, I also reposted that particular line before I saw this! Can you imagine…?!! And yes, Elf — I think about the mom character a lot!!
I don’t know why people make these idols, he has never been a quality person – During covid he insisted on telling everyone what to do with their body. Typical FW know it all.
He cheated on his first wife with this one. It was common knowledge that she put up with his “womanizing” in that world. So gross. I feel sorry for her even if she was a shmoopie at one point. I feel sorry for women married to powerful men in general, because they all tend to be bad. It would be great if she got a bunch of money, NCed him or gray rocked him, and built her own life, one that wasn’t built around being a rockstar’s wife. Maybe she could find this place, and like me, it could help her.HAHA. Also, Grohl was creepily into “HIV doesn’t cause AIDS” and did a lot of misinformation spreading about that . He’s a very good drummer. And that’s it. Otherwise and not interesting rich man.
He cheated on his first wife but it wasn’t with his current one. There was three years between his divorce and meeting her.
Thanks for that correction. I wasn’t sure of the timeline.
Dave Grohl may be famous, but his wandering dick is like all the others that came before and will come after. He didn’t even have the decency to put a jacket on it before he let it backpack alone through Europe.
I am saddened. He often in interviews acted the part of engaged father and husband. Talking about making lunches and what not. Now. I have lost all respect. He told because someone was going to tell for him. Oh Dave you are a scumbag like the rest of them. I came here this morning knowing you would take this on! Thanks Chump Lady.
The fact he’s working so hard to get ahead of this makes me wonder if the truth is worse than infidelity.
Its worse isn’t it, when they wear the mask. Ergh
Oh this one hit hard. I know he’s in the music industry and a huge star, but I thought he was different.
Seeing the Foo Fighters with my son many times holds such fond memories for me and was always great fun. After my ex left, this was something we always did together. And, to know he’s the same as the ex is very disappointing. Even my son shook his head this morning when we heard the news.
I feel so sad for his wife and daughters and the poor kid that’s come into the world. I hope his wife leaves and goes on to have a great life.
That fuckwit Dave Grohl wrote literally 2 things about his wife, Jordyn, in his ~500 page memoir. 🥺
Their teen daughters both deactivated all of their social media accounts. How humiliating this must be for the kids!
“Their teen daughters both deactivated all of their social media accounts. How humiliating this must be for the kids!”
All the chumps here with kids are thinking about those kids. Because cheating causes a host of issues for kids, but at least for most of us, the cheating doesn’t go viral. And he had to know that if he got caught it WOIULD go viral because he is not just famous, but was famously known as a good guy. And he cheated anyway. And his daughters are clearly going to be dealing with that. Hopefully they shut down their social media pre-emptively and not because the harassment had already started.
My ex and I are HUGE Foo Fighters fans. We saw them in concert 5 times, once front row, which was incredible. I’m a drummer. My ex was gesturing to Taylor Hawkins throughout the concert that I was a drummer and to please give me a drumstick. At the end of the show, Taylor walked to the edge of the stage and handed one right to me. It was a great night, and one of the best memories I have of my marriage. I was gutted when Taylor died.
It may sound strange, but hearing this news about Dave Grohl feels almost like how I felt when Taylor died. Like Tracey said, I truly thought he was one of the good guys. I read his book, and the love for his wife and children seemed to radiate from the pages. To say I’m disappointed would be an understatement. His poor wife. There’s no way I would stick around to watch my husband be “loving and supportive” father to another woman’s child. I hope she finds her way here. Jordyn, if you are here, Chump Nation has your back. We know what you are going through. Get the book, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life. You do not have to eat the shit sandwich of accepting and supporting Dave’s other family. The child is your girl’s half sister, and your daughters may or may not want to have a relationship with her. But she is no relation to you. You do not have to have any part of it. Get a bulldog L.A. lawyer and take what’s yours. You may believe Dave is a unicorn and he will change, now that he’s been found out. The chances of that are exceedingly slim. He will just be more careful.
Turns out, my FW also has a child “outside” our marriage. I didn’t know about it until after the divorce, thankfully. That would have added another level of mindfuckery. But it makes a bit more sense now, why he’d marry a Chinese massage parlor sex worker. I hope he at least had the sense to have a paternity test, but it really is not my problem and I don’t care. His whore wife is getting what she deserves, living with a narcissistic asshole. The poor kid doesn’t really deserve it, but again. Not my problem.
Forget the superficial details like job (rockstar whatever) he is throwing the usual end run around responsibility – also making it sound like an accident and ‘im just trying to do the right thing by accepting my child’ how could you argue with that kind of vibe which of course my family should also agree with as my personal support system and how they could they argue with supporting children – anyone who disagrees should respect my privacy….he doesnt consider his wife’s feelings at all – i hope she gets out – because as we know – i doubt this is a first time thing and it definitely wasnt an accident. She deserves her own life and to model self-respect for kids rather than letting that guy dictate/shame via instagram.
This needs to be said, I don’t know who.this big star is and yes I live under a rock. But you DO NOT make an announcement like this without a Chump behind you saying you are staying to eat that sandwich. There has been forgiveness grooming, lots of affair abuse, lots of take it or leave it was before this unprotected sex event.This cannot be a shock in the least for Jordyn. She is now a chumped volunteer unless she has self respect built in her body. These chumped volunteers need Tracy’s book on modeling self respect for the girls and woman of the next generation. But perhaps being first woman of a rock star is better than being alone. I get it for sure. But I’m so.thankful I got out and stopped forgiving an unrepentant user abuser.
“But you DO NOT make an announcement like this without a Chump behind you saying you are staying to eat that sandwich.”
You are probably right. But I could absolutely see my FW making a statement like that even though I gave no implications I’d stay. He can try to earn my trust back all he wants, doesn’t mean I’m listening.
I’m not saying this to be argumentative, because I think your take is 97% likely to be correct. I just feel compelled to point out how delusional FW’s can be.
We also don’t know the timeline. WHEN did Jordyn find out that he impregnated a side chick? Nine months ago? A week ago? As the baby was actually born? Jordyn could be in early stages of D-Day and hasn’t gotten her bearings yet.
Sooveritchump! Yes you absolutely 💯 correct. Where is wife right now? Pick me? Shell shock, dazed, grieving, afraid, begging, getting her ducks in a row, angry but used to it,
I recall all that. Yes and the— I still love him need him. It’s such a web of lies and a sticky mess. My heart goes out to all of us in whatever stage we are in and for however long. I’m 1 year out from divorce and 2 from D day, but I allowed a ton of unacceptable behavior and blamed it ALL on understanding bipolar disease. I hope CN can hel p others, even the “wives” of Riock star see the light sooner. I was of use and an appliance and I’m angry now…but getting to meh slowly.
“Forgiveness grooming” is a great term for it.
So many “stand by your man” women who shouldn’t have.
“I wonder if he’d have this kind of nonchalance if his wife announced she was pregnant with another guy’s kid?”
Kick him to the curb, Jordyn. His intentions are to save himself a pile of money after he has already wronged you and your daughters. Don’t eat the shit sandwich!
Sigh.
Most of my middle school bullies wore Nirvana shirts. I didn’t give any of it a chance until I saw him on Dennis Miller Live(I think it was in ’99? Awful lot of casualties that day…) and said “ok, this is somebody I can get behind.” Thought he was funny and articulate and not at all what my brain stereotyped a rock star to be. Hell, the Foo Fighters contract riders was something I would print out for my staff every now and again for a chuckle.
And now, this.
“I hope my family forgives me while I divert still more money and attention from them. I have to do right by them, you know!”
Right, so you can betray them someday, too.
One of the reasons I’m done with Big Hollywood/Big Music.
Stay Mighty!
Recalling Bianca Jagger wife of Rock star fame Mick Jagger Rolling Stones…was heard saying that she would stay married as long as her husband did not have a baby with anyone else. In others words, no unprotected sex means you still respect me(?). When he got another girl pregnant and admitted it, she filed. So the bar gets lowered for the rich, famous or otherwise endowed cheaters?
There are a couple of comments in response to to this that seem to suggest that (sadly) this sort of fuckwittery is to be expected with rock ‘n rollers.
This thinking veers dangerously close to providing an excuse of exceptionalism for a person who has actually shown themselves to be very ‘garden variety’ through and through.
Also, by extension, does this reasoning mean that we ought to ‘expect’ some elevated fuckwittery from people who are particularly good looking/wealthy/or accomplished?
I can sense a tinge of Chump blaming in this approach.
“They were a supermodel, so you know….”
“Well he was a doctor, and a very good one, bound to happen…”
If a FW makes a sombre promise (Ie wedding vows)/a committed relationship/shared parenthood), than they know what moral universe they’ve purporting to co-craft.
By cheating, they know that they’re acting in the absence of consent from the Chump – it Is completely irrelevant how super-speshul they otherwise are.
Ironically, many chumps (as we know) are in fact rather ‘exceptional’ themselves,
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Critically, Chumps also know that any exceptional social qualities they might have, called the ‘preferred indifferents’, by the Greek Stoics (Ie the external, lighter-weight qualities of wealth, beauty or accomplishments) mean NADA when held up against enduring traits like integrity, resilience and the need to do no harm to others.
I think its really dangerous to accept, even for a moment, that Chumps should innately just know that some profiles of partner magnificence brings higher risks.
This Foo-Fuck has made a promise with moral gravitas to his partner.
He has humiliated his three daughters.
He has acted against his chump wife’s interests, without her consent.
He’s really, really ordinary.
Couldn’t love this more, Learning.
Yes, huge rock stars have armies of groupies. So what? If they take a vow, they take a vow. He was a huge rock star when he took the vow. He knew what temptation awaited him on the road.
They should be turning down the 100 opportunities they have a day the same way I wish my FW had turned down the ONE opportunity he had. (ok, he probably had more than the one, but still, he wasn’t a touring rock star, his options were not as widespread as Grohl’s)
I’d almost say that it should be easier for Dave as he probably partook in plenty of groupies pre-marriage. Doesn’t it ever get old?
I wonder if Grohl plans on telling his girls to make sure condoms are involved when they’re having sex? Hmm…like you did, dear old dad?? Kids learn by example, not what’s spouted out your mouth. I feel sad for his wife & kids. How disappointed they all must be in how he doesn’t walk in truth.
Tracy, putting another FUCKWIT in their place! BOOM!! Yeah, I feel so bad for his wife. She didn’t ask to be cheated on and I doubt very much that she wanted her husband to father another child as a result of the betrayal, either, or have her health risked by his selfishness. He certainly seems like and entitled narcissistic A-Hole.
My first husband/fuckwit, cheated on me while I was heavily pregnant with our fist child. We weren’t having sex because I was having pregnancy problems at the end, and also right after our child was born. It was a very rough delivery, which resulted in her having had a brain injury from lack of oxygen in the birth canal (she is okay. She has a mild learning disability, but is happy and awesome in every way!). Anyway, I found out about a month or two later when I was doing a follow up exam at the OB/GYN (they had done STD tests a few weeks earlier because I was having out of no where pelvic pain.) that I had contracted Chlamydia! He denied cheating on me at first and tried to gaslight me that I had this for the first year and a half before our child was born and just didn’t know it. And I was like bullshit! I know I didn’t have this before we met and I’ve only slept with you. He finally admitted to cheating on me and the reason why is that we weren’t having sex!
I hope Jordyn has the strength and desire to leave him and never look back. Model for her daughters that abuse like this is NOT okay and that isn’t not how we treat people. And DO NOT accept the affair partner and new child into their lives. THEY DON’T HAVE TO! They should NOT BE having to do this because he couldn’t keep his wandering dick in his pants!
That’s what I did with my Fuckwit cheater!
Not sure what happened to my other post? It just disappeared.
But I hope his wife has the self esteem and desire to show her daughters that abuse like this is NOT okay by leaving him! She didn’t ask to be cheated on and her husband to have another child from unprotected sex that risked her health. And rich or not, he is now diverting money away from his actual family. The emotional turmoil and pain now…all abuse!
His website name/tag is “davetruestories.” Somehow I doubt he was being true or truthful to his wife while having this relationship.
He also ends with, “We’re grateful for your consideration toward all the children involved, as we move forward together.” Who, exactly, is “together” in moving forward? I wouldn’t be surprised if his baby mama wants all the benefits of a rockstar’s income and lifestyle for her child as well as herself. Does Dave’s wife want to be involved with this child and the mistress? Do his three children want to be involved with this half-sibling and this other woman?
Is he planning to have his children share the spotlight, as well as his time and money, with this other child and her mother? Dave has brought at least one daughter up on stage with him to sing, and another daughter to drum. He has long made a point of bringing kids in the audience up on stage to perform during his shows, and had a minor online sensation with an ongoing drumming competition with an adolescent girl during COVID.
Dave apparently does not think that dating a musician is good enough for his daughter. He explained that if a daughter does so, he will take the date aside and offer him a recording contract as a way to end the relationship.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kz6xAr4AsOg
And this story about his new child contrasts the news with prior interviews where he talks about the importance of his family, going to church with them, appreciating what he’s got, and never taking them for granted. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LzhPwxS3TmU
I’ve seen numerous interviews where he presents himself as a loving, virtuous, conscientious family man. I sonder if he was still lying to the public about it, as well as his wife, while he was cheating.
This video at RockFeed, has almost 750 comments already, and most of the ones I’ve read so far condemn his cheating, and his hypocrisy in presenting himself as a family man, when he’s a cheater. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=peplqnt4ISk
There’s some outrage there, and repeated statements by fans who feel betrayed.
How refreshing to see their anger, instead of acceptance or excuses.
What’s refreshing is that the comments are organic and reflect actual public opinion for once as opposed to the usual pro-cheating spin the media is currently pushing which creates the artificial impression that the public finds cheating groovy and sex-pozzy.
In fact, due to recent Gallup polls which found public disapproval for adultery has only increased over the last twenty years to the point that adultery is generally viewed as worse than controversies like abortion and human cloning, I think the pro-cheating spin in a lot of mainstream media is an obvious wag-the-dog attempt to “correct” public “disapprobation.” As I’ve spieled before (but will again for the newbies), that leaves the big question of why increased public condemnation of cheating alarms corporate media and their sponsors to such a hysterical degree.
For instance, following the last Gallup poll on this issue, the New York Times publishing a screechy editorial which clearly insinuated that increasing disapproval for adultery must relate to the scary retrograde rise of Christian radicalism in the US. Basically if you disapprove of cheating, you must be a racist religious terrorist like Timothy McVeigh. But the Times’ implication was obviously fabricated since the same people polled by Gallup showed markedly increased approval for things like gay marriage and single parenting. What that suggests is that, maybe since the self-help era, the public is gaining a more fine-tuned awareness of the negative social effects of family instability and the factors beyond overt domestic violence that cause it– including emotional abuse and infidelity.
Personally I suspect that what’s particularly threatening corporate power is the public’s more surgical understanding of what constitutes abuse and sexual consent since public views can end up as legislation. I think this is especially the case since media companies and many corporations lost umpty-millions due to #MeToo scandals. There could be a lot of reasons for this, some economic and some related to old boy patriarchy. Like how would abusive corporate hierarchies like, say, Amazon squeeze the life out of employees for profit if everyone developed a more keen understanding of gaslighting and coercive control became a criminal and sue-able offense? And now that streaming porn makes more profit than all other media combined and most media conglomerates are cross-invested (Google alone invested about $4B) in an industry that infamously thrives on the trafficking, abuse and coercion of women and children, sharper legal definitions of coercion and consent could hurt the collective bottom line.
As far as “patriarchal” motives to crank up public approval for cheating, whatever will creepy old married honchos do if the pool of eligible sidepiece bangmaids are thinned by an increasing public view that cheating is a form of domestic abuse? The dumbest potential sidedishes might shy away from the more severe reputational risk while the most sociopathic might see mate poaching as not such a great financial plan in the case too many cheaters were ending up penniless and in prison for criminal coercive control.
But that brings up the much scarier political question of “how” pervs in power have become so blatant in foisting their own subjective whims on a clearly resistant public through gonzo media campaigns, which could only be because democracy is seriously eroding, power has landed in too few hands and we’re in an age of corporate neofuedalism as many political analysts have warned.
Nice analysis HOAC! “Bangmaids” HA!
You can always tell by the number of run-on sentences that I’m chewing on some highfalutin theory lol.
Didn’t Grohl’s first marriage break up due to cheating? To be fair (as in carnival sideshow, not justice), maybe he wore a condom and it bwoke! Or the sidey bwoke it. Or forgot to take BC for the six months it took to get pregnant.
I was in LA for a few years where getting pregnant by gazillionaires and famous-whoevers seems to be an established profession. It may not be PC to say it but economic desperation and the especially vast gender power gap in that city make it predictable. It’s impossible to have sympathy for these dudes because of this and the fact there’s such a simple way to avoid the “trap.” Plus sometimes the worst thing that can happen to these children– not to mention their mothers– is that they’re “acknowledged” and the baby-daddies “generously” stay in their lives in some capacity. For instance, there was the preschool lovechild of a movie star– an infamously coked up repeat batterer– who used to rampage around a particular trendy West Hollywood cafe doing obvious daddy impersonations by pounding his chubby little fist on random tables and bellowing “Gimme a beer!” He’d also growl at people to go fuck themselves to the point that regular patrons– mostly nerdy screenwriters camping out with coffee and laptops– used to hum the Carmina Burana under their breath whenever this boy and his mom drove up in the pricey SUV (bought by baby daddy despite the fact the latter was then married briefly to someone else). Now adult, this kid was recently arrested for assaulting his own mother with a deadly weapon and is reportedly still doing daddy impersonations (by blaming his mother for the assault).
Yes, he did cheat in his first marriage, and it was the reason for the divorce.
It’s odd that I even know any of this because, back when I was a teen and was supposed to be poring over celebrity bs, I never paid attention unless it was something huge like murder or gross and involved gerbils. It occurs to me that stuff like this falls somewhere in between murder and butt gerbils.
The reason I knew he was a cheater was because FW and OW were huge fans. So I checked to see if Grohl and those two losers were simpatico, and by George they were.
Never liked him anyway.
Yeah, I only know this because an article about this cheating coved the fact his first divorce was due to cheating. Other than that, I’m too busy with grad school and my boys to care about what goes on with anything or anyone.
Weston Cage?
Psychotic nepo babies can be pettily litigious so I won’t name names lol. I personally witnessed the Carmina Burana humming and rampaging bits on a college trip to LA but only heard about the “Gimme a beer” stuff second hand.
I knew there was something not quite right with this guy – the sainted Dave seemed a little too good to be true to sceptical old me.
Another clue was that Dickhead McCluggage is a massive fan which figures.
So many are saying it’s no big deal though- both men and women -and that we should expect such things because this man is a ‘rock star’ and isn’t expected to have even basic standards of good behaviour.
I despair for humanity.
Just another entitled ,bottom of the barrel teenager masquerading as a man.
Another fake rebel like those assholes who think having a leather jacket and a hot car makes them anti-establishment when some piece of slime like Grohl is the EPITOME of the establishment and he feeds bullshit to the rest of us. Just like he’s feeding it to his poor wife. I hope she comes to her senses, takes him for everything, and that the baby momma take the rest. This guy needs to be fucked over.
I’ve been divorced 6 years, almost 8 years since Dday. Last week I emailed my ex and asked him when I could expect the $700 that he owes me for our adopted son’s lawyer (long story related to our son’s immigration status) – and he responded that probably not until the end of the year. Keep in mind that I also heard through my adult kids that this week he bought a vacation home abroad. So he can afford a second home but not $700?!
Anyway, in his email to me, he also asked, again, why I continue to block Schmoopie (who he married). “It’s been eight years” he said, and it would make his life so much easier I could just email her already!
(Keep in mind that they live in another state and my teenage son only sees them once a year for about a week. There is zero reason for me to be in a conversations with Schmoopie for financial reasons or otherwise.)
It has thrown me a little bit this week and then I come to this website and I read about the latest FW and I’m reminded that I’m allowed to not be friends with schmoopie and that he’s the one with the bizarre way of looking at the world, not me. Thank you, Tracy. Eight years since D-Day and this website has saved my life over and over again.
Why on earth would he think you’d want to talk with that woman? The delusion and entitlement are off the charts.
Nearly 8 years post Dday over here, and ex is married to AP and I also still have her blocked everywhere. He’s been whining about this since the week we split up so he’s dropped it now. He knows I will never be her friend and I have zero interest in speaking to her, about anything. He is their father, I talk to him. She doesn’t have automatic access to me or my life because he says so. Fuck that and fuck them.
The answer to your husband is always the same: Go fuck yourself and take Schmoopie with you. And take him to court if he’s not giving you the money he’s wasting on vacation homes for himself and that whore. People, especially women, have to STOP BEING NICE to these assholes. I don’t mean you personally but so many people I see just keep trying to take the high road and that always leads off a cliff. For him to even ask why you would block that fucking POS whore, shows how entitled he is and how little regard he has for you and his kid.
Sigh. Another asshole. I don’t like Grohl anyway – another fake rebel who turns out to be just an Establishment toadie especially about the COVID vaccine. He’s a piece of crap just like 90% or more of people in the entertainment industry. They reach the top because they have no morals or ethics and they do as they’re told no matter what they pretend to be otherwise. He’s no “rebel”…..he’s just another fraud who wants a fucking harem and he got baby trapped this time. He’s probably been fucking around on his wife right along.
For Mrs. Grohl the question she should consider is the most important one I think you, Tracy, ask:
IS THIS RELATIONSHIP ACCEPTABLE TO YOU?
This is the most important question anyone in a relationship can ask because it’s not about “love”, it’s not about “forgiveness”, it’s not about “the kids”, it’s not about “obligations”….it’s about how you feel on a gut level and how you want to live your life with another person. IS THIS RELATIONSHIP ACCEPTABLE TO YOU? Is it acceptable that your husband, whom you may “love”, whatever that means, or who gives you great status and the shared glow of his fame, fucks other women whenever he wants and actually got at least one pregnant (we’re not even thinking about abortions or STDs here). Do you really want to pretend that you are what amounts to a sister wife in a “marriage” that includes other people including now a half sibling to your own children? That you are sharing your husband with someone who is ALWAYS GOING TO BE IN HIS LIFE BECAUSE THE CHILD IS ALWAYS GOING TO BE IN HIS LIFE? How much of a shit sandwich do you want to eat – now and every day of your life going forward? IS THIS RELATIONSHIP ACCEPTABLE TO YOU?
Or do you want to take a bold step, say NO to this and live an honest life as a free woman on your own terms, with or without someone else. Personally I say NO to “sister wives” and harems and all this other bullshit and I’d divorce him, take half his money and rebuild. But I bet this marriage is going to drag on because that’s what so many women do, they try to pretend this is acceptable until they CAN’T. Jordyn….find your self respect and your sense of what is acceptable to YOU and leave. If you don’t….we’ll know what you find acceptable and so will Dave. And so will your kids.
I do admire Elin (Woods) and Melinda (Gates) who kicked their dirt bags to the curb right out of the gate.
Yes it was easier for them than a woman with no assets; but I still give them credit for it. No excuses.
Wonder if DG was fucking strange during Covid. Maybe he insisted his fuckee’s be vaccinated.
Dave Grohl – you total flaming asshole – and I mean that on a deeply personal level – you can’t just make things right by asking for privacy or asking us to think about the children, one of whom you created by BETRAYING YOUR WIFE IN A VERY PUBLIC WAY – you can’t make things like a child out of wedlock – disappear with a tweet or instagram post. As a public figure, you have an obligation to try to be some kind of example to others, as you’ve pretended to on other issues. What you really are is just another pig.
Well this sucks. Listening to Foo Fighters and reading ChumpLady were probably two of the most important things that helped me heal during my troubles. I have loved Foo before I even found out about my wife’s affair. Definitely makes me rethink the interpretation of the songs that I hold so dear and about how those songs made me feel.
I won’t apologize or sugar coat it, even though I feel like I know DG, he probably is a huge piece of shit person in his personal life. He’s got a long past history of cheating on girlfriends and wives, kind of reenforces the ‘once a cheater, always a cheater’ discussion that comes up on here so often. I wish I had that more in my mind when I bought into all that family values bullshit that he was putting out.
This just reaffirms what Tracy preaches; cheating is abuse. It is the result of a selfish, entitled, immature person who makes choices that hurt and destroy the people who least deserve it and who often care for that person the most. People rarely change and when they do, it’s through very hard work.
This sucks and it just makes me sad.
Saw this last night and was going to send it here, but knew you would be on it. Yup, seemed like one of the good guys. So damn disappointing…
Of course now in reading others’ posts, I am seeing I may have been wearing the blinders of whatever parasocial relationship I had with this man. Goes to show how good of a job image management can do to spackle over a public figure’s shortcomings. Bleh!
No mention of the momtress. Hmm.. . No “She’s recovering well”, “Mom and baby are resting comfortably”, “She is a source of shame to her parents”. Nothing. Makes me wonder just how much Mr. Grohl cares for his new side family.
I bet she is in her early 20s and close to his 18-year-old daughter’s age.
This morning in my 55plus place, we had a Bible study and introduced ourselves. One gentle lady in her late 80s said, hi I’m Pat, my husband was a preacher in Church of God and I was the preachers wife. He liked the ladies and I reported him to the conference and he was defrosted. I raised my 3 little girls alone but they all turned out good and I have been happy for many years. That was her intro. Just like that….
DEFROCKED!!!!!! Haaaaa!!! Maybe he should have been frozen and thawed.. sounds good to me!
I was spitting tea when you said defrosted.
😁
As a paternity defrauded male chump whose fuckwit enjoyed several affairs back in the 1970’s and 80’s and who finally confessed to me in a desperate attempt to forestall the avalanche of consequences a DNA/ 23 and me test was about to set in motion fifty years later , I am curious as to whether Dave Grohl’s side piece was a married woman, in which case his peripatetic dick has potentially destroyed a second marriage, as is often the case.
I’m so sorry for what was done to you and this child. This is a lot more common than people realize – I know of 2 examples in my own extended family of paternity fraud. In the first case it did break up the marriage, in the 2nd the husband just pretends the kid is his and keeps going. He’s totally under his wife’s thumb and she’s still cheating on him with somebody else. Well, maybe they have an open marriage at this point, I don’t know. I can’t imagine doing stuff like this. I think this should be a prosecutable offense and that the actual father should be liable for all finances relating to this child going back to birth and frankly, it may not be practical, but I’d like to see women like your ex in jail. I think this is one of the worst things you can do to someone – to both a husband and to the child. It’s brutally selfish and vicious. IMO, ALL children should be automatically DNA tested at birth, not to accuse any woman in particular but just to assure the fathers that they ARE the fathers because….alas, this is more common than people think.
Oh, I see Tracy already posted this – Grohl hired a divorce attorney before releasing the news about this baby so he was planning to screw his wife over before releasing his little mea culpa. There are several articles in the NY Post. Apparently his 3 kids, 2 teens and 1 10 year old, have stopped their social media accounts. This guy is 55 years old and doesn’t have the decency or common sense to wrap his schmekey if he’s gonna screw around and now he got caught with a baby. I feel so bad for his kids particularly. His first marriage of 3 years apparently ended because of infidelities. I wonder when his whore will be coming forward with the kid.
https://nypost.com/2024/09/11/entertainment/dave-grohl-hired-divorce-lawyer-before-cheating-baby-scandal/
I’ve been a fan of this guy for decades. Feeling gutted at this news. And yes, the FIRST THING I noticed when I read his statement was the entitled fuckwittery about wanting to be a father to this baby while keeping his family right where they are.
So, wife and kids need to get on board with Dave doing “the right thing” by being there for this new baby, regardless of the humiliation and trauma it causes them, so Dave can repair his “good guy Dave” persona. Come on chumps, get in line.
FRO with that shit.
Me and Dave are over, I think.
Actually, he cheated on his first wife. So this is no surprise. Let’s not forget his misogynistic rant about Taylor Swift, too. He’s always been a dick. I have no idea why people ever thought he was a good guy.
FW’s OW had a crush on that loser. Turns out he’s perfect for her after all.
He told some story of Taylor saving his bacon at a celebrity sing-along when she jumped up to help him perform as he was too high to perform and there were no right handed guitars, or something. The guy is obviously full of shit.
Well here’s a red flag:
“When I first met my wife, we went out on a few dates and I decided that I wasn’t ready for a serious relationship, so I just stopped calling,” Grohl later told Elle. “After three months, I had a revelation and called her back. She picked up the phone and said, ‘Oh, I never thought I’d hear from you again.’”
And so the cycle of intermittent reinforcement begins. So familiar.
Major 🚩right there! Intermittent reinforcement is a hell of a drug.
Ewww what a prize…🙄
His other snake move was announcing it when there were significant other events going on. I suspect he only confessed after being compelled to have a paternity test.
All to save the blessed children, of course
Grohl was never “one of the good ones” imo. He divorced his wife mid 90s because he’s a serial cheater
She remarried him in early 2000s and then they had their 3 daughters. This is what happens when people trust a liar.
I’m seeing more and more negative stuff about Dave Grohl. He looks like a real sleazebag and someone who’s a serial cheater. Apparently cheating with some “Porn Goddess” for a few years. I hope this is the last straw for his wife. Having a child out of marriage with some whore is just….the end. Or it should be. He even introduced himself to her originally with the line that Jordyn would be his future ex-wife. Guess he’s psychic. Except he says that to other women too….it’s his pick-up line.
https://nypost.com/2024/09/12/us-news/dave-grohls-relationship-with-alt-porn-godess-questioned/
I’m gonna get on my soapbox here:
He’s 55 years old and his youngest child with his wife is 10 years old. His wife is 48 years old. Why didn’t he get a vasectomy? Was he planning on more children??
Yes, clearly cheating is the issue here, but I always find it hilarious when dudes in their 40s and 50s (or later) spawn unwanted pregnancies. A man who is done having kids or knows for sure he does not want them should get a vasectomy. It’s a simple out-of-the-office procedure that takes like 10 minutes and you heal in a couple of days. Yet tubal ligations rates remain much higher than vasectomy rates, because so many men are cowards who won’t endure even a tiny amount of medical discomfort out of love for their wives.
So I just want to point out that Dave Grohl is probably a bad husband in more ways than one. When your wife is done giving you kids, get a vasectomy, my dudes.
So true and such common sense – especially for a cheater!!!! But I think some men, especially really disordered men like Grohl, consider this some kind of assault on their masculinity, not being able to sire children. And maybe he WANTED to on some level, possibly unconscious. It’s like women who become pregnant by their APS – I think many of them, probably unconsciously WANT to get pregnant. Some of them do it of course, to make money off guy, but a lot of times I think it’s just the biological imperative to get pregnant by the guy who REALLY turns you on. Maybe Grohl wanted on some level to break up his marriage with Jordyn and what better way than to not only screw with some other woman but to have a baby with her. That’s almost a guaranteed marriage breaker, I don’t know too many women who would tolerate that.
He couldve gotten a vasectomy years ago. But like Eddie Murphy 7 and counting, Nick Cannon 8 and counting, Elon Musk 7 and counting? Status men want to populate the world with their special progeny. Its pathologic. They can give money as a resource. But they are not dads just sperm donors. Their kids will grow up without a real, invested dad. I guess a meal ticket is worth it to these women. I would love to hear from these kids in 18 years.
Oh Dave. How lame. You love to rock out and bang sluts. Since you were a teenager. Own it or STFU. Could the man who (allegedly) wrote “Everlong” have possible composed such an astoundingly banal tweet? Must have been a publicist. Those rapper guys with outside kids all over the place are misongynistic psychopaths but at least they don’t pretend to be sorry about it. We thought you were punk rock. We thought you had integrity. Three chords and the truth? Pro Tools(R) and a bullshit excuse. What a phony.
PS fire your publicist because he doesn’t know that it’s gross, so, so gross, to announce the birth of your child and apologize to your wife for it in the same breath.