Dave Grohl’s Wife Jordyn Blum Decides to Reconcile
Well, strike another win for the Reconciliation Industrial Complex — Dave Grohl’s wife, Jordyn Blum, decided to reconcile their marriage. Meanwhile, Grohl simultaneously committed himself to being a hands-on parent to his infant daughter with his ex-affair partner.
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Remember last summer when The Nice Guy of rock and roll, Foo Fighters drummer Dave Grohl announced on Instagram that — oops — he had a baby with his affair partner? And we were all going to have to stand by while he did the right thing by The Children?
It’s always interesting to me how The Children are at the forefront of cheaters’ minds after they’re caught stepping out. Hey, you don’t want to talk about their indiscretions YOU MIGHT HURT THE CHILDREN! So maybe Dave was only thinking of the children when he made another child… to think about.
‘Regaining their trust’
Anyway. Next came the Dave Grohl forgiveness campaign — where he was going to do anything and everything to make it up to them. Including retaining a divorce lawyer in case Jordyn couldn’t forgive him. Hey, just covering the bases. But the important thing is that Dave bravely ventured out from seclusion to go Halloween shopping with one of his kids. (Nothing says “we’re family” like a plastic vampire.) And his daughters are, with the help of therapy, maybe-kinda-sorta acknowledging him again.
Which brings us to the most recent media cycle about Dave Grohl’s and Jordyn Blum’s decision to reconcile.
Seven months later, the pair are still picking up the pieces. According to the source, Grohl is “fully” supporting his new daughter and her mom, 38-year-old Florida native Jennifer Young. And he’s doing everything he can to regain the trust of Blum, 48, and their children, Violet, 19, Harper, 16, and Ophelia, 10. “Dave is regretful and ashamed of his actions,” says the source. “He knows he let his family down. He’s really working on his marriage to Jordyn and wants this to be a new chapter for them.”
In his September 2024 Instagram post, Grohl vowed to be “a loving and supportive parent” to his new daughter. The source says he’s making good on his promise. “Dave is paying for Jennifer and the baby’s living and medical expenses,” explains the source, “and is helping with anything [they need].”
Well isn’t that terrific? Gold stars all around! Dave Grohl pays child support!
But what exactly does “is helping with anything” they need mean? Small engine repair? Midnight feedings? A plus-one to Gymboree?
No relationship ‘for now’
An insider says Grohl and Young met in October 2021 while Young was working on a TV show in Washington, D.C., and Grohl was in town promoting his book, The Storyteller: Tales of Life and Music. According to the insider, Young’s boss — a friend of Grohl’s — invited him to a party with the production crew, and “that’s when Dave met Jennifer for the first time.” The source says Grohl and Young had been seeing each other on and off for years. “They had chemistry,” the source reveals, adding that the affair had “been going on for a while.” The pair even attended an August 2023 Metallica concert in L.A., as seen in a video circulated on TikTok.
The source notes their communication is currently limited to coparenting logistics, and they “aren’t continuing their relationship now.”
Now? Why the qualifier? Hey, I’ll put you in the back rotation as a groupie fuck, but should circumstances change, we’ll have your resume on file. I don’t even know what this means.
Duh, you HAVE AN ONGOING RELATIONSHIP with your affair partner, Dave. For at least the next 18 years. I can’t believe I have to type this out, but “relationship” is a word that transcends sex. I have a “relationship” with my dog’s veterinarian. And my parents. And my neighbors. Saying you “don’t have a relationship” doesn’t conceal the fact that you have a relationship.
Is Jordyn Blum okay with this?
In December, three months after Grohl’s shocking announcement, a source told PEOPLE that he and Blum were trying to move on, noting that their marriage “is still not in great shape,” but “they are trying to move forward.”
“It was just such a shock for Jordyn. Her first instinct was that she wanted a divorce. The betrayal felt too heavy,” the insider said at the time. “But as weeks passed, she got some space to think and it just felt very sad to her if the family would split up.”
You’re still an intact family minus a fuckwit. Now you’re in an eternal pick me dance with Dave’s Other Family. Shit sandwich buffet as chump wife to the Rock God, or quiet life with millions in a divorce settlement? We should all be so lucky to have these choices.
News of the couple’s intent to move on came shortly after they spent the holidays together, along with their three daughters. It also came after a source told PEOPLE in November that the rocker was no longer working with a divorce attorney and was “instead hoping to work things out with his wife.”
Well, that’s big of him. He released the legal hounds and called them back. I feel the sorry.
Is Jordyn in or out? Stuck in limbo? Apparently, if you can believe the tabloids, they wear their wedding rings on their middle fingers. YOU TOO DAVE? I thought you were on a quest to PROVE YOUR DEVOTION? So WTF with the lawyer and the ambivalent ring position? (Answer: to goad Jordyn into the pick me dance. Forgive my cynicism, I just a read a bazillion chump stories for a living.)
A message for Jennifer Young
And the rest of the media universe, while we’re at it.
You can parent your child without Dave Grohl.
You’re an intact family without a fuckwit too. No one needs him swanning into your life for the impression management. You may dismiss this as the bitter ravings of a former single mother owed thousands in back child support, but believe it or not, you can raise a child alone.
Really!
And in your case, you can do it with ample financial support, which never has to be attached to the presence of Dave Grohl.
But, Tracy, CHILDREN NEED BOTH PARENTS! Why should this child be in the shadows? Like a dirty secret?
I’m not saying be a dirty secret. Everyone knows this kid exists. Cash the checks and go live your life. Be ENOUGH for your child. Accept your primacy as parent, minus the fuckwit.
I think that’s a far better fate than having your child press her face up against Daddy’s “real” family. Damning her to a life as second string daughter, like Tiffany Trump. Modeling a life of the pick me dance.
Having two families works for Dave Grohl.
Sure, the exposure wasn’t ideal. But now that it’s out, the next best thing is double kibble portions. Everyone gets added to his orbit. Wife, daughters, affair partner, daughter. All united in the centrality of Him. No one can do without him! He’s here publicly saying he will do EVERYTHING to be in his new daughter’s life. And! will be there for his first family!
How nice to have everyone off balance competing. What a nice man.
What’s really Foo-ked up about that story to me is how hard it is to make it through the forest of cliches. They “had chemistry?” So they wanted to aardvark. He’s “working on” the marriage. Like what, changing its oil? It’s a nearly meaningless term. And best of all, his “new chapter” involves the best cheater nonsense of all, “moving forward.” Yes, let’s continue no matter how you feel, and figure that with time, the chump will get back in line. Sigh.
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Yeah, barf…makes me want to barf
I’m sure his wife is either in total denial and delusion, or in excruciating pain. I predict she will eventually reach her MPC (Maximum Pain Capacity) and file for divorce. That’s what happened to me. It took around eight months of me enduring my XW’s “inability” to choose between her AP and her family (me and our two young children). Then I made the decision for her. I wish her strength.
Sometimes it takes years, and that’s okay. Everyone has their timeframe. But I hope she finds hers sooner, rather than later. Unlike most of us, she will get millions in a divorce settlement and at least doesn’t have to worry about money and how they are going to live/survive. She has three daughters she is modeling for, modeling the pick me dance. I’m not blaming her, as none of this was her fault, she was only “guilty” of trusting her husband. It’s hard to wake up one day and have your life ripped away by the one person you trusted the most in the world and also realize they were not the person you thought they were. SO hard. Everyone’s processing of this egregious, painful act of betrayal is different. But it must also be hard to have this out in public for everyone on the planet to read about, as if the betrayal itself isn’t humiliating enough! I feel bad for her and her daughters.
Celebrity divorce stories are like Greek mythology. They usually reveal them as petty, selfish and abusive towards each other and us mortals. Somehow like celebrities with high dollar public relation firms, their stories are spun to make them seem noble.
Cheaters are cheaters whether they live on Mount Olympus or the pages of “People” magazine.
“All united in the centrality of Him.”
I don’t think any more needs to be said.
Other than – PLEASE! Someone get these women a copy of Tracy’s book, stat!
I wonder if we could all send her copies? Somehow find out their PO Box or something? Just so we know at least one book gets to her.
That’s a great idea. And maybe she will see it as significant enough message that she needs to read it!
Anyone else noticing an unsettling pattern here? Just like Christie Brinkley’s ex Peter Cook’s new age-gap bride looks somewhat similar to Cook’s eldest daughter with Brinkley, Dave Grohl’s former mistress looks even more like Grohl’s eldest daughter.
What’s especially disturbing is that the daughters themselves can’t have missed the resemblances. Is this what is meant by “for the children”?
On top of all this, his first wife’s name was Jennifer Youngblood. The AP’s name is Jennifer Young.
And take a wild guess why his first marriage ended.
Anyone? Anyone?
Um, cheating for $200 Alex!
Weird revisiting the scene of an earlier crime thing with the names.
I think men going after young women is gross but the part that the women look like their daughters actually makes sense to me. I look exactly like my mom. My mom was my dad’s type. That’s why he dated and married her. They were married until he died and I don’t think he cheated on her but if they had divorced, there’s a good chance he would have ended up with a woman who looks like me, regardless of her age. Because that’s his type. The age part is creepy but I get the other part. I wouldn’t have expected my dad to stop being attracted to my mom because I looked so much like her. And if he had moved on to another woman, she probably would have looked similar because that’s what he was attracted to. For me, it’s just the age that’s an issue.
Yes, me too. Especially since I was abused in that way by a man 30+ years my age. I was only 14, but still, I think that kind of matters at any age. But since this woman was a grown ass adult, she doesn’t get a free ride. Just saying there could be some kind of power thing going on here…rich music star…etc. She also could just be a gold digger. Who really knows? That is too much of a deep dive for me, but I’m with you KP, the age thing is ick.
The former AP in the Grohl case is pushing forty so it’s not an “undeveloped brain” issue even if there’s an age gap. As far as relative power disparity, maybe evidence will turn up that the APs boss– who was Grohl’s “friend”– put pressure on the AP. That’s always possible in that awful industry. But if there’s no Diddy coercion parallel, that individual is fully responsible for their choices.
Then as far as family resemblances, what you say could certainly apply to Cook and his daughter since the daughter does resemble her mother a bit (different face but same body type). But Grohl’s daughter, other than general blondness and eye color, doesn’t look much like her mother at all though she’s a disturbingly close match to the former AP.
“Former AP”? Not former. She’s on the booty call list. Gotta play good dad, visit the kid. Poor kid.
Seriously disgusting! I hate to say this, because I don’t approve of OW/OM affair partners and they don’t get a free ride in my book, but Grohl’s affair partner is much younger than him. I am sure he would claim “she came on to me” with the sad, puppy dog eyes and all, but HE is much older and knows he shouldn’t be stepping out on his marriage, so I see him as a PREDATOR.
I know this because I was once that young woman (although I was a teen when a 40yr old predator came after me), and I recognize that behavior. So I don’t defend her, but I also don’t completely blame her. I think he has more than the normal 50/50 split on this. More blame lies with him. He’s a disgusting predator.
Parsing responsibility in cheating tends to get endlessly mucked up with arguments about participants relative guilt, relative power/status, age, gender inequity, etc. So maybe it’s simpler to refer to accomplice liability in criminal law as a guide for apportioning culpability– at least in ethical principle even if, in the case of affairs, the behavior isn’t always technically criminal.
For instance, getaway drivers can often be charged with the same crimes as primary gun-toting heist men. Some accomplices, if they seem intellectually impaired or were acting under threat, might get somewhat lighter sentencing as secondary principles. But, if innocent people are injured or die in the course of a robbery, getaway drivers and other accomplices may automatically receive the same assault or murder charges in some states.
So, analogously, if, in the course of an affair, a chump is abused by a FW (or killed like in the Watts’ and Dulos’ cases), I think of witting affair partners as guilty of committing abuse– again, at least in ethical principle– even if they didn’t directly incite it (which the AP in the Dulos case actually did) because affairs are intrinsically abusive. For example, if an AP knows a FW is continuing to have sex with an unwitting chump, the AP is participating in rape by deception. That is unless, like Sean Combs’ employees who enabled/didn’t stop the abuse of others, the affair partners were being viably threatened with death or total ruin.
Then, since the money in affairs usually goes in one direction– from FW to AP– it might be simpler to refer to how guilt is apportioned for direct embezzlers vs. receivers of stolen goods. In the latter case, receivers are required to return the value of property to avoid criminal charges even if they claimed not to know the origins of the property. If it’s proven they knew the property was stolen, they can also face criminal charges. Personally I think this should be applied to affairs in a literal legal sense (as it is in some states), not just in principle. APs and high priced escorts should be liable to return the value of dissipated assets spent on affairs.
As far as age gap affairs, since the average age of serial killers starting their killing careers is about 20 and there’s no lenient sentencing according to relative youth, I think anyone over that age– unless intellectually impaired or participating under direct threat– is old enough to be held responsible in principe for the things they do.
And finally regarding the question of whether witting OWs in heterosexual affairs should be viewed as less responsible because men have higher power and status and power in the world, remember that most countries reserve the greater punishments for traitors as opposed to enemy combatants.
In any case, culpability isn’t a finite pie in the sense that sentencing an accomplice somehow reduces the sentence of the primary culprit. There’s plenty of guilt to go around!
As so often happens I just want to print your posts
Deep dive
Got my tank and flippers!
Wait, do sharks have vertical or horizontal tail fins? 😮
lol
I am so grateful to be divorced from Traitor Ex, whose only life skills I have since discovered are lying (directly, by omission, by exaggerating, and playing word games.) and keeping secrets, and he hones them daily in every area of his life. This is not someone who is qualified or inclined to be in an emotionally mature, healthy committed relationship. I don’t know how qualified I am, but I can say that I don’t lie about how I feel, what I think, what I am doing, and who I am doing it with. I don’t do things I know will hurt someone.
When someone cheats on you, they are saying I DON’T LOVE YOU AND I DON’T KNOW HOW TO LOVE ANYBODY with their actions. When someone is a side piece, they are broadcasting their lack of healthy relationship skills as well. They are focused on the window dressing and their feelings. Love is a choice and a behavior, first of all to do no harm. To treat others with respect and dignity. That goes double for family members.
If someone wants to try to make a silk purse out of a sow’s ear, or eat a rotten steak, be my guest.
The issue is not cheating. The root issue is dishonesty. Cheating is only one manifestation of a pattern of dishonesty and unethical behavior. Look past the symptom (cheating) and most likely you will find it is only one tree in a giant forest of lies.
Lying precludes love. One who lies cannot love.
I could not be more grateful that dear Chump Lady helped me see the truth of what happened to me and helped me into the lifeboat.
❤️
That being said, I would never criticize anyone for wanting to try to reconcile, but I would also never ever be an advocate for staying.
In the blinding, mind-bending pain of DDay and because of my belief system about infidelity at that time, I was, like most people, totally willing to try to reconcile.
What I have learned since has me against ever considering it for even a split second, and totally unwilling to advocate or suggest that anyone else do so.
❤️
So perfectly worded the cheating is but one area of the giant web of deceit woven by the FW. I ended up finding out ex was privately described as a pathological liar by a few astute coworkers not blinded by his charm. Those were entirely separate lies having nothing to do with the marriage
Little Hammer turned eighteen in January. She puts it this way, “He’s trying to force pieces from different jigsaw puzzles to fit together, into a picture that works….for him.”
Now that she is eighteen, she has expressed interest in commenting here as a a child who has been impacted by infidelity.
I think LH’s experience and perspective could be really helpful to many chumps. I think for many chumps who are parents, we worry so much about our kids.
I hope Little Hammer will comment as she sees fit..
It’s so refreshing to get perspective from the actual children themselves! So often they’re the shield FW hide behind
I am all for leaving a cheater but in the case of one spouse being a famous multi millionaire the power imbalance is nothing we normies can imagine.
Much easier to come to an arrangement when there are multiple homes and endless money. Live apart, separate lives and enjoy a life of luxury as the Impression Management wife appliance. PR team employee essentially. Methinks that’s the only way Jordyn should approach staying, rather than actually believing any RIC BS.
Idk. I think I’d want to go ahead and get it over with at a time of my choosing rather than wait for him to blindside me, probably after hiding assets.
The famous multi millionaire part expands all the little things that lots of us dealt with too. Jordyn knows that whatever they do, it will be all over the press. Early on? I didn’t want anyone knowing anything other than my absolute closest friends. I was so embarrassed. Strangely, even before I found CL I realized that the shame was not MINE to carry. But in those early days, it really was a big deal to me. I had a hard time understanding my own feelings on it, but I definitely was not keen on even telling people we were separating.
Due to the kinds of assets this couple has? Divorce could be a long drawn out process. She will end up with plenty to live on well eventually, but she may be just not ready to go into that battle just yet. She also knows that as he is Dave Grohl, if they divorce, he will soon enough have a 26 year old Victoria’s Secret Model on his arm. Maybe a different one every week, and it will be all over the tabloids. She may be asked about every new woman he dates. On the one hand, she needs to just Trust He Sucks and feel bad for any woman within 10 feet of him. But maybe she isn’t ready to deal with that yet either.
But I bet she will be soon enough.
“She may be asked about every new woman he dates.” True, but if you’re referring to the media asking, it’s always possible to say “No comment.” I think people often forget that.
I agree completely. I still have trouble processing how these cheater people can have sex, ” on and off for years” and not protect against pregnancy. It’s mind blowing. What exactly did he think was going to happen when his groupie is that young? The narcissism, the delusion is extraordinary.
The utter lack of concern or awareness for any consequences for his family is complete evil
As for Jordyn, I will not judge her.
It took me years and absolutely dozens of online relationships to finally realize my ex was not going to change
If she feels she can live with that lack of trust that’s on her. I’m totally with the idea of just using Dave Grohl’s$ I believe it’s almost billion dollars. He is one of the wealthier rock stars. And if it’s worth anything, Courtney Love, Kurt Cobain’s widow, has spoken out against Dave’s lack of integrity and his false public image.
I think also if Jordyn Blum believe this is her husband’s only iindiscretion she is also in denial
Accidents happen. People screw up and aren’t 100% perfect with using bc. Also, as at least 1 other commenter suggested, it’s possible that the AP got pregnant on purpose.
I’m going to have to disagree. What was the accident here – having an affair with a woman for years and not being aware of birth control? Lying to his wife? Or being lied to and tricked by a woman who was helping him lie to his wife?
There is nothing here that should surprise Mr. Grohl. There is a possibility that the woman got pregnant on purpose or, he has been having a relationship with her for so long and she is reaching the 40s he agreed to father a child with her because he cares about her that much. That it was deliberate
on his part as well
He certainly can Care for everybody financially, no matter what the cause is This is not an accident
The point usually of our discussions here is that people should not be betraying their spouses and he did – if that was a very conscious decision
If there was not a child involved here, I would just say this is karma, but the child is innocent. Also, if your screen name is a story you are telling I am also the daughter of a chump. Or rather one of my parents stepped out of the marriage for years. Can I forgive him? That was up to my mother, and she chose to do that or at least she chose to reconcile, but they were of a different generation. As the child in that dynamic, can I forgive him, sometimes, Do I think his behaviors were accidental? No.
Correction, he’s only worth 330 million according to the web. He still gets Nirvana residuals.
“Only 330 million” LOL. I get your point, 330 mil is NOT “almost a billion” but damn, it is still sooooo much money.
I feel so bad for his wife. I thought the public announcement was low. I already have a low opinion of celebrities who expose their children to the press. There was no reason for him to do that. It’s no one else’s business. All he did was humiliate his wife. I know who he is, I like some of his music. Before he made this announcement, I could not have told you if he was married, I didn’t know if he had kids or not. I didn’t care. I don’t care about the personal lives of celebrities. But when he had to announce he cheated on his wife and knocked someone up, he brought so much attention to it that now I know these things, even though I never wanted to and never went looking for the information. God forbid he be private and protect his family, which includes this new child. How is it in her best interest to be publicly known as his b*st*rd? How does that benefit her? It’s gross. I guess he was feeling like a has been and needed some attention. That’s the only reason I can come up with for why he’d take a giant public sh*t like he did. This was not good for anybody else involved, it just got him attention.
Maybe he did help Courtney k*ll Kurt. He’s obviously personality disordered. I wouldn’t put anything past him now.
I don’t think he made that announcement by choice. I think he knew it was going to come out and his PR team told him that it would be better damage control if he got ahead of it.
Whether the AP threatened to tell the news, or they told a big mouth friend, hell, if she just insisted on putting his name on the birth certificate in an LA Hospital, that info was going to get leaked.
All that said, he had an affair and knocked up the AP, so regardless of whether he wanted the world to know, all this kids ARE involved publicly and that IS on him.
Quite true. I believe reporters pay people like hospital employees for tips like that.
Anyone catch that mini-series Sirens on Netflix? Kevin Bacon’s rich mogul character replaces wives with younger assistants and Julianne Moore’s character who “quietly exits with understanding”. What patriarchal cheaters green-lit this shit show?? Now now ladies, you’re aging out, quietly exit the scene or you will be “low class”, unlike the cheaters 🙄 My my, the patriarchy doeth worketh overtime to keep their slithering snake show mainstream. I’m sure Dave Grohl’s publicist was initially pissed that he wrecked the family facade that was carefully curated but now it’s a new facade: we’re all one big happy family now with the forgiving wife at it’s core. Nothing new under the sun folks, just the patriarchy & their handmaidens churning out their entitlement narratives.
I just finished looking at Dave’s AP’s photos. One set of photos shows her in an airport. Why would you dress like that? She knows there’s a good possibility that someone will be taking her photo. Her hair, her shoes, her calloused feet and that outfit…
i feel for jordyn. i hope she soon realizes the level of control dave is exerting over the situation and over her. i hope she’s got a good divorce lawyer that she sees on the down low and is gathering info as required. she’s going to need it at some point.
he’s devalued her both privately by having an affair (keeping secrets for multiple years and getting off on it) and publicly, by sharing his work with a divorce lawyer to keep her in line (threatening).
it’s this control that is truly off putting when i think back to my X. it’s what opened my eyes to the entire picture which is, of course, difficult to face. narcissist work hard to destabilize their chumps. it’s a real trip.
i cringe when i recall my X saying, “wait a sec. i just had a thought…” nope. every time he had these thoughts they were well planned and well placed into the conversation to either make more work or destabilize me (designated chump).
it was all about control. i hope jordyn soon realizes the machinations.
onward,
damnitfeelsbadtobeachumpster
Can someone educate me about the meaning of a wedding ring on a middle finger? Does that signify an open marriage?
I cannot know for certain what that is, its probably a fitness tracker ring like an OURA Ring people often wear those on their middle and index fingers.
I was not aware there’s any ringsymbol for an open marriage
There are just so many knife sticks for Jordyn and the girls..my only hope is that Jordyn is getting her ducks🦆🦆🦆🦆🦆 in a row and when the time is right, pounces. Gets her millions and trots off into the sunset. No comparison to all of us that filed and got out with whatever we could scrape together and did the single parent job alone….no millions. But once you stay, for whatever the reasons, Stockholm syndrome or trauma bonded or whatever the name is..you enter the absolute horrors of the pick me dance, the question of never feeling good enough, the ongoing abuse that cheaters just cant help…the marriage police job on top of everything else.This is entering a nightmare in my opinion.
One of my dear friends stayed with her cheating husband after an out- of state RIC marathon event as cheater was a big wig.
Years later my friend is dying of pancreatic cancer, us laying there with a central line in and I was visiting during chemo in her pump going into her frail body.. Her cheater comes in whining about his hurt knee and his headache. My Chump friend tells her cheater husband( yes the RIC big wig )how to put an ice pack on his knee and to go to the couch and rest!!!!Cheater keeps the whining up and I’m ready to smother him with a pillow!! My friend dies weeks later. Cheater goes on to get the house, sell it, move to a lovely community and start dating. When we as chumps reconcile it seems we pay the price. Cheater loses nothing and does not have to feel anything and we take care of them for life and then die first?????. How is this fair? Take warnings chumps, RIC is no free ride.
From the stories here and IRL Chumps often develop health issues likely related to the stress of dealing with a FW, and quite a few end up with cancer. Our physical health is very much related to the mental health. Chumps being gaslighted, sexually assaulted with infections, emotionally abused, financially abused can only be damaging to their health!
Your friend did herself no favors by staying, but sadly this seems to be a common scenario. The RIC kills
My sleep was horrible for 20 years. He was a restless and terrible sleeper. And the stress. I gained weight and developed type two diabetes. Then he criticized me for my weight, which still wasn’t even that high.
What I don’t understand is how his wife feels she can ever ever trust him again. A guy is that bold to have a child like this and then go public, I don’t think so. My hope is that she’s staying to take some benefit from his financial situation.
This scares the shit out of me. I lived so much of my life in a state of panic becase FW was an angry lunatic. Then he cheated, and it took 5 years to get from D-Day to Divorce. Those 5 years were brutal. We have kids so there is still some, but very low, contact. I definitely feel at peace more than not NOW. But I lived for decades with so much stress. I definitely worry about cancer, and while dying young is not somethig I would want, leaving my kids with just him as a parent is a much, much bigger concern.
We wonder if we should leave Archer, but I suspect the damage done by staying with a cheater remains unrecorded due to gaslighting, dancing, centrality that cheaters can’t even help, more diseases put into your body, being touched by a person who does nit mind hurting you???. I never ever thought of the huge damage of staying and knowing!! I didn’t know but my body was still breaking down. My friend that died of pancreatic cancer also had a baby at 43- (2 other children were already in their 20s…) she had a post RIC baby that was also a risk…part of the dance?? I don’t know but those stats we will never know. And the longer you stay..the sicker??? Thr Body Keeps the Score.
I hope you are right and Jordyn is getting her ducks in a row. For all her exalted lifestyle, she’s probably on that well-worn track: her friends are telling her “Why let the other woman win?” Therapy is telling her “Take your share of the responsibility.” Yes, she can shoulder that burden and fix this! She still loves the guy, she wants to keep the “intact family” for her girls, especially the youngest.
Am I wrong? I hope so.
Dave is a prize right🏆🏆?He is likely getting his ducks in a row too or like my sister, Jordyn may have signed some kind of prenuptial that gives her more bucks the longer she stay..5 years so much 10 years more and so on…I know folks scream on this site when I mention the word volunteer but you get what you sign up for, whatever shock you go into. My therapists told me to get out and not to waste one more moment on my loser cheater husband. I believed that he sucked but the deception went so much deeper than the story I got from him. I love CL for her honesty against the grain of society..so few voice this side and it is killing us chumps to be left hanging out to dry by the RIC. Thank you Tracy and CN and my fellow NEMO
God bless your therapists. Too many are totally at sea when it comes to the character/personality disordered/disturbed, Cluster B, whatever it’s called these days. They’ve been trained to help nice normal (relatively) neurotics.
Or incentivized by the $ that flows from long time false reconciliation sessions
LOVE the reference to Tiffany Trump. But Barron is in a similar boat.
The AP here is not a young teen and I have no sympathy for her. My money is on her willingly being an OW for years and perfectly able to use birth control, but approaching 40 and without better prospects decided to cash in before she herself ages out as groupie material.
So the aging OW proceeds by having a child support $$$ baby with the rich FW. AP didn’t care about the damage to Jordyn or her girls. She was out only for herself
Oh Archer. Ewww. I had not even thought of that but it is a huge possibility. The article said they met in 2021 and were seeing each other for years, so I assume they started the affair not long after they met. In 2021 she would have been 34. If kids were something she always wanted, her clock was already ticking and she was wasting some of her last fertile years with a married man that probably wasn’t makin promises to leave his wife. I say “probably” because while FW’s lie and he could have been making her promises, he DID have that whole good guy/family man image that he wasn’t keen on dismantling. We see FWs here all the time that want to keep chumps around for image control alone, and they aren’t public figures earning money off that image.
So maybe she was on birth control and skipped a few pills becase she wanted a baby and was afraid she was nearly out of time, or more bleak, it could have been a just a run of the mill classic gold digger move. It sure worked out because the article doesn’t say he pays child support, it says he pays HER expenses AND the baby’s AND helps with whatever they need. Jackpot.
“… but believe it or not, you can raise a child alone.”
Oh, the AP will absolutely be raising that kid alone. Grohl is posting whatever on social media now, but he isn’t going to do ANY actual parenting of that baby. None. Zero. Zip. He’s just gonna throw money at him/her.
For sure he isn’t going over to her all expenses paid home to do late night feedings and change diapers. And I can’t imagine it is a 50/50 custody split either. The baby is an innocent, but that doesn’t mean Jordyn is setting up a nursery in her house for her. What a mess.
I’ve been a fan of his since Nirvana and the news of this one really hit me hard. Nearly a year down the line and I still skip when Foos come on my Spotify.
I also tried R for nearly a year after my FW’s affair and like many of us here, I do understand why she’s decided to stay.
But I also predict she will eventually realise the well is forever poisoned and leave. It can take a really long time, when you’re with someone as long as she’s been with him, for the mask to truly come off and you see them for what they are. That was a long process for me and I didn’t have a rich and famous FW.
The way Grohl has managed to keep every single crumb of cake for himself while everyone – including his new baby – gets a kick in the teeth absolutely disgusts me. His delusion that everyone is doing the right thing by the kids, absolutely disgusts me. That poor new baby will forever know that her father didn’t choose her first, for anything.
I’ll never see him the same way again.
I’m still not convinced that she was chumped in the traditional sense. It says that Grohl and Young were seeing each other for years and even attended a Metallica concert together, with video surfacing on TikTok. That’s David Grohl, not some unknown FW. I think even my exFW, a regular guy, would have avoided a concert in our hometown with his AP for fear of running into people we knew.
It’s said that it is well known that he sleeps with groupies on the road. There was speculation that they may have had some kind of arrangement where his wife accepted that and that the issue is that this relationship was not jsut a groupie on the road, but an actual relationship. Or that the baby itself is the entire issue.
I do still feel for his wife, no one should have to live with all that even if the agreed to some version of infidelity. And I am almost certain that he doesn’t extend the same “freedoms” to her. And now it is all playing out so publicly. Ick.
I agree with others, I think in time she is going to leave. The baby is an innocemt bystander, but that doesn’t make it any easier for the wife. He’s paying his AP’s living expenses and paying for the baby. (Obviously he should pay child support, but why the mom’s living expemses?) It seems he fully intends to be around the baby, which will put him around his AP, and I imagine all that will get really old for the wife fast. It has not been that long, she is still reeling, I am betting the wife leaves in the next 2 years at most. Maybe less, as yeah, she has the financial incentive in that she will be just fine in that regard.
I’ll believe it when I see it. He doesn’t seem like the type to do the responsible thing.
Yep that’s the part that really gets me – he wants a pat on the head for being a responsible dad and taking an active role in the life of his baby. And it’s true that his baby is entitled to that much.
But by definition, that means contact with his AP so…..Dave gets all the cake and Dave wins again.
Fuck that guy fr.
I hope this is BS, and that Ms. Blum is going along with this so she can get her ducks in a row.
As someone who tried to reconcile post AP getting pregnant, the whole charade eats you inside out. You become a shell of your former self. You pretend that things are fine. You stomach unimaginable shit sandwiches. I confidently tell anyone in this position to up and leave. It is never worth your peace. My life with my children is much more peaceful meanwhile the AP is pregnant a second time, still no ring and her vacancy has been filled with two new AP’s. And I am not interfering with the Karma train. She deserves everything that is happening to her God bless her little heart. And cheating FW’s life is unravelling. No amount of work will ever replace the anxiety that comes with wondering what is happening during the coparenting trips/sessions