Tell Me Something Good

puppies_c_1982835In a similar vein to Tell Me How You’re Mighty posts, today I need some uplift. ANYTHING. A close encounter of the puppy kind, a generous neighbor story, the best cupcake you ever ate. Give me something POSITIVE and non-political that happened to you recently. Did your 5-year-old say something cute? Did someone pay you a compliment? Did you pay someone a compliment? Has a stranger committed a random act of kindness that made you go a bit weak-kneed and teary?

Can’t think of anything? Then leave some random encouragement to a chump who might be lurking on this site today and needs to hear that they’re going to be okay. That you care.

Want to do something nice for someone? I recently stumbled over this terrific site — More Love Letters. People submit stories of people they know who are suffering from depression, and strangers write letters (the old-fashioned kind!) of love and encouragement to them. The addresses are published in the link there. I’m going to get out some of my lovely stationery and write a couple of letters to the cause this weekend. You don’t have any lovely stationery? Go find some! Heck, buy a fountain pen if you really want to get fancy.

So that’s your Friday challenge, Chump Nation — be bluebirds of happiness. Be the nice person who gives another person hope. TGIF!

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Finally Awake
Finally Awake
7 years ago

Got a kitten. They really are adorable.

kiwigirl
kiwigirl
7 years ago
Reply to  Finally Awake

Second that. My cats have given me unconditional love through the last 3 years of pain and grief

Chumpalicious
Chumpalicious
6 years ago
Reply to  kiwigirl

Me too my cats are the only reason I get out of bed some days. The pain is a tsunami, but my cats have to eat.

Geode
Geode
7 years ago
Reply to  Finally Awake

My son broke his hand Monday and cut his good hand today. Two trips to the ER in one week, looming college application deadlines and a stressful week in my divorce from his stepfather, Dr. Crazy. But he scored a 33 on the ACT and just added his true “dream school” Tulane to his list.

Roaring
Roaring
7 years ago
Reply to  Geode

Geode, such a stressful week! Your son is a rock star! That doesn’t just happen. Congratulations all around.

Geode
Geode
7 years ago
Reply to  Roaring

Thanks 2do, Nomore and Roaring. My son really connected with his “charming” and “accomplished” stepfather, as we all did, but came to see the abusive, perverted fraud that he really is. So we encourage each other to keep moving forward, sometimes in baby steps and sometimes in great leaps.

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago
Reply to  Geode

That is exciting! I wish him the best in college and a very speedy recovery!

notsurewhat2do
notsurewhat2do
7 years ago
Reply to  Geode

Yeah. Congrats! Love Tulane

Sisyphus
Sisyphus
7 years ago
Reply to  Finally Awake

I’ll tell you something good. This week I solved a technical problem (I’m an engineer) that will save my clients up to 36 million gallons of diesel fuel per year. It has nothing to do with riding bicycles or riding buses, etc. It was a pure technical problem that required a complex analysis. While there is much jawboning about saving the earth, real problem solvers are actually making infrastructure more efficient under the motivation of good old capitalism. I’ve worked in communist countries (China) where you don’t get a chance to succeed unless you’re politically connected. I’ll now go back to producing real solutions for the world instead of complaining about how “the white man” is holding me down. That is all.

FindingBliss
FindingBliss
7 years ago
Reply to  Sisyphus

Wonderful, Sisyphus! Congratulations and keep being awesome.

Smart is Hard
Smart is Hard
7 years ago
Reply to  Sisyphus

Just finished rereading Atlas Shrugged, Sisyphus-you give me hope : )

On my end, fixed a plumbing problem in my house by myself. Small thing, but so very important. Also, Meh is unbelievable ; )

Hugs to all of us!

MidlifeBlast
MidlifeBlast
7 years ago
Reply to  Smart is Hard

I fixed a tap the other day. I had to get instructions off about 4 people and find the mains. I felt awesome!!!

ForgeOn!
ForgeOn!
7 years ago
Reply to  Sisyphus

Yaaaayyyy You, Sisyphus!
It’s the so called ‘little guys’ like you that actually make the world go ’round!
Cheers to you as you ForgeOn!

Sisyphus
Sisyphus
7 years ago
Reply to  ForgeOn!

Myself and my deplorable workmates will continue doing the things that have a real, measurable effect on the standard of living for everyone. Ironically we could have solved this problem long ago if we weren’t pre-occupied rolling out a major unnecessary technological system that was mandated by insane regulations.

Kar marie
Kar marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

+1

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago

I bought myself a crockpot ! Future ex-husband never wanted one, I intend to try it in my new apartment within the next couple weeks…a symbol for my fresh start away from the looser.

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago
Reply to  AlohaFreedom

Another copy/paste for me, thanks for sharing AlohaFreedom !

AlohaFreedom
AlohaFreedom
7 years ago
Reply to  Loulotte02

Google “chicken stuffing green bean crockpot.”

Sooo good. Personally I use a frozen 16oz bag of blue lake green beans. Yum yum yum!

kaycan
kaycan
7 years ago
Reply to  Loulotte02

I highly recommend finding “Dump” recipes online for crock pot meals. Cut and portion everything, dump it all (uncooked) into a freezer bag, freeze, and you’re done! The night before you want to make it, defrost in the fridge, and the next morning you can just pour the contents into your crock pot and go! It’s great for making multiples of the same meal to have on hand, or when you find a great deal on things like chicken breasts and can stock up.

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago
Reply to  kaycan

Kaycan, I just pulled my crockpot last week. I will use your prepare ahead of time suggestion. TY. xoxoxoxox

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago
Reply to  kaycan

I will also need a freezer in my soon to be home I guess, merci kaycan ?

Flowerlady
Flowerlady
7 years ago
Reply to  Loulotte02

Crockpot!!! My crockpot has been with me for 32 years!! It’s a big orange Rival brand from the 70’s and it has provided hundreds of delicious, cheap meals and even more leftovers. After my divorce 2 years ago and purchase of my new house, my crockpot was THE FIRST item I brought into the house after I got the keys. It was very symbolic for me. My crockpot reminds me that I can feed and nurture myself through thick and thin. It symbolizes my survival. I wish you the best of luck with your new crockpot! It’s easy and fun and rewarding!
Maybe we need a Chumpnation Cook Book!

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago
Reply to  Flowerlady

I love the cookbook idea, too. Recipes like “Fidelity Fried Chicken,” or “Gained A Life Gumbo.”

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

And for the cheaters, Fuck You Flan (because who wants to waste dessert calories on something that doesn’t contain chocolate?).

Roaring
Roaring
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Hahaha.

Maybe our wine selections could be called The Grapes of Wrath?

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Roaring

Excellent, Roaring!

ForgeOn!
ForgeOn!
7 years ago
Reply to  Flowerlady

Awesome idea! Seems a lot of cheater freaks find lots to complain about when it comes to meals / food. So, as we go forward with our cheater-free lives, many of us get to relax in that department & fix what WE love, our children love. And delete what we don’t!

I am decidedly NOT a cook! But, I did sorta find my ‘inner chef’ once I was no longer bowing to all the cheater’s demands / complaints about meals & food. Therefore, I have some simple meal ideas I would love to share!

junglechump
junglechump
7 years ago
Reply to  ForgeOn!

Oh my god true! My cooking was never good enouh for STBXH. And when I would cook exactely what he wanted and how he wanted it, he would fail to notice or say something nice. Fucker.

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago
Reply to  ForgeOn!

I agree ForgeOn! I’m no great chef either, but there will never be over cooked food in my house ever again…I want to taste what real meat and crunchy vegetables taste like…

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago
Reply to  Flowerlady

This is exactly how I feel, Flowerlady. It’s a symbol of my hard earned freedom and survival.
And I agree for a CN Cook Book ! Thank you for your kind words.

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Loulotte02

Pot Roast in the crock pot…..mmmmmm good.

8 hours of slow cooking that roast on Sundays while filling your home with that peerless smell reminds you of what authentic home life is all about.

My kids anticipation of the feast at 5pm reminds us all how grateful we all are to be sitting all together and to reminisce with each other all the while filling our bellies. Life is good.

BTW….the trick to an unparalleled pot roast is adding pearl onions and impaling the roast with garlic. Half beef stock and half wine. 4 pounder all day long.

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago

Sure, what kind of wine do you use in this recipe?

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

Pinot Grigio. Give the roast a small taste of sweet. 🙂

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago

OK, now I’m hungry ! Too bad I don’t want to use my crockpot now : it’s really something I want to do with me and my kids when the asshole is not around. I will have to wait a little bit, but I copy/pasted the recipe on a sheet. Thank you SureChumpedAlot.

Dixie Chump
Dixie Chump
7 years ago

Yummy!

This2ShallPass
This2ShallPass
7 years ago
Reply to  Loulotte02

Love a good crock pot. Put water in the bottom about an inch, put in some pork ribs with salt and pepper. Let it do it’s thing for five/six hours.

Easy and delicious!!!!

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago
Reply to  This2ShallPass

Another recipe, looks easy too ! Merci beaucoup This2ShallPass

notsurewhat2do
notsurewhat2do
7 years ago
Reply to  Loulotte02

Here is a great/easy/pratical recipe for the CrockPot, It isn’t fancy, though.

boneless chicken breasts (a pound or more)
Taco seasoning pack (or your own blend)
1 cup chicken broth.

Cook on low 6-8 hours or high 4 hours.

Shred meat. You can use this for chicken tacos, burritos, enchiladas etc. I always make plenty and freeze the leftover in small serving sizes.

Quicksilver
Quicksilver
7 years ago
Reply to  notsurewhat2do

I brought a crock pot full of chili in to work todzy. Getting ready for a chili cookoff to support Children’s Hospital. Love my crock!

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago
Reply to  Quicksilver

Quicksilver, I’ll need the chili recipe, it’s a dish my kids enjoy a lot…and future ex-husband not at all : two very good reasons I suppose 😉

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  notsurewhat2do

You’ll love your crockpot! I recommend “Fix it and Forget it” cookbook. The recipes are submitted by people. Enjoy! 🙂

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago
Reply to  Martha

I hope I can find it in France, thank you Martha !

Notadoormat
Notadoormat
7 years ago
Reply to  Loulotte02

Loulotte2 – where the heck did you find a crock pot in France? I live in France, too, and would love to get one.

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago
Reply to  Notadoormat

Amazon @ Notadoormat ! I knew I’d find a French fellow chump if I started posting after a few months lurking ?

Attie
Attie
7 years ago
Reply to  Loulotte02

Me too. I live in France AND have a crockpot – yay for us. And the good news, The Inadequate One is back living in the States so the good Lord saw fit to put the Atlantic Ocean between me and him. Life just keeps on getting better.

Louisvilleflower
Louisvilleflower
7 years ago
Reply to  Loulotte02

Slow Cooker Kitchen has a Facebook page. And, you can google crock pot/slow cooker and (for example) chicken tortilla soup (delicious) and find recipes.
Buy containers for leftovers!

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago

Off I go and check, thank you Louisvilleflower!

Loulotte02
Loulotte02
7 years ago
Reply to  notsurewhat2do

Thank you Notsurewhat2do ! I knew I could count on CN no matter what…
I’ll try this as quickly as I can, hopefully within the next couple weeks.

Mom Of The Good Guys
Mom Of The Good Guys
7 years ago

I just stepped out into the pre-dawn to let my precious little dog outside. It smells like the holidays; the sky was lightening, and I can hear the sweet sound of freight trains, which is one of the most comforting sounds I love. It reminds me of my childhood.

My son is on the radio, doing his morning drive time program, and through the miracle of modern technology, I can listen from a distant city. He’s a good man.

And I’m drinking a cup of Hazelnut coffee from my Keurig! I was up all night seething about the election, but the sun is coming up, and it’s going to be a beautiful day.

unicornomore
unicornomore
7 years ago

I understand that my son also does a radio show somewhere in Montana. I have asked him when I might catch it online and he wont tell me (attempts thusfar to find it have failed) but I am happy for him!

Syringa
Syringa
7 years ago
Reply to  unicornomore

unicornnomore, I lived in Montana for several years and worked in television so try the bigger markets like Missoula, Bozeman or Billings.

unicornomore
unicornomore
7 years ago
Reply to  Syringa

Missoula, yea

QueenMother
QueenMother
7 years ago

My 10-year old neighbor next door likes to do little things with me. He came over and helped me make invitations to a neighborhood open house. Then we went around and delivered the invitations. He planned games for the children. On the day of, one of the adults stepped in and provided support to the children’s games, and the children ran and laughed and played: glorious. Others carved pumpkins. Some were content to sip tea and eat pie, or tortillas and beans. Some brought samboosa.

Like you said, Chump Lady, love can and does return to our lives. The kindness and joy of my neighbors brought great happiness to me.

TodoVa
TodoVa
7 years ago

I finally accepted that it’s ok to do things for myself and not be bothered by what others think. It’s ok to move upward and onward (and far away!!!) from exH to make a new life for myself and my daughters. He chose to think and do as he wished while we were married. Why not me? Why not now? After all, we are divorced! It’s not selfish to think and do for my family, for me. If not me, who???

mickeyblueeyes just wrote an astounding and magnificent post in the forum, Fix yourself and not them. Go on and read it. It is exactly what I needed today to finalize this new life I’m making for my family and well, for myself. We are so worth it!

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  TodoVa

Very nice TodoVa. I will certainly read what mickeyblueeyes wrote. It’s so hard to take the focus off of him for once and put the focus on me. I feel my whole life has been about focusing on others instead of myself. It’s really hard to change that mindset. Baby steps. We can do it!

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Martha

Martha-

Focusing on “him” is no different than focusing on a shoe box. All you will get back is nothing but empty.

Take your love and focus on others that deserved to be focused on – kids, family, friends *and* YOURSELF! This will fulfill you, I promise.

Martha
Martha
7 years ago

Thank you, SureChumpedAlot. I know you are right. I’m looking forward to Meh and I know I’ll get there faster by doing what you said. Thank you. 🙂

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Martha

….and don’t forget Martha….we are all proud of you! 🙂 🙂 🙂

Martha
Martha
7 years ago

I’m proud of you, too, SureChumpedAlot and all the other chumps who get out of bed each day, brush our teeth, take a shower, make it thru the day and take positive steps to gaining a cheater-free, wonderful life! 🙂 🙂 🙂

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  Martha

Okay, I’m heading down the list soon. 🙂

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Martha

One last thing Martha….Read on down on my post below on “all good things come in 3’s”. This is why I give you 3 smiley faces first!

mickeyblueeyes
mickeyblueeyes
7 years ago
Reply to  TodoVa

TodoVa I just read the first paragraph and though to my self “Yep she gets it, This is it, this is what we all need to do.”

…then read your second paragraph. Kind words.

TodoVa
TodoVa
7 years ago
Reply to  mickeyblueeyes

This is exactly what we need to do! And again, thank you. The extent to which I no longer feel anything for the exH is because of this site and powerful posts such as yours!

Betsy66
Betsy66
7 years ago

Your a bit later home from work than expected, one son is messaging to see where you are. Another son is phoning to see how long you are going to be, he’s starving. You enter the house and the cats come bounding down the stairs from the bedroom, as they have been there all day and they instinctively know it’s me. “Hi Mum, how was your day?”, a voice from the living room.
Positive note – my life is full, I have so much love around me, even the cats think I’m awesome! For anyone still “in it”, get rid of the fuck wit from your life! Those “where are you Mum?” messages and texts will not longer feel like pressure, they will make you feel alive, loved and a worth while person!! Something that an abusing, cheater never ever wants you to feel! Xx

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago
Reply to  Betsy66

Bestsy66,

This is perfect. I used to feel the pressure of being late and “What do you want to do for dinner?” as he sat on his cheesy puff recliner. Not any more. I love coming home to my dogs. They’re happier then they’ve ever been. I’m happier than I’ve been in a long while. You said it, “Get rid of the fuck wit.” It does get better.

Geode
Geode
7 years ago
Reply to  Betsy66

I felt that at 5 am this morning. Cat, little dog and 15 year old daughter who couldn’t sleep because of last week’s time change all in my bed snuggling until the alarm.

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  Betsy66

Very nice! 🙂 The unconditional love of children and pets — the best!

WiseOldOwl
WiseOldOwl
7 years ago

Still in mourning- I got nothing.

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago
Reply to  WiseOldOwl

WiseOldOwl, this soon after Dday this is big stuff. I remember just laying in bed sick to my stomach, shaking, so anxiext-ridden I actually had to tell myself to breathe. I finally realized I hadn’t eaten or showered in days. As I said in another post, I told myself to get in the shower or I would draw flies. Anything beyond comatose is a MAJOR feat! xoxoxoxoxox! Stay strong….this pain is finite, I promise!

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

WiseOldOwl

Every day do something for yourself. You are a wonderful person. I believed this stage would never end. It will! Sending love and strength to you. You matter!

Roaring
Roaring
7 years ago
Reply to  WiseOldOwl

WiseOldOwl, you are here. You are safe here. You will make it. Read all the archives. Journal. Hot baths and epsom salts. Lots and lots of sleep.

MehGloriousMeh
MehGloriousMeh
7 years ago
Reply to  WiseOldOwl

WiseOldOwl, every single member of Chump Nation is pulling for you!!! I just said a prayer for you right here at my desk. 🙂

Give yourself credit for EVERYTHING. Even breathing in and out, which some days feels like hard labor. I promise that it gets better! I learned to judge my progress month to month rather than day to day.

Also, I got a good laugh from this meme during those early, hardest days: If I don’t kill someone, does that mean I saved someone’s life? Or something like that. 🙂

Your mightiness is growing day by day!!! Hugs to you, Dear Friend!

Mandie101
Mandie101
7 years ago
Reply to  MehGloriousMeh

Way to go wise! I remember those bed days. I want to thank my bed for being there. I’d take my iPad,phone,diary and just be. Going out to face people was hard. I felt that everyone could see my pain. But bit by bit it changed. Bed is still a sanctuary but I no longer dread life. Know that CN is a place where every single person actually understands you because we’ve been through it. Drop us a line any time from wherever

ChutesandLadders
ChutesandLadders
7 years ago
Reply to  WiseOldOwl

You got out of bed. You are winning!

It can’t get any worse, and IT WILL get better. Swear!

WiseOldOwl
WiseOldOwl
7 years ago
Reply to  WiseOldOwl

Got my oil changed and bought new glasses. Something accomplished from out of my bed covers. Does that count?

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago
Reply to  WiseOldOwl

Oil change and glasses are major accomplishments when you’re world is in chaos. You also reached out to your fellow Chumps. Supportive human contact is very important. We’re here for you.

Chumptitude
Chumptitude
7 years ago
Reply to  WiseOldOwl

Every little bit counts WiseOldOwl, every moment of your post-cheater life is a victory!

Some of these moments are actively spent doing things, some moments are just about being there to acknowledge that building a cheater-free life is an exhausting journey.

Like all who commented here, I am rooting for you, forge on WiseOldOwl!

lostntx
lostntx
7 years ago
Reply to  WiseOldOwl

Getting up and being doing what needs to be done at this point for you is an amazing accomplishment. It gets better even though it feels like it never will. One day at a time. Try to find something to do every day that brings you just a few minutes of pleasure and savor them. It’s hard but you will make it!

mavis
mavis
7 years ago
Reply to  lostntx

WiseOldOwl,
It feels like you will never recover, but you will. There are many of stages of recovery that you will cycle through over and over. I spent the first year in bed overwhelmed by ptsd and depression. During the next stage, I became angry. I got to work, tripled my income and love, love, love spending all my free time with my growing children. Next stage? Emotion free focus on getting the best settlement for my children and myself. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Give yourself time to grieve. You are mighty 🙂

KathleenK
KathleenK
7 years ago
Reply to  mavis

WiseOldOwl – hang in there. There’s nothing better than new glasses and I hope you look fabulous in them. I salute you for getting out of bed! Baby steps, baby. You’ve got this!

cheaterssuck
cheaterssuck
7 years ago
Reply to  WiseOldOwl

Everything you do counts WiseOldOwl! It’s not easy in the beginning but the pain really is finite and all of chump nation will be here to cheer you on or prop you up when you need it.

Jedi hugs to you!

Chumpalicious
Chumpalicious
6 years ago
Reply to  cheaterssuck

I keep waking up and it is Monday. When will my Tuesday arrive?

oaktree
oaktree
7 years ago
Reply to  WiseOldOwl

absolutely, wise. cheers and hugs to you!

mickeyblueeyes
mickeyblueeyes
7 years ago
Reply to  WiseOldOwl

Absolutely that counts WiseOldOwl! Maybe your new glasses will give you a better focus on life and you will see your cheater for who they really are…a big shit!

Chumpzilla
Chumpzilla
7 years ago

I found a 1.5 week old abandoned kitten on 10/28. A few days later, she stopped eating and was having tremors. After two days in the kitty hospital, they thought she had an incurable neurological disorder. She has made a full recovery, however, and her vet thinks she’s going to be just fine (fingers crossed).

No matter what, she’ll always be mine and will receive the best home and the best care I can give her. She is a fighter — and winner — against nearly insurmountable odds and she’s my inspiration these days to keep my head up and keep going.

I wish I could paste her pic here – she’s ADORBS!

ChumptyDumpty
ChumptyDumpty
7 years ago
Reply to  Chumpzilla

18 mos ago on by boyfriends bday I rescued a kitten from a busy road (at the intersection of Wildcat Drive – fate!) At the time I had an old & non cat-friendly dog w/ cancer. So, viola- instant bday present. Started out with the goal of being a barn kitty, but those two have a bromance no one would’ve ever believed. And his two dogs are great with the kitty too.
Fast forward to my dog’s passing. After a few months I was having withdrawals. Bf got me a chihuahua pup for Christmas & she hit it off with all his critters (my old dog didnt & we always had to keep them separated).
Especially the cat. She’s lonely on the days we don’t stay at bf’s place, so I thought about getting a kitten. But I’d just bought a townhouse & met the sweetest neighbor kitty ever. He comes over every day to hang out & play with the pup. It’s perfect & there’s nothing that makes me smile like watching their Garfield & Odie antics.
Just today I unpacked some silk plants & the cat’s having a blast hiding in the “jungle” & pouncing anyone/thing that walks by.
I’ve always had just dogs (bred & trained for many years), butt now I totally get how the crazy cat lady thing can happen. Lol
Pets are truly the best medicine.

ChumptyDumpty
ChumptyDumpty
7 years ago
Reply to  ChumptyDumpty

Forgot to mention that the rescued cat, now 1.5 yrs, had a sudden & pretty severe seizure last wk. It was so alarming & he was pretty out of it for a day or two, but has made a full recovery. I had an epileptic dog once & thankfully she only seized a few times in her 12 yrs. Hoping this will be true for the cat as well.

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago
Reply to  ChumptyDumpty

My chocolate lab is epileptic. He was Fucktard’s dog but too much trouble with his seizures, medicine, and hell, you have to feed and water them as well as let them run outside. He was having seizures for over two hours and after I booted Fucktard out, I took him back to the vet. I told her that the seizures are getting much worse and that I know that Fucktard has explained them to her several times, but I needed to tell her again. She just looked at me. He hadn’t followed up with her at all and she thought they were under control. My poor baby spent over a year with cluster seizure and on the wrong medicine. Fucktard lied about talking to the vet. I got new medicine and he has about 2 ten minute seizures a year now. And, he’s happier than he’s ever been.

lostntx
lostntx
7 years ago
Reply to  Chumpzilla

Humans should be more like animals. Your kitten will appreciate you and always be glad to see you and give you affection. They generally don’t complain about anything but truly appreciate what they have!

Patsy
Patsy
7 years ago

I went to a household auction and got some really good items for a fraction of the retail price. Their previous owners might have died, but they will be appreciated and used going forward as this Chump rebuilds her life on a much smaller budget.

A Potato ricer for the smoothest mashed potato ever! A stainless steel vacuum flask for my morning tea on my commute. And, best of all, a set of kitchen steps so I can reach into my top cupboards!

PS any Americans got a wonderful meatloaf recipe to share with me? It has to be one that is made from scratch and mention the seasoning.

MotherChumper99
MotherChumper99
7 years ago
Reply to  Patsy

Delicious low-carb recipe

1 lb ground turkey
1/2 yellow onion finely chopped
1 beaten egg
1/2 cup shredded Parmesan cheese
2 T Worcestershire sauce
1 teaspoon black pepper
1/4 teaspoon cayenne pepper
2 teaspoons onion powder (optional)
3 T ketchup or tomato paste

Mix all items and put into baking loaf dish
Bake uncovered 350 degrees F for 35 min or until juices run clear.

Serve with roasted-creamed cauliflower and a green salad.
Yum!

Patsy
Patsy
7 years ago

Thanks everyone! I asked from scratch not because of snobbery, but because we don’t have any meatloaf helper or ready mix around these parts.

Really love the suggestions!

ForgeOn!
ForgeOn!
7 years ago

Looks like we have a really good start on that CN Cookbook. What is it, 5 or 6 recipes so far in the comments?

And I haven’t even finished reading to the end of this lovely conversation.

Just in case that idea falls thru, I have been copying the recipes to my “Word” program.
What an precious bunch of humans we have here at ChumpNation!

Here’s to all as we ForgeOn! with our culinary skills!

Dixie Chump
Dixie Chump
7 years ago
Reply to  Patsy

1 pound of the best quality hamburger you can get
1 small vidalia onion chopped small
1 clove garlic crushed or grated small
1 egg scrambled
2 slices cheap bread torn into small pieces
3/4 cup milk
1 tsp ground sage
1/2 tsp salt

Mix together well with your hands and press into glass loaf pan. Bake at 350 degrees for 50 minuges

Topping … Mix 1/4 cup ketchup, 1 tbsp brown sugar, and 1 tsp worcestire sauce. After baking meatloaf for the 50 minutes, spread topping over loaf and bake 10 more minutes.

The garlic and sage make this to die for!!

Dixie Chump
Dixie Chump
7 years ago
Reply to  Dixie Chump

I always use two cloves of garlic, but I’m Italian!!

Dixie Chump
Dixie Chump
7 years ago
Reply to  Dixie Chump

Strawberry ice cream for dessert!

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Dixie Chump

Dang Dixie, strawberry ice cream – I’m there!

I will bring Beethoven. 🙂

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Dixie Chump

Golly, I will be over at 5:00pm Dixie!! 🙂 I need to feed my cold, ya know?

Digbert
Digbert
7 years ago

I sent this beautiful advert to my friends in the US to cheer them up post election trauma

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sr6lr_VRsEo&sns=em

Roaring
Roaring
7 years ago
Reply to  Digbert

Check this out: http://giphy.com/gifs/136t38fGquezSM?utm_source=iframe&utm_medium=embed&utm_campaign=tag_click

I think this is the beginning of a movement! Yay!

IHaveHate
IHaveHate
7 years ago
Reply to  Digbert

Adore!!

Soldiering On
Soldiering On
7 years ago
Reply to  IHaveHate

The bouncing hedgehog made me laugh out loud!

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Digbert

This was priceless Digbert. You have successfully inspired me. Thank you.

cheaterssuck
cheaterssuck
7 years ago
Reply to  Digbert

Thanks Digbert! That will leave me smiling all day!

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

Thank you, Digbert…..still smiling!

Digbert
Digbert
7 years ago
Reply to  nomoreskankboy

It’s great isn’t it? I sat there bleary eyed at 4:30am this morning with the cat wanting his brekkie and the 5am obligatory gym session beckoning and I felt a bit low contemplating possibly another commute to work …….. and then I watched this via my friends in the UK and I felt alive and happy! ?

Olesammie
Olesammie
7 years ago
Reply to  Digbert

John Lewis is the favourite brand in the UK, it is a fabulous shop, a department store like Maceys. Every year, the John Lewis advert signals the start of Christmas in the UK and we all wait for it, they always make everyone cry. This year, they went for happy as 2016 has been a difficult year, didn’t they do well? Totally love it! All our favourite Woodland animals, the hedgehog is the best in my opinion. Do you have hedgehogs in the US? Anyway, definitely has the feel good factor!!! Much love to all!

The EX-orcist
The EX-orcist
7 years ago

I’m MEH. 15 months out from D-day and the subsequent fucking tides of pain and emotional hell I actually survived it all. Enough said.

Chumpalicious
Chumpalicious
6 years ago
Reply to  The EX-orcist

Wow you are so mighty. I have a long way to go.

paula
paula
7 years ago

I had an unexpected and difficult tooth extraction yesterday – after a sleepless post election week, I sat in the dentists chair and wept as they prepared for the procedure.

But then I got to thinkin’

I have a boss who is understanding of me needing to duck out of the office to go to the dentist

I live in an era of wonderful dentistry

I have dental insurance (thank you divorce lawyer)

I have the means to run to the store and pick up yogurt and soup post precedue

I have loving people who care that I had a tooth yanked out

When crawled into bed last night, jaw swollen and bruised, I wept again in gratitude and appreciation for a wonderful all providing universe

Mandie101
Mandie101
7 years ago
Reply to  paula

Yea. Sometimes I get like this. The small mercies are so overwhelming.

GetMeFree
GetMeFree
7 years ago

My 72-year old mother comes every Thursday afternoon/evening. She watches the baby, makes dinner, and does a few household chores around the house. Not a ton, just enough that it keeps me from feeling overwhelmed. She is my rock and I am so incredibly blessed to have her.

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  GetMeFree

That’s so wonderful! 🙂 You are blessed to have a mom like that.

mickeyblueeyes
mickeyblueeyes
7 years ago
Reply to  Martha

Yes simple stuff like this is wonderful. My 75 year old mum text me today to ask if she could buy me a gadget that kept half an avacado fresh in the fridge. Simple things like this make me smile.

Oh and she also text me the other day to say how proud of me she is 🙂

GetMeFree
GetMeFree
7 years ago
Reply to  mickeyblueeyes

I have several people in my life who check on me, but my mom is my “main” support person. I am soooo grateful to have her. She told me not too long ago that she admired me for getting through so much. And here, I have been thinking how much I admire her for just stepping in to help and love not just me but my kiddos.

I want to grow up to be just like her (says the 45-year old!)

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  mickeyblueeyes

🙂 Nothing better than having someone tell you that they are proud of you. 🙂

lostntx
lostntx
7 years ago
Reply to  GetMeFree

You truly are blessed. It is awesome that she can still help and does! Enjoy every day you have with her!

Polly
Polly
7 years ago

After years of loss of self confidence, trauma and pain I followed a friends advice and joined a running club. I am three weeks in and I am feeling so much better. Exercise really works and the pain I am now suffering is mainly in the knees and quads. My mood has definitely lifted.
I will be doing a 5K in December, well a slow mincing hobble probably but hey that doesn’t matter.

Love to you all and thank you chump nation for being here

Patsy
Patsy
7 years ago
Reply to  Polly

Yay, Polly!

I took up mountain bike riding. I am the slowest cyclist in the field, but who cares. I am off the sofa and out there.

Forest for the Trees
Forest for the Trees
7 years ago
Reply to  Patsy

Yeah. This.

Personally, though, I grow super bored when running or cycling on roads; however, I love running and biking (and skiing) on trails. It’s a double whammy of goodness in that I get the south tress relief that comes with both physical exercise and time in nature, seeing wildlife and beautiful landscapes. If you run or bike, try a trail run.

Of course, I also really enjoy slower activities such as berry picking and fly fishing, as these repetitive motions wash way stress and help to clear and focus the mind.

I love that my kids, dog, and I, have soooo much more time to spend outdoors without my ex-wife’s influences and demands on our time. It’s liberating.

Time in nature, especially with my young kids or old dog, prepares me mentally and physically for life’s challenges, while reminding me that there is much beauty in the world.

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago

See reply about to Martha. I love hiking and frequently get lost. If you’re ever in New York and pass a blonde more than once, and she’s muttering to herself as she’s spray painting red, green, yellow or blue marks on trees, point her the way out please.

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago

especially if she’s walking around without a bra on.

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

God how you make me laugh!

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  Polly

Great job, Polly! People keep telling me to exercise as I will “feel better.” I just don’t have the energy. I think I’m in a vicious cycle?

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Martha

Martha: It really does work; start with a 5 minute walk. Next day, 6 minute walk. Day after–6 minute walk a little faster….. Pretty soon you’re skipping.

Martha
Martha
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Okay, Tempest, I will. 🙂 I now live in a lovely, tree-lined neighborhood with sidewalks, so I now have no excuse for not getting a walk in each day (no sidewalks by my old apartment.) Thank you for the encouragement. 🙂

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago
Reply to  Martha

Martha,

My sister and I took our dogs out this afternoon to a county park we haven’t been to yet. The park was wonderful and well groomed. The kids were running, birds were chirping, it was a perfect adventure. Then three hours in, winding our way through the switch-backs, we were mumbling to ourselves about the lack of properly marked trails. I think I may have even made a comment about coming back with cans of spray paint instead of breadcrumbs to find our way home. I told my sister if the cops caught us not to use the word tagging, “Honest officer, we’re marking the trails, not tagging them.” Anyway, I was thinking we would star in a Survivor spin-off and I’d have to trade my bra for peanut butter when we found the road about an hour later. You know New York has wonderful parks, so if you go farther than the neighborhood, bring a compass, paint, and an extra bra for trade. 🙂

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Polly

Fantastic, Polly! After all the trials & tribulations, you deserve to feel great!

seripanther
seripanther
7 years ago
Reply to  Polly

Slow mincing hobble FTW! I completed my first SMH 5K back in May, and last month I’m proud to announce I achieved a SMH 10K! Anything is possible. I’m so glad running is helping you to regain some emotional equilibrium. It also temporarily eases runny nose when you have a cold, as I’m discovering this week.

ANC
ANC
7 years ago
Reply to  Polly

Yea, Polly! Running saved me from falling into a pit of depression. 3yrs out and I’m still going. I’ve set new personal goals for myself. It all began with just trying to get to 2miles, then a 5k at 30min, on and on.

Hmmmm….. Maybe there should be a Chump5k- gaining a life run.

walkingthruhell
walkingthruhell
7 years ago
Reply to  ANC

Love the idea! At one race, I considered writing “I run for Chumps” on the back of my shirt!

VulcanChump
VulcanChump
7 years ago

We live in a world with music like this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pLBmqwA4AGc

Virago
Virago
7 years ago
Reply to  VulcanChump

Amazing, VulcanChump. Had to look him up, as I am not current with musical talent (tho’ VN is waking me from my slumber in these matters).
He is only 24 (!!!!!! really folks, 24) and has preternatural talent. I read that he was a professional magician at age 10. Someone to watch for. Someone creating beauty.
Did I mention born in 1992??
Thanx for the introduction, VC, V

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  VulcanChump

Who is that sexy motherfucker? Dang.

Lovely.

DemHoez
DemHoez
7 years ago

I got laid. Ok that was TMI, but the guy was way too young. I felt pretty damn good that I bagged that lol.

Lunachick
Lunachick
7 years ago
Reply to  DemHoez

That’s AWESOME! *high five*

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  DemHoez

Do tell. How old was he?

junglechump
junglechump
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

Hehe yes, I am curious too. I am a 35 y/o single mom of toddler and this very handsome, 28 y/o old has the biggest crush on me (not sure he knows my age or mom-status)… but for a bunch of reasons (godammit) I really shouldnt go there so I wont, but still flattering 🙂

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  DemHoez

Wooohoo! It’s amazing what getting laid by someone else than the ex can do to one’s self confidence. I got laid myself about a month ago. It was the best sex I’ve EVER had. A-fucking-mazing! I need me some more of that…

Louisvilleflower
Louisvilleflower
7 years ago
Reply to  DemHoez

Me too! So strange and wonderful to have a generous lover.

Twitching
Twitching
7 years ago
Reply to  DemHoez

Me too! I had only ever been with my ex. I feel so much better now!
?

lostntx
lostntx
7 years ago
Reply to  DemHoez

Cradle robber! LOL! Good for you and your self-esteem.

Dixie Chump
Dixie Chump
7 years ago
Reply to  DemHoez

Gooooo Cougars! Score!!!

Dixie Chump
Dixie Chump
7 years ago
Reply to  Dixie Chump

You can warm the bench!

DemHoez
DemHoez
7 years ago
Reply to  Dixie Chump

Thanks, I’m only 34 so I’m not sure I qualify for team cougar yet 🙂

Virago
Virago
7 years ago
Reply to  DemHoez

Just a kitten, but you have it going on, DemHoez.
Is it TMI to say that I still hope to report the same??
I would be stopping strangers on the street (to TELL them, CN ~~ not to get it!!).
Nice, V

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  Virago

?

Virago
Virago
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

What the heck is that emoji ~~ kinda looks like a piggy. Can it be????
Hope so. xxx, V ?

Virago
Virago
7 years ago
Reply to  Virago

Oops, my bad. It is a kitten! Sheesh.
And I meant I would be the piggy. Definitely Not DemHoez.
OMG. I’d better go lie down and STFU! Ha, V

Sausalito
Sausalito
7 years ago
Reply to  DemHoez

LOL, that’s awesome!

nomoreskankboy
nomoreskankboy
7 years ago
Reply to  DemHoez

Hahahahahahahaha! I need to get off Lexapro so my libido comes back! Thanks for the laugh!

mickeyblueeyes
mickeyblueeyes
7 years ago
Reply to  DemHoez

High five! Made me smile 🙂

Christine Mecca
Christine Mecca
7 years ago

A co-worker who met me in the middle of my break-up/divorce told me yesterday that she is proud of how strong I have become and how many things I have accomplished on my own. I owe you, Tracey, and TN for this.

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago

Co-workers are amazing! And so are you! <3 🙂

GetMeFree
GetMeFree
7 years ago

You are strong!! Anyone who goes through this and who not only holds it together but starts to thrive is strong. We are mighty!!

Rose Red
Rose Red
7 years ago

Last week, two of my middle school students gave me unsolicited “compliments.” I was having a bad hair day so I put my hair up and one student told me, “Your bun is lit!” Then another day a student told me “Your eyebrows are on fleek.” That’s why I love my seventh graders!

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  Rose Red

“Lit” and “on fleek”???? Compliments don’t come higher than that; congrats!

cheaterssuck
cheaterssuck
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

I’m going to have to take your word for it Tempest. I’m guessing they are phrases that would should show up on a list of things people over 30 aren’t allowed to say anymore? Is totes adorbs already outdated?

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago
Reply to  cheaterssuck

Yup, sorry, “adorbs” definitely on the dated list.

Don’t worry, many of us are in this boat. Most of what I say is on the outdated list (“fab”!), but I have a 15 year old who keeps me up on a few key terms in between rolling her eyes. Apparently my emoji use is pretty appalling too. Just for kicks, I like to send my children the woman with her hands on her head, and then her hands crossed in front of her, followed by “Hey, macarena!” I feel it’s my maternal duty to allow my daughters to bond over the shared view that “Mom is so embarrassing.”

Forest for the Trees
Forest for the Trees
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

That’s awesome Tempest ????!

I too REVEL in letting my kids bond over how much of an outdated nerd I am. They love it and and we have a lot of fun just being ourselves.

Truth is I am probably a pretty interesting guy for my age (48) brcause I am blessed to have an interesting occupation which I love and am good at, and as a result my work regularly gets public attention. Even my 17 year old stepson tells me of how cool his friends and coworkers think my work is, and that they respect my small accomplishments.

So, I like to ensure that my kids know, first and foremost, that really I am huge goof and an embarrassing Dad. Nothing special because of my carerer accomplishments. My ex wife likes to paint the picture of how perfect she is, and they must be – image management anyone? Too bad the kids and I are busy geeking out and a having a ton-o-fun together!

Tempest
Tempest
7 years ago

Forest for the Trees–the kids know the fun parent, is (and which parent always has their back). Good for you making their lives enjoyable AND safe.

Not sure how old your kids are, but a book I can highly recommend is A Lithgow Palooza! by John Lithgow (the actor). It is filled with zany activities to do with children of all ages (for the kid in all of us!).

Forest for the Trees
Forest for the Trees
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Thanks Tempest. I’ll check out that book.

My kids range in age from 17 to 4. With one in the middle. We have alot of activities we enjoy in common already, many of which they got me into to, and that we enjoy together at every opportunity. It’s great.

We’ve always been like this and that part of our lives has continued, and even thrived, now that we don’t have the daily stress of walking on egg shells around a disordered, selfish wife/mother. It’s just become so much easier. I try to impart on my kids the importance of being authentic with one another – which I think comes naturally for them.

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Bwahahaha! You just made me choke on my icecream! 😛

kaycan
kaycan
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

My 14-year-old son is mortified by my use of emojis, so naturally I respond to his every text with a string of the most random emojis I can find. 🙂

Roaring
Roaring
7 years ago
Reply to  kaycan

Hahahaha. I can’t tell the smiley faces apart – all of them are too small and I don’t understand how to read them in a “sentence” anyway. I usually just type “smiley face emoji” when I want to use one.

And I don’t know how to text efficiently either. It takes a long time. Once, when texts were new, my daughter was in the emergency room at 4:00 am with a burst ovarian cyst. She received a text from a concerned friend but I responded to it (as her) as she was in pain..

Her friend told her later that he assumed she was in hospital having a psychotic break because her response was in complete sentences. With capital letters.

Patsy
Patsy
7 years ago
Reply to  Roaring

ha ha ha!

Poor girl that sounds agony.

neverwouldhaveimagined
neverwouldhaveimagined
7 years ago
Reply to  Roaring

Lol
Apparently no end punctuation is very important as well.

neverwouldhaveimagined
neverwouldhaveimagined
7 years ago
Reply to  Tempest

Yes! Teenagers! I have 2 but teach 7th and 8th graders too. So I got, “Your eyeliner is on point.” And, “You’ve got swag.” (I thought that was outdated but apparently not.)

I tell them to keep things on the down low, but they tell me that’s ancient and what I meant to say was low key. Lol

Roaring
Roaring
7 years ago

Hahahaha.

nomar
nomar
7 years ago

Wednesday’s post election column has 622 comments. I challenge Chump Nation to post *more* than 622 comments on this column. To show there is more that unites people of goodwill than divides us, more joy in the universe than pain. God bless Chump Nation.

Maree
Maree
7 years ago
Reply to  nomar

nomar, your challenge has been met and surpassed. Congratulations to CN as you have shown there is more that unites people of goodwill than divides us.

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  nomar

I’ve been saving this thread for this evening. Parked in front of my computer, kids in bed reading, got icecream and tea (Yay Sensodyne!). Reading all the great comments and trying to leave nice comments where I can! 🙂

cheaterssuck
cheaterssuck
7 years ago
Reply to  CrazyDogLady

Love your new avatar CDL!

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  cheaterssuck

Thank you! I am a rockstar after all! 😉

Special snowflake ha!
Special snowflake ha!
7 years ago

Spoke to the senior partner at my lawyers office yesterday. He feels that with as much dirt as I have on Miserable Vomitus Mass( yes, I loved that so much I stole it!) that if we can get mediation done in the next 2 weeks (mandatory in my state) I might get the divorce final on Dec 1st. Freedom! Glorious freedom!

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago

Cautious hooray from me! Hoping an early December divorce for you! 🙂

Louisvilleflower
Louisvilleflower
7 years ago

Hooray!!

Amiisfree
Amiisfree
7 years ago

😀

Sionara
Sionara
7 years ago

My divorce will be one week from today. I’m finishing the second week of my new job, a good, full-time job using skills I’ve honed and an intellect I had suppressed under layers of low-level anxiety, sensing something was wrong but not knowing what. I am living as an authentic person, without his decades of lies. I don’t know what the future holds, but I know it’s better–and getting better every day!

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  Sionara

Awesome Sionara! I’m just under one week away myself! I can hardly wait! The future will be glorious!

+1 for getting laid! 😀

Doingme
Doingme
7 years ago
Reply to  Sionara

While none of us know what the future holds you are rocking this Sionsra!

Sionara
Sionara
7 years ago
Reply to  Sionara

Oh, and DemHoes, I, too got laid!!!!!!

DemHoez
DemHoez
7 years ago
Reply to  Sionara

AWESOME

mavis
mavis
7 years ago
Reply to  Sionara

+ 1 lol 😀

Toni
Toni
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

Thank you CL! I haven’t been here in quite a while..for the longest time it put my head back in that bad place you all helped me escape but trying to escape the election I came back here (which remained one of my favorites) and I am once again reassured (I peeked from time to time) that I wasn’t letting anyone down here by staying away. My how the site has grown! ???So my good things are – barely ever think about that monster, I went back to painting and have actually sold some of my art, and I think the most important thing to me is I am a rock for my two grown girls and my Grands and that means the most. They were SO there for me and I love being healthy enough to switch roles again. Love you all!!! ‘Specially you CL! ??

Patsy
Patsy
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

Yes, Sir, Boss!

Your rules and they make absolute sense.

Working It Out
Working It Out
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

I appreciate your thick skin 🙂

Amiisfree
Amiisfree
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

And that, chumps, is a beautiful model of setting healthy boundaries. Spot on, CL.

CRHCHK
CRHCHK
7 years ago
Reply to  Amiisfree

+1

violet
violet
7 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Schorn

Thank you for keeping this site a place where we can come to heal, not fight. I have been so blue, for many reasons. But the people I love have been so concerned and supportive. Both my daughters sent me beautiful flowers, with heart felt messages. Gardening is what keeps me sane, so I took two days off from work and have started my winter flower garden, So far, I have planted pansies, violas, snap dragons and dianthus. I am waiting for my bulbs to arrive and, in the meantime, I have been preparing my beds for winter. My garden is better than any anti-depressant ever invented. Oh, and it looks like I am going to have a bumper crop of key limes, Meyer lemons, and tangerines. Even some of my temperamental herbs are behaving!

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  violet

Virago
Virago
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

Ahhhhh Ian, you sweet thang!! I know this is for violet, and she so deserves it!
But it really touched me, for some reason.
Blessings, V

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  Virago

Always a blessing to hear from you, Virago.

I was just riffing on Børnes’s butterfly and the tangerine blossoms. Voila.

Virago
Virago
7 years ago
Reply to  Ian Dubito

Don’t stay silent, my man.
I miss your voice! ??

Virago
Virago
7 years ago
Reply to  Virago

No reply button, Ian! Thanks, honey. This is a beautiful piece. And yes, he was hurt often by women. Betrayed by his female friend (“part of his family”) who embezzled his money late in his life. Forever in love with Marianne, for whom he wrote lovely, poetic expressions near her death not ;long before his own. Remarkable. Always a gentleman when I met him on the streets of our city, standing out by his elegance and charm, tipping his hat to me (a stranger).

I just copy/paste the youtube address and it brings it fully here. Just lucky:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YrLk4vdY28Q&feature=youtu.be

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  Virago

Leonard Cohen was a bit of a stretch for me for some reason. I always sought out female vocalists, so Match Girl introduced me to him, really.

(posting youtube works with preview when you leave the “s” off of the “https” in the URL)

http://youtu.be/YrLk4vdY28Q

Don’t know if this is authoritative, but it’s a very good organ player here. And the lyric:

“Well, maybe there’s a god above
But all I’ve ever learned from love
Was how to shoot somebody who outdrew you”

I don’t think Leornard was a chump, but this lyric makes him seem like he was wounded first at least once.

I hate 2016!

Ian Dubito
Ian Dubito
7 years ago
Reply to  violet

Kbchump
Kbchump
7 years ago

I’ve been working construction after my wife left, great pay but long hours and at 52 I’m pretty tired when I get home..Tuesday night I got home and just fell asleep on my bed. My daughter came home a little later and woke me up with a Crunch Wrap Supreme from Taco Bell..made my night..love that kid

Annie Get Your Guns
Annie Get Your Guns
7 years ago
Reply to  Kbchump

Ahhh. I love it when I hear of kids being sweet to their parents. It really is the seemingly small things that are so great.

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  Kbchump

<3 Very sweet of her! 🙂

SureChumpedAlot
SureChumpedAlot
7 years ago
Reply to  Kbchump

Tuesdays are just the best KB, right?

Kbchump
Kbchump
7 years ago

They sure are buddy!

Amiisfree
Amiisfree
7 years ago
Reply to  Kbchump
Digbert
Digbert
7 years ago
Reply to  Kbchump

??❤️

ANC
ANC
7 years ago

I jumped back into the PT paid work world this year consulting a smallish foreign start-up. I have busted my buttocks placing my client in secondary and tertiary segments where their product is an obvious fit. Found out late last month that they are a finalist for an big recognition award in the first market segment that they initially hired me for consult work.

Yay!

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  ANC

Good job! 🙂

And I totally agree with the fact that us stay at home chumps, who’ve raised the kids and cared for the home are just as important in the making of a corporate career as the person in the actual career. My cheater could not have climbed the ladder like he did if it hadn’t been for me. I found his college, I suggested people to contact for employment after college, I took care of kids, house and dogs. Dinner was always on the table for him when he came home. I always worked my ass off to stretch the dollar, to compensate for his spending habits, so that we could afford more. I never nagged. I would ask once, and if it wasn’t done, I would do stuff myself, without trying to be resentful. A lot of us stay at home chumps made our spouses lives very easy, and they’ll be surprised when they get out in to the real world, without us coddling them.

Dixie Chump
Dixie Chump
7 years ago
Reply to  CrazyDogLady

Yes, yes, and yes. My ex has no idea how to manage life or finances on his own. Rude awakening straight ahead!

paula
paula
7 years ago
Reply to  ANC

Wowza – I don’t know what any of this means but I’m impressed as shit!!!! Swear to God – this makes me want to update my resume and make another career push. Thank you for the inspiration!!

ANC
ANC
7 years ago
Reply to  ANC

Side note to chumps who left their careers to support the careers of their chumps- I left my job in the mid-90’s to support asshat’s climb up the ladder. During that time I had 4 kids, a few foreign moves and a few domestic moves as a SAHM.

Asshat is considered successful by his title. And I will ALWAYS remember how the CIO of a major retail pharmacy bluntly reminded him, when be was telling her of his last promotion, to never forget that he didn’t get there by himself. Never forget the people in the background (us chumps) are a big part of the reason they achieve success.

My point to chumps who left their career-building jobs for 5+yrs is to get out there and begin to volunteer in organizations that speak to you. Gain relevant, updated knowledge in a field of your interest. Apply your existing skills because they are relevant. Even your new chump skills. Jobs can be found via networking and for some us older contributors, networking is the best way to overcome Ageism in the hiring process.

Patsy
Patsy
7 years ago
Reply to  ANC

Well said, ANC.

Although why people prefer young people when they can have a mature, grateful experience older person is beyond me.

ANC
ANC
7 years ago
Reply to  ANC

*support Cheaters* not chumps

walkingthruhell
walkingthruhell
7 years ago
Reply to  ANC

Staying home to raise kids put such a hole in my resume that my job skills became outdated. I’m back at school fine-tuning my science background for a new career – will graduate at the age of 48! ANC’s comment about networking is so true. Perhaps we should start a “LinkedIn for Chumps”!

Chris W.
Chris W.
7 years ago

I give you two heartwarming stories in the news I’ve run across over the last month. If you Google “McDonald conjoined twins”, you’ll read about 2 beautiful baby boys who were conjoined at the head, who’ve been surgically separated, and are doing well!! Literally brain surgery, people. Their mother, Nicole Mcdonald, has a Facebook page with pics of the separated babies and that they’re progressing each day.

The other story I’d have you Google is Dr William Petit, who 9 years ago lost his entire family in a horrific home invasion, got remarried a few years ago, has a new baby boy, and just this week got elected to State legislature.

Not puppies, but stories of rebirth, renewal, hope through devastating tragedy, new beginnings, rising through adversity, never giving up and perseverance.

Peace to all.

AlohaFreedom
AlohaFreedom
7 years ago
Reply to  Chris W.

I remember the Petit story from the news! That was horrific.

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago

I’m in my first job, post child birth. First job in 7 1/2 years. It’s nothing fancy, I’m “just” a cashier. But I’m hellbent on not remaining a cashier forever. The quote from Legally Blonde comes to mind: But if I’m going to be a partner in a law firm by the time I’m 30, I need a boyfriend who’s not such a complete bonehead.

So, I’m busting my butt. One of my supervisors came to me the other day and told me to go work on a lane. I asked why (I’ve been on self checkout lanes a lot lately), and he said: Because you’re so good at it. You’re a rockstar wherever I put you. 😀

But yeah, if I’m going to make store manager by the time I’m 40, I’m going to need to work hard, and not have a bonehead husband.

6 more days! 😀

CrazyDogLady
CrazyDogLady
7 years ago
Reply to  CrazyDogLady

Oh! To add to this, I just got a personal recognition from a customer from one of my supervisors. It’s always nice when the customers go to that extra step to make sure we’re appreciated. 🙂