Jennifer Garner Spending Holidays with Her Ex Ben Affleck
In Conscious Uncoupling news, actress Jennifer Garner is reportedly spending the holidays with her ex Ben Affleck. However, there appears to be some weird pick me triangle going on with Jennifer Lopez.
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Every year this time I make this public service announcement:
Do NOT spend the holidays with your ex For The Children!
You don’t need a FW to carve your turkey. Or the nebulous relationship status, or the therapy bills. But somehow, inexplicably, Jennifer Garner is spending the holidays with her philandering, drunk ex Ben Affleck. And blaming the children for this decision.
A source told PEOPLE earlier this week that Garner, who is dating businessman John Miller, has plans to celebrate the rest of the holidays with Affleck, also 52, and their kids after they asked to spend Thanksgiving together.
“Jen truly just wants her kids to be happy. She will continue to make sure that they spend time together as a family and include Ben,” the source told PEOPLE.
“They have Christmas plans with the kids too,” the insider added. “The kids enjoy when they all spend time together.”
On Thanksgiving, the exes — who split in 2015 after nearly 10 years of marriage, before finalizing their divorce three years later — spent the day together volunteering and serving free meals to the homeless community in L.A. as they attended The Midnight Mission‘s annual Thanksgiving Street Fair.
Hey, well as long as you’re feeding homeless people then this doesn’t look so calamitously stupid.
You wanna know what Ben Affleck was doing around Thanksgiving?
Posting his wedding picture of himself with Jennifer Lopez on Instagram. With no comment. Just fill in the pick me dance.
DO NOT ‘INCLUDE BEN.’
I’ve had this one-way conversation with Jennifer Garner before. Remember that time Ben blamed you for his addiction? And barfed in your car after a bender? The nanny shtupping? How he humiliated you (his then wife) at his awards ceremony?
You are an intact family without this loser. I know you’re in Hollywood, so all the more reason to use your platform for good. SINGLE PARENTS ARE NOT LESS THAN. Stop propagating the idea that we can nice abusers into respecting us. Or that it’s a chumps job to manage a FW’s relationship with their children. Ben can decorate his own goddamn cookies. Assuming he has the dexterity, or the interest. (Is there a camera?)
Conscious uncoupling is inauthentic at best, and oppressive in most cases. You’re divorced for a reason. Having your own life is a valid, respectable choice that needs no explanation. STOP CENTERING this man.
What unholy pick me dance is going on here?
Gossip site Page 6 calls this the “revenge dress.”
“Believe in yourself 🎄🌟,” the “Love Don’t Cost a Thing” hitmaker captioned a video shared via Instagram on Sunday.
Jennifer Lopez showed her estranged husband, Ben Affleck, what he’s missing in a figure-hugging black Mônot dress.
Lopez strutted down a long hallway in the sequined gown which featured a cleavage-baring cutout.
As she walked away, the singer, 55, flaunted the gown’s backless design.
Revenge for what, Jennifer Lopez? You’re divorcing him. Are you avenging sensible decisions now?
Meanwhile, the First Wife Jennifer is flaunting her domesticity in a campaign for (OH THE IRONY) kitchen wife appliances.
Watch as she whimsically fumbles gift wrapping presents for her family. Sure, J-Lo has an ass you could bounce quarters off of, but does she understand blender settings?
I wonder if Ben is getting the margarita mixer?
Who will win the holiday pick me sweepstakes? Stay tuned…
My friends and I have been laughing together at the JLO videos in her black sequin gown. We particularly enjoyed the still photos of her in the same gown “cooking” for her family.The attention seeking is truly sad. She is a beautiful talented woman who does not need to convince us of that, especially in such a demeaning way. As for Jennifer Garner. I imagine like the rest of us chumps, she is being told to “do the right thing” “forgive for the children” “take the high road.” Just because she is rich and famous doesn’t mean she isn’t vulnerable to all of this as a woman and a mother. It’s largely universal that we chumps are held to a higher standard than those who chumped us. There was no high road or thoughts of the kids when they were cheating and lying, but we chumps are supposed to offer safe harbor for their feelings and make sure everyone sees us as forgiving and selfless.
“It’s largely universal that we chumps are held to a higher standard than those who chumped us.”
So true.
She’s not that beautiful in person, she uses a whole lot of filters. In person, her ugly leaks out from the inside and she looks old and crazy.
Jennifer Garner. *sigh* Every time I see her, I cringe. Maybe her kids have fantasies of them gettIng back together now. Why does she keep this horrible person in her peaceful world? The only answer I have come up with is that when he blamed her for everything he did, she BELIEVED him. On some level, she still buys his crap that she should’ve been a better wife to him. Ben must be like drunk uncle daddy at their holiday events. Gawd. Who needs that?
“drunk uncle daddy” – LOL!!
Jennifer Garner is a beautiful, kind woman. She deserves so much more than that creep. She’s one of the few women in Hollywood who could put up with the philandering freak for 10 years. If she ever reads this (doubtful) she needs to know that Ben is a TERRIBLE role model for her children. Jennifer needs to take back her dignity and stop spending time with him. It’s a DISSERVICE to the kids to act like all the bad things he did are no big deal.
I’d like to believe this is a skit for a comedy show…The Jen’s need to take a step back and take another look at Ben.
Ben isn’t a prize,
I agree. I also feel sorry for both Jennifers that they both seem like they feel obligated to balance this nutball of a man in their (possibly otherwise balanced) lives.
While Jen G’s efforts are a little pitiful…at least they are in the and parental / domestic realm at least she gets to keep some of her dignity in that (sort of).
Jen L’s strutting her butt and boobies around makes me feel really bad for her…like this is her way of proving her worth, and none of us should feel like we have to do that. It reminds me of when she and Shakira shook all their barely covered body parts directly into cameras during their Super Bowl halftime show. I felt bad that they seemed to behave as if that was their cost of being featured in that show and in that moment, “show” was a verb. Girl, you are beautiful and worthy and Im sorry your love life has been a train wreck, but you dont have to prove you are worthy by strutting your curves all around. Go home and drink some tea or something.
I dont wish for either of these women to live their lives as a cautionary tale, but they kind of are. I hope that the Chumps here can learn stuff from this sad tale of woe.
True, I remember the old saying “if you have it, you don’t have to flaunt it”.
Yes! All of this. JLo is a beautiful, talented, intelligent woman. She is so much more than her butt and her boobs. That dress just made her look stupid and tacky.
Garner isn’t the only one showing off her kitchen assets. The link to JLo’s Instagram features another pic, with a side-shot of her breast falling out of that skin-tight sequined gown, wearing sausage-sized false lashes and backless heels while stirring a pot of red sauce on a hot stove.
Garner at least is dressed for the kitchen, and she’s not even cooking. JLo’s photo shoot is as ludicrous as Meghan Markle’s in a beige ball gown, allegedly whipping up something in her kitchen. Neither has an apron in sight. Domestic goddesses? Who do they think they’re fooling?
I have no issues with make up, dressing up etc. I just don’t get though why so many women like those long crawly eye lashes. I get for the stage, but no ones fooling anyone.
JLo’s pick-me persona is sexy bad-ass — sequined gowns, thigh-high boots, etc.
Garner’s pick-me persona is aw-shucks-mom — overalls, flannel shirts, dad slippers. (Seriously, she is wearing a man’s slippers in that KitchenAid ad?)
Neither deviate from those personas, ever. Both are over the top.
If I were Garner’s boyfriend (of many years), I would not be thrilled with the holiday situation.
Affleck’s posting of that wedding pic is truly … I don’t even know the adjective — shitty? desperate? MEAN? Talk about a cry for kibbles. Get the man an apron, ’cause he sure knows how to stir some shit.
i’ll go with MEAN.
FW’s are mean. that is all.
it’s up to chumps to figure out WHY we tolerate mean, and that’s a big job. i’m almost 60 and finally figuring out a major piece of my self, my FOO, and the whole man-woman dynamic of my generation. it’s a lot.
I’m a step or two ahead of you, and it’s very real. Women were taught to ignore bad male behavior with a smile. I was explaining that a few days ago to my son, who said, “Why?” He has no problems with calling people out at work as a manager, so why wouldn’t you call out bad behavior in your relationships?
Why, indeed.
Gosh, what a messy mess. I have friends who manage something public and light with their exes and kids, like a concert or Christmas movie. They might even eat together before or after. But the HOLIDAYS (more than a handful of hours)?
My ex hasn’t seen his kids in eight years, so I haven’t had to negotiate that. But I don’t get spending much time at all with your ex, even with kids involved. I don’t.
I’ve wondered if Garner is just doing this because the togetherness bs makes the news and keeps her relevant and marketable, sort of like using all parts of the (drunken, useless ex) buffalo.
As far as Lopez’s publicity antics, she apparently didn’t have a prenup with Affleck which means she risks losing around $1.25m in the divorce. I get the feeling she’s just out there doing what she’s always done to make bank. If Tina Turner rocked till she dropped in little halter tops, why not?
When I was a kid, you’d often hear men gloat about how women age more rapidly. But now the whole Tina Turner thing is becoming quite typical among celebrities so the old-timey weaponized ageism that women were subjected to is starting to fall flat. So I’ve wondered how things like this impact my daughter’s generation’s perceptions of aging and longevity. Not the idea that women have to be sex symbols forever but even remaining energetic, involved, viable and active is a big change from the past.
I find myself wondering if this was something JG’s publicist advised.
These toxic people are addicting to chumps and the pick me dance is on!! Will Ben hold out the scepter to me or the 20 other woman happy in providing kibbles? It all goes into the cheaters pocket with the holes in it. More attention!!!!!! Ben missed the tug of war over his sorry self like most cheaters miss their appliances and access to the kids without paying. What are the therapists in tinsel town selling…and getting paid for? They all need a knock to the head ! Come on!!
I personally think that the wider public would benefit from “Consciously Uncoupling” from these three. The behaviour that they are engaging in is not healthy.
LFTT
Hey!!!Wait a minute!!! Maybe everyone is playing in the same centrality sand box!!! Jennifer and Jlo get 500 ( just hypothetical numbers here)hits without selling Ben and then with Ben 29,000 hits!! So Ben gets kibbles and so do all his woman!! It’s all about the exposure and the$$$ buck. Maybe we are in it too!! Yickes!!
I am not a Ben Affleck fan ever since he cheated on Jennifer Garner but I don’t think that is his real Instagram – its a fan page. He doesn’t appear to have a real Instagram account.
I just want to pop in to say again how J Lo is such an evil bitch and completely hated by the citizens of Las Vegas. She delights in getting people fired solely for her own ego and has literally taken tips Ben has left off the table and pocketed them in view of the people he left them for.
She is dogshit. Anything bad that happens to her is completely deserved.
Agreed. Lopez and Affleck are both narky AF. Garner is a people pleaser PickMe. Textbook Triangulation is apparently a mystery force to all of them, yet it rules their lives completely.
I feel bad for all of the 3 Affleck-Garner children and the 2 Antony-Lopez children who never chose to be involved with these weird adults.
Meh, Jen looks good but I, like most still looked pretty good at 55. At 75, well definite changes. From drooping to wrinkling. Dam the loss of collagen. I thought about getting injections, but I also don’t want to look like a squirrel with a face packed full of nuts.
But to more serious stuff, those folks are nuts.
I personally know two people who’ve worked in Hollywood and find it very telling that both of them quit within 5 years and never looked back.
Also that the Hollywood stars who seem the most well-adjusted don’t actually live in Hollywood.
I used to think people exaggerated how bad the place is, but from my friends’ stories, that place is truly a cesspit. As bad as you can imagine it, it’s worse.
Yep. Actually there are a lot of folks who have walked away due to the stench.
That’s the thing- people can lift and tuck all they want- in the end your life and the sort of person you are shows on your face.
Time will tell eventually- and it’s nothing to do with wrinkles and lines.
I bet you’re a beautiful woman, Susie.
We all are. Inside and out.
Give me a break.
Two financially independent mature women dancing attendance for this cheater masquerading as a man.
Why?
What else does he have to do to prove to them what a worthless asshole he is?
Do they not see their kids are watching and will excuse this same behaviour if Gods forbid history repeats itself with them?
Ms Garner- you don’t need this idiot in your kids lives rotting up the image of what a decent man should act like.
Ms Lopez- being a woman is way more than a pair of tits and a big arse- come on, lady- at our age it’s time to drop the whole be a perfect Barbie Doll for a man act.
I hope you both get a large Costco pack of self respect in your Christmas stocking this year.
Society is Delulu. JLo and Ben’s wreckonciliation is not Twu Wuv. It’s a Soap Opera.
Jennifer Garner is a prime example of how even smart women can get sucked in to societal pressures that chumps must dine on shit sandwich buffets for life, for fear of being dubbed “bitter”. She’s been bent to believe that serving up Ben’s centrality on a “Super Dad” platter, is “best for the kids”. No it is not best for the kids. It’s a mind fuck to their frontal lobes that aren’t fully formed, but Uber keen on spotting bullshit and lies. Kids can sniff out lies like coon hounds.
I refuse to spend ANY time with abusers ESPECIALLY a joyful holiday.
I’m with Hell of a Chump on this: Hollywood is just shark cannibalism when it comes to cheating. There’ve been so many rumors that Jennifer Garner cheated on her previous husband Scott Foley with Michael Vartan and then on Michael Vartan with Ben Affleck. She met both of them before breaking up with her respective spouse/partner and there was close to no time before the official confirmation of the relationship both times.
I do find cheating with the nanny particularly distasteful though.
I just looked up Ben Affleck’s cheating history… I had completely blocked out that a big factor in him and JLO breaking up the first time was that he cheated on her with a stripper… Gosh, part of me asks herself “why on earth did she take him back?!”, the other part of me remembers that she was P Diddy’s partner. I guess compared to him Ben was a step up…?
In my opinion she is just enabling his addiction.
Somehow this smells to me like something a publicist came up with. Idk. I certainly hope Ms. Garner isn’t considering reconciling with Affleck!